Bus 35- where womb spring cleaning is not allowed & TTC recycling is aired on the street

[Minster2012]

No mean girls reports to MN last time ladies 😆🙌🏻I don’t know whether that’s a result or not, but seeing as it was the Spring Zen bus I think that was good 🦋🌸🌷🌻

So it’s back to the usual routine & realising men know NOTHING about ovulation, but then again, do our bodies?? Except for the science teachers that is 😉

We are still working on our spring challenges alongside trying to get pregnant and we’ve had great results so far.

Our bus is helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

Have a look at the small changes beside the names and see if you want to try them yourself or add in your own!

Last month we had some fab BFPs including an OG 🥰♥️🙌🏻💪🏻so bring on March for more of the same please as well as investigations IVF fun for some others...
Spring is coming, and so are we 😘🦄🍀🌸🌷🌻🌼

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

Let’s go go go for March!

Regarding pregnacare etc I know a few that are/were attending fertility clinics and every one if their consultants recommended proceive. I'm on them, expensive but boots generally do deals here and there. I got him and her pregnacare and the difference between what was in them so I switched back. I'm 40 and 6mths after a mmc so my reasoning for taking the more expensive 1s are that alone

@paintfairy the inspire has slightly fewer features but might be better value for money? The charge 3 can track altitudes (so e.g. how many flights of stairs you've done) and I think they'll soon unlock oxygen saturation tracking as well, and the inspire can't do these. I'm a charge kind of girl but that's probably because I'm a creature of habit and it's what I started out with originally lol.

OH's SA all handed in!

@paintfairy my ttc buddy is like that. Pregnacare makes her so sick

Ahh ladies, im not sure how I feel today, it should of been my due date today, I generally feel abit sad and teary and had a little cry this morning, even writing this is bringing tears to my eyes again, me and dd dug out her box of everything from birth, so found her yellow knitted blanket and tiny tiny clothes and photo book with umbilical cord and hospital bands in, felt quite comforting to smell it all again, but it's been like 2 years since I opened it so have decided to wash it all so it's fresh. I can't really talk to oh about what today is because he said before it's silly to think of 'what should be'... I guess I just feel down today, (even broke my record and broke out a diet coke :(
And I'm so sorry if this offends anyone but the emotion I'm grappling with is ... is it right for me to feel sad today? I was only 4 weeks pregnant when I had my mc. And my cousin has just lost her baby at 11wk 2days and had to have a D&C on Tuesday so I feel like because her baby had a heartbeat she's 'entitled' to feel sad, but I'm not.... its so stupid and I know any loss is a loss no matter at what stage but I can't help feel wrong for being sad and thinking about what should of been :(

On another note after 4 days of blank circles cb digi decided to throw a curveball flashy at me this morning... and I feel 'moister than an oyster' down there but not soaking... so we'll have to dtd today with the pre seed just incase. Which is making today a whole curveball!

@2alreadywantanother it's 0.1 degree per hour btw so 0.05 per half hour and obv you can tweak it for 20 min vs 40 min. Do use a temp adjuster if you're worried you're miscalculating!

@Hopeful110 of course you are entitled to feel sad! Grief isn't a competition. Your loss is yours to grieve and today is going to bring it all to the surface. I'm sure it's not just the loss either but also all the ttc emotions and broddiness and nostalgia for your little ones early days. Just roll with it, cry, hug, vent, whatever you need ❤

@Katao thankyou darling! ❤ yeah I think your right, the toll of ttc and feeling helpless isn't helping either, oh is at work so think I might run myself a nice hot bath and have a cry whilst dd is watching moana ❤ thankyou xxx

@Hopeful110 of course you have every right to be sad. No one has a monopoly on grief. Take today steady, be very kind to yourself and do what you need to do.

@Dipsy77 gorgeous twins 🥰. What is the fertility cup...?!

Annoyingly the replacement sticks I bought for the CB OPK don't fit in the one I had so more arriving from Amazon today. Suspect it'll mess up tracking this month but I have a little pot of FMU hidden in the bathroom ready for it 😂😂

@paintfairy ya being antisocial already definitely helps the transition 😂 to be fair after what you just said about OH saying he is sick of everyday being the same , I can see where he is coming from. OH and I have been talking about this, the pandemic and lockdowns have been hard and now there is light at the end of the tunnel....are we mad to have another baby and restrict ourselves again, should we just enjoy our freedom when we get it? I would love to have had a lockdown pregnancy but that ship has sailed (I'm a wreck in pregnancy so life pretty much comes to a standstill anyway) he shouldn't be snapping at you though and ya I think @Vil10 is right, if he doesn't want to talk about it then it's not fair to say you can't talk to others either.

@Asthenia yeah! I have pcos and my hubby was found to have 0% morphology, so our fertility doc gave him some supplements and said if they don't work then ivf is the plan. I don't know if they worked or what but either way I'm so thankful.
I'm rubbish about vitamins etc, I've just been taking the Seven Seas pre conception after a few ladies on here got a bfp with them. Highly recommend.

@Juno231 ahh let us know how he gets on!

@Hopeful110 you're feelings are always valid lovely, don't feel silly for being sad! Perfectly understandable, it's a hard pill to swallow and you're allowed to feel down. Big hugs x

@larrythelizard love that you have a piss pot waiting 😂

@larrythelizard @Justanothercyster the glamorous life of ttc 😂 hidden pots of piss!😂

@paintfairy ooh upset stomach doesn’t sound ideal! Funny the effect these things have on different people.

