Bus 35- where womb spring cleaning is not allowed & TTC recycling is aired on the street

[Minster2012]

No mean girls reports to MN last time ladies 😆🙌🏻I don’t know whether that’s a result or not, but seeing as it was the Spring Zen bus I think that was good 🦋🌸🌷🌻

So it’s back to the usual routine & realising men know NOTHING about ovulation, but then again, do our bodies?? Except for the science teachers that is 😉

We are still working on our spring challenges alongside trying to get pregnant and we’ve had great results so far.

Our bus is helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

Have a look at the small changes beside the names and see if you want to try them yourself or add in your own!

Last month we had some fab BFPs including an OG 🥰♥️🙌🏻💪🏻so bring on March for more of the same please as well as investigations IVF fun for some others...
Spring is coming, and so are we 😘🦄🍀🌸🌷🌻🌼

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

Let’s go go go for March!

@Dipsy77 oh my goodness they are precious! I'm so happy for but lol hadn't realised you'd end up with 3 under 2! What a super woman. Thank you for updating us, I love hearing from the original bus

Oh @Dipsy77 your little girls are just divine! Congratulations and hope you are recovering well x

@Hopeful110 same 😃 tbh I don't get upset about real life announcements either. Like you say , gives me hope! (Not judging anyone who does get upset, we are all entitled to our feelings and obviously sometimes the timing is just rotten!)

@Gem176 I meant the baby ones haha

@Justanothercyster oh bless you 😂

@Dipsy77 aww massive congratulations they are gorgeous!!

Thanks for the welcome everyone!
@Dipsy77 your twins are gorgeous! Congratulations, that’s so lovely to see.

@larrythelizard yes I heard that acupuncture can really help, fingers crossed it does the trick. I haven’t spoken to my GP yet, just waiting out this cycle and then will contact them to ask if there’s anything that can be done. Will be interesting to hear about your progesterone test!

@Juno231 yes I'm data driven too. I used to use my fitness pal and got obsessed. 🤣 I'll look out for one! @MartyMcShy I didn't even know they did cycles!
@Ltay2 eek really not long now! Glad everything is OK.
@Minster2012 woop. Finally managed the toilet. 🤣
@Dipsy77 omg - how cute! ❤
@Juno231 butthole 🤣 don't tempt me! Honestly. He's barely spoke today and I've just carried on and ignored it. I think there are a few things bothering him unrelated to me. But I also think he's having a wobble about ttc. Now- bearing in mind it could have happened at any point so far, and he's known what was going on, he seems to have an issue in that fertility treatment might result in a child? 🤔 He's said a few passing comments now. But in one breath he thinks we should wait, and in the next he's too old and won't have the energy? He also keeps saying things like- we won't be doing that if we have a baby. And also told me the other day I'll have to give up my horses. I said I won't (who knows, but that's not the plan and I hope to manage at least 1 somehow) and then he said he'll have to give up his hobby. I said why? (Its really one that isn't as demanding as mine and I see no reason for him saying this) and he said because we won't be able to do anything any more. 🙄 Now - i know things have to give. Because of time and money. But I'm hoping my whole life won't cease to exist? Maybe someone with a child can advise here? But I've got friends with kids and horses ffs?
There's no point arguing with him. I think it's one of those things where it'll just be what it is. He whittled over getting married and moving house in the same way. So it's nothing new. I tend to ignore him and do what I want. 🤣 But it's hard work because I don't really have support. I suppose I'm lucky I mostly am independent. But jeez!

@sausage1990 hope you had a good birthday (again 🤣)

Hey everyone, still plodding along, but I've bought the CB Fertility Monitor so I hope it works. My SIL is due her 2nd any day which will be tough, so glad work/uni is keeping me busy.
@Dipsy77 congratulations 💕

@paintfairy I heard a bit of advice about having a baby that stick with me. It might be useful for you too. When baby arrives it slots into your life not the other way around. Yes some things will change but you don't have to drastically give everything up to accommodate having a baby. I really think he's just having a wobble (I still am at 29 weeks and 4th child lol) I think its more the unknown. Baby will fit in more easily than you could imagine just like you and oh fitted into each others lives (if any of this makes sense lol I can't write it the way I can see it in my head lol) xx

@Catherinettc no, you make sense. That's how I see it too. And my gut feeling is- he'll be fine once it happens. He didn't want a dog either- yet he walks him as much as I do. I know some people change their life to revolve around children but my parents didn't. There was a balance there. And that's how I see it?

