Wedding postponed 👰🏼 TTC continued

[beckyBP]

Hey ladies,

Just starting a new thread for any COVID brides who have decided to TTC despite their postponed weddings.

We had our heart set on TTC after our June 2020 wedding which obviously didn’t go ahead.

We’re cycle 1 TTC with 2 days until AF due (not testing before late period & TBH can feel it coming)

Totally fallen out of love with wedding planning and just want to carry on with our lives.

Me!

Was due to get married earlier in July and start TTC immediately. Started a month early (after we decided to postpone the wedding) and caught, but it didn't stick unfortunately.

Completely understand not being as bothered about wedding planning. We're going to get legal married in a few weeks and have a big party next year, but I'm far less enthusiastic about it than I thought I would be.

@SequinCola ah we're in very similar boats!! This is our first month TTC after discussing it around original date last month. Pretty sure I can feel AF on her way ☹️

So sorry to hear it didn't stick Hun ❤️ lovely that you're going to do the legal bits soon 🥰 are you going to continue TTC? Xx

Yeah the plan is to TTC for a few months then maybe skip a couple of cycles so that I'm either not about to pop or getting to grips with a newborn around the time of our new date. Doing the legal bits sooner rather than later takes the pressure off a bit!

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

What are you thinking about TTC and rescheduling your wedding?

@SequinCola yeah sounds like you've got a good plan there!

I really don't know! It's actually stressing me out a bit. I don't know whether to book in for early next year and postpone again if I do catch or do it for the end of next year or even beginning of the year after!

It's so frustrating as I've got no control over TTC nor my corona wedding and I'm a bit of a control freak 😂🙈

Ahh this is lovely - can I join please?

Original wedding was April, postponed to 28th Aug and at this point still going ahead just with a small number. Got my coil out on 11th June then had a long wait for AF! Now on CD8 and will be TTC for the first time this month.

Totally agree with being over the wedding planning and just wanting this next stage now. Feel a bit guilty about it though and like I should hang onto that bride feeling!

@Amy259 of course you can!! Love that you're going ahead. Well done 👏🏽👏🏽

Yeah I feel totally guilty about being over it. Guilty and gutted as I was so excited on the lead up to my original date.

Happy first month TTC! Are you doing any kind of tracking ovulation wise? I just used the app Flo and AF is due tomorrow so we shall see. Definitely upping my game next month if it didn't work this month x

@beckyBP thanks! Yeah I feel like I’m just ready for this next stage of life?!

So because I came off the coil I had no idea what part of my cycle I was at, so I did a few OPKs when I was waiting for AF but couldn’t figure it out (wondered if I’d fallen pregnant before she got the chance to come!). Now it’s finally arrived I started doing cheapy tests yesterday in the afternoon - it’s been 5 years since I had a cycle so I would have no clue when I was due to ov, so wanted the helping hand!

OH is also stressed at work just now so in all honesty getting him to want/have the energy to DTD is tough at the mo, so need to pick my moments carefully

We've had so much love from everyone over the past few months, that I feel a bit grabby now! We're having 15 people (including us) at our legal wedding and then having a proper 'wedding' next year - so my Dad can walk me down the aisle and we can have hugs and dancing.... but I feel a bit like I am really milking the bride thing even though I'd be happy to just get married at this point. The problem is the wedding is already paid for and I don't want to regret not having 'our day'.

I'm doing ovulation tests and charting my temperature - mostly as a bit of reassurance that things are happening given that it didn't quite work out as planned last cycle. Have to keep reminding myself it's only cycle 2!! So I'm now just into my TWW - won't be testing until probably a week after AF is due though if we get that far.

@SequinCola I know what you mean. We postponed once and I just can’t face doing it again, at this point we just want to get married. I’m in Scotland and our rules are currently that we can have 30 at the ceremony but can’t feed them... but that’s due to change next week. Our venue is a country house that sleeps 24 and at this point if we could even just have the 24 wedding party for the weekend, we’d be delighted with that. We’re the same, all paid for!

