Yogurt pot yuppies, sexy basters and UFO discs - part 3

[eloiseislost]

Starting yet another thread on self insemination before our second one locks down!

Welcome to THE most supportive group you could wish for if you’re starting or you are already on a self insemination journey.
Remember, nothing is TMI and you are not alone. 💖

Calling the usual suspects, in no particular order (and sorry if I missed anyone 😊):
@ComebackQueen
@Makingnumber2
@Janefx40
@AdriannaP
@MrsKin90
@primrosechill
@bigsweetpotato
@Sydney1986x
@Bluey18
@Birchybirch
@Lori23TTC
@Cathie102
@Labrat3
@DinkBoo
@Oilyoilyoilgob

Let it rain BFPs!!! 🐣

Hello lovely ladies. I hope you all survived the day. One of my friends posted this message for Mother’s Day and I though lt it was lovely. I wish more people would post messages like this. ❤️

@Sydney1986x sorry to hear your are feeling AF coming :(.

I’m 7dpo here.

Morning all. Missed out on a lot in the last couple of weeks it seems and haven't fully read all messages but hope everyone is ok!!

Update on me: finally feeling more normal. But the crazy news is that the MC meds didn't work properly - I thought they had!!! but two weeks later, I started getting a fever which hung around for a week. I knew something was wrong but didn't know what. I rang the hospital to check if I had an infection, hospital said probably not, check if you have covid!
So then I did a covid test (negative) and then, oh my god - started getting major crazy cramps, didn't know what was going on because in my head the MC had already happened - and then the MC naturally actually happened......... and it all finally made sense.... quite traumatic experience all in all but I am coming to terms with it (only a few tears now and then).
My body is finally back to normal-ish - no bloat and no swollen boobs, even lost a few pounds as a result of no bloat! I think my body getting back to normal has defo helped with coming to terms with MC - it was a real mind-F to feel preg but not be...

Will be waiting for next AF before jumping back on the bandwagon so see you all in a couple of weeks no doubt!! Good luck for everyone xx

Hello everyone!
I have been quiet lately because of being busy with moving house and sleeping 12-hours a day! 😅
All is going well with my little blob, just had a beautiful 10-week scan and a blood draw for the harmony test. 🌈

I miss you all!! ❤️ I don't want to post here and cause anybody any upset because I am at a different point of the journey. But I'm thinking of you and I wouldn't be here if it weren't for all of you, the support I found here got me through some dark times. 🙂

@primrosechill I’m sorry to hear AF arrived for you 😖 she’s such a b*txh! Good luck with starting your journey with IVF, I feel the same as you.. I don’t know how I feel about it being offered.. I mean I will feel grateful of course for any help if needed but it does feel tough pill to swallow too. IVF is a really difficult and exhausting journey.. I am wishing you all the strength and luck, you’ve got this!!

@oilyoiloilgob thanks for your kind words, hope yesterday was ok for you too.

Hi @dora202 I looked at a range of searches ok google and mainly old mumsnet threads for ideas and support. Also lots of videos on YouTube explain the process, methods chosen etc and positive outcomes. Hope that helps, where are you at with your own journey?

@bizawat that’s a lovely thing you sent about Mother’s Day, resonates a lot 💗 thanks for sharing. And yes AF symptoms is just typical isn’t it lol.. still no arrival but very much feeling them! Hope the remainder of TWW speeds up for you.

@bigsweetpotato oh hun, reading that made me well up. I’m so sorry the meds didn’t work properly for you.. that it was such a drawn out and traumatic experience 😔 I hope you had some time to recover? Sending you all the baby dust your way for when it’s time and feels right to try again

@eloiseislost so lovely to hear all is well and hope the move is going well too!! Keep in touch and for those of us still struggling please stay posting as it’s nice as a reminder that this can and does happen 💜

Hey ladies

I’m so sorry to hear some of the news from you ladies and won’t quote those that have decided to step away from the thread but just wanting to say I am thinking of you all and sending positive, healing and peaceful vibes.

I won’t be posting too many updates in case of upsetting anyone as this thread is for those that are trying to conceive. I’ve also just been diagnosed with HG and had to go into hospital for a drip, I am now signed off work until Easter. I didn’t think HG started until week 8 usually when morning sickness starts but the Hospital said some get it from a week or two after a BFP. I also have an IBD and migraine sufferer so I don’t know if that makes me more sensitive as I can vom normally if I smell something bad and it triggers the mother of all migraines.

