Why aren't I pregnant with 2nd baby yet!

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Firstly i must say I am so grateful to have one healthy baby boy, and secondly I am very grateful I conceived him within a month of trying, and do feel so sorry for those who spend ages trying or who cannot conceive.
However, I have been trying for 2 months now and still no baby, just started another period.
Is this just normal? We try every other night all month long as soon as my period ends so I feel like it should've worked by now!
I am still breastfeeding my 1 year so could this hinder it even though I'm having periods?
Am I just naive to how long it takes to make a baby after getting lucky and having my first so quickly?

Essentially you were lucky to get pregnant that quickly the first time round and that doesn't mean it'll be as quick second time round. Especially if you're breast feeding.

Two months is no time at all, depending on your age the average can be much longer. Eg I'm 32 and the average is 6 months, but that obviously means there's lots of women for whom it takes even longer.

I think three months is still well within the normal range. Conceiving the first month is more unusual I think. I imagine bf doesn't help, but there is no cause for concern. That said, I conceived both mine first time but had inconclusive tests with the second one and thought they were negative. I did think that I really couldn't handle months of two-week waits, so I understand your impatience

Hi, it is normal to take completely healthy parents up to 12 months to conceive - even if they fell on first time previously. I believe the average is 3-6 months.

I really wouldn't worry, calm down, relax and enjoy trying! It could take a year.

There is also such a thing as unexplained secondary infertility but that's only diagnosed after 12m of trying and all the tests coming back inconclusive, so I really wouldn't worry about that!

Also it's an old wives tale that bf hinders conception and is generally advised now not to rely on BF as a contraceptive method as it's so unreliable. However, I kind of think there may be an element of truth in it to have become an "old wives tale". My friend was trying for over 12m but the doctor wouldn't investigate as she was still breastfeeding!

It took me 6m the first time (doing it at all the right times etc), I lost that pregnancy, then 3m mater fell pregnant with DD.

Relax and enjoy, baby number 2 will come when good and ready! Best of luck xxx

OP, theres no point having sex that often, your main fertile window is about a week long max around your ovulation.

There can be problems with sperm and too much sex

Offs 2 months? Kindly get a grip.

There’s absolutely no need for that @BigPlanes

2 months basically means you’ve had 2 go’s at getting pregnant. You know that many many women have difficulty conceiving yet you ask if this is normal??? Trust me, it’s much more normal than you think.

Definitely need to relax. It took me 8 months twice to conceive and myself and dh have very good fertility. It's just down to luck. Enjoy trying!

On cycle 13 of TTC over here! If there is one thing I wish I could tell myself a year ago : obsess less. It definitely hasn't helped.

2 months?? Is that a typo?
It’s quite normal for healthy couples to take up to and beyond 12 months to conceive.

2 months 😂 I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my second after TTC for 5.5 YEARS, and it only took one month with my first....!

Been trying for second for three years. First one took 2 months. It can take upto 12 months for a normal couple with no issues

Ahhhhhh I am so glad to see this post.

I'm in the exact same boat 😞 very happy to have one very beautiful and happy boy who I conceived within 1 month but now TCC with baby 2 and just started my period... Feel weird about it. I know babies don't necessarily come quickly but my only other experience with baby 1 and I was pregnant straight away which makes it hard psychologically.

2 months is not very long OP, but if you are breastfeeding it is possible to have periods without ovulation for a while, you may want to get some OPKs to check that you are actually ovulating each month

I fell straight away with dc1 it took around 6/7 months before I fell pregnant with dc2.

I was the same op. First cycle dc1. At cycle 2 I was worrying there was something wrong even though rationally I knew it was normal. It took 6 cycles. In the end I was very happy with the age gap and glad it didn't happen sooner. Get some opks it must be exhausting dtd that often!

The first time was likely luck. I know 2months seems like forever when you want a baby but as other said its very short.

My first was 2years of TTC and I've recently become pregnant after almost a year.

The important thing is knowing when you ovulate. I'd recommend getting some of the ovulation test sticks, I got urine dip sticks from amazon for a few quid.

Dip in urine at the same time of the day every single day from about 10days after your period begins. There should be a second line that will be faint at first but you will be about the ovulate when the second line is as dark or darker than the test line.

Basically use this process to pinpoint what day in your cycle you ovulate and you want to have sex a few days before and the day of ovulation.

I would get some ovulation tests to be able to know exactly when your ovulating...when we were trying for a baby I'm sure I read that you need to wait for the mans sperm to build back up (if you no what I mean) so if your having sex so frequently that could be a reason...try and do it less often and more at the right time xx

With my first it took 11 months. Just got my bfp for my second last week after only 2 months trying! DH and I were shocked- totally expected it to take around a year again. No rhyme or reason to it I'd say. Just keep trying!

@BumpLoading I feel exactly the same! There's so many people who desperately want children and never fall pregnant it's like I feel guilty that I have three amazing kids! 17yo/12yo and 9 months!

I am 37 now and we decided after the first try of our latest edition we want a baby very soon after and then that's it we will hang up our hats!

But Ben trying 3 months and nothing! (I'm not bf)

I know I'm older but I have been extremely fertile in the past falling pregnant on the pill/coil and then lastly on first try!

Oh god, buckle up if you're already upset over 2 months. I know it's hard but you will lose it if you don't calm down, I was one month and then a year so you just never know. You need a bit of realism. Good luck tho, hope it happens soon for you

I got pregnant 1st cycle with no.1 - my 2nd took five months of trying but I was breastfeeding and my period hadn’t come back.

@Ginfilledcats Is incorrect - exclusive breast feeding strongly hinders fertility (although I wouldn’t depend on it) and even reduced feeding can. Apparently feeding overnight has the strongest effect although if your periods are back you are probably ovulating.

Anyway it’s nothing to worry about. Two months is nothing. Try to relax and enjoy the baby you have.

Op its all down to luck. I got pregnant on month 3 with dc1 and 2, it then took 18 months with dc3 and then dc4 was conceived in 1 month age 40 whilst breast feeding. It will happen when it happens.

Same as you OP. I (very very luckily!) became pregnant first month trying and I was 35 at the time, so kinda on my mind that it wouldn't be straightforward.
Second took a few months more - maybe 4 or so, but only because we were too tired from 1st DC to shag as much as we had been first time round!
Good luck!

I think that when you are TTC and don't get pregnant it's easy to think "what went wrong?" but really there are so many steps in the process of ovulation, conception and implantation that it's more a case of "not everything went exactly right this month".