TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies ❤️

Just doing the new thread as the other is full will tag you all here - anyone else who wpuld like to join please do!

Little bit of background -
Cycle #3 TTC after MC in December
This month doing SMEP, tracking BBT and OV (CB advanced and Femometer strips), also drowning myself in grapefruit juice 😂 and will take Calc Fluor in TWW.

Sending everyone lots of luck 🤞

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4

Hi all - late to the party, but hope it's still ok to join

First, I'm sorry for your losses and have all my fingers and toes crossed that you get your BFPs soon. I'm gonna lurk on here for a bit - had a MC in March, got pregnant really quickly once I started properly tracking my cycle but then it was not to be. AF in Apr & May at around about the right time but longer than typical.

We've decided we're ready to TTC again, but I'm nervous. It's been really good for me I think to see you all hitting it hard - charting and the works. Gotta go for what we want! We're going to be a bit gentler for the next month: keep an eye on dates and physical symptoms to loosely time the BD, but not expect it to happen or go full on OPKs or steps to boost things yet.

Mostly I'm hoping following your stories here will make me pull my socks up in terms of lifestyle. Lockdown and the MC have been super excuses to stop exercising, drink wine, and mainline caffeine

Xx

Hi @Banbi

Welcome to our madhouse . It's good fun and super supportive, so you have found the right place!
Sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds like you've taken some time and it's great to see your relaxed approach.
Keep lurking, or chip in whenever. It's another thing to get addicted to
xxx

Hi ladies,

Firstly hello @Banbi, sorry to hear about your loss. I’m finding great comfort in this group and hope you do too x

Just wondering if I can get some insight on my OPK strips.

I’ve done them for the last few days hoping to catch a peak and got a “high” reading the last couple of day’s but a low today. Does this mean I possibly ovulated sometime over the last couple of days? I’ve just been testing once a day so may have missed my “peak” ??? we DTD the last few days anyways.

I’m not really expecting to ovulate again so soon after the MC (just stopped bleeding last week) but we thought we’d give it a shot regardless!

Any help is appreciated demystifying! Thx

Hi ladies does anyone know the link for pregnancy group after miscarriage? I have had a quick look but can’t found one? Xxx

@MichT4 yeah I think you're right, I was going to F45 classes (studio based HIIT style) x6 a week for about 4 months pre lockdown to shift the weight and then just have gone the complete opposite. So will restart tomorrow and start doing some more cardio - I have weights at home so will get some workouts with those too. Yeah, would love to set some challenges between us!

@Tink20058 the girls moved over to a whatsapp group. @Hayleylou89 can you add?Xxx

@Banbi welcome! Sorry that you have recently suffered a loss. It is good that you are taking the right approach for you. Whenever you want to dip in and out feel free to do so. Wishing you lots of luck for this cycle xx

@mrsssk I would say yes probably yes you have missed catching it on your OPK. However, keep testing just to check they keep going lighter. Have you had any change to CM? Or are you tracking BBT at all? Xx

When I went to the hospital today for more blood tests I made sure I asked why I should wait for AF before ttc again. The nurse said, "well you wouldn't try to run if you'd just hurt your knee." But actually, not getting any younger here so @HopeForRainbowbaby and @mrsssk I think I will start trying again as soon as the bleeding stops. Like @2020wish suggested, I'll just keep tabs on ov date.

Do you think there's any truth in the theory that you're more fertile after a mc? I wonder why that would be.

I just did mine again too and it’s slightly lighter again. I’ll keep going until I know either way.
@VP91x do you always get EWCM? My CM is definitely more watery and quite stretchy (sorry!) but hasn’t gone EW yet - it did last month but that was the first time I’ve noticed it.

@mrsssk I wonder if I’ve missed mine too, but I’m not sure my CM ever went to EWCM either 🤯 so I have no idea. Definitely plan to keep testing from tomorrow morning (I need to drink!) and hopefully my temps will do something too. Will keep DTD in the meantime xx

@VP91x Thankyou that’s probably why I couldn’t find it 🤣 xx

@VP91x I think you’re right and I haven’t caught it on the sticks. I’ll keep checking as you suggest and if it continues on a downward trend that would make more sense. I’ve been tracking CM and although didn’t get EW, did get more of a watery type yesterday.

@anaconda76 that’s exactly what I’m trying to do with OPKs now. If there’s even a slight chance of getting pregnant before the next actual period rolls round then it’d be a shame to miss it. I’d say if you’re feeling mentally up to it to start trying again, go for it!

@MichT4 you’ve literally described exactly what I’ve had too. Never really noticed EWCM before and just noticed watery type yesterday, so I think we’re in the same boat. I’ll just have to let DH know to keep going for a couple of days 😂 we’ve never tracked ovulation before so the poor guy doesn’t know what’s hit him

Thanks @mrsssk. I feel happier with the thought of getting on with it. Waiting another 4 to 6 weeks feels like forever.

