TTC 35+ Thread 2 Cougar And Silver Fox Club

[Loladoodle]

New thread for you ladies. Let’s bring on the Bfps!!

Hooray for the new BFPs! 🥳

CD31 here (feels like CD 1000) I think I am 16DPO. BFN this morning on FMU with Amazon cheapie. AF not here. A fair amount of CM - so much so it feels like AF is here. But no. I have OPKs, a thermometer, vitamins ready to go for next month, so I just wish she would get here.already and I can a move on.

To all the ladies BDing, VERY happy hump day.

To all the ladies who had rotten men, and had to kiss far too many frogs before meeting the actual one. Sing it sisters!

Baby dust to all our experienced and golden ovaries!

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@lynnysong sometimes when relationships are so toxic you get so used to negative attention that when it is no longer there you panic or feel scared of losing something. But the reality is once you come through this initial fear - you will feel free and relieved to not have someone treat you with disrespect. It’s a long process but perhaps him not being contactable is for the best- kind of like ripping the plaster off instead of letting him come and go in and out of your life on his terms. It’s a disgrace he owes you money and may never pay it back! Disgusting behaviour! But such a learning curve for you as you will never allow anyone to do this again. Try to focus on yourself and your new goals- I know it’s hard I’ve been there! But the sooner you focus on you the better you will begin to feel. Sorry about the bfn- life has such a way of timing everything shit all at once. Be kind to yourself, rest up and do something you really enjoy. Sending hugs.

@Lynnysong aw hope your ok.. Lots of virtual hugs

Im getting so obsessed again with it all. Im 6dpo and thinking ive got all symptoms going honest its ridiculous no way could i have any at this time.

Il be 10dpo on fathers day and wonder whether to test on cheepy just to see if anything nice occurs

Ive tried ovulation sticks this month just to see if got spike with coming off implant which i did but not sure if was enough of a spike. LH has reduced and staying down so i suppose that's good

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@Lynnysong- @Loladoodle has summed it up so well
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@Loladoodle Thank you I needed to hear that. And you are right. He is the worst person I've ever met. And it will be better in the long run, it just hurts just now.

And you are perfectly right. I will focus on my own life, myself and my goals with a vengeance. It's going to be a lot of work over the next year but I am determined to do this.

@Muda @Matilda19 Thank you, hugs for you guys :)

Thank you for being there for me. Totally did not expect this crap today. So pissed off...

@lynnysong you’re welcome. I have all faith everything will work out for the best.

@Loladoodle, @Muda and @Matilda19

I hope you guys don't mind, but I've printed out your amazing replies especially @Loladoodle's.

This might sound daft but I feel so odd about what's happened that I'm going to carry your support around with me for a while. So if I get upset I can read it through. And it will keep me strong and focused, like a shield of strong women alongside me.

I don't know if that sounds really silly or not, but I do feel really shaken by what he's just done. And I live alone and don't really see anyone much, he was the only one that would come round in the lockdown. I'm glad I've started to see my family again.

I'm going to be fine. I'm determined. In fact better than that. I'm going to work hard and get everything I've ever wanted. :)

I do sound daft, don't I? I'm sorry I'm just really shaken up. I will be better.

@Lynnysong it's a great idea to print things out and read when you need to remind yourself 'how to think'.

I write in a journal most nights, just generally how I feel and if I'm worried about something (I usually am), I just put it down on paper. I'm quite an obsessive thinker, so when I write I rationalise my thoughts, and it's then helpful to read them back to myself.

It really clears my head before bed. Sometimes I just write until I've rationalised things out to myself, so I don't have to keep thinking about the same thing over and over.

Its a good but hard trait to have; to have feelings for someone after they've been an utter bastard to you. The most awful feeling I had was feeling sorry for my ex, after he'd had an affair and gotten her pregnant. Sometimes I still do feel sorry for him if I know he is having bad times with his partner. I wish I didn't, but you can't help those feelings. It's just because YOU are the good person.

Be kind to you, you have so much to look forward to 😘

@Lynnysong you don’t sound daft at all- sounds like a smart thing to do. Anything that makes us feel stronger and better is a positive thing to do. You are a strong independent woman and deserve much better than what your ex has to offer. Perhaps the £ he owes you is a small price to pay to finally be rid of him. Good riddens to the prick! 👋

Aw thank you so much @Selina37 and @Loladoodle I feel a little better now :)

@Lynnysong - I'm sorry you've had a sht time with this sh man! You're amazing and have support here from all of us

@JustOneMore39 - Golden Ovaries - LOL! This has to be included in the next thread title! Surely!

Maybe I'll call mine Blanche & Rose!

