Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@meganlea, @beckyBP I just did another one and it’s pretty much stark white - so maybe this morning’s was just a fluke. The cheapies I have need 25 hcg so I’ll try a FRER in the morning and that’ll clear things up! I’m sure at 10dpo they would show something if it was there x

@meganlea I've read the same thing! I think even if you O before he does it has the same affect 🤔

@Amy259 i wish I did 😂 I just want to get clean straight away! Luckily we're both exactly he same with that! This one is probably too late in the day so ignore that and just see what the FRER in the morning says 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽 xxxx

@beckyBP that’s so funny - imagine one of you loved a cuddle and the other one was like nah sorry I’m off for a shower 😂😂

Oh really? I thought sometimes you got positives later in the day early on because hcg rises so sometimes you can get it stronger at night? Oh who knows!! It’s all just too much 😂🙈 I’m definitely cramping today though so either af is coming a few days early or it’s something vaguely promising.

As a side note, I took just my FRER downstairs and hid it for the morning (so I can eventually surprise him, I don’t tell him when I’m testing) and I took it out the packet and it has the deepest indent line already!! I’ve taken a photo so I don’t confuse it with a faint second line tomorrow 🙈

Hey girls how you all doing?

@Amy259 cuddle camp I like that 😂 we too enjoy a cuddle. But tbf that is partly because we usually dtd at nighttime so we both go bed after 😂

Hey @rosiej95! My DH is normally gubbed during the week at night so more of our dtd is either mornings or a quickie in the evening 😂 except at weekends, then it’s often night time.

I’m okay - FRER was negative this morning so I think I’m out this month. The control line wasn’t full though, it was patchy and broken? So it could be an invalid test.. either way, yet more waiting! I was so sure this month, I just feel so different.. but oh well!

@Amy259 still chance tho 🤞 when's af due?

Well.. app is saying today's ovulation day, been looking into cm and what to look out for this month & managed to dtd ALOT! so I have everything 🤞 will continue to dtd in the next few days as well tbf just incase app has it wrong.
Given it a proper good go this month & thoroughly enjoyed myself 😂🤷🏼‍♀️
Now to get through the next 2 weeks as calmly as possible 😬🙈

@rosiej95 not 100% sure but I think around tues/wed. I’ve felt rotten all weekend and the thought of wine made me feel sick which is verrrry unlike me 😂 and knackered but awake all night, but tests still neg so I must just be a bit unwell.

That sounds really positive! Yeah a couple more times can’t hurt! I think we should do an extra once or twice after o day from now on, maybe stop too soon. Glad you’ve enjoyed it all this month though!! Makes a nice change from us all stressing about it x

Feeling a bit fed up today. DH has a dull ache in his groin, lower back and one of his testicles are a tad swollen making it really uncomfortable for him to walk or sit down or be comfortable in any position. He went to the Drs on Monday last week and just over a phone call (because of covid) they said it could be Epididymitis and prescribed him 2 weeks of anti biotics and asked him to do a urine test to check for infections. According to the NHS website, this is quite common for people that have an STI or a UTI but UTIs are quite uncommon in men and he isn't having any problems with peeing or his bladder. Now we know it's not an STI either and the urine tests came back normal. It has been a full week and it's not changed at all if anything it's gotten more and more uncomfortable for him. Also on the NHS website, it says with anti biotics, the pain should go after a few days but it may take a the full 2 weeks to be fully recovered. He called them up today and the Dr said to wait another week to finish the meds and then wait another 2 weeks after that for it to go. But surely it shouldn't take that long when every article online including the NHS website says it should be gone a few days after the meds! We just feel like the Drs aren't taking him seriously, he's asked to go in for an examination and they've told him to wait another 3 weeks before they even have a look?! You'd think they'd want to look before dishing out anti biotics surely?? He can't even take the dog out and a day at work is really hard for him as he works half his week sometimes full days doing manual labour. I'm sad that it means we won't be able to TTC this month but his health comes first and I'm not mad at him, I'm mad at the Drs who just seem to be palming him off and possibly wrongly diagnosing him. I've told him to just finish the anti biotics and ring again next Monday if it's still the same. I'm just really hoping he gets well soon for his own sake and so we can TTC again. I'm genuinely wondering what it could be though, he's thinking the worst as his uncle had testicular cancer around his age but I've told him not to worry at all about anything like that although that thought is in the back of my mind too. Or it could be all the TTC DTD and his ball has gone in to over drive lmao, IDK. Just frustrating having to push TTC back possibly for another 5 weeks! I'm just absolutely praying that the Drs are right and the meds will kick in ASAP but I just have a feeling that that's not even what it is.

