TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

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Evening all 💕

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@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@Pugprincess
@IWM20
@Lollol86

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@VP91x
@MrsK21
@MichT4
@Hayley19835
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Northernsoul90
@Firevie
@chloedancer897
@Happyvibes
@Bl0ndi3
@eclipsechips
@Will867
@Jazper
@susiebluebell
@Cici89
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@ladysamee
@Sully84
@LAcain
@gizmo167

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@MinnieMouse4

@KatiePlus3 I see what you mean. The tests look so similar as well! I may have a pink dye one in the house so I will check! Xx

@MinnieMouse4 Defo! Keep us posted :) xx

Hi everyone! How’s everyone doing today? Nothing to report from me really so I’ve just been staying in the background but feel like I need a bit of support so reaching out. My husbands sister lives in Norway and has a little baby boy who will turn two in two weeks. She is currently also pregnant with her second. She told us when I had just had my ERPC so it was really difficult for me so I distanced myself a little but then messaged her that I was really pleased for her etc. Anyway, OH just came over and said he’d like to fly to Norway for the weekend for our nephew’s birthday. I am not sure. As much as I wish her all the best for her pregnancy I don’t think I have it in me to sit through an entire weekend with pregnancy chat etc. I just wouldn’t ask anything but she talks a lot so inevitably she would talk about her pregnancy. By the way I should mention we didn’t tell her about my mc. Anyway so I told OH I’m not sure I can sit through an entire weekend with a toddler and a pregant sister in law. We didn’t finish the conversation. He just left the room and back to his laptop. Am I being selfish? Xx

@Firevie definitely not being selfish! Especially if the sis in law doesn't know about the mc, she might take it the wrong way if you don't feel like chatting pregnancy and baby stuff. You need to do what's best to protect your mental health.
I was in a similar situation where I declined to attend a baby shower next weekend because I don't want to put on a brave face and then have a breakdown later on.
Do what's right for you. If OH is insistent then perhaps he can visit on his own? X

@Firevie I don’t think you are being selfish at all. I agree with @MrsK21 that maybe OH can visit by himself? Xx

@KatiePlus3 ahh so we're cycle twins 💜 are you planning on waiting for AF due date before testing or a certain dpo? X

Thanks @MrsK21@MinnieMouse4 for your kind words. I did say to OH he could go himself but he said he’d want me to be there with him but if it comes up again I may just push him to go on his own. I also told him it would be different if I was pregnant already then I might feel differently but given where we are at the moment, I just don’t feel strong enough 😔 xxx

Lil update from me for the past 2 weeks I have been silently watching with fear that I had lost my baby. I didnt even tell my partner. I decided not to get it checked out and choose to pray hope and stay stress free.
Today all scans showed baby is there pretty active and I'm officially into my 2nd trimester.
I just want to say to all those still waiting for bfp it well happen when you least expect have faith most importantly try and live life and not get so invested in ttc. I have seen a couple of comments about how others have got it and I just want to say you will be surprised how many women go through this I guarantee in your circle of friends they can relate if they felt open to talk about it.
I pray we all end up with our miracle babies and can look back and smile at these months as its just a test of strength. X

@DBTJ awww so happy to read about you being in second trimester! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and a lovely healthy baby! Thanks for your kind words. I’m having a bit of a low day today so these words have come at the right time. Thank you xx

@MinnieMouse4 all the test I have predicted have been correct. I can see a line without even squinting hopefully I keep up my correct predictions keep me posted.

@DBTJ thank you I will update again tomorrow! I think the plan going forward is to use up all the cheapie tests I have and then use CBD at the weekend if I can hold out that long!

@MinnieMouse4 - I see a line too!

@Northernsoul90 - I am the same age as you. When I had the private genetic test, I had a follow up appointment to chat things through. I was surprised how many chromosomal issues there are with over 35s. She explained when we get older; there can be errors in the replication of chromosomes, which causes the defect then miscarriage. It’s quite a high percentage. One of my best friends is going through IVF now and many of the fertilised eggs failed to progress due to genetic issues. Only two out of ten made it to embryo. She is over 40 though.

If I were you I would go and request another progesterone test to see what it’s measuring at a private place. Your lining is fine so that’s not an issue. I’m a bit wary of clomid as I hear it can stop CM production which is essential. Again I fell pregnant when my previous cycle was a 9 day LP so It might not be an issue.

I’d check your progesterone and take it from there. :). I might go into that chat and have a read 👍 Thanks for all the info. Always good to hear more. I’m not going for all the supplementation as yet as I’ve heard so many mixed reviews on that. I eat really well so hoping that found for something. 😘

@Firevie

Totally not selfish. I completely understand. I was in a similar position with a gathering after miscarriage. I ended up actually messaging my friend and telling her whAt happened. This way she knew to be sensitive around me. I told her that I wasn’t expecting her to not talk about it of course. But she knew not to constantly bang on about it all on the time. Unfortunately, one time (3 days after my surgery) someone asked me at a party if I was going to try for baby number 2 soon as my son needed a sibling. How I didn’t burst into tears I have no idea. ThT was so hard. Everyone’s different but I found telling people quite liberating and I was surprised by the number of people who’d been through the same thing. I know everyone’s different but I thought I’d share my experience.

