POAS Anonymous - Thread 2

[AMS19]

A continuation of previous thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4058758-TTC-cycle-1-just-come-off-pill-for-1?pg=1

@Happythoughts91
@CardioQueen
@GreenApplesYo
@positivitytree2020
@jessi60
@DrS44
@PowerOfFlowers
@SweetShopSurprise
@Bells20
@curcurbita

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@PowerOfFlowers Thanks so much! Hopefully will feel better by tomorrow as I’ve got a weekend full of work 🙁 x

Thanks @jessi60 that’s helpful, maybe it takes a couple of cycles so for the app to identify what your peak levels are, maybe our levels are just lower than the norm! 🤨 guess it’ll take a few more cycles of tracking to find out!
I wonder what level the CB test uses, coz mine is still flashing smileys hasn’t identified a LH surge at all!
It’s all very confusing tbh unless your one of the lucky ones who has a really strong identifiable peak! 😔

@AMS19 that’s great news, very exciting to be able to see it! 🥰🥰🥰🥳

@positivitytree2020 Yeah unless you do peak out of nowhere. But I re scanned loads of mine in not as zoomed in and not as perfectly matched up as the box I was doing and the readings were higher 🤷🏻‍♀️

I was low fertility on the clear blue aswell today🤣 but maybe it’s because I had my highest OPK reading yesterday when I first used it and that’s now gone down as my baseline 😂and this mornings wee was lower than yesterday and that’s what it’s comparing it to hence the low fertility Who knows! It’s all guess work xx

@positivitytree2020 @jessi60 @DrS44 @GreenApplesYo @dex1521 @powerofflowers @May94 thanks so much ladies! Huge relief. Now I've just got to wait a month tomorrow until my private scan 😭😭😭 you need to all distract me with lots of BFPs!!!

@GreenApplesYo the pain wasn't too intense, but would get sharp stabbing pains now and again and just a dull ache on the left side. If it has been both sides I would have been less worried. Also with eptopic you get a pain in the tip of your shoulder. Obviously approximately 3 seconds after reading that I started feeling twinges in my shoulder 😂🙄🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ I would say if in doubt just for peace of mind ring the midwives and ask their advice. There is a midwife helpline for my local hospital I rang, and they sent me to EPU!

@jessi60 oh no just seen your message about the bug! Super crappy. I really hope you feel better!!

@powerofflowers yep still got the twinges, so at least I know it wasn't totally made up and in my head. The scan wasn't pleasant, it is internal and a lot of pushing around. I havent had sex in 2 weeks so that was the most action down there has seen in a long time 😂😂 so that made me feel more crampy too!

Hmm @AMS19 thanks. I might give them a ring. Not that I think it's likely there is anything wrong... it's just a niggling worry because the pain is never in the right side, just the left. It's so mild though. Definitely no shoulder tip pain! So I don't know. I do think they should offer an early scan on the NHS as standard.

Unrelated, but I am having all kinds of weird tingles today. Especially the nipples. But also my back and hips.

How are you feeling in general?

Hehe hope everyone else gets their BFP this month so we can all compare tingling 🙂

Haha we’ll try our best to keep you distracted @AMS19 😃 so exciting for your and @GreenApplesYo though! 🥰 hopefully there’ll be some good news over the next few weeks for some in the group! 😃

I’m having a terrible cycle, this is my FF graph! 😂 Day 4 of flashing smileys and not much luck on LH strips! and being made worse with DH having issues, we’ve only managed to DTD 3 times this cycle (you’ll see on graph we did it first day of “high fertility” and two more times since)! Each time we DTD DH bricks it, says he feels there’s so much pressure now for him to finish that it’s messed with his head! 😫 we’ve managed to improvise the last few times just to get something into me! 😅
just really frustrating and fed up with it all now! 😢 we did fine last cycle every 2nd day and never have issues! Wish I was pregnant already! 🤞🏼 #rant

This is my graph! 🙄🙄

@GreenApplesYo have you got a private scan booked? I think you did but can't remember when? Yeah definitely give them a call and see what they said. Mine feels more uncomfortable than painful!

