TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

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Evening all 💕

BFP list

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@Pugprincess
@IWM20
@Lollol86

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@MrsK21
@MichT4
@Hayley19835
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Northernsoul90
@Firevie
@chloedancer897
@Happyvibes
@Bl0ndi3
@eclipsechips
@Will867
@Jazper
@susiebluebell
@Cici89
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@ladysamee
@Sully84
@LAcain
@gizmo167

If anyone else would like to join please do.

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@2020wish @fafi just another example of needing cash to get anywhere in this country!

@Firevie we DTD this morning and will just keep at it as much as poss just to make sure. The ideal would be to have a period anyway, because that sac has to come out, but obviously I wouldn't grumble if a rogue bean wanted to lodge itself in. Just going to take it as it comes for now xx

Sorry I've been MIA. We've DTD regularly and I think I've just ovulated so we have a good chance at least. So now the hard tww!! It feels ages away. Tbh I think it won't be this month but you never know!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 I hope you're all well & sending out positive vibes for BFP's for all!! ❤️

@MichT4 that’s the spirit! Have some fun with dtd! We haven’t dtd in AGES! 7th august!!!! So I’m feeling frisky lol and now have to hold off until I’m back home lol
@Pancakes7 fingers crossed you have caught this month! We need lots of BFPs xxx

@Firevie yea I will test again on Monday I reckon, by that time surely if its good news it will show! Been googling too much and my head is fried but seems to be that if youre having any preg related symptoms then your hcg levels should be high enough to get a BFP but since I had 2 BFN's already, last one on Wednesday I reckon my AF is just late!

@Northernsoul90 this scan was at the epu. But they have discharged me now. So I would have to contact gp to be referred again if I have any problems.

Thanks everyone! It is a relief. I will still get worried though I can’t help it. Don’t feel out of the woods yet. I have noticed though the sacs bigger this time even though it’s earlier so that must have been a sign something was amiss before, was only 4.8cm at 7+3 but I’m 6+5 and 6.8cm... just something I hadn’t thought of until now. I expected to be a couple of days out so I’m not too concerned by the 5+6 today but I’ve just messaged a private scan place to try and get one for a week on Sunday when I would have said I’d be 8 weeks (when I had the complete MC last time). Then I would like another at 10 weeks if I get that far. Then back to hospital at 12 weeks. I’m just trying to take one day at a rune because although it’s exciting its so scary too xx

@MichT4 so glad you are more positive today. Hoping you can get a move on with tests etc but don't fret too much about them. Just keep doing what you're doing and try not to focus too much on what's going on inside (easier said than done!)

@Diorissimo1985 great news! Take the rising hcg as a positive. As the other girls have said on here, some bleeding is normal in pregnancy and related to hormones and changes to your cervix.

@Firevie Sod's law that you might ovulate soon! When is OH back?

Had a bit of a down day today. 3 pregnancy announcements on my Facebook feed and my nephew just had a baby (unplanned, isn't with the mum anymore, he very young). I just feel like I see pregnancy all around me and I feel like a bit of a failure.

However had my second Accupuncture session yesterday and it's been great. I keep reacting badly to one of the needles and she said it's my stress pressure point so she thinks this is where a lot of my issues are. Also, with the Ava I can see how little I'm actually sleeping. Average 5-6 hours a night and only 20% deep sleep. So I'm sure that's not helping either! Anyone any tips for better sleep??

@Pugprincess great news for you today! I'm sure it was lovely seeing a little bean in there xo

Please could I join this thread? I've had one previous MC around 14 years ago, one successful pregnancy DS13 and a chemical just earlier this month. I'm 40 and feel like this year will be my last chance. I think I'm around 6dpo, so in the 2WW, and need support to not test too early!! I seem to be killing other threads I post on today so hopefully you ladies will not mind adding me to this one.

@Diorissimo1985 Great news that HCG has risen!! Xx

@chloedancer897 Sorry that you've had a down day today - it's so tough seeing announcements on Facebook 💔. I'm not sure what you can do to get better overall sleep quality, are you quite anxious and worked up about things? I've just started using the Balance app for meditation, they personalise it to you and there are specific sleep meditations on there whether that would help? Xx

@GanderousGoose Welcome! I'm sorry for your losses 💖. It's so hard not to test early isn't it! I'm 4dpo today and trying not to symptom spot so we are in the tww together. Are you on a few different ttc threads? Everyone is really friendly and supportive on here 😊 xx

@GanderousGoose welcome to this thread. It's full of positivity and support so you are most welcome here. Don't know if I can help with the symptom spotting and early testing as I regularly do both but sure we can compare squinter tests and symptoms together 😂😂

