Bus🚌24 Dec TTC Itchy nips poking thru homemade wreaths, Peeing on 🎄crafting sticks, Touch me up 🎅🏻baby with your festive 🍆cos all we want for 🎄is a BFP!!

[Minster2012]

Welcome to the longest running funniest bus ride in history! Or so we like to think anyway...

We talk sex, tv, work, more sex, food, slimming, RHR, charts, spicing things up or down, crafting (a more recent addition for 🎄🎅🏻) and help each other out in any way possible. Oh and yeah Trying to make babies gets mentioned a bit too but more often than not our bodies just do what they want!

When I say a few of us have been around the TTC block I don’t mean 🍆I mean as a MN group, not just a bus, a mini sanctuary since March for some of through the highs and lows of making babies through 2020 ❤️🥰

How we roll on this bus...
⁃ No judgement & each to their own on your TTC journey
⁃ Sense of humour DEFINITELY required
⁃ A few of us like a sex toy a few don’t, there may be sex toys discussed! 🤪a few of our fellas have enjoyed this aspect
⁃ Support each other, ranting is allowed, saying you are down is encouraged & celebrating our happy days too 😘
⁃ We have fun
⁃ If you have a pet, it’s welcome aboard
⁃ Now mandatory picture of your 🎄tree when up or Xmas decorations / Xmas jumper or similar
⁃ Ditto Wreath - extra points awarded if wreath is homemade 🥰
⁃ NOTHING IS TOO MUCH INFORMATION

@Vil10 currently holds the 👑for filthiest/most embarrassing story, can you beat her??? Though @lucyrp recently spewed sambucca over her fingers so maybe that’s debatable

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs

2 BFPs in Dec already and it’s the 1st 🥳

How many more 🤔

Took me a while to find the new thread. V. funny that you got told off for your title @Minster2012 !

I'm about 12DPO now. Still feeling queasy and dizzy but less outright ill than Sunday/Monday so thinking maybe this month was a false start / failed implantation? Not sure I really want to know if that's the case. Also haven't charted for years (since conceiving DS2) so I don't really know how long my luteal phase is these days and therefore exactly when my period is due. I suppose I'll wait until the end of the week and see how I feel then and if there's any sign of an imminent period.

I'm baffled by those OPK pictures as I've never used them. I read somewhere that you can use them as pregnancy tests too, though, and actually they are really sensitive, more sensitive even than the expensive early pregnancy tests. Has anyone tried that?!

DH really does not like Christmas so we are not doing any Christmassy stuff yet though I did buy an advent candle because I really love those things!

Oooo not sure @kalidasa but done ppl have got a hcg line of doing them I guess later??
Sorry, you were on the list I thought at the beginning it should have tagged you! Sorry my bad!

@Kirky658 I thought you were going to say (what I'd do) that you forgot to get DS, not that you were able to have lovely romantic sounding walk with DH that sounds lovely 🥰

Wreath done. See pic. Oh wait. You can't cos it's bloody dark. 😂😂

Will do one tomorrow!

@minster2012 hahahaha no DS or DD in this household 🤣🤣🤣 unless you count the pupper?

@Vil10 just a quick question and I know it's completely personal to the individual but when yoj go to the gym do you set yourself a goal of how many calories you want to burn and if so how many ?🤣 I don't know if I'm doing too little 😂

This old metro story made me laugh:

metro.co.uk/2017/10/02/can-you-really-use-toothpaste-as-a-pregnancy-test-6970663/

Anyone fancy trying it?

