TTC after MC - June 2020

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I'm 31 TTC #1 after a MC in March this year, AF has just finished and I'm on CD6 and all ready to go for my 2nd full cycle.

This month I will be tracking with opks, CB connected, BBT and following SMEP plan.

Hey everyone. How are you all? Hope you are having lovely weekends despite the weather.

@Ejb86 how are you today?

@Hayleylou89 the flower wall is beautiful and I thank that whatever you do tomorrow, that you will do yourself proud. Monday will be very special too and I can’t wait to hear about it Xx

So I’m thinking of buying some OPKs, just to get a better idea of timings. Ava says I’ll ovulate on Wednesday, which would be lovely and would mean by cycles are shortening slightly. However other ones are saying next sunday/Monday so I think it’s worth trying to know beforehand. I don’t mind DTD lots, but after reading your posts I wonder whether we might end up doing it too much to cover that range.

I’ve never used them, so stupid question but how do you use them? Is it one a day in the afternoon? xxx

@MichT4 I usually start testing with them when I come into my fertile window. Twice a day (as for most people the LH surge will start in the afternoon) last month I was complete negative in the am and then at 4pm that day I got my peak. Once you start getting darker lines it’s advised to test every 4 hours till you get ur peak

@renna aww thats brave of u to tell ur friend what was her reaction like? Xx do u think ull tell her right away when ur pregnant next, I kept it from friends for a while last time but this time told them right away, theyve known we were trying anyway x x how was ur Mc D's? X

Thanks @MichT4 just hope its all good news monday 🤞🏻🌈💖💙 xx

@MichT4
Also about opks defo a few a day if u tests seem to be getting darker x i went went low to peak in 4 hours 🤞🏻🌈💙💖 good luck xx

Thanks @2020wish and @hayleylou89, I’ll try that I think. And the peaks means you’ll ovulate in the next 24 hours? What a novice 🙄

Trying to be relaxed and no pressure about all this, but I think knowing a little more might help with that - I hope. Once Ava has more months data I think it’ll be easier to just trust that. Maybe it’s right this month 🤞🏼

How were your bloods in the end @2020wish?

Once u get ur peak it’s usually 24-36 hours I believe. Could be wrong. The second batch I think will be back on Monday so I’ll ring my doctors then to check. Hope there is no issues with them and I hope this month is my month cause I’m really starting to give up hope

@2020wish please don’t give up hope. It will happen for you. And whatever the bloods say, either you can address anything that’s affecting you or you can be confident that everything is as it should be. You’ll get the answers you need soon.

It’s hard sometimes, but I try to remind myself every now and again that our bodies are kind to us and they’ll allow the bubs to stick when it’s right. I know that’s easier said than done, and I don’t always feel that way, but please don’t be hard on yourself.

Fingers are crossed for you this month 🤞🏼

Hey ladies! Hope you are all well. Something really weird has happened to me. I was supposedly in my tww with @VP91x Femometer calculated that I ovulated on the 18th of May, but I never got a cb peak and my cheap opk never did get as dark as they normally get. But I just carried on thinking that I ovulated because temps indicated that I did.

Anyway, for those of you that have been on these threads for that last couple months, you know that I've had Hcg in my system for 9 weeks after my miscarriage. Last week my Hcg finally dropped to "0". The whole week I've been doing hpts because I noticed that I've been getting increasingly wet (tmi), but all were stark negative.

DH and I were watching movies at 1am this morning and I felt a twinge on my left side that lasted a couple minutes. I usually feel ovulation pains so I rushed to do an opk, and surprise surprise, it was positive! Cb showed flashing smiley. We immediately dtd! But now I'm so annoyed that I may have missed my opportunity 😫😫 dh and I haven't dtd all week prior to this because we've been so busy at work and I thought I was due to get AF 😫

@Hayleylou89 she was lovely of course,:) tbh I said to DH today the whole rule about not telling people you're pregnant until 12 week scan kinda feels pointless because I didnt tell people I was pg before but then I had to tell my close family and friends that I was pg and that I had a MC ... so I was like what's the point in keeping it a secret if something bad happens I have to share the news any way so when I do get pg again I probably will tell close friends and family. But probs wait a while before telling people not so close xx haha maccas was lush. Queued like half hour ,myself DH and puppy soaking wet after our walk getting rained on haha xx puppy spam attach from our walk 😁

@MichT4 thank you. I just feel my time is running out :(
I’ve put too much pressure on myself and now I’ve realised I want this so much but will have to make the choice of stopping soon and restarting in over 2 years. We have our wedding booked for 2022 and I wanted to have a baby with good enough time to get back to myself and baby up a bit to enjoy the day with us as we have put so much effort into it. Our wedding was originally for 2021 but we pushed it back a year and were so lucky everyone was able to accommodate us without losing the money we spent. We pushed it back for this baby as we knew it was more important :( everyone is booking hens for me and dress days all for next year and in my heart I wanted to have my much wanted baby by then and On the road to weight loss and finding my perfect dress. I know I won’t be happy walking down the isle the weight I am now or post baby weight If it’s too close. With my daughter I put on 7 stone with pre clampisa so I’ve very much aware it’s possible again and as selfish as that sounds I wouldn’t be happy having photos and all that jazz. Flip why is ttc so hard. And why have I been pregnant three times and no baby :( and I feel waiting til after the wedding is just putting me more at risk of miscarriages as I will be in the 35 bracket and up... do I sound selfish?