I did want to share what I did for two cycles not properly but hope this helps. Probably won’t but in case someone hasn’t considered something I want this to be useful.

I started exercising and doing acupuncture from end of last year and went dairy and gluten free but it’s definitely acupuncture that I can credit with having helped with my periods, lighter and shortened my traditional long cycles.

As for SI I must confess we only had one load per cycle due to illness in January and work stress in February.

But in February I did the following once an opk showed me a strong line:
I used pre seed - 2mls inside me ten minutes before my expected SI. Also added 2ml pre seed into a sterile plastic sample bottle I ordered of eBay. The pre seed needs to get to room temp to match that off the sperm.

So whilst husband was assisted in providing a sample I was also getting revved up but I couldn’t orgasm because I needed that for later. Husband did his bit and then once I had his sample in a plastic sterile container and put lid on and stuck under my armpit whilst I laid under the cover. Needed 5 mins to liquidise the sperm so whilst husband continued to do things to me, sperm was under my armpit. After 5 mins I got a small medicinal syringe and drew up the sample.
I checked for air bubbles and when all looked ok, it was the main event. So I put the syringe in place (this takes a good few mins because of vaginismus) and when ready my husband made me well you know.... but whilst I’m reaching the O, I steadily and slowly start pressing to release the swimmers. I then shoved my feet in the air for 20mins with a pillow under my bum whilst husband’s services were dismissed LOL.
After 20mins I then went and peed and cleaned myself up.

However later on that night husband worked his magic hands again and for two days after even though we didn’t SI we made sure I orgasmed as sperm can survive up to a few days whilst waiting for the egg drop.

In the TWW I listened to positive affirmations and shortly there after I got my BFP.

I’ve got a long way to go and I know a few people on here are at their 12 week or nearing 12 weeks and did an early scan.

I am booking in end of the month for an early scan for reassurance too.

Hopefully this info is of use to someone and I hope each month I hear more and more BFP and those of us with a BFP I pray it sticks.

Baby dust to all you wonderful beings.

I’m now going to crawl back into bed - the medication I’m on for HG is at least keeping the vomiting away but I feel constant nausea.

@ComebackQueen Hey, sorry to hear you are so poorly with HG. From what I have read it sounds absolutely horrendous. Thinking of you! Thanks for sharing you tips, I have bookmarked for this month.

Well, predictably AF has arrived today so CD1 here we go again... first thing tomorrow I will call the clinic to get my hycosy procedure booked between CD6-12 as recommended. Off to eat my feelings in dairy milk 😂 x

Ugh sorry AF has showed for you @primrosechill and @Sydney1986x sending you lots of wine and choc and Netflix series to help see you through.
@ComebackQueen so pleased to hear everything is progressing well for you- although sorry to hear about your HG. I had quite bad sickness in my first pregnancy but it wasn't HG and that was bad enough- I'm glad docs are trying to help with meds, although I found the nasty taste of having to dissolve them under by tongue/between gum and lip actually made me feel worse so I gave up on them. On the positive side it means your hormone levels must be super high and lots feel sickness is a good sign of a strong pregnancy.
Lovely to hear from you too @eloiseislost and so pleased to hear all is progressing well with your little blob . Will you choose to find out the sex of the baby with the results too or keep it as a surprise?

@bigsweetpotato I'm so sorry to hear all you've had to go through in the last few weeks- I can't imagine how you must have been feeling when a second bleed started. Sending you a massive hug.
@Bizawit what a lovely post- hope you were able to get through the day ok x

@Oilyoilyoilgob thank you as ever for your lovely words. I'm trying to be as pragmatic about it all but there has also been a lot of tears and snot behind the scenes. Par for the course I think. Hope you didn't find Sunday too tough x

I had my pre surgery scan and assessments done today so all set for the d&c on Friday. Feeling very anxious about it but know once it's done I will be able to start feeling closure about this whole unfortunate episode. I think I'm going to really struggle on Easter weekend too as that's the weekend we had planned to tell friends and family, just after the 12 week scan. It's lucky it's a day filled with chocolate really as I'll be able to drown my sorrows in easter eggs .

