TTC Thread #3

[Daffodil21]

Continuing the previous thread:

TTC Thread #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3941503-ttc-thread-2

Shit, sorry @daffodil21. Hoping it's an isolated incident and not a sign of something else xx

Thanks @Tofu35 tried to book bloods this morning but the useless person on the phone wouldn't book me in so have to go via the midwife who of course is out on calls all day and may not be able to get back to me today. They booked me in direct at the gp last time for the same reason so I don't know why she wouldnt! Might try again later and hopefully get someone else

It is amazing how much the person who answers the phone can make or break your experience/treatment @daffodil21. I had a friend who swears she would hang up if she heard a certain voice because she knew she'd be on the road to nowhere 😂

Hope you manage to get something booked in, you'd imagine with your history, this would make you a high priority within the early pregnancy group.

@Tofu35 thanks. After an embarrassing meltdown on the phone and me being ruder than I would have liked (I had to apologise afterwards 🙈). I've got some bloods booked for tomorrow and Thursday, to see if HCG is rising enough. The midwife did suggest a scan again, but actually we've decided not to, and to just see what my HCG is doing for now

Bloody hell @Daffodil21. Do you need help beating them with a stick? I hope everything's okay! I completely agree with @Tofu35 with your history they should be more on the ball. I hope it goes okay tomorrow and until tomorrow actually.

Managed to avoid posting while I waited in the clinic waiting room- but home now! Had my hycosy today, like a smear test with additional ultrasound (with what I'll describe as a dildo camera) and the dye test to check there were no blockages. So I'm now sitting with a sanitary pad on because the dye just 'leaks out' over the next few hours.

A few of my friends were excited because they had a positive result after their hycosy, so my fingers are crossed :)

Aww crossing fingers for you @Tofu35!

I am now in the one week wait, and already convinced it hasn’t happened again. Feel the same as I do every month. Does anyone actually feel any different in the first couple of weeks? I’ve also just found out another friend is pregnant. Anyone else just want to grill pregnant friends about how long they’ve been trying, what vits they take, what position, legs in the air or no legs in the air?! Or am I just going mad?!

Hope everyone else is keeping a better hold on their sanity

@cew19 I think my last few friends who were pregnant (including two lockdown babies) told me how long they were trying for- one had several cycles of IVF and had given up, one had a history of infertility before their first and this is their second, and the other was "first month trying'. Although I could have swung for her partner who started joking *why do people say it's hard, just have sex on the right day and it'll happen"

I keep the first two in mind when thinking about my own TTC. It took a while for them, and now they have a wee one.

Never asked them about positions though!

@Bramleyapples13 thanks. The whole things is a compete shit show. I still haven't had the obstetrician call me, so much for 'urgent referral' (it's been 2 weeks now). I finally received my recurrent mc referral letter through the post today, along with a really confusingly worded letter which manages to read like they're not testing the last one, the have yet to test it, or they have tested it and found nothing, all at the same time. Feeling fed up and like there is just no hope for pregnancy number 4. Pregnancy number fucking 4?? How the fuck did that happen.

@Tofu35 glad it went ok! Fingers crossed!!!! I'm not sure I could have refrained myself with your friend's partner!!!

@CEW19 this time and last time I wasn't surprised by a positive result because I could feel something going on in there, but then who knows if it's just my mind playing tricks on me like it doesn't every other month. Hoping you get your Christmas positive!!

Have you had any more spotting @Daffodil21?

Hope this is the one for you too. We all deserve a Christmas miracle now!

@CEW19 not yet, but that doesn't mean much - last time I had spotting one evening then nothing for a whole week

No Christmas miracle here, the opposite actually as AF has come 4 days early Had thought maybe implantation, but I use resting heart rate to track my cycle and that's gone down too. Bleurgh. Going to make an appointment with GP now I think. Feeling so disappointed, was so sure this would be our month. I blame Hollywood movies lol

@CEW19 I'm so sorry, and for AF to come early is just taking the piss, really. I suppose it puts you out of your misery sooner rather than later but it's still really shit. Have all the wine with your Christmas dinner! How long have you been TTC for now? I'm sorry you probably have said already but sometimes I lose track!

Got the doc calling me in 25 mins to let me know if my HCG has risen enough for this pregnancy to be looking ok after the pink. Absolutely bricking it.

We started trying last Christmas, so I know it could just be one of those things, but it's so shit every month anyway. Just thinking back to last Christmas when we were both so excited about the prospect of either having a baby or being pregnant this Christmas. I feel like I may have felt differently about it if it hadn't happened this year, but I've been working from home since March, have barely seen family or friends all year, and haven't been anywhere, so nothing to distract me.

Fingers crossed for you @Daffodil21 you deserve some positive news. Let us know how you get on. X

@cew19 that's a good point, working from home has definitely reduced the distractions available!

@daffodil21 hope you get some answers today, we're all hoping for you!

@CEW19 I remember feeling the exact same last Christmas (we started TTC just before the previous Christmas). It's definitely worth getting your bloods done etc, just to see if there's anything they can do to help you along the way.

My results have doubled! I'm honestly so relieved, I don't know how I would have dealt with it if they hadn't. Obviously anything can change at anytime, but for now at least, everything looks ok. Just hoping it stays that way

@Daffodil21 we had some tests done at a private clinic back in September (all fine). The doctor called me just now and she said since it looks like I ovulate fine and my cycles are relatively regular, I should conceive normally, it's just taking some time. She's booked me in for another set of 21-day bloods anyway, and referred me to a fertility specialist but she said the wait list is at least 2 years. We're about to go into another lockdown in Wales so everything on hold again. She did say that it might be an idea to go private for the HSG dye test thing to check if my tubes are blocked, rather than wait for the referral, so will book that in the new year if nothing happens. Sorry, life story or what!

So relieved that your results came back with good news. Hope you are able to relax slightly over Christmas now X

Yay @daffodil21! Glad things are still looking positive for you :) some nice news for your weekend!xx

@Daffodil21 so happy to hear about your numbers doubling!! Great news to start your weekend.

@CEW19 I'm so sorry that AF got you. I feel your pain. A 2 year waiting list is ridiculous! I was told that I'm facing a 1 year wait (London). Are there no other tests you can do on the NHS between now and then?

I'm doing my 21 day bloods next week as well as my first ever smear test (eek!!)

@Tofu35 glad to hear your test went well. When do you find out the results? Also, is a hycosy and HSG the same thing?

@acaciabluebell I believe the difference is a HSG uses xray and the hycosy is an ultrasound. Both use a dye/solution to see if there are any issues/blockages in falopian tubes.

I found out on the day- they showed me the screen and I could see the dye travel through. So it was nice to be able to leave the clinic with some semblance of answers (even if it is 'everything is okay, it's just taking a bit longer for you')

Just nipped in for a quick read to catch up and seeing fantastic news @Daffodil21! And also for @Tofu35 for getting some news. @acaciabluebell your first smear? It's the oddest thing ever but it's over very fast (I have one once a year), are you okay about it? @CEW19, how will you go about booking the HSG test?

I suppose little steps for all of us are good things 🤗

@Bramleyapples13 yeah, I just turned 25 which is why I've not had one before. I've seen pictures and it looks so freaky! Is it okay to have one in the two week wait?

I have to say I don't know. It might be worth ringing, that's something that's never occurred to me and probably should have! 😂 I would always advocate having smears, having one pretty much saved my life.