Considered having a big party next year but given how un-weddingy I feel now, I just can’t see me wanting to be the bride again next year when I’ll hopefully be pregnant/have a newborn. I’m a bit over it, which feels rotten to say!

Patience it’s not my strong point, so I’m sure every cycle it doesn’t work out I’ll be gutted. Also reminding myself this is our first shot...

Hey ladies,

AF due today and I feel like i can feel it coming and had all the symptoms but not here yet.

Last night I was super nauseous and actually sick. I'm not normally a sicky person and that's definitely the first time this year I've thrown up!

How are we all? X

Morning @beckyBP!

You’ve got more patience than me - I’d be doing a test by now! Are you tempted? How are you feeling this morning?

I’m okay thank you, a bit in that limbo phase on CD9 so just (im)patiently waiting for my fertile window. Delighted to not be feeling bloated anymore now AF has passed though!

Hey @Amy259 ah I haven't bought any yet because I know I'd be obsessed, might go buy some lunch time but really do feel like AF will be here any time.

Much better this morning, thank you. Just a bit tired and blugh you know?

Ah after AF is when I always feel my best!! The fun bit can start for you soon now ☺️ xxx

@beckyBP yeah I feel it already, the obsession! I so didn’t want to be like this but I can see it coming haha.

Glad you’re feeling a bit better. Us females get it tough!

I think I have quite a long cycle, it’s been a long time since I have cycles but something in my head said they used to be 35days. And the time between my Mirena withdrawal bleed and CD1 was 35days! So I think I have another couple of weeks before I’ll be near ovulation... torture! X

@Amy259 yep!! Said exactly the same.. we said we 'weren't trying, weren't preventing' but that's gone out the window and we're only ok cycle 1 😂🙈 it's scary how quickly it is to get obsessed isnt it!

Ah it seems like your cycle is getting back in the rhythm quite quickly. The wait definitely sucks though!! Xx

@beckyBP haha us too!! We actually had this chat last night, my OH knew I was tracking etc and is just as keen for a baby but last night asked me to explain it all more because he wants to know when he has to be on his game haha and be more involved with the OPKs etc. So I would confidently say that chat a couple of months ago about “just not preventing” is out the window!!

@Amy259 haa!! I bet that happens to so many couples. Lush that he does what to know more though. It's that extra proof his heart is really in it.

My fiancé is as cool as a cucumber but he's said some really sweet baby related things recently and it's so lush to hear 🥰

@beckyBP oh for sure, it’s the best when they make those wee comments 🥰

Keep me posted on AF! X

Hey @Amy259

AF arrived today! And brought all the cramps along with her!

It's absolutely fine, was our first month but I want to be more prepared next month. I'm going to get some ovulation strips I think xxx

@beckyBP ahhh isn’t she kind, Mother Nature and her cramps! 😂

Well done for being so rational about it! I think because I’m already tracking ovulation I’ll be a bit downhearted if we don’t conceive even on cycle 1.. which I know is silly. I’m just a bit of a control freak and impatient too! Xxx

@beckyBP @SequinCola hi ladies! How are you both doing?

I’m 3DPO and already impatient 🙃

Trying to not to get carried away because of the chemical, so the best thing to do is go tell strangers on the internet that I got this this morning! Stronger line than last time so fingers crossed that's a good sign!

How are you both doing? Both with TTC and wedding planning?

Hey ladies! @Amy259 3 days down for you! Hopefully a BFP very soon!! 🤞🏽🤞🏽

@SequinCola that's a very very good sign!!! Congratulations!!!!

I'm CD 12 and using ovulation strips for the first time. Doesn't look like I'm ovulating just yet! I find the tests so confusing.

Our September wedding is cancelled! Not sure when we'll reschedule for. If I'm honest.. I'm so over it 🙈

Checking in as we are undecided but just in case! Good luck all!

@beckyBP I had OPKs very similar to that right until the day I got my peak - they can change really quickly. Keep doing them - you don't want to miss your moment!

Hi @Wolfgirrl - are you undecided about TTC or rescheduling your wedding or both?!