Hi everyone. I rejoined the thread and then went quiet again. I have been following tho.

It's lovely to hear good news @eloiseislost @AdriannaP @ComebackQueen maybe you could set up a "graduates" thread and the rest of us can join or follow if we want to see how you are?

@bigsweetpotato I'm sorry you have been through so much. Pleased you are feeling better. I found that I had ups and downs so keep being kind to yourself.

@Makingnumber2 best of luck for Friday. My D&C was fine (I secretly quite like an anaesthetic!). Obviously sad but procedurally fine.

As soon as AF shows in full force, I'm off to London for blood tests to see if I can start a fresh IVF cycle. Sadly SI hasn't worked for me but then we can't really conceive naturally anyway so it was never likely to. Always hope for a miracle. I'm hoping we can do an IVF cycle but at my age, it's quite likely that my hormone levels just won't be right so clinic may not let me go ahead. Will just have to wait and see.

Sending you all lots of love x

@Makingnumber2 I hope that the surgery will bring you some peace in the form of closure, I'm sorry you are going through this but you are very strong, I have no doubt you will be just fine in the end. Virtual hugs 🤗

I know what you mean about Easter, with my previous pregnancy we were planning to tell family at Christmas. Then the MC happened, then Christmas was essentially cancelled due to COVID and I was a right mess!! But we did manage to see some family at least and the wine and chocolate definitely helped!

Yes, we checked the 'find out the sex' box on the form! Of course the most important thing is that the results come back low risk 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 but also excited to find out the sex! 🌈

@Sydney1986x sorry to hear AF got you ☹️. Glad you have chocolate to hand. I’ll probably be joining you by the end of the week.

@Makingnumber2 good luck for the D&C. Most of what I remember from mine was how kind and uplifting all the staff were. I really hope you have the same experience ❤️

Evening everyone.

@bigsweetpotato I’m just so sorry to read what you’re going through. I hope you’re alright, please keep looking after yourself during all those ups and downs, big hugs xx

@Makingnumber2 I will be thinking of you on Friday and sending lots of love through the airwaves. Not surprised there’s been loads of snotty tears, you just let it all out as a good release, much needed I’m sure. You’ve been ever so strong. Deep breaths over Easter, I’d have been telling people over Christmas so that brought up those pangs of being sad. But you’ll be ok 💚 Big hugs to you too. Sunday was ok, stayed off the news etc and we had a chilled day, I couldn’t see my mum as she was a bit unwell so had a relaxed day with husband 😊

@Sydney1986x boo to the period, I hope you enjoy as much dairy milk as you can fit in! That’s fantastic you’ll get your procedure booked in, loving your efficiency 💪🏻👏🏻

@Bizawit crossing fingers your period doesn’t come, thank you for posting that Mother’s Day picture-it’s nice to include everyone, even us mums of fur babies 😻

@eloiseislost oh that’s so exciting for you finding out the sex, you can say he or she then-so cute! Hope you’re feeling well 😊

@ComebackQueen I’m sorry to read you’ve been so poorly, I hope it doesn’t last for you and you feel better soon 💚 thank you for such a detailed write up, love it! I love the idea of positive affirmations in the tww, much kinder than wondering or worrying 😊

@Janefx40 I’m really wishing you the very best of luck for your blood tests and potential ivf, it’s really inspiring reading these stories of everyone starting to get the ball rolling and making me feel a teeny bit less apprehensive about starting that journey ourselves if needs be.

I won’t tag but PrimroseChill and MrsKin, thinking of you. Big hugs.

As of now, I still aren’t showing ovulation as per my opks, doing another one in a minute. A bit odd for me but I’m expecting in the next day or so. My period was 2/3 days early than normal this month so maybe I’m out of sync.
I have my acupuncture tomorrow which I’m looking forward to. Had an individual therapy session and a good couple therapy session, and have been good looking after myself, I’m hoping this will help tell my body that it’s safe to conceive. Mentally just starting to feel a teeny bit better after a tough few months.

