Trying again after early miscarriage

[CRA994]

Hi just looking for advice,
A couple of weeks ago I had a miscarriage at around 5-6 weeks after 6 days the gp recommended I take a test to see if the hcg was still showing and it was completely negative.
From what I've read there is nothing to say I can't try again straight away but I'm wondering if I have to wait for a full new period or if my week of bleeding with my miscarriage would class as one.
Do you ovulate as normal after a miscarriage? I just feel abit confused.
Thanks xx

Hey @lionsmum @CRA994 :)

I'm OK, jus plodding along, trying to get everything sorted for Christmas :).

Randomly did my CB OPK last week and got the static smiley so DTD a few times just in case. Not sure if it's genuine or some kind of freak error as I was surprised to see it on CD24 (about a week later than I usually ovulate). So according to that I'm now 6dpo, if it was accurate.

It has been just over a month since I started bleeding with the MC but no sign of my period yet, but if that OPK was accurate then I guess it could be a week or so yet. Who knows!!

How are you both?

@lionsmum @LittleMysSister I've just done the same thought I would try and not check the opks too much but hit my peak yesterday which was cd 21 about right for me.
We have dtd quite a lot recently but don't want to be too disappointed if it doesn't happen xx

Glad to hear you're both getting along well. @LittleMysSister were you doing OPK's around your usual time of ov? I have seen people can ovulate sooner/later after MC's, seems to vary a lot!

And for you too @CRA994 exciting you've both had your peaks, that's have the battle waiting for that to happen! If my cycle is the same as before I'm due to ov next week, just keeping an eye on usual signs & OPKs.

Feeling the same about trying not to get hopes up too high (esp when I haven't even ov'd yet) but also trying to stay positive at the same time, it's a hard balance😅xx

Think AF is arriving today :( feeling a bit crampy and I'm sure it's looking a bit pink when I wipe. I'm surprised at how disappointed I feel, I think I have read so many threads on here where people MC then conceive the very next month that I really thought it would be me. Feel like the whole TTC thing is really dragging on for me and it's never going to happen :(

@lionsmum No tbh I didn't do any tracking this month until I randomly did that CB OPK...had one day of O and then the static smile straight after.

I guess I'll start tracking properly again this month and try again. Sighhhhhh

@LittleMysSister aw I'm sorry to hear that, it really does take its tole doesn't it it's a really hard journey.
I've also read sooo many stories too that I just know if af shows I will also be really disappointed but I tried telling my self not to get my hopes up,
I'm 1dpo as far as I know so the wait is on 😩 xx

Ahh I'm really sorry @LittleMysSister you do don't you, so many stories about women being more fertile & all of that, it is really hard not to get your hopes up. But it doesn't mean it won't happen soon, once AF is finished you're into your new cycle & another chance of getting that BFP🤞🏼 I always find the day of AF to it finishing the worst & then upwards from there.

@CRA994 absolutely, it's all you read annoyingly😑 I think sometimes all you see are the positive stories because that's all people ask for, they don't want to know about the ones where it took 3-6 months after their early MC to conceive. But really hoping we all get there in the next few months, we will!🙏🏼

Hi guys

Just been reading through the thread, I'm sorry to hear about all of your losses. I had an early/chemical in March and a mmc in June. I got pregnant the second time before I even had a period and thought I'd share my experience if it makes you all feel better.

So like I said I became pregnant immediately after the first loss and I was over the moon. However, I was so anxious and booked a scan for what I thought would have been six weeks. They dated me at 5w 2d which I thought was a little odd because I had to self isolate and the dates given seemed impossible. But I accepted that dating can be difficult at that time especially as it's so hard to date when you haven't had a period in between. The next scan a week later I saw a baby and a heartbeat but she said I was only 5w 3d which was even more worrying. Everyone told me I was being stupid and that there was a heartbeat so it would be fine and they all thought I'd got my dates wrong due to it being straight after a loss. I felt like no one was listening to me when I told them it was impossible due to self isolation, even my partner. Fast forward a few weeks to another scan and the baby had not developed passed 6 weeks when I should have been 9.

