🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 7 🦕

[Annny27]

Hello ladies,

Time for a new thread for us dinosaurs and for any newbies that find themselves ttc after miscarriage ❤

Tagging those who I remember from top of my head and them will add the others in later 🥰

@Elm7
@babyghirl
@27donfin
@kiwi17
@sweetbabydust1989

@PeanuttyButter It seems to be harder this time compared to the previous 3 miscarriages. I think it's because I saw two on the scan and got so excited about the idea of twins. My grandma has non-identical twins so I knew it was a possibility but to see them both felt so real and it's definitely hit me hard this time. I've cried a lot but I'm just throwing myself into trying again until it works! I now have mixed feelings about early scans as I wouldn't have known there were two without the 5 week scan but I think it's helped me to acknowledge what's happened. It's also a huge challenge to experience the loss of a pregnancy without a scan.

Glad we can all support each-other. X

@kiwi17 exactly, that's totally it! Knowing you are ovulating is great, really is a pretty big plus! So definitely reassuring!

Hi @Kruge21 welcome to the group and so sorry for your loss. It's so awful. I had had two miscarriages this year, one missed and one natural. Talking to this group has really helped.

I have had both jabs, last one end of july. Haven't noticed any impact to my cycle.

So today I got a faint positive on an Internet cheapie test strip. I'm about 12 dpo. I have been a bit crampy hut otherwise no other signs. It is such a faint line that I'm not feeling very hopeful. My last miscarriage which was very early (5.5 weeks) also only had faint lines so worried it is going to be the same. Awful how all it just robs the joy out of it, we just feel kind of doomy. It just feels like torture to wait and see. Does anyone know if at 12dpo you expect the line to be darker or is it usually to be faint? Do the cheap test strips tend to be lighter anyway?

Congratulations @EmiGoiko! That's exciting - I'm not sure about the cheapies as I've never used them but when I've had my bfps on asda tests I normally test about 13dpo and they weren't super strong lines (one was my mc but I didn't lose it til 10 weeks and the other was my now 3 yr old so hopefully it'll darken up for you!) Fingers crossed for you it sticks 🤞

Thanks @kiwi17. Wish I could feel excited but I think I won't until I'm passed at least 6 weeks which is when I've lost the others. And currently not hopeful I'll get there (I know I'm such a downer). With my daughter I had a strong test from the start, but I don't remember when I tested so that's not very helpful! Reassuring to know you had faint tests with your son, so thank you! X

@HOpeing
Been awol this weekend done 26 hours overtime so was busy none stop have been taking mine to at nite so hoping it helps,
@Kruge21
Sorry you find yourself with us but glad u found us for support, I have had both my jabs the Pfizer from the start as I work for the Trust no difference in my cycle have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp last miscarriage end of Jan before I got my first jab I was working at the covid wlk in vaccine centre on sat and a lot of pregnant women there getting it there now urging pregnant women to get it as covid in the 3rd trimester can be serious, but go with what you want it's no right or wrong.
@Emigoiko
Congratulations and I hope this is your sticky baby 💚
@slcxxx
How have you been feels like ages from u been on lol
@kiwi17
Still hanging around waiting how r you doing 💚

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Thanks @SLCxxx have signed! @Babyghirl doing ok thanks- think I'm ovulating today or tomorrow so just getting on the horse, you know 😂 hopefully going on holiday ok Thursday so that will be a good tww distraction! Haha! What cd you up to now? I'm only cd13 which is early for me to ovulate I normally tend to be cd17/18 But have started b6 again but a stronger dose hoping it will reduce my prolactin so maybe that's having an effect!

@kiwi17
That horse is a cunt may hurry up and win the national so we can retire 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@emigoika congratulations sweetheart! Take another tomorrow or the next day and will be crossing my fingers that it darkens!

@kiwi17 glad everyone looks well and that theres an egg waiting to be released 😍

@babyghirl sounds like a very tiring weekend!!

@elm7 whens your scan lovely?

