Ovulation/TTC thread 4!

[hoola23]

@Aims1991 @CShandy01 @GemB03 @MrsRosaline @newtolineofduty @plantbasedlondoner

New thread as the other one is about to go!! Defo forgotten a few peeps! Please add ladies!

How is everyone today?
I have been killed with shooting pains either side of me today! Feel it's AF way of saying hahaha see you soon🙄

@newtolineofduty oh god knows with my reproductive system!🤣 yeah possibly- this is the first month my ovulation date has gone back to the normal cd 11/12 rather than 15/16 which I've had since the chemical.

Maybe if it continues this bad @hoola23 a scan might be a good idea? Xxx

@newtolineofduty dr google tells me it can be the corpus letum. Apparently this can linger pain for a few days after ovulation? I had a scan in March and they said there were cysts on my ovaries but the scan was literally 30 seconds. He barely even looked!

I found you guys!! I didn't get any notifications and was wondering why the old thread had gone quiet 😂😂 how are we all doing today?

@hoola23 what you had in your right hand side is exactly what I had the month I got pregnant. Literally had it from ovulation all the way through, which is why I had a gut feeling it as a different month. I got throbbing and pinging type pains all down my right leg and in my groin.

Haven't got a clue what cycle day I am today in terms of if I'm now onto DPO. Got my peak on Sunday, DTD that evening and last night too. Both of us are shattered as DD has been having night terrors, so sleep isn't happening.

Know how you feel @newtolineofduty as both DD and DH have been super poorly recently. It's hard enough dealing with it when not pregnant, so hot knows how you have managed!

@CShandy01 I wondered if you got lost!!🤣 glad you found your way! Oh I really don't think this is the same, it's such an odd pain on the right side. Nothing in my leg just where I feel ovulation pains that shoots down to the bit where your very top leg starts - anatomy is not my strong point 🤣

I went to the gym tonight but was only running and it made it worse so now I'm thinking maybe just muscular? Urgh who knows but it's not going either!

@hoola23 seriously the TWW is the worst. Every time I always say "no symptom spotting" but it is SO hard!! I mean I'm still prodding my cervix to determine if ovulation has been and gone - I'm pretty sure it has as cervix seems closed today and it was open yesterday. DH is asleep on the sofa so don't think anything will happen tonight anyway 😂😂 xx

@CShandy01 it's the worst isn't it! I'm seriously not confident this month. I'd say about 5% confident. If we DTD on day of ovulation then I'd be sitting at around 50% chance. BUT there's always that could I be moment 🤣

I keep looking back at my logs when I was pregnant and only symptom was the cold at 6dpo and one sore nipple 🤣

@hoola23 definitely keep an eye on it as chronic pelvic pain can be a sign of something else - fingers crossed it passes soon.

@newtolineofduty soo true! It makes the world of difference. Honestly so ironic as when we met aged 25 he was the one who was so broody and into having kids. We actually talked about it on one of our early dates when I said I wasn't sold on the idea and he said "that's a bit of a dealbreaker for me, I know I want to be a dad." And now we are well into our thirties it's the other way around and he wishes we could enjoy our lives alone together for a few more years/ forever 😩

@plantbasedlondoner will do thanks hun! Seems to have eased up a bit this morning which is good!

How is everyone else doing? X

@plantbasedlondoner I think it's one of those things where when it comes to it it's really easy to get 'cold feet'! I really want this second baby obviously but I'm actually so scared about doing it all again and disrupting the routine we have with DD and DSC! X

@newtolineofduty @plantbasedlondoner I know exactly how you feel. Before the chemical I was both elated and terrified, mostly because I didn't want DD to be disrupted or to make her feel excluded. But then equally I had to tell myself that things will be disrupted, but it will be for the better because she will have someone to play with and someone to teach and have fun with. So it's a good type of disruption, if that makes sense?

@newtolineofduty I also have cold feet. To the point where I'm considering just stopping. DD just turned four.