How are we all this evening ladies?
I've been crampy the past couple of hours (due AF in 2 days) so I'm starting to believe I'm out this month. Although cramps are not something I experience with my periods?! I've been doing daily cheap internet strips and all stark white. Surely they'd show something by now if I was pregnant 🤷🏼‍♀️

Another moan about my OH (I'm aware all I do is moan about him on here but it is a safe space right)....but he really belittled my Jewish background last night (he's atheist) and I'm furious. I'm losing patience with him. He's got confidence issues but masks it with being over-opinionated about EVERYTHING and this was too far 😔

So because my fertility apt is during school time I had to arrange cover. I had a very honest discussion with my head of dept and the HR lady in school about everything and said that I just wanted them to be aware that we're going through the fertility treatment process so I may have to go for hospital apts etc. And OMG I could have cried, they were SO supportive and lovely. They basically said my health and wellbeing needs to come first and not to worry about any awkward apt times, they would sort it, if I'm feeling too stressed with work they'll help me out and I can take time out. I was like WOAH I didn't expect that. I'm so thankful 🙌🏼

@lucyrp yay for ov!

@Franklydear that's really shitty of them, how lacking in empathy!

@Minster2012 yep, starting up the 🍆🍆🍆 every other day from today so I'll be bored silly by the end of the month haha. Time to get those toys out!

@InkyPaper happy belated birthday 🎉🎉

@LauraT94 Back away from the tests! I just find it's so difficult to be sure with them so early, just wait and enjoy the two weeks of wondering 🙃 hope you do catch though, your chart looks lovely.

@paintfairy don't give up, if you do god only knows I will 😂

@DJmum83 not quite but close, just keep DTD.

@2020mission Ugh jizz leakage is the worst, happens all the time!

@Kirky658 pupper is gorgeous 🥰🥰🥰

Ooof @Joanna1009 that sounds really annoying of your DH! We've had some tricky conversations about religion too (DH is not religious and actually quite anti-religious in lots of ways but from a Jewish background; I'm a Christian though a bit denominationally mixed and uncertain!). Good to find a way to talk about these things when ttc though because I think a lot of people find having children really sharpens these issues for them.

@kalidasa you're right 😔 he's always known about this part of my life. I don't think it's about this really, I think it felt like more of a reason to try and put me down. When I met him I was divorced, raising my kids alone, had bought my own home and have a decent career. He has a steady job but other than that we don't compare in those ways. This was never an issue before but as time goes on he finds more ways to belittle me

Ended up having random day sex while WFH today. Then on a call and felt the leakage 😳😳😳😳

Also WTF with the toothpaste test idea...

@DJmum83 sounds like you'll have it covered anyway x

@lucyrp i don't make a conscious effort really of looking until the end, and if I've not burnt enough then I'll do more cardio, but I usually do weights for about an hour, and usually burn more doing legs, but roughly burn about just short of 500, then do about 40 mins on the bike/hiit training and burn round about 300/400 depending on what I do!x

@Vil10 so do you go to the gym for two hours every day?!🙉 I definitely am not doing enough. I normally go for an hour and change it between legs, arms or cardio. Tonight I did 15 mins on the bike and burnt 100cal then did a leg workout and burnt around 270 cal 😬x I aim for around 300/400 but you're doing double 🤣 never going to lose weight at this rate clearly 😆

@AHobbyAWeek we've all been there 🤣

@Newbie0818 awww I'm so glad you had a good experience with HR! That's so lovely ❤️

Despite a lovely looking chart I think I'm out this cycle 😩😢 been having AF style cramps for the past hour so thought I'd check my cervix... Low and hard 😩 mehhh. Just got to wait for it to hit and then onto cycle 2!

@lucyrp just short of, sometimes I only manage 20 mins cardio because I purely can't be arsed!! But you have a child and more commitments than me, and everyone is different don't be hard on yourself!! As long as you're in a calorie deficit you'll lose weight, and sounds like you're doing enough, an hour a day 5+ times a week is definitely enough!! I just use the gym as my release so spend more time there purely for me and not for my body/fitness side of it! Don't worry girl, you got this💪🏽

@Vil10 i was doing cardio for every gym session then going on to do something else but stopped because other people I know just go to do one group at a time so thought I was being stupid doing cardio then weights in the same session. If I spend 40 mins doing an incline walk I can burn 350 calories through that. I don't know if I'm in the right deficit or if I'm not eating enough. I don't know anything about it 🙉 I haven't noticed any change in the last week and a half and you're supposed to notice it weekly😬

@Newbie0818 Gah, I'm just feeling sorry for myself. Fed up of this being locked in shit. And nothing ever being straightforward. Had horrendous cramps this morning too. But I'll be ok tomorrow. I'll make a cake. 🤣
I'm pleased your work are supportive. They sound lovely.

