Having trouble pinpointing who could be the father of my unborn

[Dricka86]

I was in a marriage for 8 years until my husband decided to leave to go be with another women. So we went our separate ways and finally I started seeing someone that I enjoyed. I met him in September and my husband and I spilt in Aug. Never did anything with my friend because I was still messing around with my husband. Until I did. I had intercourse with my husband on 12/25 and had intercourse with my friend for the first time 12/30 and 12/31. Did not use protection :( So my cycle started on 12/18 5 days and the length of my cycle is 27 days. It states on my app that I have been using not to get pregnant for 4 years stated that ovulation was on the 12/30. My husband did not pull out or anything like that. Now, my friend did on both days and he made sure of it every time. Can someone help me?

@Dricka86

Thank you! For all that's worried about my last STI test it was on 1/7/22. So I can clear the air. I am not like this I'm still having hard time trying to adjust not being with my husband. I make sure that's always taking care of even when we were together.

That’s so bizarre. You took care of regular sti checks when married. But gave no thoughts to contraception?

That’s so bizarre. You took care of regular sti checks when married. But gave no thoughts to contraception?

It sounds like the OP’s approach to contraception is an app and the withdrawal method. Probably not entirely suitable for a new partner, even if he did withdraw.

@WorstXmasEver

This has to be a fake thread. That's gross.

I'm not sure what's gross about it. Not using contraception is clearly ill-advised but sleeping with 2 different people on separate occasions is hardly the stuff of Animal Farm

Do you want a baby, Drick?

It sounds like you really wanted to get pregnant so congrats. As others have said, you’ll have to do a DNA test. Good luck with everything.

Yes of course you need a DNA test and be honest with both men. Or terminate the pregnancy .

Why didn't you use a condom?

@blyn

It probably is your husband's baby though you cannot be sure without dna testing. Are you absolutely sure you are pregnant? If not, do a test.

The important issue is whether you actually want a baby.

How is it probably her husbands?

Logically because you’re new partner withdrew and your husband didn’t then surely your husband is the most likely, that’s where I’d bet on anyway!
However as others say, you won’t know until a dna test.

How are you feeling OP? Do you want the baby?

Why were you taking care of STI checks when you were with your husband? Did you suspect him of cheating? If you thought you may be in danger of contracting an STI why weren't you using condoms?

You talk about adjusting to not being with your husband but continued to have unprotected sex with him for months following your separation.

If you are going to continue with this pregnancy, DNA test is the only way you're going to know.

I don’t know why you’re being tetchy when someone suggested an STI test. An undiagnosed untreated STI could be harmful to your baby. And you clearly thought you needed an STI check too, as you had one in Jan?

As PP have said, you’ll need a DNA test. You can do an antenatal one

@Arabelladrinkstea

Logically because you’re new partner withdrew and your husband didn’t then surely your husband is the most likely, that’s where I’d bet on anyway! However as others say, you won’t know until a dna test.

How are you feeling OP? Do you want the baby?

Withdrawal isn't fool proof and is a deeply flawed method of contraception. It is as likely to be the friends and it is the husbands.

In your previous posts, you said you were TTCing with your DH but it wasnt happening or there was some infertility. Is this the case?