Supporting ‘small changes’ into spring whilst TTC...🌱🌼🌸🍀- Fun Bus 34

[Minster2012]

Last time we actually got reported straight away, for being too fun for MN...was it a week ago?? Maybe 😋😝but they can’t hold us back as the Harry Potter speed bus flies...

We’ve worked out a fleshlight for horses on a MN bus is NOT WELCOME, but how do I know what you have in your suitcase? I’m just the driver, a passenger’s belongings is their own responsibility, and my bags have LOADS of OPKs, loads of pills, fruit, veg, wine, gin & trainers for my workouts.

We aren’t just challenging ourselves to get pregnant & trying to help each other do so, we are also trying to help each other get fitter and sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...

Have a look at the small changes beside the names and see if you want to try them yourself or add in your own!

We are in this together 🥰♥️🙌🏻💪🏻
Spring is coming, and so are we 😘🦄🍀🌸🌷🌻🌼

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan

4 BFPs for February so far, still time left ladies

@DKDK123 @Juno231 I'm having Chinese too! Well we had it last night but it lasts us two nights haha.

@notyetamumbuttrying definitely too skinny, she had a gorgeous figure before. I hate what that twat did to her. She seems to be doing alright for herself now though which makes me happy

@Juno231 Awkward. I've a friend who once went for a smear and they said she was too wet. 🤣
Ended up with more 🍆 this afternoon. Not good for the swimmers! This is our problem! 🙈
@Skip86 well its not normal if at the same time he's asking for a divorce, is it? Yeah that's great. How can he think everything he's doing is OK? I do wonder if people mirror their parents tbh. But he's really fast with it!

@paintfairy so jealous of your virility! I got some 🍆 today initiated by OH but purely because it's FW 😅

@notyetamumbuttrying I miss Victoria Park 😭 lived right next to it until I moved here end of Oct!

@TTCAbroad wow! Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉 so casually posted there too 😂

@Vil10 Yes to the travelling, the Philippines will be amazing and I bet you already feel better with the weight/pressure of TTC off of your shoulders. Me & OH did a 15month round the world trip before coming home and settling down and we still talk about it now.

@Minster2012 get you with your rising AMH, how amazing is that. Some times our bodies are fuck boys and sometimes they're fucking amazing 🥰🥰 such great news that a new IVF cycle is on the cards sooner than you first were told too!!!

@Skip86 what the actual fuck. So sorry for you and your boys, he sounds like a deluded fucking bellend (who is possibly going through a midlife crisis with the whole music thing 🤦🏻‍♀️) and thank goodness you found out sooner rather than later. I'm not on tiktok so haven't checked out the videos but they sound mega cringe. Sounds like you have great support around you but just know you have a bus load more here if you need it. Sending love ❤️
Just seen your update...driver can you take short diversion and we'll pile in on @Skip86 to love bomb her.

@Haiyaa yesss for a bargain, sorry about the BFN though-if there's one thing guaranteed to bring on AF when she's dicking about is a test that you dare to be a bit hopeful for.

Hope everyone else is well, I just love the camaraderie on this bus-feel so lucky to have been a part of it for so long (I appreciate that I am mega lucky to be saying that as if I was still TTC I'd also be sad to still be on here so hope that doesn't sound insensitive).
All going well (I think 🤞🏻) here, will be 19weeks on Tuesday so just waiting patiently for my 20wk scan to give me a few hours peace from worrying before it'll no doubt kick in again 😂
Am 2 episodes behind on MAFSA so plan on a fat takeaway and a catch up tonight x

@Skip86 OMG! Lost for words and totally feel for you! Men are dicks. My ex husband was very controlling and emotionally abused me and just one day I got numb to it and knew that enough was enough. I'd never lived by myself and he'd always controlled my money and it scared the hell out of me starting out in life with nothing and a young child but I did it and my god am I a stronger person for it. Whatever the outcome with what you decide to do, you'll get through it. You have all these ladies here to rant to as much and whenever you need. Sending you virtual hugs ♥️

@Justanothercyster with your charts, do you ovulate or are they anovulatory cycles? Have you tried L-Carnitine? I've got some arriving tomorrow as read some good stuff on it recently

@Crazydoglady123 well I've only had one cycle so far since temping that has shown as anovulatory, all the rest have had a clear shift in temp and the doctor said as I do get periods the likelihood is eggs are being released, so that's good. The last 3 cycles have been nearly normal too which is amazing, I'm just hoping it continues 🤞🏼 I'll find out next month if I need to go on clomid or not though anyhow c

@Justanothercyster that's interesting. I've always had a monthly cycle but told I'm not ovulating. It's never consistent day wise but always between 27-34 days (although was 35 days on Clomid cycle). I really wish I'd seen the internal temping devices before as I feel like they'd have explained a lot for me.

