Yogurt pot yuppies, sexy basters and UFO discs - part 3

[eloiseislost]

Starting yet another thread on self insemination before our second one locks down!

Welcome to THE most supportive group you could wish for if you’re starting or you are already on a self insemination journey.
Remember, nothing is TMI and you are not alone. 💖

Calling the usual suspects, in no particular order (and sorry if I missed anyone 😊):
@ComebackQueen
@Makingnumber2
@Janefx40
@AdriannaP
@MrsKin90
@primrosechill
@bigsweetpotato
@Sydney1986x
@Bluey18
@Birchybirch
@Lori23TTC
@Cathie102
@Labrat3
@DinkBoo
@Oilyoilyoilgob

Let it rain BFPs!!! 🐣

Thanks @primrosechill & @Makingnumber2 ❤️❤️❤️

@rs2015 Sorry to hear about DH results. Depending on the circumstances, there are things you can do to improve sperm quality and quantity, I'm sure GP/consultant will be able to advice. Don't be too disheartened just yet, most of the time there is at least a glimmer of hope. 🙂

@eloiseislost thank you for the reassurance. We tried to ask husband's GP about what we can do to improve the quality but they couldn't be less interested! Just said do it again it 3 months. So I'm looking into a private consultation now x

Sending big hugs to everyone feeling a bit down today xxx. It's a tough old slog this TTC.

@primrosechill I really hope AF stays away, she showed up the day before my 30th last year, bleh. I would buy the nicest bottle of champagne you can. Sods law would say you get a bfp and can't drink it. And if AF does rear her ugly head at least you would have a lovely treat for yourself.

@eloiseislost Oh you poor thing, I hope you feel better soon. It could still be early pregnancy symptoms as they often mimic PMS symptoms (thank you mother nature for that cruel irony). Don't give up yet, it's still early xx.

@rs2015 gosh that's rubbish. Hopefully they told you specifically what wasn't "good" because I'm sure you can Google things people have tried to remedy certain issues. Don't they say ubiquinol is good for sperm quality, and magnesium? Some of them might be worth a go? GPs can be so awful. ❤️

@Bluey18 I like your idea of sods law resulting in a BFP. I'm gonna bulk order some TTC tablets in the hope I don't need to use them 😁 I think we all deserve a very expensive bottle of champagne for being such champions.

I had lots of cramps and felt very periody yesterday with a back ache that I always get with AF. As I could be 2dpo or up to 9dpo it's going to be a weird couple of weeks.🤔 Wish I could go to sleep for two weeks and just wake up to find out one way or another! Although then I might be waking up just in time for AF, so maybe I want to sleep for THREE weeks. 🛌😴😴

@Bluey18 when AF still wasn’t here late last evening, I started hoping maybe you were right about the sod’s law - but then the spotting started and this morning the witch is here so I’m out.

Trying to look on the positives (my lutheal phases are getting a bit longer AND my new acne products seem to be working so no nasty hormonal zits) but in reality I’m just really heartbroken today and scared that it’s just not meant to be for us. Covid permitting, we might try IUI again this cycle and if it doesn’t work we might start talking about IVF since it’s been a full year for us (we technically got pregnant once but it ended up in a really nasty and long MC so that doesn’t comfort me either). So yeah, a good ol cry in bed for me this morning - what a way to spend last days of my 20s... sorry to be a downer - we’ve had some good news on this thread this month so I suppose it needed to balance itself out ☯️

@primrosechill I’m so sorry she got you 😞 sending you lots of love. CD1 is the utter worst but you can start trying again in a week, try and stay positive. I hope you enjoy your 30th next week with some guilt free bubbles and I hope the next cycle is the one. Lots of chocolate and relaxing on the sofa for you today and a nice bubble bath ❤️ Great news about your skin I hate the hormonal spots on the chin! Xx

@primrosechill oh no so sorry AF arrived 😞😞😞. At least you can enjoy your birthday guilt free ❤️ And then start again for next cycle. I’m CD 3 here, so we can be cycle buddies xxx

@primrosechill IUI sounds like a good plan 🤞🏻 . Don’t be disheartened ❤️ (I know it’s much easier said than done). It WILL happen , it’s just taking a bit longer than hoped. There’s lots of things that can be done to give the body a little help if that’s what’s needed , and you are young so if you do go down the IVF route that’s a massive advantage xx

@primrosechill I'm sorry AF is here 🙁 that's not the birthday gift I hoped you'd be getting! I'm so sick of periods ruining everything. I really do believe it'll happen for you, but I know that probably doesn't help. I hope covid doesn't cause delays for iui if that's what you choose to do x

@primrosechill I'm so sorry AF showed. It's ok to be down and have a cry, it is completely shit and unfair. I'm so glad to hear you have positives from this cycle and that you have a plan going forward but it's totally understandable to not feel able to think of them when you are hurting. Sending you big hugs, make sure to take extra care of yourself today xx

Thank you @Lori23TTC @Bizawit @MrsKin90 and @Bluey18 - this thread and the women on it are AMAZING 🥰 I’m feeling so much love and girl power from you right now. It’s sucky right now, but hey - onwards and hopefully upwards!