@paintfairy we had to give up clubbing, a whole 5 years before he was born 😂 really, the first few years we didn't have much energy, but we have an autistic that doesn't sleep, but now is so normal, we need another to disrupt everything

Omg @paintfairy I can't believe he's being funny again about it! With regards to the horses I had my DS and rode till I was over 6 months pregnant (was a really trustworthy mare), I was two week overdue with DS and still mucked the horses out the day I went in to be induced. I was back doing my horses pretty soon after and DS had such a structured pattern and slept so much it was easy doing the horses with him in his pram. I had 2-3 horses plus goats and lots of dogs to look after with DS. I didn't have family close by to help and my ex was at work all day himself and I managed it. There's lots of options on the horse front. You could maybe part loan them and swap the riding for chores to help give you a break a few days if that's a possibility? I have lots of friends too who've had babies alongside their horses.

@paintfairy I get where your coming from, my oh didn't want anymore kids either...(he has a 12yr old from a previous relationship) so when we got together I kinda knew kids weren't on his agenda, when I got pregnant with our dd I was terrified of telling him, convinced he'd leave me...but he never, don't get me wrong he wasn't much support throughout the pregnancy but the day she was born he was amazing! He went out and brought a swinging crib because he felt bad that I had brought everything myself. He was besotted with her and he still gets to do his massive hobby of motocross, and even last year with our mc he wasn't keen on having another but it was fear... he didn't know financially how we would manage and would I go back to work? Or would be solely rely on his income for a few years... so its likely just nerves lovely, we get excited about ttc but men don't tend to get the excitement until either we are pregnant or the day the baby is born...so try not to panic...carry on as you are unless he says otherwise ❤ xx

@Franklydear 🤣 I think we are about past the clubbing days (he was before I even met him!).
@Crazydoglady123 I think with the horses, the time of year is going to be a massive factor! A winter baby will likely be a disaster but I don't really have the luxury of trying to time it. 🤣 My horses live out so drier weather is much easier. Winter is not so fun, pushing wheelbarrows through mud. On the plus side I'm not tied to times or anything. The downside is- I've no help because I'm on my own. My mum/stepdad do them if I'm away etc. So I do have some help. Only one is rideable and he's fine if you don't, so I'm not worried there. You can hop back on after months and he's no different to if he was ridden yesterday (always been like that from backing). Money might be a struggle though.
@Hopeful110 that sounds a bit like my parents! My dad had kids already and didn't want more. My mum accepted that (previously was with someone who couldn't, so kind of resigned to it). She however got pregnant with me on the pill! He was distant throughout the pregnancy and not happy about it. But she said from the minute I was born he doted on me, and it was like a switch flicked. Funny isn't it?

Af is here, end of news

@paintfairy my DS is a December baby. I think getting lots of fresh air and being in a routine with the horses helped my DS have such a good routine. I had my own yard so pulled my car up outside the stables and left him to sleep if I wasn't going to be too long. If you have help off your family then you'll deffo be able to do it. My mare is the same, can leave her 6 days of 6 months and she was always the same. Sounds like your OH is just having some wobbles atm

Marking my place.
Thanks @Minster2012 for new bus hope your doing ok. And not letting things get to you too much.

@Dipsy77 omg how absolutely gorgeous are those 2 wee girls. Massive congratulations x

@Franklydear I'm so sorry big hugs, hope your ok xxx

Hellllo a veryyyyyy long day

@Franklydear good luck with the calls and stupid boss boy honestly kick the chair from underneath him, be bliss when he's on holiday right?!

@Asthenia hello! Welcome to unlurking! Let's hope the acupuncture does some good for you, have you started or starting soon sorry? My brain is fried! Do you have a small change you'd like to add that we can gee you on with?!