Sorry for ranting, just had to get it off my chest, I'm feeling gutted that I may have to miss a month TTC and not to mention the sexual frustration too. I think he'd still try to have sex when peak comes because he wants this just as much if not more than me, but I don't want him to do this at the expense of his health. Anyway, I'm not really posting for advice because none of us are medical experts but if anyones OH have experienced anything like this let me know!!.

Hope everyone else is okay?? Hope you're feeling okay today @Amy259 , it's not over til AF comes! xx

@meganlea I’m really sorry to hear that, what a shame for both of you. Your poor DH in pain as well as it being a pain that affects ttc. I would definitely be encouraging him to keep on at the doctors or even a trip to a&e if it’s still sore next week and they still won’t do anything.
You’re so right to put ttc on the back burner this week but I can imagine that’s sad and frustrating even if you know it’s the right thing!

I’m okay thank you - took a FRER this morning that had a pink second line but it was faint. Luckily I didn’t get my hopes up because I know they’re known for indents/evaps because I’ve just been to the loo and it looks like af is here! I might stop using first response...

@Amy259 Yeah I know, of all places it had to be his bloody ball! Haha. Yeah he's already mentioned going to A & E but it isn't constant, if he rests enough the pain goes and with ibuprofen he doesn't feel anything so who knows what it is. I've told him it might even just be a muscle strain but he knows his own body more than me and only time will tell. For now I'm just going to focus on temping and LH testing still, even if we can't DTD this cycle I can get an idea on the day I ovulate so it's not a completely wasted cycle.

Omg really, that's honestly so shit! Those tests need banning, getting peoples hopes up like that. Hope your PMS symptoms aren't too bad, take the new few days to be sad about the situation, pig out, chill and watch some good Christmas films with your OH before getting back on the TTC hype xx

@meganlea bless him, that does sound like inflammation/pulling something if it goes away with rest and ibuprofen, rather than something more 🤞🏻. Hopefully that means it’ll heal faster! And yeah definitely still track your cycle. I didn’t last month and it actually in the end made it worse because I didn’t know when to expect anything. According to my app af is two days earlier than expected.

I’ll attach the photo but I imagine the picture quality will be shit online, but there’s a clear second line. I think I’ll be sticking to cheapies and digitals! Xx

@Amy259 wow I can see that line without having to zoom in or change the brightness! How deceiving are they!! I'd be so gutted seeing that then AF coming I can't imagine how you're feeling what an emotional roller coaster. Deffo stick to the cheaper ones or the blue ones I've heard are supposed to be more accurate.

Do you think you'll go back to tracking now then or just continue as you are?

And yeah I'm leaning more towards that or at least I'm hoping it's that. I'm going to spend the next few weeks running around after him, you sit down and protect those treasures of yours we need them for a baby haha. (Almost vomm'ed in my mouth calling them treasures, they definitely don't look like treasure.) xx

Hey, may i join please?

Close friends have announced that they are pregnant and it has set something off in both my DH and myself. We're ready ..

I feel like i've learnt alot by just reading through this thread, it's really opened my eyes. Thank you (Still not learnt all the acronyms though).

I'm 30 next month and I've started taking the seven seas folic acid and have been monitoring my cycle since coming off the pill in September. Never heard of SMEP before until today, i'm on CD07 so will officially be DTD from tomorrow onwards. I have OPK's in the post and due to be delivered tomorrow ..
I honestly don't recognise myself right now, a year ago i would have run a mile at the thought of getting pregnant but now it's like i'm a woman on a mission.

xxx

@meganlea thankfully I’d be wary of any test with a line that faint just because of my chemical so I was pretty guarded.. but still got a surprise when I saw af arrived.
Yeah I’m going to go back to tracking so I know when to expect stuff. Like I’m not sure if I ov early this cycle or my luteal phase was short... so I’m going to track but won’t stress/schedule dtd because we both really hated that.

Hahaha far from treasures but yes, fairly essential!!

