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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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What did you do different the month you fell pregnant?

56 replies

brightwhite · 09/09/2021 19:55

Or what had you changed in the weeks leading up to conceiving?

DC is 4 and we conceived first try.

TTC number 2 for a year now and feel I've tried EVERYTHING.

Vitamins, diet, conceive plus, opk's, prayers!

DH has had a sperm count and all is well above average. I had an internal scan and all looks normal apart from a small fibroid. I have been referred to the fertility clinic.

Desperately trying in the meantime though as it could take 6 months to be seen.

OP posts:
PrincessesRUs · 09/09/2021 20:30

Similar to you op, first baby conceived the first month, second baby took 18 months. We did nothing different on month 18 so just luck!

ATrifleofFun · 09/09/2021 20:31

I quit my incredibly stressful job and had a wonderful month off. Then went back to a new, less stressful job and found out I was pregnant in the first week Blush

MissTheobald · 09/09/2021 20:32

Conceived dc1 straight away. Took much longer with dc2 (I had a referral to the hospital to investigate which I ended up not needing).
What I did differently that month was to stop planning sex, basically. We both had some kind of horrible flu (this was long before covid, I should say!) and iirc were off our faces on nightnurse much of the time, although I probably wouldn't recommend that! In fact in hindsight I wonder whether I'd been miscalculating my fertile days.

bluedart · 09/09/2021 20:35

Used progesterone cream. Temp tracking showed that I have a v short luteal phase. Conceived first month after 2 years of trying. I will never know if it was a coincidence.

Skyeheather · 09/09/2021 20:45

Went on holiday, two weeks AI in Tenerife. Decided to give myself two weeks off trying to conceive - drank loads of alcohol, ate everything I fancied, had several ice creams in one day, and conceived my rainbow baby after a year of trying and one mc.

confusedlots · 09/09/2021 20:46

It's the most annoying thing when you're trying to get pregnant and people tell you just to relax and it will happen, but that's what worked for us! I was tormenting myself with ovulation testing, pregnancy testing, trying to time things etc that I just needed a break, decided to forget about it for a month and hey presto I fell pregnant!

Second time around, I didn't bother going back on the pill after having DC1 because we were getting older and just thought we'd let nature take its course without actively trying. And I fell pregnant a few months later.

Harlequin1088 · 09/09/2021 20:48

Got the flu!

louisvillelou · 09/09/2021 20:53

Relaxed and just had sex whenever we fancied it. After 6 months of miscarriage/chems or nothing, it was quite a relief!

NatalieH2220 · 09/09/2021 20:56

The month I fell pregnant with DS2 was the only month I didn't track when I was ovulating properly. I read after a year of trying we could contact the drs and this was the final month before that so I was more relaxed. I had lost some weight gradually over the 2/3 months prior too so it could have been a combination of those.

Good luck!

sarahc336 · 09/09/2021 20:58

Reduce caffeine intake x

MyMabel · 09/09/2021 20:59

Both times ive fallen pregnant ive come down with a really horrible illness, I think it was actual flu; it messed up my cycles and make my period weird the month before I conceive. I swear the illness must just reset my body somehow 😂

EmbarrassingMama · 09/09/2021 21:04

Caught Covid!

Had been TTC for 13 months and had been referred for IVF for tube defects. Got Covid, felt sick as a dog, can’t even really believe we had the energy for a shag, but there we are..!

(Obvs not recommending catching Covid!)

Pebbles218 · 09/09/2021 21:23

Deleted fertility app, stopped opks and temp, had sex every other day, drank actimel! (Don't know if any of these helped.) I'd given up hope. Drank a lot and eaten gluten when it makes me unwell. Then bfp. It was a shitty and stressful time so I hope you're ok x

Ilikecheeseontoast · 09/09/2021 21:25

Had sex on the Friday, spa day with friends and a few Prosecco on the Saturday and then ovulated on the Sunday. Wasn’t actually trying as pregnancy no1 had taken 5 years and 4 rounds of ivf so I didn’t think getting pregnant naturally was an option! Relaxing is easier said than done but I believe it really helped in my case x wishing you the best of luck!

niki26 · 09/09/2021 21:27

Stopped taking OPKs. X

Original poster
brightwhite · 09/09/2021 21:46

Thank you all so so much.

I have enjoyed reading every reply!

Lots I will take on board like sleep, stress, diet and it probably wouldn't hurt to lose a few lbs... I'm a size 12--14 but I was 8-10 when I had my first Hmm

Also I took a month off opk's when we had a trip away and my cycle changed by 11 days so the usual fertile window was WAY out so I've ended up back on them.
No idea why it changed as nothing changed apart from we weren't at home!

OP posts:
hoola23 · 09/09/2021 21:55

Not much I don't think! I mean I used the clear blue fertility monitor but it didn't tell me anything enlightening really but I did DTD 2 days earlier than I had been. I did acupuncture but again, my first session was the day after I ovulated so doubt that played any roll. For me, I defo think my stress levels stopped me. I got my BFP a few days ago and for the last two months I've had a lot of time off work due to work stress and returned to a temp roll with hardly anything to do so that defo helped!
We took a year too, it will happen. Best of luck x

namechangeforthispost123 · 09/09/2021 22:02

Relaxed , stopped wanting it as much (as we got engaged) and I caught straight away!

SherbertLemons · 09/09/2021 22:25

I've been really really luck, falling pregnant in my first month of TTC. Here is what I did (if it helps anyone):

  1. started taking prenatal seven months before TTC
  2. gave up smoking a year and a half ago
  3. had sex ever other day during fertile window (I wanted to do it almost every day to increase our chances but DPs research said to do it every other day to increase sperm quality)
  4. tracked ovulation using clear blue digital for the actual TTC month, but used cheapies to track it for three months prior to learn when I ovulated.
  5. used pre-seed (only 1ml as a little goes a long way)
  6. tracked BBT up until confirmed ovulation
  7. stuffed a pillow under my hips after intercourse Wink
  8. went away to visit family during TTW and relaxed / tried to put it out of my mind (kind of worked kind of didn't but made the time pass easier).

Not sure if that will help anyone but I hope so x

Kipkay35 · 10/09/2021 07:56

We went on holiday and had a wonderful relaxing time Smile we also used Clear blue OPKs for a few months which I found Really helpful

IsabelHerna · 13/09/2021 09:05

Good luck! Can't you get an earlier referral? Seems that you have indeed tried everything so can't the gp help you out?

LittleMachine · 13/09/2021 09:10

A few things - we followed the sperm meets egg plan that cycle for the first time. I used the smiley face OPKs instead of the line ones and took vitamin B6.

Tinpotspectator · 13/09/2021 09:18

No idea if relevant but I had a standard course of antibiotics for something unrelated. Years ago now.

latte101 · 13/09/2021 09:46

Didn't go to the loo after we DTD, just went to sleep with my bum on a pillow. I'd also said if it didn't work we were getting a dog.

Like you, my eldest wasn't even planned, I just came off the pill so see what happened. With my second, we started TTC when eldest was one. I fell pregnant twice but lost them, then moved house and fell with DD.

Also, the last two pregnancies I had my bloods done to check hormones and I fell pregnant straight after them.

latte101 · 13/09/2021 09:50

Meant to say it did take 3 years to fall pregnant with DD

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