My thoughts are with everyone on the thread and all the individual things happening, good and bad. 💚 take care xx

@Oilyoilyoilgob thanks, I definitely had my share of dairy milk yesterday lol. I wonder if you will ovulate later this month due to the cycle day changes? That’s what happened to me! Just need testing where possible, I do morning, afternoon and evening as it can change over a matter of hours.
Luckily I have that luxury at the moment as predominantly working from home.

Little update from me, I had a horrendous night last night with period pain and vomiting. I was awake between 2-6pm in crippling pain. I am wiped out today. I have spoken to the fertility clinic at my local hospital and my hycosy is booked in for 26th March. Very impressed with how quickly I was called back and booked in

Hope everyone is doing ok.

Sending everyone baby dust for this month/ cycle!!! Let’s see these BFPs again xx

2am-6am I meant!

Hey ladies, just read through the last few days, I've been at work with long days so been a bit quiet of late x

On day off today. 🥳🥳

I had a dream last night that I was pregnant....Oh how I long for this cycle to be our cycle !

I honestly feel like it's never ending sometimes then boom another pregnancy announcement on my Facebook from a girl I know 🤦🏼‍♀️ happy for her but secretly pissed off that it's not happening for us yet !!

Anyway we decided to try the concieve plus vitimins this month to see if they help, 6 capsules a day ! Thankfully I don't have problems swelling capsules as they are freaking massive !! One set looks like a freaking Suppository!!

Anyway my hubby did an amazing job this time round, 7 SI !! Every day from the end of my AF until after my fertile window!

We had a spare sperm check kit so decided to try it last night....it came up as low ( on the cusp of normal) so we're thinking it because we have been doing so much the past week that it's dwindled his supplies so we have ordered another kit just to make sure that he's not running in to issues with regards to count and mobility of the swimmers x

I'm now 4dpo today fingers crossed 🤞

Ah I feel like there's so much to reply to!

Sorry AF has arrived for some people 😔 I am sick to death of seeing AF and hope it's the last time any of us see her!

Ladies going through losses you are honestly the strongest people in the world ❤️ Sending you lots of love and healing thoughts, and if you're trying again as soon as possible I hope a baby isn't too far away Xx

Glad to hear things are going well for you @eloiseislost and hope the house move went well! 😊 Finding out the sex is exciting and a lovely milestone to reach.
Thank you for the tips @ComebackQueen that's really helpful and reassuring that we're doing the right thing.

@Dora202 I got all the information I needed from the lovely ladies on this thread! Needless syringe (1ml, 2ml, 5ml whatever you're comfortable with) clean pot, hips up afterwards! The rest is all bonus information.

@Janefx40 I love the idea of a graduates thread 🥰 then our lovely ladies can go wild talking about pregnancies and it'll give us somewhere safe and friendly to go when we graduate! I'll be crossing everything you get to have an IVF cycle and it's successful for you, I'm also hoping AF doesn't show for you and it's all unnecessary planning!

@Oilyoilyoilgob thanks for always thinking of everybody 😊 I stuck my head in the sand on mother's day. I'm going to try to touch base a bit more on this thread and stop pretending life isn't happening 😂 because clearly it is. What CD are you on? You properly inspired me as well as comebackqueen and I booked myself an acupuncture session 30th March with the view to having them once a week for at least 3 months... Or until I run out of money 😁 we do have a community one but it's for physio rehab patients only (or so I was told in a very rude reply I got from them!) So I'm going with someone my close colleague knows. I'm going to treat it as a spa session and something I do for ME once a week, which I've never had before. Usually my biggest treat is a lovely bath once a month so it'll be a nice change! Finally looking after my wellbeing. I'm glad to hear you are doing the same.

I've no idea where people are in their cycles right now sorry 😳 I've read through the posts several times but cannot retain that information.

I'm on CD11 with EWCM but a weak OPK. I don't usually ovulate for ages so we are going to SI tomorrow just in case, then start properly possibly on Sunday, OPK depending.

I've been feeling very negative about everything so I'm going to try to focus on not being such a moody cow 🐮 so here's to trying to be more positive ❤️

@MrsKin90
Keep your head up lovely lady x we all have times where we just think fuck this I'm out ! But taking breaks etc is always good for mental health x
I haven't really looked in to the acupuncture at all, I don't even know if there are any folk around where I live who do it !
Given that we are still in full on lockdown in Scotland, I've been doing very little apart from working as everywhere is bloody closed !