@Linny1390 welcome! Ha you sound just like the rest of us, so you’ll be in good company here!! Today is day 1 of my 5th cycle ttc and I’m starting to forget what it felt like not to be on this rollercoaster and feel carefree 😂

@Amy259 Yeah it's probably best, at least you can keep things under control to a certain extent and you're well prepared and know exactly what days you're on.

@Linny1390 Hi! Welcome and good luck on your journey I hope it's a short one. :) I was the exact same as you, up until around 6 months ago I swore I wouldn't have kids because of effort, hassle, my love of uninterrupted sleep and being able to spend money on whatever I want every month! But that has all changed now, I pondered the meaning of life for a while and thought I want to experience everything there is to offer and now I can't imagine a future without kiddies in! This forum is full of women on a mission, I love it. You'll fit right in ;-)

@meganlea sorry to hear about that! Poor husband! Hope it gets sorted for you both quickly.

Sounds like the drs are being a right pain with it.. really not fair for him.

Wow @Amy259 I would have fully said that's a positive. Are you sure it's AF?

Welcome to the journey @Linny1390 try and enjoy it and enjoy the process

Hope everyone else is ok xxx

@beckyBP yeah def AF - early too! So can’t be a chemical. And there was only about 4 hours between the test and af so I’m sure it’s an evap line.. apparently frer are notorious for it. But if you google it, everyone blames blue dyes for it too! So unless it was really strong or digital I’d always be hesitate, especially after a week of positives with the CP. How are you this week?

I’ve just ordered the impatient women’s guide to getting pregnant book, it gets rave reviews as being quite lighthearted but informative. And I’m definitely an impatient woman trying to get pregnant 😂

@meganlea they should still see you if they feel they need to so I would deffo push for that :/ sorry it's a bit up in the air for you atm, hopefully he's back to himself soon.

@Amy259 That really looks like a positive?? :/ this ttc journey is so cruel sometimes

@Linny1390 hey 👋 I'm still unsure of the acronym's but I've found google to be helpful when I'm not sure on something 😂
Good old google is my best friend since ttc 🙈🤦🏼‍♀️

So.... think I've ovulated today, from what I've read about cm 🤞 so we've dtd 4 days in a row including twice today 😂 hoping to do it in the morning & then hopefully I've covered all basis? 🤷🏼‍♀️
I'm back to work next month & will litrally not have a life or the energy before Xmas so would be nice to happen this month 😂

@Amy259 sorry doll. Really frustrated for you! It's so hard to know isn't it!

Ooo let us know how it is. I haven't heard of it.

Yeah I'm good thanks doll. I've just booked a reflexology session for Wednesday as apparently it's really good for trying to conceive. We shall see. Think I ovulate around Saturday.

Bloody hell @rosiej95 you've smashed DTD!! Well done girl. Defo do it tomorrow too. Xx

Hey girls.. nearly Friday!

So.. my friend just told me she's pregnant and I'm SO happy for her but also I'm so gutted! It's like a total wake up call isn't it.

They even said 'when are you having one' and I wanted to scream 'WE'RE TRYING!!!!!!!' But just brushed it off.

My heart hurts 😔❤️

@beckyBP I'm so sorry xx

It will happen. Xx

@beckyBP I personally hate that question 😞 I feel ya tho, its such a weird feeling when your friends announce it. Because on one hand your over the moon
for them but on the other it makes you a little sad. Your a human with feelings ❤️
Chin up hun. Just think when you get your bfp you'll be able to go shopping together 😜

@beckyBP I feel ya! I always feel like a horrible person when I see old school friends or acquaintances (on fb or insta etc) announce their pregnancy because I struggle to just be happy for people without feeling hard done by or jealous. I’m dreading the day my brother in law and his wife announce it because I know they were thinking about starting to try around now.

It’ll happen for us all soon, we just have to keep believing it! ♥️

@rosieb060 @rosiej95 @Amy259 thanks girls. I'd say it's the first time I've been proper gutted and couldn't say anything.

It's just so hard isn't it.

Hope we're all having a lovely Friday night xxx

@beckyBP so frustrating isn't it when you can't shout it from the rooftops 😂

I'm 5dpo today. Counting down the days until 2ww is over 😂
How is everyone else doing? Where are you's in your cycle? :)