Waiting to TTC #3 - anyone else?

[happytobemrsg]

I already have DS1 who is 4 this month & DS2 9months. We have decided (subject to corona being under control) to TTC for #3 next year. We are super excited. I’m expecting lots of “are you just trying to get a girl” comments!

Anyone else??

I'm 35, I have 2 already 14 & 10. But I'd love a third with my current partner. He also has 2 previously. Been having unprotected for a year now, but only been tracking ovulation properly last 2 cycles. I've been using the Clearblue ovulation digital.
Currently cycle day 10 atm so will get the sticks out again end of this wk to test to see if I'm ovulating.
When are you thinking about trying, beginning of next year?

@Chlo2701 exciting! Are your other DC looking forward to having a baby around? We will most likely start TTC next summer when DS2 is 2. Most people I know, including my own family, have 2 children Max. Per family so I’m not sure how they will take our news. Not telling anyone our plans yet

@happytobemrsg how long did it take you to conceive your 2 children?
It took me one month for my 14yr old & 2yrs with my 10yr old.
My 14yr old absolutely loves babies & toddlers & is brilliant with them, so he can't wait for me to have another.
My 10yr old really isn't bothered but said if I do have another it better be a boy🙈😂

Hi, TTC number 3 too. Have two DD’s 10 and 12. I’m 32 and OH 43 and decided to start trying a few weeks back. I’m nervous whether it’s a responsible decision but I think this virus is going to be around for a good few years. My main reason for not waiting is our ages..I’m now 10 years older and never know if it may take us years to conceive as not been on contraception for over a year but not been trying if that makes any sense at all lol 🙈

@Bumblebei I completely agree with you there, it might take ages to conceive, you just don't know🤷‍♀️ I also feel like time isn't on my side, especially as my mum went through the menopause at 40, so I'm not taking any chances, & I also think this virus is going to be with us a while unfortunately 😣

@Chlo2701 oh wow that’s so young, I would not want to risk waiting either. I’ve always thought had so many years to decide if want another but reading some of these stories it’s surprising how many struggle and it’s scared me a little to be honest 🙈

@Bumblebei same here, until I came on here I didn't realise how many people actually struggled to conceive! Id also never heard of a chemical pregnancy either!
& I'm shocked at the amount of miscarriages, so that's made me even more paranoid now if I do manage to fall pregnant. Miscarriage is like 1 in 3 pregnancies or something, so I've got it into my head that I've had 2 pregnancies so if I do fall again it will most likely end in miscarriage 😣 I just can't get that thought out my bloody head!!! Negative nancy or what!!!😩

We agreed to try for number 3 recently! I am just trying to shift some lockdown weight and want to take some prenatal vitamins for a month or two before starting.

We have DS (9) and DD (4) and I just know my mum is going to ask why. She said after DD was born that I could stop now as we had one of each . I won’t be telling her until the 12 week scan!

@Chlo2701 omg exactly the same as me, never heard of most things I actually didn’t even know tracking ovulation was a thing..how embarrassing! I said the stats to OH about 1 in 3 and he told me to just stop talking but I have all these extra worries that I hadn’t considered before coming on here.

@cosmicmonkey I’m with you with keeping very quiet. I joked with family if I had another what would they think and they were horrified I would want to do it all again when I’m just getting my independence back lol as for the weight I’ve gained I need some motivation to shift it 😂

We are currently trying for number 3. I got pregnant first month trying in April but miscarried at 6 weeks. We were so lucky with the other 2 it was first month trying with both of them, I couldn’t believe our luck us managing it a 3rd time, but it wasn’t meant to be. My children are 4 and 2. Hoping to get lucky this month, I’ve never actually had to put any thought or effort into it as embarrassing as that is to admit. I tracked ovulation for the first time ever last month as I had a feeling things might be out of whack, after all the effort I didn’t even ovulate!! Hoping my body is back to normal this month, I’m normally like clockwork and get v obvious ovulation pains so it isn’t difficult to work out when I’m ovulating.

@Bumblebei - yes my family wouldn’t understand either as youngest should be off to school in September.