It's one of those depressed days for me. Another friend just told me she is expecting her first baby and I just feel left behind girls like life and everyone is moving on apart from me :( I know you will all relate. Sucks sucks sucks....and then on the other end I am ovulating soon so got to wipe the years away and dtd 🙄

I know I also shouldnt think this because someone elses life doesnt impact mine. But there were two children in the news recently killed by their mothers or as a result of their negligence and I am just like WHY do they get to be mums but I am not :( self pity I know but it's just all confusing

Pahahaha I'm not disagreeing with that statement @Babyghirl! 🤣 @Annny27 I'm sorry you're having a down day - that news always throws us off track when we're starting to feel a bit more positive doesn't it. And I know what you mean about the news stories it just seems so unfair :(

@Annny27
Awwww big hug from me it gets to us a lot when things like that happen 😪😪😪😪😪😪😪, a woman in Belfast stabbed her 8 week old an 3 year old bot 3 weeks ago in Belfast 8 week old died 3 year old pulled through poor babies. Go get on that horse and hopefully you can win the national this month 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Really busy weekend glad it's over booked Thursday off me and oh going for a nice lunch and just to spend the day together as we not seen each other only an hour here or there due to work so looking forward to that. 💚
@kiwi17
We got this 🐴🐎🐴🐎 lol

@Annny27 I'm sorry you're feeling down. It is tough when people around you are announcing their news. It is hard not to think about yourself and feel sad for your own situation. I always think it is possible and normal to feel both emotions at the same time. You can be happy for other people and still feel sad for yourself. I think that's very human and you shouldn't feel bad about it. I think we all feel like that.

I also see things in the news and awful people doing awful things and think the same as you. It is unfair.

I hope you can find the oomph and get in the mood to DTD!

@Babyghirl that's such a nice thing to do. Nice to find quality time together amongst all the scheduled horse riding 😆

@H0peing Look after yourself. I know what you mean about wanting the early scan for reassurance but then when it doesn't go to plan it almost hurts more if that's even possible.

@kiwi17 Happy riding lol

@Annny27 Sorry you're going through a rough patch, it's so hard isn't it. I'm trying to stay out of the dark place if I can and. Using the same logic you are that nobodys life impacts me and what's meant to be for me will happen when it's time. It's working so far but AF is due at the end of the week so we will see if it lasts.

@EmiGoiko Congratulations, fingers crossed for a sticky bean. What day was/is AF due? X

@babyghirl I know I look at some people and their alcoholic/drug addict lifestyle and they manage to get pregnant and have healthy kids and don't appreciate them.

@Emigoiko
It gets tiring he on nites so been getting a break lol.
@PeanuttyButter
I knw its disheartening well last 3 Septembers I have fell pregnant so let's c if nxt month makes it 4 in a row 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@PeanuttyButter due on AF today. Did another test this morning which was marginally darker. (Driving myself mad testing). But I woke in the night with awful stomach pains and my stomach is tender to touch today. I think it may be wind (sorry tmi) which after frantic googling seems to be common, so trying not to freak out. Trying to be positive that this may be a pregnancy sympton - I didn't have any symptoms with the miscarriages beyond mild cramps (which I've also been having).

@babyghirl fingers crossed for you, sounds like September is your month!

@Emigoiko
I love looking at positive test let us c lol x

Top one 10 dpo. Bottom one today 13dpo. ALL FMU. I'm worrying if they are dark enough, obbsesed with the progression because I've been there where they haven't progressed then I lost it.

I'm saving a clear blue for end of the week.

@EmiGoiko I had awful wind in the early days of my pregnancy. Those lines look like they are progressing nicely xx

@Babyghirl fingers crossed it happens again and it sticks x

@Emigoiko
Looks like a good progression to me 🍀
@PeanuttyButter
I'm hoping nxt one is my sticky one 4 miscarriages and 1 cp l8r it's got to be my turn lol.

I know I'm crazy, but here is an update bottom one is today. I would expect to see more progression between today and last couple days. I have a bad feeling tbh, this is what happened last time when I lost it.

So I decided to pee on my special clear blue and got this very strong positive. Also a 25miu so I guess I should be reassured. My husband has told me to get a grip and step away from the tests. He is probably right

@EmiGoiko try and be positive. You are only 14dpo today right? And AF was only due yesterday. With mine I only got a squinter when I was a day late! I know it's easier said than done but try and just ride it all. Ride the emotions and what will be will be. Stressing doesn't help anything (although I'd be exactly the same). Hugs xx

Cross posts @EmiGoiko xxx