@AHobbyaweek we've had random lockdown day sex too! Several times. Wish it helped ttc but its fun all the same.

Toothpaste as a pregnancy test?? Old wives have a lot to answer for 😂😂@kalidasa

@Kirky658 def count pupper, total baby there

@Joanna1009 this is mega safe space, wait your ICs are now snowy? Noooo! I'm sorry OH is being rubbish too, mine too, they are shits. Honestly, nothing without us. He prob doesn't understand your background lovely but you sound amazingly strong he may be a bit threatened

@Newbie0818 that's amazing! Sometimes it's so much better to be honest I'm so happy they were supportive that's brilliant whoop whoop!! 🥰🤩🥳

@AHobbyaweek adding more leakage to the title list. Wait...you didn't have sec whilst on the call did you?? If so, high five. We need to do a challenge for that surely?? Who can get licked out whilst on a conference call/zoom??

Wow @Vil10 just listening to your gym session just made me tired!! Are you a proper iron woman /gym bunny like @blodyn91? I have said that I know someone who does 4 hour gym sessions including 2 x les mills classes and gym 3 or 4 times a week & wonders why she doesn't lose weight...yet she bakes ALL the cakes & EATS ALLS the pies & drinks ALL the wine. (She doesn't work either & is a millionaire) but it's all about balance. 🙄

@LauraT94 cervix checking isn't that reliable it might not be over!

I'm so unmotivated tonight DH whinged over boring food. Meh. I'm doing your hampers & I was ill. Go f yourself.

Hampers ready for wrapping. Lots of thought (not that he cares) local produce from our local high street where possible (our customers are all local yorkshire firms following a "what we've needed this year" or supporting charities. (Things to drink, things to relax, something to make them smile). Just cards to write too. MEN.

Well finally got my peak so pretty sure I will ovulate tomorrow.
Hubby says he is too tired tonight 😢 are we still in with a chance we have done it Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday.
Have to laugh it's usually me saying I'm too tired.
Xx

@Minster2012 no unfortunately we chose my one gap today to get some naughty fun in. I do sometimes decide to be very naughty and have some fun with DH while he is playing Xbox with his mates on a headset also wow you have been busy!!!

I finish for the year on Friday. Have jury service for two weeks then 3 weeks of annual leave!!!

Don't know why but I ended up crying reading this ❤️

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-55164607?atcustom3=BBC+News&attcustom4=407358D6-34C9-11EB-BE47-4B4B16F31EAE&atcustom1=%5Bpost+type%5D&attcampaign=64&atcustom2=facebookkpage&atmedium=custom7&fbclid=IwAR1nL36qpQfpnyTjsJOJt6PGn3kICxlx3fztipzQmSugBnZkb-uqhCTJE-4

@Newbie0818 so glad to hear you got a great response when you let them know about fertility treatment 🙌 it's the way it should be!

I couldn't tell my boss or HR - they are both pretty awful. HR are completely on the company's side with everything and don't care about staff. My supervisor has zero people skills he's so awkward and has no empathy.

I've been holding off moving jobs as I didn't want to start a new job and immediately become pregnant. Makes the year of no success harder as I could have moved on after all 🙄

@Gem176 you've set me off now! How lovely?!

@Minster2012 thanks. A few people have said that now. Will just have to wait and see I suppose!

@DJmum83 sounds like you're still in with a good chance! Maybe wake him up with a nice surprise in the morning and see if you can squeeze in a quickie just to be on the safe side?!

So I think my luteal phase is only 9/10 days, just been doing the awful Googling in bed and reading how this can affect fertility, does anyone have similar length?

Oh @Newbie0818 so glad you had such a positive response from work 😊 that must help so much