🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 7 🦕

[Annny27]

Hello ladies,

Time for a new thread for us dinosaurs and for any newbies that find themselves ttc after miscarriage ❤

Tagging those who I remember from top of my head and them will add the others in later 🥰

@Elm7
@babyghirl
@27donfin
@kiwi17
@sweetbabydust1989

@PeanuttyButter
I knw its nt happening this month lol

@EmiGoiko Yes, I just stopped doing BBT this cycle because I found it too stressful. I've been told that a large amount of things can change your BBT, even going to bed a bit later etc but I used to get worried about dips in my temperature or it being high but not high enough. It just didn't work for me. The Clearblue ovulation kits are expensive but I find them the easiest thing to use to track ovulation and they seem to be quite accurate for me. If there's no BFP this cycle then I'll probably try taking the pessaries more days after my peak day the next time around as I'm a bit worried that I may have started them too soon for me, even though it was later than my gynaecologist recommended. I've now read several womens stories on old forums via Google and there seems to be a variety of women who have been advised by their doctors to start progesterone pessaries anywhere between 2dpo and 21dpo or even at BFP or weeks after BFP with different women having success in different ways so I'm just not sure yet what will be best for me. Obviously I hope that I haven't taken it too soon and that it will work this time. Maybe your doctor can give you some advice based on your current symptoms? Possibly prescribe something for you? Xx

@PeanuttyButter 18dpo or 4 weeks 3 days, how about you? It's torture isn't it. I got to 21dpo last time. 😔

@H0peing I totally get that and there is no point doing anything if it makes you feel stressed. I stopped for a while too for the same reason and only started as my acupuncturist asked me to. I've stopped now I've had a bfp or I would drive myself nuts.

Sounds like you have taken a really sensible approach and stuck to as close to what the doctor said whilst listening to your body. It doesn't sound like you took to soon if you went by thr clearblue ovulation. I'll keep fingers crossed.

My doctor wasn't interested in doing anything unless I miscarry again, so I think it is a wait and see situation. I have also been down the old thread rabbit hole and sounds like cramps are common so 🤞

@Emigoiko I'm only 12dpo or 3weeks 4 days super early. AF due today

@EmiGoiko thanks for your encouraging words. They are very much appreciated! Yes, cramps are definitely common. I had them during my pregnancy with my now 5yo and he was a very healthy baby. Xx

Good morning ladies well period I think will be here today got the normal swcm I get norm day of period, in work to 4 can't come quick enough lol just washed my car to try get an hour in lol, what you all up to today.

@Babyghirl sorry to hear that. But at least it means it's not long till your next fertile window.

@PeanuttyButter only a little behind me then. Such an anxious time.

@H0peing thanks for the reassurance, that helps to hear. I remember having them with my daughter but was so long ago now I can't remember how bad they were.

Boring day today, highlight will probably be a trip to tesco lol

@Emigoiko
You know what month it is nxt month lol.

@Emigoiko
I trip to tesco sounds delightful 😂😂😂😂😂

It's rainbow baby day today- and all i feel is sad that I don't have one :( hope everyone else is doing ok today 💕

Look what I saw in the shop today ladies and had to take a picture because we are so strong with so much hope on this chat

@kiwi17 I am feeling a bit down about it too! I saw it on insta

@Annny27 think we all need one of those!

Sorry you both feel down @Kiwi17 and @Annny27 , sending you both big hugs.

What a lovely thought, I definitely need one of those to remind me to be hopeful. I feel like I should make that my mantra!

I didn't even know there was a rainbow baby day! Interestingly, we ended up seeing my sister-in-law today and her little girl is a rainbow baby. She is an absolutely adorable, healthy little 3yo! We will all have our own adorable rainbow babies soon. Xxx

@Annny27 thanks for posting that photo! Very encouraging! Xx

Yea I didn't know there was a rainbow baby day either and two of my Goddaughters are rainbow babies.

Fingers crossed for everyone waiting.

I'm sorry that AF looked to be arriving Babyghirl.

I'd never heard of rainbow baby day. Hopefully we'll all be celebrating that in the future.

AF arrived here yesterday - 33 days after I starting bleeding with the last miscarriage. I suppose I should be relieved that it's not kept me waiting for ages, but all I can think is about how everyone told me when I had the first miscarriage, that's I'd be pregnant again by the due date. The due date was
Mid September and that's now definitely not going to be the case. My DH is obsessed by getting the puppy in the two weeks, and doesn't seem to think about anything else, and keeps telling Em I just need to focus on what we have. He'll, even a psychologist friend told me that feeling grateful for what I have would make it all feel better. Am I a complete selfish cow? I am grateful for what I have, but it doesn't my take away the pain.

@Equimum No, you're not being selfish! Not everyone understands how difficult it can be when you were pregnant but then lose it. You have hopes for the future as you look ahead to the due date and it's a bereavement, which can have long-term effects and you shouldn't feel bad about that. I have good days and bad days. I really hope that you begin a successful pregnancy very soon. Xx

Well after having a 41 day cycle last month where I genuinely thought I was pregnant and getting indent lines on FRER I'm on ovulation week!

Boyfriend works away Monday to Friday but this week and next he's staying at home and travelling so I won't miss my fertile window! Hope it works out for me 😁

@Equimum definitely not selfish. It takes time to grieve for these losses and it is possible to be grateful for what you have and feel the pain at the same time, I think they are separate things. Being grateful doesn't take the pain away does it. It's OK to feel sad as long as it takes.

My DH says the same to me btw and always remains always optimistic and tells me to be the same (and I just don't feel optimistic) - I think they just find it easier to disassociate given it's not their body. My due date for my first MC is also approaching and it is depressing, I feel your pain. Hugs.

Fingers crossed for you @apwilso

@EmiGoiko thank you!

Seen some chat about aspirin around ovulation. Has anyone ever tried it?

Good luck @apwilso and enjoy!

@Equimum I know it's hard. Think due date is a date that will always be difficult even if you were to get pregnant before then.
I think people don't realise that even once it's over it's not really over as you still grieve for the time you're missing out on. I know how far along I should be by now.

@Emigoiko my DH seems optimistic too and to a certain extent it's a good thing but at the same time I think, "How can you be?" And I feel like screaming.

I know! I've had quite bad cramps today and my husband actually said to me "I don't get why you are so worried". 🤦‍♀️

@apwilso I have been taking asprin since ovulation this month. 150g (self prescribed based on a midwife's advice at epu). I think the consensus from this group was taking it in the evenings is best.