So yes it was amazing to see a positive test straight after a loss but I would advise waiting for one period because the uncertainty on the dates caused me a lot of issues of not being listened to when it came to dating and I feel it only prolonged the pain.

Don't be too downhearted if you don't succeed in conceiving immediately. Give your body and mind time to recover and don't be disappointed in yourself if it doesn't happen straight away. We're all doing amazing to get over pregnancy loss and stay strong!

I've currently had some nk cells biopsy's have my last one on Friday so will be back TTC in the new year. Hope 2022 is all our year

Thank you for your story @chasingtherainbow1, you are right and obviously the dating thing can be an issue and make things way more difficult. I'm sure I would have had a whole other bunch of worries to add to my anxiety if I'd have got a bfp this month.

@CRA994 @lionsmum Thanks girls, I am just getting a bit fed up as when I conceived it was cycle 5 since being off the pill, so Dec will be cycle 7. It's just taking much longer than I thought it would and is starting to worry me now.

@chasingtherainbow1 thanks for sharing your story. There's so many different emotions after a mc I don't even know how to feel most of the time but I am trying to not put pressure on myself!
@LittleMysSister aww I honestly feel your pain, when I got pregnant it was my 5th cycle but due to an under active thyroid it had actually been about 8/9 months as my periods were just all over so it's taken me so much longer than I thought.
Fingers crossed for us all whatever happens this cycle I pray for us next cycle @lionsmum xxx

@chasingtherainbow1 thank you for your story, it's always good to hear other perspectives

@CRA994 @LittleMysSister it really is exhausting isn't it, things do take time & it can be so worrying because of that. I unfortunately lost my son a few years ago & TTC after that was a terrifying experience, it took 6 months but each month it didn't happen I just felt like such a failure, so I know not to put that pressure on myself. I want to enjoy this TTC experience as much as possible & just embrace the fact that each month it may not happen is another month closer to it happening🤞🏼 absolutely, we will get there ladies x

Thanks @lionsmum, and I'm so sorry to hear about your son x

I feel like after months of waiting, I should try and take some comfort in the fact that we did actually conceive so it's obviously possible for us (which was getting to be a worry), but I feel like if anything it's made me feel less confident .

I think it's because it all went by so quickly...literally had the positive test on the Wednesday morning and started bleeding Friday lunchtime so hardly any time to process or accept it in between, which I guess was a blessing since it didn't work out. It feels like it didn't even happen.

@LittleMysSister I feel the same way I keep thinking I should be happy it happened but then I'm also worried if that was my only chance! We had around 10 days of knowing I'd told my mum and a friend so not too much time to get overly excited but how can you not when it's all you've wanted.
I checked my opk again this morning after caching my peak on Monday but it was still showing quite high i don't know what's going on or if my hormones and still about all over 🤷🏼‍♀️ xx

@CRA994 Yep I feel just the same. Feel like I never expected it to take this long so when I got the bfp I didn't really believe it as I had convinced myself I'd never get one, and then it was gone so quick that I feel like it's just reinforced the feeling that it will never happen for me.

Dunno why I'm feeling so gloomy!! Just feel so impatient with the whole thing now. At first I felt excited, whereas now I just feel like I'm going to be looking back this time next year thinking what an idiot I was that I ever thought it was possible.

OPKs are so confusing aren't they, I really struggle with them. So easy to miss the peak. I am thinking the static smile I got on my CB last week can't possibly have been right if AF arrived 7 days later?? Going to start with my normal sticks after AF finishes and see how I go with those this time.