@primrosechill I’m so gutted for
You that AF showed. Sending you a big hug right now. Like the others have said CD1 is the day to just cry and pamper yourself and let all your emotions out. You are young still so this would really boost your chances with any IUI or IVF you did decide to do. I know it will happen for you- keep faith that your 30th year will be special and bring you your BFP xxx

I'm having a weird day 😕 lots of little sharp cramps, crying at random (three times during dancing on ice 😳) and weird CM. It's made me wonder if my period is due and I'm actually further into the tww than I thought as I often do the emotional breakdown over nothing a couple of days before? Obviously no way of knowing for sure at this point. In a way it might be nice to be out of misery sooner, but also means I'll have skipped all the hope of the tww!
Hope everyone's looking after themselves. X

@eloiseislost hope you’re feeling better.

Haven’t been able to catch up fully but hoping for some BFP for the gang.

I think AF is about to come, I’m getting all the cramps and back ache I do before AF graces me with her presence.

This is almost a week early than my usual predicted time, even though I’m irregular I only get my period day 35 usually so I’m only on cycle day 27 and 8 days post ovulation I believe. But then again I don’t even know if that was my ovulation day and with the hopeless swimmers very unlikely.

But at least my periods are starting to regulate to a better more healthy cycle, I started acupuncture three weeks ago and he did say my cycles will start getting shorter, so every could!

@MrsKin90 now that made me laugh and your emoji about not being happy for people! I know we can be a bit ratty seeing all the posts and @Makingnumber2 they’re kind words on accepting the down days about babies born/pregnancy announcements. I try and do all I can to avoid them apart from on this thread!

@primrosechill I’m ever so sorry to hear your period arrived. I hope you’re ok and sending you hugs. Take care of yourself xx

I think I ovulated 12/1 due to a very dark opk but that would be early ish as I started my period on 31/12. My last two cycles have been 31 days rather than my average of 34. Having thicker creamy discharge and I am COVERED in spots, big huge red angry spots that won’t stop arriving 😳 so it may be that I have symptoms of pmt for a period that will come in approx 1 week time.

To be honest I’m quite good in my tww re symptom spotting and I don’t have any other signs so it may be pointing to the loveliness that is pmt coming.

Good luck to everyone that is still waiting in their tww and I hope everyone is ok xx

@MrsKin90 sorry you're still a bit in the dark about how far into the TWW you are- it must be making it an even harder limbo. I hope the days speed by no matter how far you are into it. It goes to show how well you know yourself though that you have picked up on those signs.
@Oilyoilyoilgob sorry to hear about the hormonal spot outbreak! I always get them on my chin on the right hand side a few days before AF.
I was contemplating to myself yday- as you do- about why it seems my right hand side of my body is always more sensitive during the TWW e.g. sore boob and sensitive nipple always on RHS and spots only on RHS of chin?! It's seems oddly specific to me and the fact I'm left handed makes it even weirder!

@MrsKin90 ah that’s rubbish about not knowing the timings, it’s even more rubbish that (like we all always say) that pmt and pregnancy symptoms are so similar. Crossing my fingers for you for this month 💚

@Makingnumber2 thanks for the spot sympathy! They are HUGE, the worst spot outbreak I’ve had in a long long time. Think a mix of probable pmt coming on and stress and depression. Also crying over my darling girl so lots of nose blowing-I’ve got spots all around my chin jaw and upper lip, and there’s more on the way! Paired with crying and nose blowing the skin on my eyes is tight and my nose is flaking. I just look delightful 😒😬

That is so interesting about your sensitive right hand side, I love hearing about little things like this-our bodies are incredible. You’ll probably set us all off now looking at differences on either side! Xx

Hi everyone!
@primrosechill I'm sorry AF got you, I'm not far behind you, I'm sure she'll get me tomorrow or Wednesday and I'm already gutted about it. 😞 Another IUI sounds like a good plan, takes away some of the hassle of SI. I'm sure you'll get your BFP one way or another, you just have to stay strong. We all do! 💪🏼

I keep reading about statistics and how the vast majority of couples eventually conceive and have a live birth but there's also a part of me that thinks "But at what cost?" I don't know how long I can live in the seemingly never-ending rollercoaster that is TTC. I wish I could just enjoy intimacy with the man I love without thinking of eggs, sperm, OPKs and soft discs…! Wow, I have my negative hat on -yet another gift from PMS!! I'm 10DPO today and I have the unmistakable signs of AF approaching: massive drop in RHR, cramps, backache and epic grumpiness. 😖

@ComebackQueen I hope AF doesn't come and you get a nice surprise. If AF does arrive early that must suggest you ovulated earlier than you think?