What are these Fitbit challenges @DKDK123? Also nice job on the nails I don't think I'd be able to paint dots easily especially not when painting with the left hand 😆

@Skip86 I couldn't watch the videos as I don't have the tiktok app but it all sounds so bizarre 🤯

Thanks for keeping me optimistic about the BFN this morning ladies... unfortunately the spotting is here so definitely out for cycle 14. Hopefully someone else can sneak in a last minute February BFP this weekend... anyone else testing? @DKDK123 my temperature doesn't obviously drop until the day of AF so there's no sign for me other than negative tests and/or spotting.

I've also had a takeaway tonight 😅 we all need a treat now and again!

Oh no cryrells gone skinny @notyetamumbuttrying?

@Clairey844 we are def taking a detour to give @Skip86 full support don't worry we are going on a world tour as soon as the government say we can. 🤣🚁✈️

@2020mission 😥😩sorry darling. Hope that wine is good

Here's our gorgeous picky tea

I'm drinking a wee bit of Prosecco now
Covered today already so 🙌🏻I might be a bit absent as enjoying the evening
Love to you all ladies

@Minster2012 it's defo not a spoiler. Promise 😇
@Justanothercyster yeah hope so. She scares me with the weight loss tho, defo gone too far!
@Juno231 aw it was beautiful in the sun! It was just nice to get to a different park for once. Bored of seeing Greenwich now 😂 yay to FW!!
@Minster2012 no, no not cyrell. Elizabeth is mega skinny now. Lush picky tea, enjoy!

@Kirky658 Happy Birthday for yesterday!! 🎊🥳 The nandos and nonsecco sounds lush! Also that view is gorgeous!! Wow 😍😍

@Tornado2Inc Happy Birthday!! 🎉🥳💃 Hope you've had a fantastic day!!

@TTCAbroad Eeeek congratulations!! How exciting!! 🙌🏻🥰🥳

@Skip86 omg I honestly can't believe that!! What an absolute utter arsehole!! You are worth a million of him! I cannot believe he is not even remorseful! Wow how low especially since you have children together and his dad did the same and yet he was so gutted! So sorry for you sweetie 😩💕 sending lots of love and cuddles

@Minster2012 so happy for you lovely you so deserve this you are so strong ✨😘😘

Hope everyone else is well! Don't mind me I've just been falling asleep so early every night!! And the scan lady was right all the pregnancy anxiety has kicked straight back in again!! Still had slight nausea but nothing to right home about really and today's worry is my boobs don't feel as sore but just got to take it day by day I guess! Urrrrgh wish I still had my pre loss naivety

Just a pack of 8 @Minster2012 that’s all they had but would have gone for more if I could! Picky tea is one of my faves! My chicken was lush (pic) but took a long time to fry as the pieces were so big, but can’t argue as the butcher very kindly did it for me.

Absolutely @Clairey844, I debated even testing and as soon as I saw the BFN I knew that bitch would show up 😂

Must be tough for you @HollieL567, I haven’t suffered a loss but even now with one child already here, I am more worried as I know what is at stake if that makes sense? How many weeks are you? It’s not uncommon for a lot of symptoms to disappear in the second trimester but don’t worry, plenty more fun and games to look forward to. I was much happier once I began to feel baby move regularly.

@Crazydoglady123 yeah it's interesting how our bodies operate. I don't really take the temping too serious if I can help it as I know it can be pointless for pcos anyway, but makes me feel like I'm doing something, you know?

@Minster2012 cyrell has had a baby! Lizzie has gone skinny.

@Haiyaa oh my good god!! That KFC style chicken look amaaaazing!! 🤤🤤 How did you do this?! Thankyou sweetie 🥰 going off my dates I'm 8+1 weeks but measured a little bit behind that on my scan. I guess I just over analyse everything now but it's just so hard not to when you just want everything to be okay 💕

@Justanothercyster yeah definitely! I'll be interested to see what my egg reserve is as they say PCOS people have higher reserve. I feel so confused whether it's PCO or PCOS or what the real differences are 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Haiyaa omg as a KFC lover that chicken looks INCREDIBLE! Do you have the recipe?