Quick question for you ladies ?
Vaccine ? Anyone had it ? I'm hoping I get it soon, more so because I have asthma and I'm nervous as hell about catching it but so far I've been very lucky so far and haven't !

I'm wanting to not test too early this time round but I know I will and torture myself with non existent lines 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

@Carol1980 Hey, I’ve had my vaccine (Astra Zeneca) end of jan and due my 2nd dose mid April. I felt quite poorly afterwards but it was gone within 48 hours. Ironically I caught COVID just under 2 weeks later but didn’t feel too poorly, I strongly believe the vaccine in it’s infancy helped with that. There is also emerging evidence from a study in Israel showing positive results in passing on protection to unborn baby x

@Carol1980 don’t worry too much about the low sperm reading, typically it’s waiting 3-7 days since he last ejaculated for a reading (the stuff we end up knowing from ttc!)

@Sydney1986x oh that sounds awful, I hope you’re feeling a bit better now? Urgh rotten enough having your period let alone being ill from it.
Yes I thinking (hoping!) that’s the reason my lh hormone isn’t showing, by now I’d have normally had a super dark test line. I did a clear blue ovulation today and it just showed the circle. So we haven’t SI yet as husband wants to do just 2-3 this month as a test, normally we do loads. Think he wants to save it for one big splurge 💦😅

@MrsKin90 don’t ever ever apologise for feeling down or pissed off. I still feel it too 😂 but this thread ultimately is about conceiving in a hugely unconventional way, with varied results so I actually never expect it to be full of women happy every single day, because most days we’re tracking, inseminating or waiting. It’s bloody hard.

I feel I’m better on this thread burying for 2/3 days then checking in-takes any pressure off 😊 The graduates idea is a great one! Hopefully we’ll all get on it too 🤞🏻 I’m cd16 now.

I’m delighted to see you’re booked in for acupuncture! That’s a shame re the community one, I hope the price difference isn’t too much.
You’ll be in a lovely private room though, getting looked after and a good thorough consultation, it just makes you feel ‘heard’ about fertility. I found that in itself a release. I was honest and said we inseminate during ttc. Felt good just to say what’s what and hope it can help.

If you drive there what about putting on some lovely music on the way there and back? Treat it as some lovely and much needed you time ☺️

I’m just back from mine, did a stress relief/hormone one today. Just felt a little sting on my big toe one but apart from that I had 30mins to sit with my thoughts. Thought of my lovely departed darling cat, focussed on my beautiful happy memories of her-it was a wonderful 30 minutes filled with love 💚

I hope you get some time until then to relax and take care of yourself xx

Thanks @Carol1980 😊 definitely good to have a break every now and then. I've had the vaccine through work as I work within the NHS, I didn't have any side affects after. Hubby has his also (no idea why he was eligible), and he had the Oxford one and didn't have so much as a sniffle the following day. He did feel quite tired about a week later but that could have been as a result of me talking and moaning so much 😂
I've got a friend refusing to have it as she wants a baby but I know Eloiseislost had it before getting pregnant and I've done loads of research into why people are worried about it and why they shouldn't be etc. And I'm confident in my decision to have it. My second jab is in a month. Do you have pregnancy tests in the house? I find not having any is a good way of not testing otherwise the temptation might be too strong!

@Sydney1986x ooh I'd not heard that about it passing on good things to a baby! 😊 Thanks for sharing that.

@Oilyoilyoilgob it is super hard! I am trying to feel more positive though as all this negativity and jealousy and "will my friend get pregnant before me" anxiety can't be doing good things for my eggs! Community acupuncture was £25/30 and the one I've got is £55 then £45 per session I think. Which is about what I've seen around.
Sounds like you had a much needed reflective time ❤️ hopefully it does wonders!