@MichT4 @mrsssk watery/ewcm is classed as fertile so I think either is fine. I get a mixture of both I have noticed. If its stretchy its more veering towards EWCM I'm assuming? If its very wet, slippery it's all good!

@anaconda76 that seems like quite a sarcastic response from the hospital! But I'm not sure why they say you might be more fertile post-MC. However, whenever you feel ready to try again go for it. Only you know your body and how you feel xxx

@Jazper glad to see you back and I think you just need to look after yourself, let yourself be sad if that's how you feel and take it day by day. I know that sounds a bit cliche but sometimes we do have to just put one foot in front of the other
@Chickoletta glad your cystitis has gone, mine always need antibiotics so lucky you've managed to sort it without. I'm also CD 24 now and so no judgement here for testing early...I have had a BFN and 4 days later had a positive with last pregnancy so it's definitely possible.
So glad you've been proactive with your GP @2020wish and hopefully your blood work gets some definitive answers
@Niisa sounds like a good sign to me, think it was @Chickoletta that also had some over zealous CM this month too so 🤞
@VP91x I'm not familiar with calorie deficit and exercise affecting pregnancy chances tbh, if it's something your body is used to then I'd say it's probably safe...sorry that's pretty useless advice, sure someone else can give you a more educated response!
Hi @Banbi welcome and sorry for your loss, the thread makes me feel more productive about things too, good for practical tips but also the emotional stuff if you fancy venting
@mrsssk I'd say you probably got your peak around CD 13 and maybe missed the full peak if you're doing it daily, also worth continuing to check for a few days to see if it definitely goes back down

Also just ordered some grapefruit juice on the online shop...never tried it before but the reviews aren't good from you ladies - except @VP91x!

@elliew818 I like it too! First sip is always a bit 😳 but then I must say it goes down a treat. Enjoy xx

Thanks @VP91x that makes me feel better in case I did miss it. Going to try and just go with the flow now, keep peeing on sticks and DTD and just be covered whatever the case. Can’t say we haven’t put our all into this can we!?

How is the grapefruit juice??? That was my craving with my 2nd boy I used to eat at least 5 grapefruits a day couldn’t get enough, I’m surprised I had any enamel left on my teeth 🤣🤣🤣 xx

@VP91x @2020wish @chloedancer897 @elliew818 just poas using one of the cheapies I had and it was negative. But I am still a whole week away from AF so definitely too soon. Will try again on Monday 💕

@elliew818 yeah I'm going to get back into it from tomorrow I'm feeling sluggish which isn't ideal!

Haha the grapefruit juice is lovely, honestly!!

Think I'm going to get pomegranate juice for luteal/tww to go alongside my Calc Fluor.

@MichT4 you've definitely covered yourself this month for sure!!

@Tink20058 I love it. Omg 5 a day!! My main crsving when PG was ice. Ice cold drinks and chewed on ice aswell. Xx

@Niisa oh yeah wayy too early especially for the cheapies. Few more days! Fingers crossed for you x

@Niisa fingers crossed for Monday!❤️

@Niisa way to early for cheapies but fingers crossed for your BFP this week x

@HopeForRainbowbaby
Sorry to hear you have had to endure two miscarriages during lockdown. Heartbreaking. Good to know it isn't just me counting down the days. This group makes the journey a little more bearable, and each day a little shorter ❤️

@Chickoletta yes, it was me talking about mc during lockdown and I appreciate you sharing your experience; which sounds utterly horrific for you. As I have said, I wouldn't wish this on anybody but it does give me some comfort to know i aren't alone in my thoughts.

@MichT4 OPK number 764 😂😂😂😂 I totally get what you mean. I can't wait to get in to my fertile window but could equally do without seeing him flash at me for 5 years before ov 😝

Thank you @elliew818 for your encouragement. I feel much better today but last weekend was definitely just a 'one foot in front of the other' weekend.

In other news, I'm out shopping for Grapefruit juice again tomorrow 🤮🤮🤮 bloody hate that stuff. Love Pomegranates though @VP91x !! What does it do?!!! Pray tell!!

Just chipping in to say, got my grapefruit juice today and loving it!! Not even near ovulating but just thought I'd get started lol!!
Actually I'm trying a pregnancy test tomorrow eeeek! AF due this weekend or next week (super irregular periods here).
So good as always to come on here and see what you're all up to! Sorry I'm horrendous at posting regularly but having toddlers at home means i can't concentrate properly on anything until they go to bed 😆 my head is fried!
Anyone else testing this weekend? Xx

😂😂😂 @Jazper it does feel like that doesn’t it!? My apps don’t have me ovulating for another 3 days and yet here I am panicking and going through sticks like crazy. Obviously I’m hoping for an earlier ovu date and less of a wait til the glorious TWW but days of squinting and willing lines to get darker are quickly getting on my wick 😂
@VP91x saved me from adding a CB to the list of things i want to throw out a window. I think if that thing was flashing at me too I might explode