@LittleMysSister I totally agree with you, i never expected it to take this long either especially not seeing my some of friends just fall pregnant straight away! It's hard not to feel gloomy and disheartened but I've been trying to stay as positive as possible especially over the Christmas period when life's abit busier so less time to think about it all.
Opks have been stressful for me I tried clear blue of ages and we thought we'd caught ovulation every time but because my cycles were abit all over and longer than the usual cycle we was missing ir every time.
The time I got pregnant was the first time using easy@home opk strips from Amazon and I take a picture of every days and add it into the Premom app it's so much easier, when I thought my opk was high the other day when I added it to my app it was showing low so proved I had hit my peak when I thought.
Which ones do you use?? Xx

@CRA994 I just use the ones from the Pound shop...not even sure what they're called thinking about it lol. Similar to the Amazon ones I think.

Tbh despite being off my pill since May, I only actually started tracking properly in September so it's all fairly new to me.

I just can't cope with the CB OPK because it's so expensive and I hate the thought of using up like 10 sticks before getting a static smiley! I'm too tight for this LOL

@LittleMysSister I'm the same, too tight to be spending all that on the clear blues 😂 I didn't actually think they were any good especially not with my irregular cycles.
The easy@home ones I've only used twice and they seem much easier to use.
I think I'm around 3dpo today and I'm so stressed for some reason I keep thinking of so many things Like should I not be eating certain things? Should I be eating super healthy? Should I be exercising or something else to help implantation even tho I didn't even track fully this month so it's very likely! X

Hi ladies, how is everyone getting on?😊

@lionsmum I've completed by nk cells biopsy's now. Had the result of the first one which shows high amount of nk cells. Just waiting for the second one.

AF arrived on Friday so will be back to actively trying this month. Think I'm due to ovulate on New Year's Day. Holding for a new start this coming year!

How are you?

Hello, I've had a weird few days I thought I was 11dpo so I decided to sneaky take a test, basically ended up with 2 tests both with lines one clear blue which I'm absolutely certain it's an evap line and the other on a first response which is super faint, I didn't one the next day and it was negative so I was loosing my mind, then took an opk this morning just cos I could feel something going on and that's very positive so I have no idea what my body is doing feeling all over the place xx

@CRA994 it's so difficult these days to know whether your result is positive or not as the tests are so unreliable. I used FRER earlier this year which were great. But now I've realised there almost always a line on them before you've even used it. I'll try find a pic of mine the day I had by biopsy when I was 100% not pregnant but a line came up anyway.

Hope it is good news for you! If you have a line on another brand as well then it might be good news 🤞

This is it. It was after a couple of minutes and we had used protection all month. I had similar issues a couple of month back too, they made me think I had a chemical 😒

@chasingtherainbow1 aw it's bad I got 2 different ones both came up within the time frame and now today I can't see a thing, my opk is so dark tho almost as dark as my peak for 12 days ago. Unless I'm ovulating now rather than when I thought I'm just so confused x

@chasingtherainbow1 was that the expected result? & what is the plan following the biopsies? That's good AF arrived though & onto a new cycle! Also that evap is horrid!😣 stupid tests!

@CRA994 I'm having a similar sort of dilemma, are you getting any other signs that you might be ovulating? I had my +OPK plus all the other usual signs on Friday (2 days later than usual) & thought I had ov'd, but my temp dropped this morning & was really low for post-ov so I'm starting to think I may not have🤦🏼‍♀️ will see what tomorrow brings but think my body is just a bit messed up. I know CB's can be bad for evaps sometimes, but holding out hope that your tests turn into something🤞🏼maybe take another OPK this eve to see what's going on?

@CRA994 @lionsmum I took the test as I had to take one to make sure I wasn't pregnant even though I knew I wasn't already, it's just part of the process. So I wasn't disappointed or anything because I knew it was almost impossible! Luckily I had experienced these lines on frer before and knew it wasn't a true line. But it gets me so mad that they charge so much and are getting away with it!

Once I have my second results I think they will look into maybe a treatment plan depending on if it's high or low. The last was was only borderline normal/high so I guess it all depends on that. We will just keep trying as Norma whilst we wait I guess.

Apparently opk's can turn positive just before AF arrives but at the same time they can also be positive if you're pregnant which I guess is not helpful for you both!