I'm emergency services but not NHS and haven't been offered it yet, think I'll just need to wait until my age group is in the roll out 🤷‍♀️ is what it is and I'm trying not to stress too much, I've always been as careful as I can be and I'm definitely not going to put it off even when trying to get pregnant, I think it will be safer for me to get it than not and risk being very sick and not there for my daughter x sorry to sound very over dramatic

You know I remember when I started my SI journey and part of me was me was embarrassed about the way that we were having to get pregnant, like it would be something that I always kept in the back of my mind and always feel a bit off about it.....after a year and quite early on I felt so different about it, I can pretty much guarantee that my hubby will 💦 doing it manually but can't ever guarantee that he will 💦 when we have sex, so I think that put it more into perspective for me 😁

@Oilyoilyoilgob I am feeling more human now thank you and hubby to be cooked a delicious roast so gobbled that up as my first meal of the day this evening!

You made me chuckle when I read about one big splurge, why not eh?!

Just to say, you’ve inspired me to look into acupuncture, it sounds like there are a wealth of benefits and I’m glad you had a relaxing positive afternoon.. you deserve it!

I’d love to try reflexology too one day!

@MrsKin90 no problem 😀 hope it’s useful!

If you or anyone else is interested Here’s a link to another piece of info about a baby testing positive for anti bodies for covid after mum being vaccinated: wrex.com/2021/03/16/report-first-baby-born-with-covid-19-antibodies/?fbclid=IwAR3SpPG7gdwGn_6szA1Za78FLsVjLUhS7AD9_wJrhtgU9dxd-2rfhiw20rQ

It’s obviously a personal choice and don’t want any of you to feel I am ramming this down your throat 💚

@Carol1980 that’s shocking you’ve not had your vaccine yet, have any of your colleagues had it? That’s not dramatic at all, it’s a very real reality at the moment and our feelings are totally valid around it.

I think many men struggle to ‘finish’ with sex for a number of reasons. I believe it is much more common than we are led to believe and although there is medically no reason for either of us to SI it takes the pressure off and allows sexual to feel passionate/ or other intimate things without a sole aim of ‘getting pregnant’ which is naturally a passion killer due to the pressure.

Very thankful I’ve found this website and all of you ladies 👏

I'm annoyed it's not been rolled out to all emergency services. 😕 Which I'm sure you all are too. I hope you get it soon. I'm definitely thinking better to have it than not. Known risk Vs unknown potentially non existent risk of having it. Definitely not worth extra stressing over it as that won't help!

It's nice you reached that point with SI. I'm not sure I'll ever be able to say it outloud to anyone. I can't even being myself to tell the doctor. I'm glad this option is available to us or we'd be totally screwed, but it fills me with sadness that we have to do it this way. 🤷 When we get pregnant though I don't think I'll care at all how I got there.

@Sydney1986x cross posted with you 😊
Nice that this thread is giving the alternative medicine society a nice boost of income 😁. I'm a bit more hesitant about reflexology. Someone I work with has started training in it but I can't get over the idea of somebody regularly fiddling with my feet. Although I think they can do it on hands too?? Will be interested to hear how you find it if you do either/both! I do wonder if I feel too skeptical to benefit 😬 trying not to!

@Sydney1986x
Some of my colleagues who are in the age bracket have it, and some front line have gotten it simply due to health centres contacting the office to say they have left over which would otherwise go in the bin so have offered it to who is on shift, my job at the moment isn't in an office, I'm actually doing a different role in my job where I'm surrounded by kids ages 11-18 every day x
I was totally up for care workers being offered it, but when I hear of folk who are in offices bit having any contact with the public it totally baffles me 🤷‍♀️but who knows x

@MrsKin90 I've discussed the SI with a friend who's husband has MS and they also have issues with delayed ejaculation too so I told her what we were doing, but she wasn't too sure her hubby would be up for it, we haven't had long conversations about it though so the only people I can actually discuss in detail with is all of you ❤️
So I'm beyond thankful ❤️

I know that the question was asked a couple of days ago about how people are doing the SI so I thought I would share ours.

Hubby goes upstairs, he gives me a shout when he's done ( I can't be in the next room as it totally puts him off) we get the syringe ready, tub is then put either beside me or between my legs to keep it warm for about 10 mins to liquify, the. I slowly draw it up in to the syringe, put it in and try to angle it to where my cervix is, and slowly push the plunger, then I try to O and raise my hips and legs, I try to O a couple of times to try to get my cervix to dip in a few times 🤷‍♀️

I know that using this method we have gotten pregnant at least once ( September last year) but unfortunately that ended in MC, early one x