TTC Thread #2

[Daffodil21]

Continuing the original thread:

First time TTC - help please!! Any one else TTC for their first time? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3914013-first-time-ttc-help-please-any-one-else-ttc-for-their-first-time

Tagging those in my tag list - sorry if I've left anyone out or tagged people who don't want to be tagged!

@AlisonLew15 @Bam27 @CEW19 @Dreaming101 @HJen22 @LennyAndToots @M4v3r1ck @Mrskcam @Rocky89 @SVC11
@TerryRose

And of course, our graduates:
@Peach1204 @Poppyismyfavourite @Summertime1992 I'm sure everyone here would love to hear how you're getting on!

@ALew15 the weather here is glorious isn’t it, not something we are use to in South Wales!
Think we are going to have drinks with our neighbours this evening on our driveways!
(hubby can drink for me).
I would log today as your ovulation day😊
Welcome @Tofu35 , you may have rapid onset ovulation where your levels don’t gradually increase but they shoot up! It’s quite common.

@acaciabluebell you may well ovulate later than you/the apps think. Before my weirdly long cycle kicked in I ovulated at day 21 if my OPK’s were correct but the app said the standard day 14 xx

@ALew15 I'm CD22... whilst it's not impossible for me to ovulate this late, it is getting past the 'normal' time for me... I really really hope I'm going to ovulate this month. Been dtd every other day except a minor blip just after my period where we didn't for 3 days, although I can't see that being a problem seeing as I still haven't ovulated (I was using OPKs right from when AF stopped).

I also told myself I wasn't going to use OPKs anymore, but if my cycle is going to continue to fuck me around then I think I will. I had a 32 day cycle last month and this one will now be at least 39 days, and that's if I get a smiley tomorrow. Getting really fed up tbh. As if it isn't difficult enough already, my cycle has to fuck me over. I thought it had started to settle at a steady 34-36 day cycle but obviously not!! Definitely going back to the CB blue tests next month though, this month I bought the pink as with SMEP I was just looking out for the static, but then I read that you need to test twice a day if using those ones, and I'm like a 5 YO when it comes to peeing so a 4 hour hold is tough! Then it just makes me even more annoyed when I've held off the tea all afternoon alto just get an O again

Sorry for long rant!!!!!

Thanks @Dreaming101, first time I've had rapid onset ov, but I have just started the vitamins so it's maybe knocked things around.

@Daffodil21 my cycle varies enormously, from 31-39, earlier this year I had 55, although that was during the first few months of covid so stress definitely played a massive part there. Sympathies with unpredictable cycles. Hope you get your tea soon!

It's roasting already down here (Portsmouth) I am sweating got the hot tub ready for DH he has buggered out to golf left me here working from home ! I still have all the symptoms if my hormones are getting me at it I am gonna be pissed ! Hope you are all ok today.

Thanks @Tofu35, and welcome! Yeah, very annoying isn't it! Been TTC for 19 months now and I am sick of it!!! I only do the evening ones on the days between dtd as no point if we're going to dtd anyway, but today is an evening OPK day 😒 it makes me unreasonably annoyed when I get that blank O!!

I don't think COVID stress would have played a part for me.. DH has been going into work as usual (agricultural) and I've been wfh so it hasn't really affected us too much.. we've found the extra time at home actually quite good because it has meant we can get on with home renovations. Maybe I'm stressing too much about not being pregnant..! I also ditched the pregnecare mid cycle last month, which I think made AF arrive sooner than expected. Maybe that's making the difference now? I wouldn't have thought it would make it longer though. Where are you in your cycle?

@hampshirerose34 that sounds familiar, my DH loves golf. Poor thing cancelled his membership last year as we were saving for our wedding so he was going to pick it up this year.

@Daffodil21 I think as long as you are DTD as often as u can then what else can you do. We should make a pact of no OPKs next month and see how it affects our moods.

@Daffodil21home renovations! I hope you have been putting some before and after photos up of all your good work
Day 17 of cycle, the app predicted I'd ovulate day 20, so I'm not too far out (although no ewcm). I'll take this as the fertile window, but with a pinch of scepticism!

@ALew15 yes, you're right. No OPKs next month! Even when/if I get a smiley then it'll just leas to the TWW stress. I think I'll just do what I've done before, take my longest cycle (43 days) and only test if AF hasn't arrived by the 43rd day. As you say, if dtd every other day then doesn't matter really. Are your cycles regular? Sorry you must have said but it's hard to keep track of all the details, I remember that they are quite short though?

@Tofu35 I wouldn't like to bore anyone haha. It's a complete house renovation though. No construction work thankfully, just decoration throughout and a replacement kitchen. No room is fully finished yet, but it's getting there. We've been here since mid January so I feel like we've done a pretty good amount, especially while we've been wfh in new jobs (although not so new now!). Do you dtd throughout your cycle or planned around your FW?

