Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@maudesid did you see my NC rant earlier in the post 😂 I wouldn’t trust it at all!

I’m okay thank you.. 13dpo and currently 2 days (assuming she doesn’t suddenly appear tonight) late for af. Bfn on strips I have, but they’re standard not early, so they need 25hcg. So basically at this point I don’t have a clue! Zero symptoms for af or bfn really except really sore nipples, which I don’t regularly get for af but have once or twice, so who knows! The tests are stark white though so I’m pretty certain she’s just late. How are you doing?

@Amy259 🤞🏽 no pre AF symptoms is a great sign!

Hope everyone's ok! Nearer the end of AF.. we go again 😂 this is cycle 5! I was convinced I'd be pregnant by now!

@beckyBP big temp drop this morning so I think she’ll be arriving today!

Yeah me too, everyone around me who has tried in the last year or so has gotten pregnant in one or two cycles and I just hoped/thought we’d be the same!

@Amy259 yes I did haha I kind of wish apps didn't exist so we had no choice but to guess ovulation! Don't count yourself out yet! I'm 10dpo and also no signs of af (usually spotting by now) or BFP..won't test until it's late.
@beckyBP sorry it's cycle 5 for you. I saw something helpful the other day from a lady who conceived on cycle 6, she basically said that it felt so long and she was so anxious but 6 months is completely average for healthy couples to conceive and actually a short amount of time. It's the not knowing it if will be this month or ever that makes it feel so long.

@Amy259 you're not out until AF!!

@maudesid totally know what you mean about the apps. If kind of makes you obsessed!

Thanks doll. I know it really isn't that long but like you say, it's the not knowing when. When starting this journey I was convinced it would have happened by now.

Anyway positive thoughts.. 💕

So haven't managed to dtd as much as I would have liked. Only managed it once & that was the day after my predicted ovulation. I'm actually pretty peeved off this month cause no matter how many times I say to my BF there is only a short window I don't think he fully gets it? 😔 & he's either fell asleep or been to tired. I even gave him the heads up at the start of the month like be prepared! 🙈
So I've now ordered clear blue ovulation sticks for next month. (Can tell I'm not very hopeful 😂)

@maudesid I know, imagine we didn’t have apps to obsess over, google to look up everything and anything, social media showing us that every female friend, celeb or influencer seems to be the most fertile human on the planet... I think it would all be much less stressful! Doesn’t stop me looking at the app, google, social media though..😂

@rosiej95 that’s so annoying. I’ve had this a couple of times with DH - he wants to know so he doesn’t miss it but then feels pressured so doesn’t want to know 🙈 he’s getting better though, and we just try to dtd more anyway so that I don’t have to tell him we have to now. Could it be a pressure thing?

@Amy259 I don't think so, I don't tell him when my predicted ovulation days are either & we usually dtd fairly often anyway.
I think it's a case of he genuinely doesn't realise all this stuff to do with ovulation.
We were literally brought up with, You have sex once & you'll be pregnant 🙈😂

It doesn't help cause for some reason I'm less chilled out this month & feeling a little crazy with it all.

@rosiej95 that’s good that you don’t have to tell him because you dtd often enough, I definitely don’t have that luxury 😂 I can just imagine his face if I told him we were just going to dtd every other day for the rest of the cycle after af stopped!!
I know, we spend so many years trying not to get pregnant then discover that in fact it’s a fine art 🙈 I’m sure it’s totally normal to have months that are more stressy than others, maybe if you don’t have as busy a time or other stuff keeping you occupied? I’m sure it’ll pass and you won’t just stay crazy now!!

@Amy259 oh I know! It's like we know how bad it is for us but we have to look anyway. Still no AF for you? I feel very PMS like today so feel like she'll be here in a few days although I usually have spotting for a while before and none yet.

@rosiej95 sorry you didn't manage to dtd much, that was us last month except pretty much nowhere near ovulation. Hopefully you still got in the window if it was just after ovulation you should be ok. It's really hard not to get crazy over it it's one thing we basically have no control over and have to leave to nature which is awful!

Oh my god girls, I just bought a clear blue in Sainsburys because I saw it, decided to just take it 'knowing it would be negative'...Jesus fucking christ it says pregnant 1-2 weeks! Sorry to swear I don't know what to do with myself I thought I'd cry and feel elated when I got a bfp come up with a cute way of telling DH. Nope I feel totally sick I'm shaking no tears and DH is at the pub!!!! Oh my god this cannot be real, I've been told for 10 years I'd struggle to get pregnant I need to talk to someone!

@RLou3 any advice? This isn't how I thought I'd react!

@maudesid okay so firstly breeeeeathe!! Totally normal to get freaked out when you so didn’t expect it!! You’re allowed to be all over the place!
Once it sinks in you’ll be absolutely over the moon, I have no doubt! And you can still do your lovely surprise for DH - don’t let your initial holy shit moment ruin that for you, because I’m sure once you’ve chatted it through and it’s sunk in you’ll be dying to have all those lovely moments!! Congratulations my girl ♥️♥️

@Amy259 thank you, the tears have come reading your message you are officially the first person to know...how mad is the 21st century haha. I almost rang my mom in a panic and thought no because you've dreamed of surprising her just let it sink in. I will tell DH as soon as he's home no idea how people keep it secret for days planning things! I just suddenly feel so scared that we're doing this during a pandemic but I knew that when we started trying..