@2alreadywantanother I hadn’t heard of Proceive, going to look into them today - I don’t mind paying a bit more if they’re worth it!

@Juno231 good luck with the SA results :)

@Justanothercyster ahh that must have been the most wonderful feeling for it to have happened now then! Such good news. I’ve heard of Seven Seas. Sounds like I need to get my research hat on today!

@Hopeful110 so sorry you’re feeling like this today, it’s totally understandable. I’ve never had a loss but the way I see it with pregnancy loss you’re grieving for everything you thought you would have (if that makes sense) rather than what you had at that time. Maybe both, but more grieving for the future you thought was coming? Which makes it really hard at any stage. Like others have said no one has the monopoly on grief. Today must be really hard for you x

@hopeful110 oh lovely I'm so sorry. I would day you are completely entitled to be feeling sad, grief is grief. As you are still ttc as well it must be a constant niggle in the back of your mind and today just bought it forward. Please do try and take some time to sit and feel sad, but then try and do something nice for you as well. Sending so much love and hugs xx

@larrythelizard 🤣 I used to hide the piss pots too! Save them for later. Good job there's only 2 of us in this house!
@Hopeful110 I'm sorry you feel like you do. But I do think it's natural. And whilst your cousin has a traumatic time (I can't imagine what that must be like) and it's more to deal with at the actual time, it doesn't make the end result (a loss) any different. So after time passes and you've dealt with the immediate stress, what's left is kind of the same? If that makes sense? And everyone definitely will be affected differently and deal with things differently. I really hate comparisons. When shit happens and someone is like- it could be worse. Well yeah it could. But how much worse does it have to be before you are allowed to feel something? Absolute bullshit. Its drilled into you that much that even when my dad died I felt guilty for needing time and not dealing with things. Because it could be worse. Where does it stop? So don't feel the need to justify yourself to anyone. You feel how you do and that's that. Do you what you need to do to comfort yourself xxx
@Katao I think the lockdown has been hard. We both wfh. But I have to laugh because he never did anything before! I think its more the mental issue of knowing you can't though. It is pretty crap.
@Juno231 🥳 for the SA.

I am getting nowhere with the schools, email to get in the waiting list or call the local authority, yeah thanks for that, a couple of promises of the senco will call you in the next century.... nobody is giving me any info over the phone, so just having a good old cry in frustration

Thankyou ladies! Your all a massive support and I'm so grateful I have you all to talk to! And im gonna follow the advice and eat chocolate if I want it and drink what I wanna drink for today! I've painted my toe nails and gonna do my finger nails and have a nice bath and a cry and hopefully feel better by tomorrow 🥰 thankyou again xxxx

@Hopeful110 sorry you're feeling so crappy today. Your feelings are completely valid and no grief is comparable. I've had a loss at 6 weeks and a MMC seemingly identical to your cousin too at 11 weeks needing surgery, I feel the same way about both of the losses, perhaps more so at the last one but not because I was any further on but more so because it happened again but you do, you grieve for what would have been. Those what would have been significant dates like scans, due dates etc pass by and you picture how your life would have been had things been different. Run that bath and be kind to yourself today 💕

It looks like the shit school doesn't teach Spanish, my chosen one dies, so heritage might be useful, I had scones for lunch, but got some veg roasting too, MN was down this morning, sod, I am rambling to myself mainly, I am so stressed I don't even care about af

Yay MN back up but for how long this time ..😒

Ahhhh Mumsnet is backkkkkkk

@Hopeful110 totally reiterate what others say. You feel how you feel and you are entitled to it, go with it, then get a bit of dick if you can 😚

@larrythelizard I've often wondered when I leave the PIAP around how long it lasts for....Answers on a postcard please, though it seems many of us leave piss pots lying around and I have to leave mine on a high shelf away from toddler 😜

@Juno231 another step done! Boom 😁

@Franklydear hate it when you get nowhere. Join me in the Friday frustrations. Damn it no Spanish either? You'll have to talk Spanish to him constantly??

I just got a "memory" come up on my Facebook feed where it showed a pic of my ivf meds for egg collection 3 years ago with a caption about "I take my hat off to those ladies who do this multiple times" well yeah now 3 years later and those 3 embryos down that's me now. 😔😣ballbag.

@paintfairy earlier did you mean you were disappointed in the lack of progesterone symptoms or dpo symptoms?

@Franklydear oh god that's awful! Our SENCO dept are awesome, they would be shocked! I hope you get some support soon x

@Justanothercyster @Minster2012 no Spanish is good, gives me grounds for appeal, he can't possibly go there and is s reason to ask for the good school as they have a whole department for modern and classic languages, they're senco is fab too, we've been talking to her since year 5
@justanithercyster when I went to visit the school precovid in an open evening, the senco wasn't even there, the rest of the pastoral team only had we make provision as an answer, unable to give me a single example of what they do everyday, but it ticks the box
@Minster2012 I give him lessons at home, with a board game, he really needs to learn to speak it properly

@sausage1990 ds has eaten an strawberry mousse, his first ever yogurt!

@Minster2012 well- anything. 🤣 She warned me not to symptom spot because of the progesterone. And I'd get sore boobs etc. Nothing so far!

Hi girls just marking my seat as I lost you guys for a bit.. I think MN went down.

Thank you for the birthday love! I'll be back for a chat once I've caught up xx