Why aren't I pregnant with 2nd baby yet!

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Firstly i must say I am so grateful to have one healthy baby boy, and secondly I am very grateful I conceived him within a month of trying, and do feel so sorry for those who spend ages trying or who cannot conceive.
However, I have been trying for 2 months now and still no baby, just started another period.
Is this just normal? We try every other night all month long as soon as my period ends so I feel like it should've worked by now!
I am still breastfeeding my 1 year so could this hinder it even though I'm having periods?
Am I just naive to how long it takes to make a baby after getting lucky and having my first so quickly?

Thanks for your all comments (except the mean one - no thanks to you) lol
I'm obviously very naive due to the quickness of number one!
I really do appreciate and enjoy my lovely baby, hes the best. I just wanted a small age gap so he can have a little brother or sister close in age to play with as they grow up but maybe I should've tried sooner.
I had to Google opk but will definitely get some kits, and didn't realise too much sex hinders it! Is exhausting before a night of being up every couple of hours so will try and do it in more of a precise window instead.
Does make me feel sorry for those who take ages, those who have taken years must be so frustrating

Two months? I thought you were going to say two years! With the greatest respect, as a pp said, get a grip

Hi @BumpLoading

I think when you get pregnant so quickly the first time you worry why it didn’t the 2nd. As a PP said there are so many stars that have to align, you just didn’t need to think about it the first time.

There are a few things that you can do to improve your chances.

. Track - I use the Ovia app to track my cycle and predict my fertile period.
. OPK’s - these can be expensive but now I’m so honed in on my fertile period I use 1 box every few months. I would recommend the clearblue ones over the cheapies at first as they are super clear.
. Do you have a fitbit - try plotting your resting heart rate. You can get a lot of clues around ovulation, implantation etc
. Look into temping. Didn’t work for me as I had so many things going on that threw my chart but some people swear by it.

It can take most healthy couples 6 months and the majority up to a year to conceive. We have had no underlying issues and have been trying for a year and a half so be kind to yourself OP.

Thanks @Needanewnamenow I can see why you've created a mumsnet account and keep changing your name, so you can be really helpful and throw shade at people you've never met from behind your screen

Lots of real helpful suggestions thanks @poptypingchef I didnt know about temperature and heart rate I will check those! And thanks for the clear blue suggestion, ill buy that one and get testing. Sorry its been taking you so long, i hope you are able to conceive soon too!

I read somewhere that you are supposed to leave three days between each shag, to build up a head of steam on the sperm front.

Like a lot of people I change name regularly in order to maintain anonymity. I've shared some deeply personal things and also some things that would be highly identifying that I cannot risk people putting two and two together on here. This is quite normal and lots of people on Mumsnet do it. But you know, feel free to single me out. I'm also someone who took two years to conceive my first child and have had fertility problems, multiple (3+) miscarriages over two years trying conceive number two so, you know, two months OP.

If you are a normally fertile couple, young and healthy, your maximum chance of conception each month is 25%, usually nearer 20%. Which is why it takes a few months usually. Most healthy couples will be pregnant within 6-12 months of trying.

Sex every 2-3 days throughout your cycle is fine and perfectly sufficient for sperm to build up.

You're only a couple of months in. OPKs and temping and fitbits and charting and so on have two main negative points. Firstly, cost. Secondly, stress. These are outweighed when you have specific reasons for needing to track and time sex. Having sex with the person you love when you're normally fertile and have conceived easily before should just be a pleasure and the baby will be a fantastic consequence. You're having plenty of sex, it likely will happen. Charting and tracking can be useful if you need to time sex or if you're finding it's taking longer than expected (I'm talking about longer than a year here). Plotting it all, insisting on doing it on x day etc can be extremely stressful and demoralising (I've done it when having problems ttc and suffering pregnancy losses). You're already anxious, don't add to that. Have regular sex, you're overwhelmingly likely to get pregnant soon.

Same here. Fell pregnant first month of not particularly trying. To conceive DC2 it took three years and three miscarriages inbetween 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@Needanewnamenow I get you. Similar story. OP hasn’t got a clue. This thread effectively needs a trigger warning on it. 2 months

OP give it a year, which is an average amount of time. Please remember Mumsnet is full of people who have waited 2 years, 5 years and more. People who have had gruelling IVF, dealt with fertility investigations, etc and others who have walked away with no children. I do wish you luck but I opened this thread to sympathise with someone and give them advice from an infertility journey. However... 2 months isn’t a credible complaint.

My friend got pregnant immediately with dc1 but with dc2 it took 6 months. Try and be patient

Thank you @bigplanes I opened the thread for similar reasons (I don't actually comment often but dip in now and then when I feel able). Dare I say it, at this point of pretty much giving up on having a second child, OP's post was distressing and she needs a thicker skin with that kind of opener

Another one here saying to be patient and it will happen. DC1 took 3 months and DC2 took 3 years!!

Original poster - firstly sorry if some people are so shocked that you even asked this question after 2 months of trying. This is a place where you should get support and sorry if you didn’t at times.

I fell quickly in the past and now it’s been over 6 months. I worry now and again but according to stats we’re completely normal and not in the ‘problem area’.

SMEP - sperm meets egg plan. Give that a go x

Sorry guys, youre right my title make its sound much worse, im not sure how to edit it. I am really sorry for anyone who has suffered loss whilst carrying a baby or has been trying for so long, I can't imagine the pain of a miscarriage or the frustration of trying to get pregnant for so long.
As I put in my first post I am so grateful for my baby boy, I thought that would be enough but actually you're right it is a bit of a trigger complaining after 2 month of trying. Sorry for being naive, my only experience of conception is a very positive one so to actually get negative tests felt concerning and upsetting but in perspective of many on here I know I am so lucky.

Thanks for so much helpful advice and perspective everyone. I'm going to keep trying and try out the advice, and try to not picture the perfect age gap I wanted but be grateful for whatever I get.

I'm going to stop replying now to stop this thread from keep going to the top of active threads because I don't want to upset anyone else who has already been through so much.