@MeganChar1 I really feel for you as that how I felt after having my first loss. I know that only a small percentage of people go on to have multiple losses but unfortunately I was one of them and if I’m honest I do feel like i wasted some of my more fertile years without answers.
I have auto immune issues (mild lupus) and an under active thyroid. Do you see a specialist for the autoimmune conditions as they may be able to advise?
If you can afford to I would pursue the tests privately as it could save you a lot of heartache. I don’t want to panic you about having more losses, I’m just speaking from my own experience.
Why were they reluctant to offer the tests privately?
Where are you based? I know Mr Shehata’s clinic in Surrey does the necessary testing and I’m not aware that they will only offer it after multiple losses. There’s also Amanda Tozer in London who seems very good and there’s another clinic that I believe is in Manchester but offers telephone appointments. I can dig out their details.
I’m sure between us we can find you somewhere.
My nhs gynae has a private clinic where I’m going to have the NK cells biopsy done so I think more people are doing it. They may try and say there’s no need until you’ve had multiple losses but with your other conditions they should understand why you want it done.
Some nhs trusts have changed their requirements to 2 losses for older women so I think they’re slowly realising that the 3 loss rule shouldn’t apply to everyone.
Sorry that’s a bit of a ramble but I hope it helps! If I could go back 5 years I would have all the tests available!