@maudesid yeah try to hold off telling family so you can surprise them like you’ve dreamt of ♥️ Whereabouts are you based? Hopefully over the next few weeks/months things will change for partners when it comes to hospital visits, and you can always book private scans where DH can go with you (a friend went privately at 11 weeks with DH so that she knew going into her 12 scan alone everything was likely to be absolute fine, which I thought was a great idea). By the time baby is here hopefully this pandemic will be a memory!

Hi girls, I hope you don’t me joining in. I’ve literally just joined Mums Net and have read through every post on this thread right from the start.

Congratulations @maudesid and @RLou3 how very exciting!!

And to the rest of you girls I’ve loved reading your posts and finding reassurance we’re all on this journey together.

I hope you don’t mind me joining in? I have no one else really to talk to it all about. Xxx

@maudesid OH MY GOODNESS!!!! CONGRATULATIONS ❤️❤️❤️ Honestly - I was the same could barely speak. The surprise I was going to do for my DH went out of the window as soon as I saw the positive test!!! It took me about a week for it to sink in and actually be able to talk a bit about it. I’m still a bit on edge and don’t want to talk about it all the time! SO WEIRD!!?!? Don’t know if it hormones or nerves or what!! So happy for you!!!!! Just let it sink in.. it defo takes a while xxxxxxxx

Thank you @Happythoughts91!

@RLou3 Honestly I have imagined the moment for years and yet I reacted so differently to how I expected! DH train gets in at 8.30 I can't eat stomachs churning really hope he's pleased! I think I was so utterly convinced this would be at least 6 months I'm not ready for it mentally but I'm sure I just need to breathe and it will sink it. Already nervous about every negative scenario! How are you now? Have you rung the GP ect?

@Amy259 I'm in the west midlands, I think at the moment it's still on your own for scans and appointments. I would definitely consider a private scan if it meant I wasn't alone but also don't want to think that far..

@maudesid this is absolutely amazing! Congratulations on your bfp!! 😁
How are you feeling? 🥰
I'm in West Midlands too 😊

@Happythoughts91 hey 👋
It's actually pretty lonely not having anyone to speak to about ttc isn't it. none of our friends and family know so I love this little thread.

@rosiej95 sorry love. I agree though, they don't fully get it!

@maudesid omg!!!!! Amazing news! Congratulations doll ❤️❤️ so so happy for you!!!

welcome @Happythoughts91 of course you're welcome to join us!! How's your journey going?
@rosiej95 is right, this is the best thread!! Xxx

Thank you everyone!

It’s been lovely reading everyone stories and knowing we’re all going through the same thing. As it’s certainly over whelming!

This is our first month of TTC for baby #1. We was due to get married in June after 12 years together but obviously that didn’t happen and we didn’t want to put our lives on hold any more.

I came off the pill and had my withdrawal bleed. I’ve got the app Ovia, and thought it wouldn’t be accurate and my cycle would be all over the okay to start with. But I used the clear blue OPK When the app said my fertile week. Had one morning of nothing. Then 3 days of a flashing face and then had the peak. We DTD every day in the fertile week lol I guess we was both eager being the first month.

I’m now in my TWW and definitely symptoms spotting. I guess it’s hard not too. I don’t expect it to happen straight away, I’ve already told myself that I’m going to struggle. I’m literally a worrier and believe everything bass happens to me. Strange I know but I’ve always been the same lol.

I’m also noticing so many baby announcements everywhere. My Instagram is flooded with all things babies. Probably I’m just noticing it more than ever now though.

Anyway I’m rambling. I hope your all doing okay xxx

@Happythoughts91 ah how crazy! We were also meant to get married in June after 12 years together!! And also.. aren't prepared to put our lives on hold!

Sounds like you've definitely covered your fertile window! Well done. And on the symptom spotting.. I think we'd all love to not but it's just so so hard not to! How much longer have you got left to wait?

Xxx

@beckyBP oh wow!! What date was you? We was the 6th. At the moment we rebooked for next June, the 5th. And we’re just going to see how it goes, giving it until February time. If we fall pregnant then we will postpone if not we will still get married.

I’m 7 days past peak ovulation so I’m guessing next Friday? Although I really want to do a test before but I’m going to hold off and try not to be emotional excited being the first month etc.

How are you getting on? Xx

Hi all

I am new here. I haven’t read the whole thread but congratulations to @maudesid !!

Not sure if I’m on the right thread but just seeing if anyone else was super slow to get back into regular cycles after coming off the pill? I have always been like clockwork when I’ve not been on the pill or implant - been on and off since I was 17, now 33.

I came off 3 months ago, had standard withdrawal bleed, had a normal period after 37 days, started tracking my cycle, doing OPKs etc - lots of flashing smileys (10 days worth) but no static. And then...no period. Did a test and got BFN. This cycle has now been 51 days long.

I am a notorious stresshead and get far too worked up about things. This inevitably does not help! Probably scared AF off. Anyway was just seeing if anyone had any experience of this. Hope everyone is keeping safe and well.

Thank you