All aboard Minster's Ovulation Tea Party Bus - TTC away from cat poo Bus 38

[Minster2012]

I hereby invite you all to Minster’s First ever Eggy Tea Party...🥖🍍🍔🍦🍰🍫🧁held to celebrate the even slightest whiff of an Easter Ovulatory event...

Don’t fear Boris, it will be outside, socially distanced at various points of the UK & Ireland (other parts of the globe may attend), whatever the 🌞❄️⛄️we are up for it & often the sperm & 🥚stay apart at our gatherings too, even though we don’t want them too 🤣.

It’s a bring your own event, private chefs & hello fresh/gousto boxes may attend, pics of your offerings encouraged...🥦🌽🌮🥘🍝🍻🍹🍸🧉🍾☕️🍵🧃🥤🧋

Get your glad rags on ladies Cos we are having a party 💃🏼👯‍♀️👫& we can go OUT now! (Well we are done with stopping in aren’t we?)

This bus is the one where TTC happens in many different forms, shagging conventionally, unconventionally, with the help of scientific intervention, IUI/ICSI/Clomid/IVF & even just watching from the top of the bus 👀. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been trying for days, weeks, months or like some of us we’ve been around each other for so long we can’t bear to leave, nothing is TMI and there’s never a silly question...

Hell we KNOW TTC is tough, lots of us have had heart ache & are chasing 🌈so we are there for each other, as well as trying to have laughs along the way 🥰☺️

Oh and we like an embarrassing story to get your ticket for entry please!

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

minstermusings.co.uk for the blog that’s where the full stuff happens too explain my weird story & minstermusings on insta - some of our ladies have made special anonymous accounts so we can link up via me 🥰
If you want to sign up & get updates please do, please note your username if you comment shows up to others so maybe make it anonymous I won’t be offended 😂🤣(unless you are mean)

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
jan 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs

What will April bring? 🐣

@Minster2012 probably need to wait until schools are back, so nothing yet
Hmmm, difficult one with dh and the house,

Your DS sounds an absolute delight @Franklydear 🥰

I won £30 on the lottery last night 🥳🥳🥳

Sounds like quite a conundrum @Minster2012 thankfully DH and I have always been in agreement on houses. The only place we'd move to would require coming into quite a lot of money as they're all about twice the price of our house and would need work! Thankfully I love our house and it's location!

@Kirky658 you and me both with the knees!! Good going on the run though💪🏽

@notyetamumbuttrying interesting, I've always had a feeling deep down I either have the same or had pcos, when I went for those scans tests they ruled out cysts or anything but you never know do you, the first day of my period is always so painful, I mean I get on with my day but I feel sick and dizzy and it's always heavy day 1 and 2, and in certain positions when having sex it's uncomfortable! It's all very exciting for you, can't wait to see it all unfold!!

@Minster2012 it is literally how I felt stepping back into the gym😂 ooo here's hoping, gave myself a pat on the back last night too, went out for food and got a salad!! Who's this!! Hmmm sticky situation on the house, I can see his point for his height and feeling cramped but it's so hard when you love a house and they don't see the potential!!

@Katiekattty

I think blooming Premom App dates are wrong. I’m now getting high on OPK. Awesome 🤣🤣🤣 lots of DTD more this week.

Hey! Are you talking about the predicted OD is not accurate? It sometimes happens to me. They said it is based off my historical data. My cycle is regular but not always the same. My luteal phase is always 13 days. Anyway, when I upload a lower level to the app, it shows my peak and actual OD immediately. I now focus more on the test results. I still take the predicted OD as a reference and start testing 5 days before that. It is my 4th cycle of trying.

Morning, on the way to work, I woke up with backpain but on the right side only, annoyingly goes all the way to my coxis, nice
Happy Latino music today, I need happy

@EllieAdam thank you this is exactly what’s happening to me now.

@Minster2012 we’re in the SE and should hopefully be moving to one of villages around the Chesham area. DH needs to commute into London for work.

Okay... It now makes sense to me. The predicted OD will be readjusted once a lower level is detected after peak. I always BD every other day when I get positive results. Just not want to miss any chance.

@larrythelizard Thank you, they are worth it these pesky kids

@paintfairy @Kirky658 ahh snap, I'm edge of the Peak District too, only a 5 minute drive away 😊

@Minster2012 hmmmm tricky one on the house. If he’s tall I can see why those things may be a problem for him, never a problem I’ve encountered myself being such a shortarse.

Aww cute kittens @Billythecat, how are they settling in?

@dollybird89 it's good that you're getting more tests, hopefully they'll get to the bottom of things. Have sent you a message about fitbit 😊

@blackcurrantqueen both reasurring and frustrating that all well with your uterus. I know how frustrating it can be not having answers as to why the jellybeans don't want to get comfy and stay there when there's nothing wrong with it. Glad you can call for the progesterone, as you said it will make you feel empowered like you're actually doing something if nothing else!