@Oilyoilyoilgobif did you get your positive OPK on CD12? If so maybe you ovulated CD14 which would be 'normal'? Sorry about your spots, they sound awful! Luckily I never seem to get proper spots, but I do get a red rash on my cheeks that comes and does depending on where I am in my cycle. Although I can't quite remember when I usually get it so it doesn't help 🙄 I should writ these things down. How are you feeling?

@Makingnumber2 that is weird! Maybe you always ovulate from your right side?! 😂 A question based on no scientific evidence at all.

Sorry you're feeling potential AF grumpiness @eloiseislost, it's really hard isn't it? I was looking at iui, IVF and something called "uterus scratching" yesterday. And although interesting had a huge cry about it as I see that being us and unless I magically manage to lose enough weight we'll never be eligible for that. The reality for you is though that you did get pregnant after three cycles (that's right isn't it?) So that's super positive and suggests it'll definitely happen for you❤️ Although easier said than believed I know!

Oh my @MrsKin90 you are right. My head isn’t right, I feel like I’m in a smog. So yes that would be right then. We SI up to weds 13th January so we’ll see. I’m ok thank you. Still some crying, I’m really grieving as my cats are my little buddies and babies all rolled into one. Her sister is getting lots of love and is a great comfort to me.
Apart from the massive spots, I have rotten backache-I think my body is gearing up for a period. I know what you mean about other medical options and (sorry to be negative nancy again!) I just feel pissed off and gutted at the thought. I just want to conceive naturally and for once have a sliver of stress taken away 🙁

@eloiseislost don’t worry about grumpiness/negativity. I hope you’re ok. Totally normal as it is with any hormones and pile ttc on top (especially in an unconventional way) then there’s a recipes for some days or weeks to hit hard. Take care xx

Thank you @MrsKin90, always a soothing voice of reason ❤️❤️❤️
I know I should feel encouraged by the fact that I got pregnant on the 3rd attempt previously and in a way it is a glimmer of hope. But then, that pregnancy didn't last long and the fear of history repeating itself is immense. 😞 I guess there is such a spectrum of struggles in the TTC community, some get pregnant quickly but it doesn't stick, some take a long time, others take a long time and it doesn't stick… My heart aches for every woman and couple who struggles. 💔

Wow, never heard of uterus scratching, sounds wholly unpleasant! 😧
I didn't know the NHS had a weight restrictions for fertility treatment, that doesn't sound fair but I guess it is what it is. And you're right, people generally don't magically lose weight, especially if it is under the "threat" of not receiving vital treatment. I know when I'm anxious I raid the fridge, so how do they expect people who TTC (a hell in its own right) to lose weight or else they are denied support? Sorry about the rant, but the pressure on women is bad enough as it is, we don't need any more, thanks! 😠

@Oilyoilyoilgob Thank you ❤️
Trying my best to relax a bit, I feel like I've been hit with a fresh batch of hormones today!
Again, I'm so sorry about your girl but I am glad her sister is still with you a giving you much needed comfort. 😻
I know what you mean about fertility procedures, I think because we already have to be unconventional by using SI, our tolerance for even more intervention is low. I pray AF stays away and you get a BFP instead! 🤞🏼

@Oilyoilyoilgob I agree, the thought of having to do that after all of this is heartbreaking. But I suppose at least more "normal" in that people talk about things like iui and IVF more openly? I'm sorry you're still struggling, maybe your back aches because you're weighed down by life a little? 😇 And not even remotely AF related? 🤞

@eloiseislost I can understand why you still feel so disheartened about everything. I thought the theory behind uterus scratches, although sounds awful, was interesting. The theory is they put two "scratches" to aid implantation by causing an immune response I think and increases the likelihood that an embryo will take but you can also have it done and then try "naturally". I'd never heard of it either but the fertility clinic nearby does it. I think it depends on the clinic or the locality but BMI of 35 or sometimes 30 is needed! So you can still be overweight but I'm over 35 🙁 I was under it not that long ago but have gained 3stone in a year. Hormones, stress, grief, lockdown, TTC, too much baking! I've got an endless list of reasons really. I have been being super good the last few weeks and gained half a pound for the effort 😂 ovulation bloating I reckon. I'm having my covid vaccine tomorrow and I'm hoping a secret side effect is weight loss?!

@MrsKin90 that must be the case then, as these are all my usual AF symptoms and I even sent the husband out to go get me some pads because shark week is about to commence. It’s weird though around ovulation I usually bloat up and get headaches and have EWCM which I had CD19/20 but then again I’m not the best at this type of stuff.

I’ve either ovulated earlier, or I have a short stage, I forgot the word for it.