@Daffodil21love home renovation projects! Hubby and I bought a new build last year and still seem t be changing everything and anything!! I have a home insta account and it’s such a lovely little online community of people doing their own projects!

@Daffodil21 currently trying to plan around FW but after reading the posts here, I may rethink this and start DTD throughout cycle. Good luck with your kitchen project!
I think wfh definitely extends the amount of time you can count yourself as new, until you can complain about the commute or about the funny smelly in the communal microwave, you're a shiny new worker.

My sis in law is 12 weeks along and they had only been trying for 2 weeks I could not believe it how do people get so lucky ? 4 years I have been trying and nothing. I think COVID hasn't helped DH got the corona in March was so Poorly for 3 weeks I am worried it has affected his swimmers. I am just gonna put my symptoms down to hormones because of the meds.

Great news @ALew15 and @Th197! I've ordered the CB digital opks and in the meantime I've managed to find some better quality OPKs
at the pharmacy near my house (still not digital). I tried doing the test a little earlier in the day today instead of after work. It was a little bit awkward getting there with the test and little cup unnoticed but at least I got a decent line this time!

Hi @Tofu35 welcome to the thread :) Sorry not much help with the opks this is my first month using them and haven't tried the CB yet.

@acaciabluebell not sure if you mentioned already but at what time are you doing the opks? I wouldn't worry too much just yet.. the apps are just an indication My doctor said that it's perfectly normal to ovulate quite a few days after CD14 even if you have a normal length cycle.

@Dreaming101 I follow so many home renovation pages on insta, I love it! What is yours called?

@Daffodil21 cycles vary from 30/25/26 days. Yeah next month I think I will cut out OPKs, DTD regular throughout cycle and and test if AF doesn't come after 30 days. I only found out I was pregnant last year because my period was about a week late. I need to be that chilled person again.

Sorry realised i missed an entire page of the thread when I wrote my last message hahaha

@SaraVB I normally did them around 4pm/5pm ish, sometimes then again at 8/9pm. Today I did it at 10:30am cos I was annoyed lol and there was at a tiny faint line, which is better than before.

@acaciabluebell I haven't tried doing those tests earlier on.. I normally do mine at around 7-8pm but I've had really similar results to yours and I'm on CD16 now.. I would try different tests to be honest as I think these are making us worry for nothing!

This is a screenshot of my app using those tests.

@Dreaming101 I was also going to ask what your account was but then thought you might want to keep a little more anonymous..! But if you're happy to share...! My DH suggested we did a house insta too, but we never got around to it!

@Tofu35 yeah I only worked in the office for 5 weeks! Saving 2 hours driving per day by wfh!

@hampshirerose34 4 years? Wow you must be going insane. 19 months here and I have definitely already lost the plot. Have you had any tests done? We are now with a fertility clinic but they won't even think of IVF until next September because if you've been pregnant before it has to be 2 years since (not a successful pregnancy). So on we go. We are looking at adoption now but we recently moved to Scotland and we have to have lived her for a year before we can apply, which takes us to January 😒

@ALew15 that's all you can do really. I was the same - I had set myself that 43 day goal before I would even think about testing. I had no idea when I ovulated. Ended up testing early though as I was peeing for England!

@Daffodil21 it has been a long road . I was diagnosed with PCOS last September they put me on metformin. And now getting sent to fertility clinic have already been told I am not eligible for IVF because I will be 35 in August and because of my weight. I have been doing the Keto diet since April lost 1st. They think that just metformin will do the trick at the moment.

Does anyone else track cm? If you do, how long do you have ewcm for? .. I get ewcm for at least 5 days sometimes over a week, is that normal? When I've looked online it always days three days before ovulation.

I've been quiet but have been reading all the comments daily. Hope you are all okay. Seems I'm not the only one with messed up cycles, mine vary from 28-42 days.

@ALew15 @Daffodil21 aw that’s okay, I don’t have anything personal on there it’s an open account. It’s @ ourmordenhome

I’m not sure if anyone has tried a herbalist and I may sound so crazy but a friend of mine went to one after having really irregular periods after the pill. They gave her a remedy and she caught within 3 months. I am going to speak to her once I’ve had my blood tests!

@Dreaming101 I've totally just outed myself by following you but never mind 😂 everyone who matters know we're TTC anyway (except my boss, but I hardly think he's spending his time on mumsnet!) your home looks lovely!

How frustrating and difficult for you @hampshirerose34 congrats on the weight loss though! How long have you been on metamorfin for?

@Bam27 nice to hear from you. Hope you're doing ok? I don't track EWCM so no help

@Daffodil21 just followed you back I’ll message you now, I’ll out myself back 😂
No one knows about us TTC apart from my husbands sister!

Aw thank you, it’s a little home but enough for us for now!

@Dreaming101 is that on insta ? Wanna have a look 👀

@Daffodil21 since September it makes me feel so sick and I also take inositolwith it too

@hampshirerose34 yeh Insta x