Yes totally @CShandy01 and for me this is absolutely something I'm doing for the 'long run'!!!! It doesn't help that DD is sleeping quite badly at the moment and I'm wondering how on Earth we'll cope if she's sleeping badly AND a baby! I'm praying it'll have resolved by June!

@MrsRosaline I can totally understand x what do you think is making you feel that way? X

We are happy as a 3! DD comes in and sleeps with me most nights, so how i would manage that if I were pregnant and also tending to a newborn I've no idea. I struggle with just DD, I'm always so tired and overwhelmed! So think it would kill me off if I had two kids to look after 😂 And I don't want DD to feel replaced or less loved. We have zero help from family or anything, it's always just DH and me, and we both have full time jobs so it can be hard sometimes!

It's totally understandable @MrsRosaline and I definitely relate! X

@newtolineofduty @MrsRosaline @CShandy01 I don't have my own kids but I totally get why you feel like that but I guess you just adapt once the baby is here and you will totally smash it! I always think it's lovely for children to have a sibling, you learn so much for that dynamic as a child. I can't lie, I'm sure it's exhausting but equally amazing and you never know, you might have an angel of a baby who sleeps like a dream!

4dpo nothing remarkable but still have that odd pain going on. I think it must be muscular. I am exhausted today, sacked off the gym and going to have a bath instead!

Good for you @hoola23! Yes totally worth it once over the baby/toddler phase! 😂 x although I absolutely love baby snuggles! Xxx

@newtolineofduty ahh they're the best aren't they!

I loved the baby snuggles, especially the little snuffle noises they make!! It was when she became a toddler that it got hard 😂😂 actually it was when DD started walking that it became hard because that meant she always had to go upstairs to explore 😂😂 still, it's equally as lovely now as we can go to cafes together and eat together, which is lovely. Just a different type of hard.

@MrsRosaline I can really understand where you're coming from. I've said to DH that I don't really want to keep trying once we've both reached 36 and/or DD has reached 5. I think by that point I'll have had enough. I equally want to be positive about it all, but I also want to be realistic.

@hoola23 don't blame you on the TLC! Sometimes I think when you really force yourself to do exercise, you do it half arsed anyway and don't enjoy it, so it's a waste of time.

I've found a cracking new video on YouTube that combines Zumba with Les Mills body combat. The music is epic, it's a proper good workout, and the lead trainer is FIIIIITTT! 🤤🤤🤤

@CShandy01 sounds amazing could you post the link? Need something for when I get into exercise again that I can do at home! X

I'm not sure what our cut off would have been but I would have stopped at a certain age of mine-more like 40 though as I'm almost 37 now! 😂 x

@hoola23 I really hope it gets better soon, I always think it's better to get new pains checked out unless you think it's a gym related injury- hope it isn't too painful hun x

@CShandy01 please do share the link to that video, I need motivation for a home workout when the nights are this dark! That is great you managed to DTD with everything that is going on, especially with your DD's night terrors... poor thing!

@newtolineofduty @MrsRosaline sounds like fear of the unknown is what is worrying all of us, I guess it is totally natural and human nature! I just spent the day with a close friend I haven't seen in 2 years as she lives abroad and she definitely gave me a dose of realism when it comes to pregnancy/ birth/ parenting but it was also nice to hear the good bits too. It was so interesting to hear her thoughts on how much competition / pressure there can be among new mums too, sounds like a whole new world sometimes. I was quite relieved she didn't directly ask me if I was TTC, sometimes people can be really direct and I am starting to find it a bit awkward as time goes on

It's like a cardio boxing Zumba thing. I only managed 20 mins as DD had woken up but I had burned just over 200 calories 😂🙂

@plantbasedlondoner honestly I was adamant about not going to any classes with other mum's purely because I didn't want to compare DD to others, or having others ask questions like "you know you shouldn't ween them so soon??"

I didn't go to any antenatal classes either. Literally didn't feel the need to again compare myself to other mums. I only went to a 1:1 breastfeeding talk just to shut my midwife up, even though I always said I'll try with breastfeeding but I'm not at all going to stick with it if I don't like it. Lo and behold, only managed 6 weeks because DD had a tongue tie and it bloody hurt.