@Franklydear sounds like he's in a good holiday club, what lovely comments 🥰

@larrythelizard hooray on the lottery win......don't go spending it all at once now 😉

It's SILs 12 week scan today, just trying to keep myself busy with DS this morn, at least I know its today so the scan pic won't pop up as a shock. But it's also the day of DHs sperm analysis, they are both going to the same wing of the hospital just an hour apart, hers to see her 'happy accident' on screen, him because ours don't want to stick. Im happy for her but the day of her scan is just really shitty timing (not that it's her fault at all).

That's really rough timing @DKDK123. Thank god were still pretty locked down so you can keep a low profile until you're ready to x

@bez91 yay! Someone else in the middle! 🤣 I'm not 5 minutes away mind, but it's not far.
@DKDK123 that does sound shit! Seems very unfair sometimes, doesn't it? The maternity bit is round the corner at the hospital from where I go. We had to pass it last time when I went for my hsg. They're was a girl (clearly about to drop) walking up and down the corridor with her OH in her dressing gown. And I thought- how ironic!
@Vil10 yes I know what you mean. I wonder too? How much is normal period pain and how heavy is heavy? So you don't know if its like of ok or not? I'm sure my pain is slowly getting worse every month. And I have day 1 and 2 heavy, day 3 is OK and then day 4 is non-existent in comparison. I had cramps day 1 and 2 this month. Day 1 is the worst always though for me.
@Franklydear i always get DH to rub mine! It gets really tight sometimes. He bought me a massage gun for Christmas. Which is good for your bum (mine is fat) but savage elsewhere. So he still has to use his hands. 🤣

Foof scan complete. Next one Tuesday. We have to dtd Monday night (in case you end up missing it). I'm to inject myself every day between now and Monday. I did today's there- after she explained. It stings now mind? Then I asked if it would bring O forward, as next scan is day 9 and I sometimes ovulate day 11 as it is. She said it might not, and it might not even have much impact at all. Everyone is different, but that's why they tell you to dtd before, in case. It then transpired she thought today was day 5 (it's 4 technically as AF started 2am Monday?), so I'm wondering if we are injecting too early anyway? Who knows! 🤣 But it was too late by then. We shall see!

@Kirky658 ooh lovely! My calculations are shite lol!
@Vil10 similar to me, it could well be. Once you start bk ttc and if you have to go for investigations, tell them about this and say endo to them. Tell them you know only a lap can detect it and ideally a gynae with a specialist interest in it.
@Katiekattty snap! We're SE too and moving to bucks but more oxon borders.
@DKDK123 ah sounds tough hun! Does she know about you and Dh?
@paintfairy ahh glad it's all underway now! How you feeling?

Ooh exciting week then @paintfairy! Well done for injecting yourself, I'm not squeamish but I'm not sure how I'd get on with that! I bought DH one of those guns for Xmas but steal it frequently!

@paintfairy that's like ours maternity bit and infertility clinic next to each other it's like there was no thought involved at all while planning. We'll just make all the women who've suffered losses and heartbreak walk past all the other ladies who are glowing with lovely bumps 🤦‍♀️
How did you find injecting yourself? Exciting that all is moving forward tho 😊

@notyetamumbuttrying yea she knows, I'd finally opened up to her about about our journey and all our losses and how hard we were finding it then 2 months later she announced her happy accident in the family group chat which was a total slap in the face at the time. Have seen her in person too since but she's too wrapped up in her own happy bubble to even ask if we're OK. If you've not been through fertility problems you never really grasp how much it can hurt with every announcement or being around pregnant people so I can't really blame her for being too excited and in her own happy bubble.

@notyetamumbuttrying kind of in denial? 🤣
@larrythelizard I keep meaning to try it on the horses! 🤣
@DKDK123 really easy actually? Its like a pen thing. The needle is tiny. And then you just press the button on the end. I'm not fussed on such things but I did wonder if I'd be ok doing it myself, was fine though.
And yeah bonkers! I think all that stuff is on the same floor. Oddly the SA/insemination bit is in the opposite end. But all the other stuff is in this end. If I go in the side entrance and up the lift, I don't pass maternity as its just the other direction as you get out (you can see it, but mostly you wouldn't look). But if you come through the main door you physically have to pass it! I suppose its all for convenience. Not feelings. 🤣
Being in your happy bubble is allowed. But having absolutely zero thought for others, is maybe not?

Morning ladies.. had a super lie in today was woken by OH coming for cuddles as he ain't in work until later today.. to then get prompted for 🍆 (bearing in mind af is still in full swing) .. he didn't care he just wanted sex lol so for first time ever I had to do the mad dash afterwards and the bed was saved .. winner!!!