@positivitytree2020 ah no sorry to hear that sweet. I bet it is really tough on men. Definitely just focus on getting it in you, whatever it takes 😂😂 you're chart isn't too bad, where you are now seems to be your baseline. So I reckon any day you could get the spike. If you peak tonight or tomorrow then you will have covered your DTD so don't stress! What about maybe having porn on in the background to tip him over the edge?! Men seem to not be able to hold back from that.
If I hadn't fallen last cycle this weekend would have been my peak. I say this as I watched my husband playing on his new PS5, which he took A/L to play, and hasn't dragged himself away! So I would have been totally screwed 😂😂

@AMS19 I have a small bit of sympathy, not too much tho! 😂 considering I’m POAS every couple of hours and checking my temps every morning, defo more stressful for us! 😂👌🏼
Ya I’m hoping if we can just get what’s needed the next few days hopefully it’ll be okay! Don’t feel good about this cycle tho, feel like it’s not meant to be the one with everything going wrong! 😒
Lol nothing works, he’s totally in his head about it and worked up! 😂 now that’s it’s happened a few times he spends the next time we’re doing it thinking I hope this doesn’t happen again, and then bam it happens again! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Then I got frustrated! 😂 Hoping it a minor hiccup along the way!
Funny how these things happen when you are TTC! 🤷🏼‍♀️

@positivitytree2020 my husband had somerhing similar when we first met! He just one day couldn't get it up, and then it got in his head. Only went on for about 2/3 weeks and we got passed it. Hopefully you'll ovulate in the next day or two and you know your covered then. Also I always found taking the pressure off and suggesting we don't do it but jsut lie naked together helped, once he know I didnt want to have sex suddenly he could!

@positivitytree2020 My partner is similar. He manages to get the deed done but doesn’t like that it has to be on a certain date and said his private parts feel like they are going to drop off hahah. Feel like it’s a routine exercise and not much enjoyment in it when it’s so timed! I’m deffo going to relax more with it next month, I don’t think it’s good for relationships tbh. Too much strain. Deffo recommend the porn thing though or maybe introduce some toys, got a cracking recommendation from love honey 🤣🤣
@GreenApplesYo Think all the weird tingles and pains are completely normal. I wonder if you didn’t find out so early whether you would notice it? I think we are hyper aware of everything. I’m sure all is fine 🤞🏼❤️

@AMS19 Thanks so much, Starting to feel a little better just trying to get some water into me.

However just went to the toilet and EWCM upon wiping 🥳🥳🥳 wahoo!
Although we have dtd Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. I can’t tonight cause I don’t feel up to it so be gutted if I miss anything 🥺 Xx

Haha I love hearing your experiences @AMS19 @jessi60! Glad to hear it’s not just us who’s had that problem! 😂👌🏼 I’m sure it’ll pass over in a few weeks, once we get past this cycle he might forget about the experience and be fine again for the next! 🤞🏼 Otherwise this ttc will be a torturous experience for us both! 🤣😒

Oooh very exciting with the EWCM! 😊 3 days out of 5 is really good so I wouldn’t be worried if you’re not up to it tonight! 😊

@jessi60 don't panic last cycle I got EWCM on CD9 and none again, and I didnt ovulate until CD13!

@AMS19 Christ I don’t think I can handle another few days of dtd every day again haha. I leave the house at 6am in the morning and don’t get back until half 9, fantastic timing 😂😂 X

@jessi60 Jesus yeah that is not easy. We were both working from home so was using our lunch break wisely 😂😂

Aw thanks @jessi60! Good news about the EWCM... sorry you're not feeling great though. Hope you are better in the morning.

