Bus 6 of the Donkey club! Ttc for forever helpful supportive ladies for endo/ivf/mfi etc

[Marvellouslymadmum]

Climb abourd donkeys 😂

@Motherofkittens28 weird the only time I've heard of anything similar is with Monika and Chandler on friends 😂 that's really good that they've found out and are being proactive about it! But woah that's a bit on the pricey side! 😳 that's an interesting read, my blood tests show up extra inflammation markers which I've been putting down to adeno/endo but maybe something else to get checked!

@becarefuloutthere definitely good to get an extra scan!

@Marvellouslymadmum I often think of that scene where she says she's got an inhospitable womb. 🤣 I've heard of it and some clinics definitely seem to put more emphasis on such things than others @Motherofkittens28
I don't know how anyone does the full bladder thing. Literally my worst nightmare @becarefuloutthere

@becarefuloutthere I'm doing ok thanks, had my first scan on Wednesday, she said she could see a flutter but I couldn't see anything! Due to have another on Sunday when I'll be 6 weeks, so hopefully will see more then. I think the morning sickness kicked in yesterday, which is reassuring although not pleasant!

@Marvellouslymadmum it made me think of that too actually 😂
Yeah I'm pleased they're trying again, will defo remember to start drinking earlier as he said my bladder was slow to fill, who knew!
@paintfairy you'll learn at transfer, was hellish then as it was at bursting stage which you don't need to be, but I don't know how I'm supposed to judge it. I'm gonna try measure out a litre of liquid for Thursday!
@Motherofkittens28 ahh you'll defo see it at 6 weeks I reckon. Mine wasn't until 7+6 so it was really obvious by then. That's a good way to describe morning sickness for sure! Are you actually throwing up or is it nausea? Weirdly I've only really started throwing up since 12 weeks, it's meant to die down then 🙈

@becarefuloutthere honestly I've got a terrible bladder and can't hold it! 🙈🤣

@becarefuloutthere get used to the full bladder 😂 at my 20 week scan they were pressing so hard on my stomach (due to me having an anterior placenta) it was touch and go with a full bladder 🤣

@Motherofkittens28 I hope you just have nausea and not full blown sickness. I'm nearly 21 weeks and still being sick, have been from week 5 😞

@paintfairy yes that's it! And chandler explains it in layman's terms that he has lazy sperm that don't want to get of their BarcaLounger and her uterus is prepared to kill the ones that do! Which would make sense with the killer cells!

@Motherofkittens28 ooh that's good about the scans and the morning sickness although it's not nice.

@becarefuloutthere good old friends lol good luck for the bladder filling lol

Ice water is great for nausea and sickness ladies stick up on your ice cubes!

Hey everyone, thought I'd jump back on and see how you're all doing/getting on? The last two months has been extremely difficult for me. I temporarily lost symptoms at 9 weeks so went for a private US at 9+3 to find one of my twins hearts had stopped beating a few days previous. Seeing my perfect little baby motionless on the screen was the worst day of my life. Medically it's called Vanishing Twin Syndrome but for me, at my stage my lost twin hasn't reabsorbed, it's still there and on every scan. It's been a massive emotional rollercoaster to process and grieve and I've developed a massive fear of scans. Anyhow, my little fighter is doing well. I have an anterior placenta so haven't got the kicks or movement yet for reassurance but I had my midwife appointment yesterday and I heard the heartbeat with the Doppler so feeling reassured again. I'm 17 weeks now but waiting until nearer our gender reveal (29th) to go for a gender scan.

Sorry to hear about what you're going through @Sunbird24. There's hardly any support I've found for VTS in the UK but I found a really good Facebook group called VTS Parents.

@Motherofkittens28 omg! So happy for you! Congrats!

What else have I missed?

@crazydoglady123 I am so sorry to hear that one of your babies passed :( that's so sad and I cant imagine the pain coupled with the relief that one twin is okay. Just such a rollercoaster for you ♥️♥️ what happens given that the usually process with vanishing twin hasbt happened?

Glad to hear baby is still doing really well though ♥️♥️♥️♥️

@Annny27 thank you. It took me a long time to stop feeling like everyone disregarded my loss so easily as I was "still pregnant". Don't get me wrong, I know I'm still lucky and I know there's a lot of ladies who'd do anything to be pregnant with one but after hearing their heartbeats at scans and seeing them and all the twin pregnancy symptoms I was so attached and loved my babies so it really hit hard. My other half tries not to see the baby as a baby, he says it was so small it wasn't really one but he wasn't there at the scan when the loss was discovered and see it's perfect baby shape and arms and legs. I know he's not being horrible, just protecting himself and trying to protect me from hurting as much. He did look at the screen on my 12 week scan though as he thought he owed it to the lost twin and he said it did look like a baby just so much smaller. We was told at EPU and by the midwifes it'd reabsorb but because it hasn't what's likely to happen is as the singleton gets bigger it'll flatten it into the placenta and I'll pass it with the singleton

@Crazydoglady123 that’s heartbreaking - I’m so sorry you had to go through that, the whole process must be very bittersweet now. Look after yourself and put everything you have into growing your little fighter x

Sending huge love @Crazydoglady123, it must be so hard to lose a twin when you’ve seen both little hearts beating. You may not get to hold them in your arms but they’ll always be a part of you, and of their brother or sister. Everything crossed the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

Thank you ladies. Anyway, less about me...what's been happening?!

@Sunbird24 when's your next scan?

@polejunkie how did your ivf cycle go?

@Crazydoglady123 had one embryo in the end, currently 8+4 and on anti sickness, the days are long but I’m super grateful to be where I am x

@Crazydoglady123 the EPU still haven’t called me back so I don’t know yet. 😣 On the website they say to attend you must have pain or bleeding, and I don’t have either, so I don’t know if they’ll even see me (unless I lie…)

@polejunkie oh my gosh congratulations! Ugh you poor thing with the sickness! I had really bad nausea in the first trimester but thankfully wasn't ever sick although part of me thinks maybe it'd have been easier to be sick. Still can't eat a lot of chicken or eat/drink milk or cream without feeling sick. Be worth any symptom for the reward.

@Sunbird24 have you been referred there by your clinic? My local EPU you couldn't refer yourself but my midwife did when I informed her of the loss. I had no pain or bleeding

I’m going to see if my Med centre has any other contact detail on Monday and can find a way to get them to see me.

@Crazydoglady123 thanks lovely, it’s all temporary, that’s what I keep telling myself 🙂

@Sunbird24 that's good you can self refer to yours. Have you called your EPU then to see what they say?

Yes, but you have to leave a voicemail and they’re supposed to call you back but they haven’t, and I rang them on Wednesday 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Sunbird24 that's awful! Is there another hospital/EPU nearby? I live between two luckily. The main point of EPU is for reassurance

There is another one a bit further away but that one I can’t self-refer. Will try my dr on Monday

@Sunbird24 yeah do push for a referral or for it to be chased at least. Here if you ever want to chat about it

@Sunbird24 God that's not very good? Definitely get on that them!
@Crazydoglady123 nice to see you 😊

@Sunbird24 God, too many alcoholic beverages. 🤣 You know what I meant....