2 rounds dtd complete ✅ on target 🎯 wow... sounds so romantic eh 🤣

Laughing at the golden ovaries! Must indeed be part of next thread name 😅

Congrats @Sunshine1984 thats ace news!!
busy day but enjoyed catching up with everyones antics/news etc! and all sounds like the evening is ending on a positive note with the golden ovaries haha. waiting for AF to get lost here so we can crack on with things :)

@Lynnysong I'm so sorry that you've had a crappy day! Sending lots of love and hugs your way! 😘😘😘 You are a fabulous Amazon with an amazing plan ahead of you! Us ladies are here to support you and cheer you on! 😘😘😘

@selina37 that's a really nice idea for destressing and processing things!! 😃😃😃

@Sunshine1984 don't worry, I think I forget to tag people too! And weirdly I don't think you can edit posts?! 🤔

Sorry to those of you with AF arriving! Look after yourselves! 😘😘😘

@Loladoodle @JustOneMore39 @FridaKFangirl double humps and golden ovaries! Love it!!! 🤣🤣🤣 and Blanche and Rose! 🤣🤣🤣

Best pants on. Check. Getting hubby in the mood for fun dtd. Check. AF arriving. Check.

CD1 ladies. Come on golden ovaries. We will succeed this month!

You ladies are the best

@Lynnysong so sorry to hear it’s a tough time but we all feel how strong you are and actually now you have the opportunity to focus just on you!

Damn to all the AFS arriving but at least it means more reasons to keep DTD with enthusiasm.

I’m a bit 😢 tonight as DP is back to work after a blissful 3 weeks off. He works nights, generally 4 a week so much less time together ahead. Still, it’s an excuse to just wear pyjamas and no best pants 😂

Hello lovely ladies, hope all is well. I've had a weird funny kind of day 😆.
@Lynnysong so sorry you are having a hard time letting go. Don't ever feel daft for doing so. I had a ex that stole from me repeatedly amongst other disgusting things and, I still shagged the little shit 🤮🤮🤮.
I was trying to think of some kind and supportive words to say to you but, couldn't think of what to say really so I found this instead.
I swear, by my life and my love of it, that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.
― Ayn Rand

You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.
― Anonymous

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
― Anonymous

Sending you lots of love and positive energy 🙏🏽💞

@selina37 I used to write in a journal many years ago and stopped. I wrote so much in there that I started to panic and think what if someone found it and read all my thoughts 😂😂🙈

@Matilda19 don't be too hard on yourself, it only because you want it so bad. 🤞🏾 Fingers crossed for you. Would be a brilliant father's Day gift. Sending you a virtual hug 🤗
I am currently 7dpo.

@Fridakfangirl Maybe I'll call mine Blanche & Rose 🤣😂 why did I see their faces when I read that. 😂 Now I can't unsee it

@M4v3r1ck If mine are Blanche and Rose - Maybe yours could be Sophia & Dorothy??

Going out to all us Golden Ovaries @JustOneMore39....All together now..!

"Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down a road and back again
Your heart is true, you're a pal and a confidant.

I'm not ashamed to say
I hope it always will stay this way
My hat is off, won't you stand up and take a bow

And if you threw a party
Invited everyone you knew
Well, you would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say
Thank you for being a friend"

Aw i do love this page. Its still just me and fiance that know were trying having you all is great support.
If ive learnt anything recently its you only live once and you must learn to put yourself first.
No one knows what's around the corner or how quick things will change.
I met my fiance at uni when I was 18 and adored him then we both met people had tough times and then last feb met up again after time apart just phones keeping us in touch.
16 months on were living together engaged tcc a baby!
Live life don't let it run away from you..

@Lynnysong thinking of you!
@Happyhappy37 keep me posted on your cycle developments were very close with dates
@JustOneMore39 that's the spirit!

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@Matilda19 same it's just 2 (plus yiu lot) that know we're trying.
I really don't believe in fate etc but me and him were just meant to be I think
Both like cycling, his mums cousin lives down the road from my parents 3 hours away from his parents (we probably walked past each other when they came over to visit his Mums cousin). We have matching scars - we both had hip replacements 3 weeks apart - he fell off his bike the year I met him and broke his hip but the blood supply never came back so he needed a new hip. I was born with dislocated hips and this one just gave up and had enough. He had his at the end of May 4 years ago and I had mine 3 weeks later. Our birthdays are a year and 4 days apart - I'm 41 on 7th July, he is 40 on 3rd.

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When I say down the road, my parents live on the main road on the corner if the road his mums cousin lives on. My dad knows his mums cousin. Very very small world

@Happyhappy37 if anyone found my journal... 😱 oh my Christ 🙈 they'd think I'm literally mental...