@positivitytree2020 that sounds tough. I think it's probably fairly common, and that if we'd been TTC longer my DP might have had similar problems. One time a while ago he lost his erection which was a total fluke thing, but it got into his head. It's fine now, but took a little time to get over. With TTC I guess once there is pressure to ejaculate it's much harder to ejaculate, even though under normal circumstances most guys have to concentrate on not having an orgasm haha. I don't really have any more advice than what @AMS19 has already said... I liked the lying together idea. Or maybe having a shower together?

@AMS19 I don't have a scan booked... Haven't decided what to do yet really 🙂

@AMS19 that's great news! Made me really happy to read that! Glad everything is looking good.

@Dex1521 I remember reading about this I don't think there's any real science behind it but I think there's something in Chinese medicine about a warm womb being good for fertility. Probably bollocks but who knows 😂

@positivitytree2020 that's so difficult I'm sorry you and OH are going through this. And totally agree you've gotta do what you can haha. maybe you could try to reassure him that it doesn't matter if he finishes, that it's nice just to have intimate moments together and it's fine if it doesn't happen this month (even though we all really want it to of course) but if you can persuade him it's really not a problem, it might reduce his anxiety enough that he actually can finish?

@jessi60 I think I speak for all of us when I say we'd like that lovehoney recommendation please 😂 yay for ewcm too!

Sorry this is happening to you @positivitytree2020 Sounds like he's gone into his own head with it all. If it hasn't happened this month for you, would it help if he didn't know where you are in your Cycle for next month? Easier said than done, I know - I'm telling my DP nearly every day which 'season' I'm in 😂

@GreenApplesYo Yes I think it’s just the pressure of it all unfortunately 😞 He was saying there’s so much pressure for him to finish, that he gets all panicked and then can’t. Which is funny coz I said every time we’ve ever done it he’s finished, so it should just be normal for him! 😂 I guess it’s after getting in his head, hopefully it’s a short term blip! At least we can still manage to get it done here and there, just seems to be way more effort & frustration!

@Bells20 thanks for the advice, yes defo gonna try and persuade him that it’s all okay and there’s no pressure for him at all. And in my head I can just be screaming FINISH GODDAMIT! 🙃

@PowerOfFlowers ya I’m thinking next month I’ll just keep it to myself and not mention where I am in my cycle, hopefully that will elevate the pressure a bit! 😊 I could too excited this month telling him everything! 😂

Thanks for all the advice girls! 😊 nice to be able to get other people’s opinions while also having a little rant! ☺️

Hi all. Had my bloods done yesterday and my hcg was 50. Had them repeated today and will find out tomorrow if the pregnancy is viable and hcg is doubling each day. I am not going to get my hope up but thank you so much for the advice about the test I originally put on if you had not said it looked positive I would of carried on with the injections for a donor egg. I'm not sure if the tests are getting darker and whether hcg is increasing. The top one was this afternoon and the bottom this morning. I guess I need to wait till tomorrow and go from there.

Hey @klprr93 I think your test from today looks darker as well. I'm 6+3 now. With my tests the progression wasn't that huge day on day, it was subtle. But if I looked back over say 4 or 5 days I could see there was a big change, if that makes sense? Like 12 and 13 dpo were similar but 16dpo was much darker than 12dpo.

Ps good luck for the results tomorrow 🤞🤞

Hey girls, finally got some positive news this evening!! 😃 just about to go to bed so said I’d do another OPK just on the off chance, and I got 0.84 and it’s marked “high”!! So then I took out my CB digital and did that to compare and see if they were on the same page, and I finally got the static smiley for peak fertility! 😊

My next question... when should we DTD next? 🙈 we are babysitting our nephew from 9am - 5pm tomorrow, and given the issues the last few days I don’t want to pounce on DH and put him under pressure early tomorrow morning? 😂 do ye think DTD tomorrow evening would be alright? We did it this evening too (well just about, most of it got in but some got on the bed on the way in - TMI lol) 😂
Might chance tomorrow morning anyway and see how it goes! 🙈