@Northernsoul9 I have the headspace app. I've always been a bad sleeper but I didn't realise just how bad it was! No wonder I'm constantly exhausted! I'll download that other app too. Thanks for the suggestion xo

Just wanted to say thanks for all your well wishes for today, little bean was hanging out in there and all good, now measuring a couple days ahead at 11w1... this was a private scan, 10 sleeps until the NHS one 😬

@Pugprincess congrats on your scan x

@Firevie definitely look like peak is going to be soon, hope it holds off a couple days for you 🤞

@chloedancer897 I think 20% deep sleep is the high end of normal, but for the actual hours asleep; I'm rubbish at it and August is the first month I've averaged over 6 1/2 hrs this year but the only things I've found have helped improve it is getting into bed earlier and trying to not use my phone for the last hour before bed to help wind down x

@SmileyT @Pugprincess congratulations on your scans ❤️❤️❤️

@SmileyT Brilliant news!!! So pleased for you 💖.

Can I ask what was the earliest scan that you booked? I'm thinking ahead here but when I get my bfp I want to get a scan as early as possible but actually want to be able to see something so maybe 2 weeks after bfp at about the 6 week mark I was thinking... because I had a blighted ovum I won't feel pregnant until I actually see a fetal pole so will be anxious to get a scan in early xx

@SmileyT thank you hun and congrats on your scan! Yay 😀
@chloedancer897 thanks I can actually feel my abdomen being a bit tight sorry can’t explain it better. I’m back with OH Tuesday morning so just need to get in DTD on Tuesday and Wednesday and hope peak isn’t until Monday. Xxx

@SmileyT so glad your scan went well! Is the next one your booking in scan? Another big milestone!❤️❤️❤️

@Firevie sounds like you know your body well! Is OH back Tuesday?

@SmileyT ahhh amazing, are you starting to relax now? Xx

@Northernsoul90 6 weeks would be perfect for seeing the Fetal pole xx

@SmileyT congratulations on your scan too 😊

I’ve got my private one booked now for 11am Sunday 6th September xx

@chloedancer897 lol well I’m not v good with understanding / analysing cm unfortunately! Never know the difference 🙈 oH is back in London already but I’m still in Vienna. I go back to London Tuesday morning so just hope my peak will hold off until Monday so I have a chance to dtd on ovulation day and the date after. Well that’s all in my head anyway but as we all know when it comes to TTC there’s no such thing as controlling our bodies! So guess will just see how it goes. Will dtd with OH anyway on Tuesday as it’s been a month and I need to get myself some loving lol 😂 xxx

@SmileyT that's great news glad little bean is cooking away nicely xx

@chloedancer897 for sleeping I use YouTube meditation - if you type in fertility meditation there are some good ones more than 30mins long & I just play them and I never get to the end of them I’m asleep before I know it ha.

@Northernsoul90 good question re the early scans. I had a private one at 8wk last time - all was well then. So think I will do 8 & 10 private - then NHS at 12. Unless they allow more early scans through NHS when I go to my appt on 9th sept xxx

@chloedancer897 @Northernsoul90 thank you ladies. Really pleased to be here. Nice to have people to talk to.

@HappyVibes sorry, you've probably said, but what's your appointment on the 9th?

@GanderousGoose welcome to the group, and sorry to hear of your losses. I hope you get a lovely bfp in a few days

@chloedancer897 yeah I'm trying to not rely on the tests, I think I'll be waiting a long while so might as well put it to the back of my mind. Feel like there's a long road ahead
Sorry you've had a tough day. I generally still feel a bit like that too. My mum came over and I can't really be normal, my family generally hurt me yesterday with their comments, I just want to shut myself away.

@SmileyT amazing news on your scan, so close to 12 weeks too. I hope you have a big smile on your face this evening

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@Firevie I never was good with CM either until I paid more attention to it. And now I definitely notice the EWCM but I couldn't rely on just that. Do you temp too? I've found it so much more helpful than just the OPKs. A month is a long time for both of you! Fingers crossed it falls at the right time and if not, enjoy it anyway!

@HappyVibes I have sleepcasts on my headspace app that are great for helping me fall asleep but I'm on my phone before bed so I'm sure that doesn't help. I can get to sleep ok but it's staying asleep that's my problem!lol

@MichT4 I'm so sorry your family have been so hurtful. I actually haven't told any of my family members as I know they just wouldn't get it. It makes it quite lonely at times but I just couldn't deal with all the questions and judgement from them really. I think your idea of not telling your sister anything in the future until later is a good idea as they clearly don't know how much their words are hurting you xo