@dkdk123 thanks for the message ... already got some "zone points" on my fitbit before even getting out of bed 🤣🤣🤣

Af day 14 now I think? Not long now till appointment.. roll on 28th may

@dollybird89 my Dh doesnt care about af and still wants to DTD. I'm Like please, it's the only few days of peace I get 🤣🤣

So I was saying I stopped tracing all. But I still have RHR on watch, just checked and it's still very low. Lowest it's been in ages, it drops when I've af, rises and spikes the wk of fw. No, its flatlining and doesnt want to budge. It dropped and hasnt had any rise really. Strange. I normally get twinges too so be good too see what's going on. Marked where af started on pic

Ah shite, just typed out a message and it disappeared!! This bus is speeding by! I've been keeping myself busy with work and gardening. Mood is still low, totally fed up. Haven't dtd at all yet even though FW has started. We're just exhausted. Iui next month so kinda looking forward to that coz it's out of our hands then. It's draining. I know a few of us are in the same boat so big hugs to everyone feeling the same.

@paintfairy, very exciting ye have started iui! I have everything crossed for you this month.

@dkdk123, hugs to you. It's not easy to see someone else having an accident when you're trying so hard to get pregnant.

Ok back to read through all the messages...I hope everyone else is doing ok!

Sorry @DKDK123 it's so shit when others esp family have no consideration for you. BIL and his partner are pregnant. She's due in July so they were pregnant before us, announcement wasn't too bad as we'd not long started trying. We then told them after our 7 week private scan (same time they'd told us). Then when we mc'd, I think DP text his brother or maybe his mum told them I can't remember but I didn't even get a message from either of them and have since seen them and they haven't bothered to even ask how I am. That really gets to me and I think fuck you, why should I be happy for you now when you have breezed along two pregnancies, someone who has carried and is carrying a baby should surely be able to think of how they'd feel if god forbid they'd lost theirs and at least be able to offer a little sympathy. So I certainly won't be putting their feelings before my own after that and if I don't want to see them heavily pregnant and don't want to go see baby I won't be forcing myself and causing myself upset for them.

@justwant2beamum oh that's awful. I agree. That must not have been easy for you.
@2alreadywantanother you rhr is strange. Mine is boring and flat lining again. Same today, although its not showing as I did the screenshot yesterday. The red dots are AF day 1 and the yellow is when I think I ovulated.

@larrythelizard 🥳🥳🥳🥳that's ace on the lottery. Yeah we'll Work it out

@Franklydear when is the school back? Next week? Back pain is this a good thing? Possibly!

@EllieAdam every other day is good anyway so either way you are covered 🤞🏻🙌🏻

@bez91 I'm "average" at 5'5" and a good foot shorter than him so I'm ok but I do see the issue and with north facing for half the house then it does make it more pronounced, but it needs all new decorating and stuff which would make it much brighter anyway

@DKDK123 that is frustrating for you on the scan and the SA, and being in the same place too, hope the SA goes well for you guys 🤞🏻

@paintfairy yes they usually sting, if you put an ice cube over the area for a bit first it should numb it so it doesn't sting and it shouldn't really matter on the 2am thing. I always find it horribly ironic how the ivf & women's and children's bits are usually together, our ivf is within the w&c & you walk past the ultrasound bit so often see new expectant couples sat waiting outside fir their scans all excited & I've walked past in floods of tears twice having had bad news from the ivf unit next door. Also often seen heavily pregnant ladies & barely out of teens smoking outside. F ing sucks.

@Dollybird89 I'm glad you got the 🍆 & avoided a red lake spermo but not good on AF day 14! What's the workout today? Yoga /Pilates or more emkfit?

@2alreadywantanother do you still have a pulse?!!! You have checked right??

@MartyMcShy I'm sorry you still feel down, have you at least got sunshine to be outside in? And the IUI is def a good thing, take some time for yourself, bit of self care it's really important 😘sending lots of squeezes your way xx

Also forgot to put my hello fresh from last night...

We are on vegetarian box this week so this was veggie mince with potato wedges & sour cream dip. Lovely

Just about @minster2012 lol very strange, looking back it's never gone low and stayed low for so long. It starts rising when in fw. I give up trying to understand things like this anymore. Hence stopping bbt and opks. Feck it, no matter what I monitor that's not working so just gona give with the flo.

Yeah regarding others pregnant etc, well our friends, they were ttc months b4 us and got bfp after our mmc. Anyway he works with DH and they mentioned calling for drinks fri night, obviously she wont be and I said no. I havent heard from them in ages and of all wkends, my due date (sat) the last thing I want is looking at her and talling about her pregnancy. I probably sound bitchy but c'mon, dont get me wrong, in delighted for them but it's just the wkend that's in it

@minster2012 think it will be another emkfit workout
Af is a bitch but hopefully I'll get answers soon

@2alreadywantanother I don't think it's bitchy you need to look after yourself and especially people who don't show sensitivity to you, I say fuck them and I'm no longer going to worry about peoples feelings who don't worry about mine!!