Seeing as this is a big group, I have a new topic I'd love to hear your opinions on and sorry a bit tmi but how long do you ladies not go to the loo etc after DTD?

@Haiyaa chicken looks amazing! I feel I need it in my life.
@HollieL567 I honestly think that's pretty normal. Young people who are clueless maybe not. But anyone clued up is going to know all the things that can go wrong and its likely natural to worry. Pretty sure I'd be horrendous to be honest!

@Crazydoglady123 apparently it makes no difference. 🤷‍♀️
But just in case- I don't rush off to go. Really depends on when it's happened. At 5am this morning I just fell back to sleep. This afternoon I needed to go out but I laid there 5-10 minutes before moving. At night if its bed time- I try to leave it more like 20 minutes but sometimes I'm fighting falling asleep and end up going before that. I've fallen asleep odd times too and woken a few hours later and gone. I am lucky I've never had UTIs or anything. But I know that's a risk if you don't go to the toilet after dtd.

@paintfairy my animal breeding experience makes me know that really if the cervix is ripe etc then the semen should go straight through to the uterus so going for a wee shouldn't matter. I feel like I've got really bad for running to the loo though after DTD so last couple of months been trying to hold it for longer periods after so just wondered what everyone else does

@Crazydoglady123 I always make sure I've had a wee first. Otherwise it puts me off. So I'm usually never desperate to go after.

@paintfairy really? See I always go first but feel desperate to go after... I'm training myself to hold out longer and longer

@Crazydoglady123 @paintfairy this is a topic I've asked about before & wonders about earlier as I felt I needed to go to the loo after DTD but was try to yoga slurping a la @Tornado2Inc (failing I must say) but I've had several UTIs so I'm always conscious to go to the loo after sex but now worry that, AND my poor efforts at avoiding lake spermo, mean all hood swimmers are lost??

I mean. I'm only worried about this now I think I might have eggs. Honestly FML

Thanks ladies, here is the recipe for those that want it (sorry, it’s not diet friendly 😂 but I only had one breast piece.... plus fries and coleslaw followed by chocolate covered strawberries.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣), really good flavour and super crunchy.

www.recipetineats.com/fried-chicken/

Going to try the yoga slurp too this month but might get side eye if DH walks in on me doing a shoulder stand 🤔 😜

I tend to pee before bed so don’t usually need the loo post 🍆 but will often go and clean up afterwards. Think I need to try to slurp and hold for 5-10 minutes before the cleanup though just to be sure.

Morning. Slept midnight-5am with sleeping tablet, thinking I might have to up the dose!

@Franklydear yes to you being my au pair 🙌🏼

@Minster2012 a bus load of amazing women bringing hugs and wine is def what I need right now x

@BlondePotter thank you love. Yeah I've come to realise counselling was a bit pointless while he was living a double life.

@Haiyaa @blackcurrantqueen

@Justanothercyster yep 100% narcissistic personality disorder. Like the proper mental illness version not just the 'oh that guys a bit of a narcissist' which seems to get thrown around a fair bit these days. Unfortunately there's no pill to help correct it, and with NPD people rarely if ever seek help because they cannot see the disorder in themselves, in fact they push away anyone who suggests they may have it. All deep ingrained childhood stuff being contributing factors.
@Juno231 illusions of grandeur yes. The doc described it as fantastical thinking and said it is not 'normal' behaviour.
@Kirky658 @notyetamumbuttrying thanks girls ❤️
@paintfairy the only way I can reconcile with myself that he seems to think it's all ok, is to remind myself he is a narcissist, and will never be truly happy and fulfilled, like I hopefully will be one day.
@Clairey844 yes I have so much amazing support! And it's made me realise - he has quite literally one friend. He hasn't even told his mum yet.
@Crazydoglady123 hey I'm sorry to hear about your experience, but so glad you're better for it now 💗 the embarrassing thing to admit is... if he walked in the door now and said he had been a. idiot and wanted me back, I would take him back in a heartbeat 😔 that makes me the idiot right?
@HollieL567 ❤️ thank you

Sorry to be so self absorbed. I hope everyone is doing well and having a nice weekend xx 😊

@Skip86 I'm so sorry 😞 I literally have no words...

You are in no way, shape or form an idiot but he is. Throwing everything away for the sake of a singing career even though he doesn't sing 🤷‍♀️ maybe it's some sort of breakdown? He must be mad to be giving up on such a stunner of a wife!

If u ever need a rant or virtual hug I'm only a message away ❤ remember when u hit rock bottom the only way is up again. Things will get better xxx