@DontStandSoClose - so sorry for your loss

That's nice of you to say but it was only 6 weeks in so just a late period really, well that's how I think of it.

The only thing that bothers me is my age, I'm nearly 37 and my mum started the menopause early 40s (she did have my sister at 39 on the flip side) but I do wonder if my age will start to be an issue?!

@DontStandSoClose that’s not embarrassing some women will fall pregnant really easy. I did with my previous two without trying. Last month was the first month of trying and when AF arrived I was almost shocked. I spent a fortune on tests convinced I was. I’m now around 5dpo based upon my obvious ovulation pains but going to listen to OH for first time in life lol carry on as usual and see if AF arrives on 14th. It happened very quickly in April for you so I would try not to worry age wise 🙂

Yes I’ve always been good at waiting for a missed period so there’s no trying to work out if there’s a line there. I’ll do the same this month, if you don’t keep tests in the house you can’t test. I think it’s very easy to get sucked into being borderline obsessive if you read some of the threads on here.

My husband thought I’d lost the plot when I suggested tracking ovulation last month. We have always had ish targeted sex when I’ve got pregnant before but not testing and noting everything. We had a good laugh a few weeks ago when I presented 500 ovulation tests in date order and there wasn’t anything on any of them. He looked at me and laughed “well there was a lot of point in all that wasn’t there”! I think I’ll shelve the testing for ovulation idea.

@Chlo2701 we were super lucky & got pregnant straight away with both DC.

You can’t win @CosmicMonkey if you’ve got one of each you’re “done” & shouldn’t have anymore. I have two boys so I “must” be trying for a girl!

What’s everyone’s ages? I’m 32 next month & DH is 41. I’ll be just turning 33 when we start TTC.

@happytobemrsg - that must be annoying!

I’m 31 atm and will be 32 by the time any baby (fingers crossed) arrives, DH the same.

Im 36, 37 in a few months and my husband turned 37 a few weeks ago, so assuming I manage to get pregnant soon-ish we’ll both be 37 when it arrives.

We’ve got one of each, I think a lot of people assume we are done. My neighbour said to me a few months back “you can refocus on your career now you are done having children” ... I’ve never talked or mentioned being “done” I just said “yeah I can can’t I”. My family know we want 3 children and are probably wondering why we aren’t getting on with it now. I think my in laws will be annoyed we went for 3, they’ve no reason to be but they are snobby like that. They asked if our first child was planned when we told them we were expecting, no congratulations (we had been together 10 years and were engaged!) yes she was thanks.

People can make such odd remarks can’t they? When I was pregnant with DS we had just got married and people would ask the due date and then start counting back to see if I was pregnant at our wedding. I also had an estate agent showing us a house ask if he had be an accident when he was 6 months old when she heard we were 22. I never get why people can’t just say congratulations.

Decided I’m going to tell my mum today! I keep swaying between it being wholly irresponsible (corona/both DH & I are self employed) & being the most exciting decision ever 😂

What telling her you are going for a 3rd? I’d never tell anyone we were trying for a baby, isn’t it a bit like announcing “yeah we are going to be shagging A LOT, wish us luck 😉”.

@DontStandSoClose 🤣 that’s a different perspective on it. I won’t be telling anyone as just don’t want the negative reactions so if it happens can just say surprise lol

@Bumblebei - me too, I may even get the kids to announce it if it happens, surely my mum can’t get mad at her grandkids 😂

So ladies thought i would pop back on. I’m 11dpo and got a faint positive today. Will be testing again in the next few days and really hope this is no3 for us 🙂 has anyone else tested yet?

@Bumblebei congratulations!! Did you test with a first response test? I'm only 1DPO so won't be testing until fathers days (Sun 21st) as that's when AF is due.
Keep us posted x

@Chlo2701 Thank you. It was a clear blue early one. Just hoping it appears again today on a first response. I feel terrified that something will happen after reading so many threads on here. That would be the best Father’s Day present ever wouldn’t it, fingers crossed for you 🤞🏽 X