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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Please look at my lovely table, are we DTD too late?! 📊

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Artework · 28/09/2021 15:15

The red x's stand for when we have had sex!

We have been doing it on the OPK peak day so that there is sperm waiting there when ovulation happens the next day.

Are we doing it right?!

Please look at my lovely table, are we DTD too late?! 📊
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Ichangemynameagain · 28/09/2021 15:17

This all sounds very complicated.

Do you need to be tracking ovulation?

Hopefulhedgehog · 28/09/2021 15:17

Yes but would suggest more sex!

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Artework · 28/09/2021 15:20

@Ichangemynameagain

This all sounds very complicated.

Do you need to be tracking ovulation?

Haha I love a good spreadsheet! It's just for fun as I'm WFH but exhausted so finding it hard to be motivated to work this afternoon!

I have read that sperm can survive more than 24 hours so wondered if we should be having sex earlier in my cycle?!

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Mummytobe93 · 28/09/2021 15:21

I’d also be having sex the day after the ovulation in case the egg is released late ( if I’m correct it can be up to 36 hrs?) . So basically just like you did in September cycle.

How many DPO are you?

TheSockMonster · 28/09/2021 15:22

I think you need to have sex every day before and after expected ovulation date to stand the best chance of falling pregnant.

Apparently sperm quality increases in line with how many times a man ejaculates with 1-2x per day being optimal, so for the very, very best chance of falling pregnant sex every day of the month would be your best bet!

Mummytobe93 · 28/09/2021 15:22

Yeah, sperm can survive up to 5 days but that is best case scenario with very strong sperm and lots of CM inside your tubes to keep it alive all this time.

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Artework · 28/09/2021 15:24

Oh gosh ok, I hope DH is up for the challenge haha!

@Mummytobe93 this month I am only 8dpo but I know for fact it hasn't happened this month, I am completely symptom free, no aches or twinges, no spots, no IB, nothing at all. So now I am looking ahead to October and seeing what's best. Smile

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czycoup · 28/09/2021 16:24

I love a spreadsheet. May I suggest columns detailing time of day and position? Grinmay help future TTC-ers once you get your BFP!

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Artework · 28/09/2021 16:29

I know you were joking @czycoup but as it happens... I already did it.... Grin

The green boxes are when I have logged EWCM on Fertility Friend. As you can see, very little sex happened on those days! So in October I am going to make these changes:

  • Sex on EWCM days
  • More sex
  • Starting sex earlier in the cycle.

I shall report back! Grin

Please look at my lovely table, are we DTD too late?! 📊
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czycoup · 28/09/2021 16:33

Beautiful!

If it helps, i have been pregnant 4 times.
One I can't remember, twice I fell pregnant when we DTD on O-1 and one when it was O-5 (or it might have been O-6. I remember wondering how the fuck that happened).

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Artework · 28/09/2021 17:13

O-5 is quite something!!

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toadstool32 · 28/09/2021 17:27

FYI I dtd every day from cd7-12 (ovulation day). It worked.

SylvanasWindrunner · 28/09/2021 17:36

O-2 has been my magic day twice. I think you need to have a bit more sex though. At least twice in each fertile window. Are you temping to confirm ovulation?

SylvanasWindrunner · 28/09/2021 17:38

Also this is entirely anecdotal but I don't get much EWCM, a couple of days around O-4 and O-5, so both times I've got pregnant I used Conceive Plus for a bit more lubrication on the days closer to ovulation. As I say, it's entirely anecdotal but it worked the first time after six months of trying and then the first month we tried again.

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Artework · 28/09/2021 17:41

I did temp one month but to be honest my wake up time has a range of about four hours so I wasn’t sure if it was accurate. That said, for that month the temping did show ovulation.

Funny you mention Conceive Plus as that has been recommended to me by two pregnant friends within the past fortnight! One had been trying for eight months and one had fertility/ovulation problems! Going to get some ordered from Amazon now!

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Artework · 28/09/2021 17:42

And yes, I agree we need more sex…

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SylvanasWindrunner · 28/09/2021 17:44

Easier said than done, isn't it? TTC sex is a whole other beast.

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Artework · 28/09/2021 17:50

Totally agree. There would be a couple more ❌ on there but one time DH got performance anxiety and another time we had a little disagreement as apparently I was making him feel pressure. Which I totally get.

Another change I will be making for October is to not actually tell him when I ovulate, and by spreading it out a bit more, I think that will make things less ‘pressured.’ Also I won’t be anxious that we are running out of time on the fertile window!

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minipie · 28/09/2021 17:50

Honestly was expecting a picture of you DTD on a table from the thread title…

Danani · 28/09/2021 18:24

@minipie the disappointment 😂😂😂

I thoroughly enjoyed this thread! Agree with everyone else on a bit more DTD!

Here’s to a lucky October! 🍀

gogohm · 28/09/2021 18:26

A friend of mine is an obgyn she sees couples with fertility issues as part of her practice. She commented (after some drinks I should add) about couple's targeting when to have sex using ovulation monitors when all they need to do is have plenty of sex, every day ideally. She wasn't dismissing them in specific circumstances I should add (on another occasion she was saying had they can be useful) but more generally relax, have fun - less spreadsheets!

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Artework · 28/09/2021 18:27

❌ 🍽🍆💦

I can’t believe there is no table emoji!!

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gogohm · 28/09/2021 18:28

Ps I got pregnant the day my period finished (so thought I was safe wasn't intending on conceiving then) spread it out, lots of it, good luck

UnaOfStormhold · 28/09/2021 19:09

The other thing to factor in is freshness of the sperm - if you leave it until just before ovulation then you're almost certainly ending up with mostly old sperm, as well as a higher chance of missing ovulation altogether. So I'd recommend starting as soon as your period finishes and do every other day until you're definitely a few days past ovulation.

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Artework · 28/09/2021 21:29

@UnaOfStormhold

The other thing to factor in is freshness of the sperm - if you leave it until just before ovulation then you're almost certainly ending up with mostly old sperm, as well as a higher chance of missing ovulation altogether. So I'd recommend starting as soon as your period finishes and do every other day until you're definitely a few days past ovulation.
Yes this is a good point and something I have been reading about this afternoon!

Things are going to be very different over the next few weeks... buckle up DH 😂

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