Trying again after early miscarriage

[CRA994]

Hi just looking for advice,
A couple of weeks ago I had a miscarriage at around 5-6 weeks after 6 days the gp recommended I take a test to see if the hcg was still showing and it was completely negative.
From what I've read there is nothing to say I can't try again straight away but I'm wondering if I have to wait for a full new period or if my week of bleeding with my miscarriage would class as one.
Do you ovulate as normal after a miscarriage? I just feel abit confused.
Thanks xx

Hi,

I’m in the same position- had no idea when I would ovulate but using OPKs I seem to be ovulating at around the same time as I would normally.

We are not waiting for a period nor have we been advised to - hope that helps.x

So sorry to hear you've both been through this. Its horrible and doesn't get any easier.

They advise to sit out a cycle just so you know dates but if you're mentally ready to jump back in straight away (I am currently doing this myself) you just need to make sure you have a negative prengnancy test first to make sure your hormone levels are all back to where they should be.

Fingers crossed for you for next time around x

Thankyou for your reply's I've had the negative test and although I am still very upset what happened it's just made me want it more so i think I want to just jump straight back in. I'm using my opks to track again as it worked last time in just so nervous x

Hey @CRA994 I'm in the same boat as yourself. Happened on my last cycle too and my GP just said to test after bleeding had stopped and if negative could try again when ready. Last cycle I just checked ovulation with tests and I actually ovulated about my usual 2 weeks after I stopped bleeding from MC. Sending you lots of luck x

@CRA994
Sorry for your loss. I had a chemical loss late october. Was told by my obgyn to wait out a cycle, but didn’t, although did not dtd as much during fertile days. I counted day of bleeding as 1st day of cycle and track opks until lh peak on day 16 (peak lh at day 13 before chemical pregnancy). Also, had no idea when to expect af, but it arrived cd 28 (4 days later than typical).
Good luck 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

@Geemmm @Jlcw thanks for replying, I think I'm just going to see how I go this month I don't want to put pressure on myself but equally I am going to track with opks just to see how my cycle is after the miscarriage. It's such a strange feeling I'm still feeling a little upset but also excited to try again I just don't want to end up too disappointed if it doesn't happen straight away. How do you feel about it all??
Xx

Nah. I had about 4 of these before dd1. It’s quite common. Just keep trying. If it keeps happening try some low dose aspirin

I had a MC at 5+3 in August and ovulated on CD17 (counting day one of the MC as CD1), a couple of days later than usual

I'm so sorry OP you're going through this. We lost our first baby somewhere between 6-8 weeks not exactly sure. We tried again next cycle (after miscarriage bleeding stopped and negative test) and conceived straight away without waiting for my normal period to happen first. I was on edge the whole time but pregnancy stuck and Ive got a happy healthy toddler running around.
Do what feels right for you. I hope you get your little 🌈 soon x

@abbs1 aw Thankyou that's really good to hear 🥰

@CRA994 totally get you - this was how I felt last cycle and somehow managed to conceive straight away again. I definitely think taking the pressure off yourself must help!

I'm feeling quite up and down this cycle. I had really believed I had my little rainbow baby so not sure how I will feel if we try again this cycle and it's a BFP.

I have an app with my gp this week to discuss and hoping she gives me some positive vibes. I kinda feel like trying again will help with the grief from this cycle.

Do let us know how u get on x

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in September 2020. I decided to wait until I'd had a period before trying again. I felt physically fine but needed a few weeks to get my head together for it. I now have an almost 5 month old conceived a couple of weeks after that period. Goodluck with it all!

@Geemmm I have heard lots of people saying the did fall on quite quickly after having a miscarriage which gives me hope but also scares me. Aww I hope all goes well with the gp sometimes just talking with them helps.
I will let you know how I get on and you do too. Fingers crossed 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xx

Hi @CRA994 I'm in the same boat as you, got a BFP last Sunday & tests for darker until Thursday which then started getting lighter. Started bleeding yesterday at what would have been 5 weeks. It's hit me harder than I expected but going to wait until the bleeding has stopped & take it from there. Hope you are doing ok xx