@Hopeful110 I also agree with you I think it's lovely seeing the updates and OMG @Dipsy77 HOW gorgeous are they?!!🥰😘🥳I think it gives us hope too! And @MartyMcShy get that cup out for the win 🤞🏻🙌🏻3 under 2 though, wowsers!

@Crazydoglady123 😂🤣

@2020mission damn your OH is good! Not the phillipine tube then 🤣😂yesss to the caffeine cull then well done girl! Never had a birthday on your own, I'm not sure whether to be jealous or sad for you??

Did I not put @Tornado2Inc on the list where are you???

@Franklydear ☹️☹️☹️

@Minster2012 he was too far, but I did say that's why men life spectancy is shorter, the newbies thought it funny, and he couldn't come up with a response, 3 weeks min bliss, bloody idiot kept cancelling his holiday so he has to take it now before the end of year
Another 24 day cycle.... this isn't gonna happen

Sorry @paintfairy I'm still catching up. Basically the way I see it the fertility treatment MAKES him thinks it COULD actually be a reality more than just "trying". And he's actually facing it. So it's kinda a good thing. Ignore him about the horses/dog etc. You easily cope. My SIL has 3 horses, 2 kids & 3 dogs. Ok she married a farrier (should have married a vet) but he actually had no horses 😂. She rode until she was 30 weeks (against advice btw) you shouldn't but don't say that to DH.

We live in a house that we designed inside thinking we couldn't have children. It's not that "child friendly" in a traditional sense, think deep slippy bath, stone floors, split level and one of our 'friends' who is wayyyyy too paranoid wouldn't sleep here with her children for a while as our stairs are not carpeted and we have said split level 😂🤣(she's relaxed a bit now & her eldest child at the age of 4 has mastered stone steps, the youngest at 1 did it same as ours did at 9 months). They adapt. But he's having a major "shit it might actually happen am I ready, can we cope?" moment.

My advice is you just keep the ball rolling, keep talking to us and he'll be fine. 🥰😘

@Asthenia welcome 👋

@paintfairy it sound like he's just having a wobble I wouldn't read the world into it, aren't men just funny creatures full stop! In terms of hobbies when having a baby, I did give up a few but DD was super highly needy 🤦🏼‍♀️ and I did suffer with PND so it would have been completely possible to carry on had I been in the right headspace. Like @Catherinettc said they should just fit into your lifestyle and if you have that approach that will happen @Minster2012 hit the nail on the head with "he's having a major "shit it might actually happen am I ready, can we cope?" moment. "

@Franklydear sorry AF arrived ☹️ CD1 for me too 👭

@Minster2012 @bez91 yes you are probably both right. It's weird how it seems more real by 'interfering' than just dtd and it happening. I know someone with her own stable yard. Her kids have been going up since birth. They used to terrify me when they were little - climbing fences, getting stuck, standing on stuff - even she joked they were feral. But they are still alive and now both school age! I suppose its like kids that grow up on farms etc, they know no different. So neither will kids in your inappropriate house! They just carry on.

@Franklydear 😂🤣for the boss boy /newbies life expectancy and shhhhhh on the last bit i'm ignoring you

@Minster2012 sounds boring but this month I’m trying not to stress too much. The last couple of months I’ve been obsessive and can feel it really taking its toll. Trying to be a bit more hands off this month and tell myself that it’s not the end of the world if it’s not a BFP.
I’m also considering trying Pregnacare vitamins - I currently take folic acid, vitamin d, vitamin c and omega 3. Might be easier to just take Pregnacare?

Sorry to everyone who started AF. It’s the worst feeling, especially when your hopes have been up. I always let myself feel like shit on CD1 and usually by CD2 my mood has picked up a little and I’m ready for another cycle.

@Franklydear sorry to hear about af.

@bez91 sorry to hear your cd1 as well.

@Minster2012 your house may not be child friendly but the fact you designed it yourselves to be honest it sounds lush to me! We don’t currently have a bath just a shower and I love baths but need to wait until we knock a wall down. Such is life.