Hugs 🤗

@RichmondLady1981 many thanks for your message! I def think talking to couple of friends has been helpful but I think I’ve kind of reached my limit of how many people I want to tell now and also I don’t really want to talk about it much anymore but try and move onto the next but at the same time don’t yet feel ready to be stuck in the same house with my sister in law not being able to indulge in her pregnancy as much as I would have otherwise had. Anyhow I think / hope OH will understand and either go alone or just not go. I mean we are in the middle of a pandemic right now so hopping on a plane is not really anything that needs to be done unless absolutely necessary anyway lol xxx

@Firevie that’s totally understandable!

Agreed it’s not the best time to travel anyway is it so you could blame the Whole situation.

Have a nice evening. X

@HappyVibes Great news that your appointment went well - everything sounds very reassuring. Hopefully you won't need it in another 3 months anyway! Xx

@SmileyT Amazing news!! 🥰 yes definitely start to relax and enjoy! Xx

@Bl0ndi3 Happy birthday! I hope you had an amazing time celebrating 🥳 xx

@Firevie No you aren't being selfish! I would the feel the same! Xx

@DBTJ Brilliant news!! Wishing you a healthy and happy second and third trimester 🥰 xx

@RichmondLady1981 I think you tagged the wrong person with the comment about tests for progesterone 😊... how are you getting on? What cycle day are you now? Sorry I forget as so many are on the chat. Cd 4 for me today so nothing interesting to report 🤣 xx

@Bl0ndi3 cycle twins indeed! I've never actually done this before with OPKs, I've only ever just gone by a phone app, this is my first cycle using the kits. I havent been temping etc, I will do that next cycle if no luck this time. So I had a positive OPK at 11am on the 30th august which was cycle day 13 and it faded the next morning so roughly when would I have ovulated? Xx

@Firevie you are definitely not being selfish, you do what's best for you lovely: I'm so sorry you are having a bad day. Take each day as it comes and before you know it you will have that bfp xx

@KatiePlus3 I would say you probably ovulated on cd14 as I'm sure you ovulate around 24 hours after a peak OPK? I got peak on CBD on cd27 and then a peak OPK on cd28 so I'm working on ovulation being CD29 :) xx

@Wishingfornumber2 Ooh, I'm glad your BT went fine! When do you get the results?x

@HappyVibes sounds like you've got lots of nice treats to look forward to. I hope you are feeling better today, especially after your appointment where you got some clear next steps xx

@Sully84 I think the wellbeing fertility scans are so bloody useful, I have had two now and they have been really helpful. I'd recommend if you are in a position to get one, the sonographer goes through everything with you and then you have the report to take away if anything comes up and you want to take it to the GP. Great that you will get day21 bloods x

@chloedancer897 I'm so glad that you are taking some more relaxed time for yourself - the massage sounds fab I hope you enjoy! You won't be here alone, it will do you the world of good to just step back from it and all the restrictions. Obviously you'll be aware of FW etc. I hope your OH is okay too xx

@familybythesea day 21 bloods, definitely push for them. Day 3 are no use without them. Did you speak to them?x

@HopeForRainbowbaby how have you been getting on? I hope you are okay xx

@Pugprincess how are you? xx

@MinnieMouse4 I can see a really faint line on that test, the clearblue digi week indicator tests are their most sensitive at 10miu. The clearblue early testers are 25miu which makes no sense, but there we are, haha! xx

@Bellabubble that is handy that you get a prediction as well as a confirmation. You definitely covered yourself well. I was saying above that the clearblue week indicators are 10miu so if you are going to use them then go for that one. If you are going to get a private scan definitely get a wellbeing/fertility/pelvic scan every clinic calls them something different. They will check your ovaries/uterus/lining/general area they will be able to tell you if they see any structural problems and if you go at the right time they can confirmation ovulation if you go pre ovulation they can tell you where you are likely to ovulate from and when if you go a few days before :) xx

@Bl0ndi3 happy 30th! Glad you had a fab time. I'm a day behind you do 6dpo today and the symptom spotting has begun, haha.

@Firevie I don't think you are being selfish, he probably walked away because he didn't know what to say. Also, he probably wants to go. Would he go by himself? You have every right to not want to be in that situation and he needs to respect your feelings on this. As adults we sometimes put ourselves in really uncomfortable situations emotionally to protect others and it isn't fair on our mental health. It is okay to say no! xx

@DBTJ Brilliant news that all is well with your little baby and wow in the second trimester that has gone quickly. I'm sorry you were probably suffering in silence. Lots of love to you x

Little update on me - CD19/6dpo. Symptom spotting a tiny bit. Getting a stitch like pain on my left ovary area. CM is still creamy and temps are on the up. Have everything crossed in case something has happened this cycle. Hope everyone else is good too x

@VP91x really hoping this is your month 🤞🏻 xx

@Lollol86 thank you 😘 how are you? X

@VP91x apart being exhausted I'm ok. I'm finding the kids going back really hard as I'm
having to log on early to get some work done, then do the school run and work right up until it's pick up time again 😴
How are you doing? Xx