@lionsmum aww I'm really sorry to hear that it's such an awful feeling, I wasn't sure how far I was so I had booked an early scan and left so upset as she could see nothing in the sac, she said I might be super early like 4 weeks but the dates didn't add up I knew something was wrong and the day after it started! I was so upset untill the last couple of days when I kind of started to get excited about the next cycle as my lines on opks have started getting darker which seems about right but I'm just really nervous and don't want to get my hopes up. Xx

@CRA994 Ah I'm so sorry to hear that, it's such a sad situation isn't it. I have read so much about the increased fertility after a MC and the midwife said to me about it too, so I wonder if it's true, hoping for us it is🤞🏼 that's exciting! Seeing the +OPK is always a nice feeling. Keep me updated on how you're getting on😊 nice to know we aren't alone xx

@lionsmum aw it really is, I've heard so much about increased fertility and so many stories of people falling on straight away but I don't want to get too excited.
It really is nice to know we're not alone and there's something so comforting about talking to people who understand how you feel and what you've gone through! Keep me updated on how you get on too. Good luck with everything xx

Same boat here, not sure what to do or expect.

EPU advised me to wait until after my next period but I think it was for dating rather than anything physical, and I guess so I could know a positive result was a new pregnancy rather than residual hormones?

Tbh I have been a bit mentally scarred by the whole thing - not even so much the loss itself but the appointments, blood tests and internal scan etc - so have been a bit reluctant to DTD, so as much as I'd like a surprise BFP this month, I definitely think it will be a case of getting back on it next cycle for me.

No idea when I can expect my period to arrive though :-/

@LittleMysSister I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
I do think the reason they recommend waiting a cycle is to see how your cycle turns out with dates etc.. I think as far as I can see my body seems to have gone back to normal with my cycle so far I usually have quite long cycles so this month I am just going to see how I go no pressure.
Good luck with everything lots of bath dust xx

@CRA994 how are you doing OP? I woke up pretty upset about it all this morning. Maybe because it's the start of the festive season, I'm not sure. Are you going to track ov this month or just see how things go? I always say I'm not going to get too caught up in it but always end up doing so🙃 hoping with it being Christmas I'll be busy enough not to think about it too much. Was this your first pregnancy?x

@lionsmum I was doing pretty good and then I had an off day yesterday I received my letter for my 12 week scan and that just really upset me.
It was my first pregnancy yes and we had been trying a while so I need remember I can let myself be as upset as I want.
I am tracking my ovulation and we are going to try but probably won't put as much pressure on it as last time just with the fact we have so many plans coming up this next month.
How are you doing? What's your plan for this cycle?? Xx

@CRA994 ah that's really sad I'm sorry to hear that😔 you absolutely can, I totally understand the feeling. You feel like you can grief for something that happened so quickly but you absolutely should & give yourself time to do so too. I'm doing ok, been googling too much so told myself to stop before I drive myself mad with it all😅 doing to do OPK's too, have a rough idea of when I usually ov so will go from there, it's such a busy time too just need to try & fit it in where we can! Xx

Ah sorry you've had a rubbish day @CRA994.

I think the festive season definitely makes it that bit harder as I imagine we all had in our heads we'd be pregnant by Christmas, so to have a recent loss just makes it harder. Christmas would have been when we'd have been telling our families as it would have been just after 12 weeks, so that feels a bit shit too.

I've also been trying for a few months, so I'm trying to take comfort in that at least it did actually happen, as I was worried that we hadn't had any result at all prior to this.

I wasn't sure I'd be up for trying again straight away but feel like I've come round to it now and would love it if it happened quickly, but I am worried it will be at least another few months before I see a bfp again, if ever. Not an easy journey is it?

@LittleMysSister @lionsmum aw I think we need to let ourself off a little we've been through a pretty rubbish time haven't we.

I wasn't sure I would want to try again and I wasn't sure my partner would either because he hated seeing me so upset but we've both spoke and would like to try again.
I keep hearing stories and have had so many people tell me they fell on straight away after and obviously I would love that but also don't want to be too upset if it doesn't happen.
I've been using my opks I think ov is due in the next week but will see how I get on and off my cycle is back to normal.
I hope we all get our BFP!! Xx

@CRA994 @LittleMysSister hi ladies, just wondering how everyone is getting on?☺️