@HopeForRainbowbaby ahh how annoying!! But on the bright side you caught ur peak and done the deed on time so don’t worry as you won’t ovulate til the next day minimum

@rainbowhope11 amazing you could feel the ovualtion pain xx I had pain this cycle but indent actually know if it was ovulation or not ..could have been trapped wind 😂🤷‍♀️ xx .dont worry too much about DTD . the cycle we got pg I only DTD the first day i got peak and the day after that was it xxx

@2020wish not selfish at all babe xx it's your life and you know how youd like it to go and I think one of the most heart breaking things with MC is the loss of all the plans we make . I know that was one of the hardest things for me all the plans I'd made ,, even just in my head or that wed talked about all gone and nothing I could do about it xxx try take these next few months that you can comfortably still TTC with your wedding plans in mind as they come. It may happen for you next cycle and be the healthy pg you've been waiting for,xxx you obvs have no issues getting pg and a healthy bean will stick 😘😘🌈💙💞 xxxx sending hugs

Thank you :( so fed up with these emotions but give give anything to have a heathly pregnancy this cycle. All the morning sickness included.

Friend on Facebook posted today about how fed up she is with being pregnant and fed up with the side effects. Boy did I want to yell at her lol

@2020wish, I agree you are no way selfish. I actually think from what you just said, that the way you feel could do you a favour. You have something huge to focus on (Congratulations by the way) and maybe if you think about that then you’ll take pressure off yourself TTC. At some point you might choose to pause and that’s ok too.
I’m not engaged but when we fell I was a bit worried about delaying things that might happen, like getting married (I feel terrible for thinking that now as I wonder if I jinxed it 😢). But life has a habit of throwing curveballs and you’ll adjust however it works out. Don’t put pressure on yourself to fall pregnant again, and if you did get a BFP nearer to the wedding than you’d like then just make it a new challenge to get to how you want for your pics. I’m sure OH will think you look just as gorgeous and sexy anyway, and you’ll feel amazing whichever happens first.

I hope all that makes sense. I just hope you can give yourself a hug and I’m sure it’ll happen sooner than you think. Whichever order it happens it’ll be perfect. But don’t be afraid to do what you need to do either way, whether that means pausing or if that means having a younger baby on your wedding day. Both are amazing things to look forward to, and both would be prefect xxx

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@Rainbowhope11 I think you’ve still got time to do enough this month. Only takes the once after all, and you’ve got a few days to get a nice big batch waiting ☺️
It’s great you can feel ovulation too xx

Thank you all. Thank you for being my outlet. I’ve been a crying sack of tears today and no one else understands. Here’s to rainbow babies for us all.

@MichT4 hey 😊 if you get the strip ones then two/three times a day. I'd say first thing, then like 2pm, 6pm. It can change really quickly!!

And yeah 12-36hrs for your ovulation from your peak 😊

@2020wish don't lose hope!!

@Rainbowhope11 oh, amazing. That's so good that you got a positive OPK even if it was a surprise. Did you gwt your static after with CB? Are you still getting positives on the OPKs? Xx

@2020wish sorry I hadn't seen the responses after your first initial post!

I completely agree with what the girls have said. We mourn the life we planned when we found out we were pregnant and now we have to adjust. You absolutely have to make sure you do what is right for you. If you want to pause TTC soon so that you are able to feel amazing at your wedding then don't feel guilty.

Things have a funny way of happening when they are meant to. ❤️

Hopefully you fall PG again soon like you want and it all works out with timing. Also 35 isn't old, I know they say it makes things a bit more challenging but lots of people have babies older these days xx

I just feel with how I’m struggling now that being 35 and over and the chances of miscarriage is higher then I’ll just be putting myself more at risk of further losses

@Rainbowhope11 don’t worry of you didn’t dtd too much before! The first time I fell pg my temp had shot up that morning meaning I had already ovulated - I hadn’t been doing any other tracking, hubby and I gave it a go anyways as everyone was out and we hadn’t had a chance before (were living with my parents at the time and I had no door lol!) and I fell pregnant! Since my mmc we have tried smep and haven’t managed to fall pg yet (4th cycle now but am still positive as it’s been a stressful few months!) but I have tried to do it less this month as it was totally stressing out my oh having to perform!

@Hayleylou89 @Renna - it’s ironic as the forst time oh and I fell pregnant we only dtd once, and thought we had missed our chance (which now I think completely relaxed us!) but sonce we have tried so much and I’m wondering whether the stress is not helping us! I decided not to tell oh I had my peak - I just said, we should probably get a bit more practise in before my peak sometime next week - and he was like a different person! I had my lh peak yesterday eve so we dtd last night, and I might instigate tomo morn so he doesn’t get suspicious and start to panic lol! He takes things to heart a lot so I think he was super stressed but not letting on whenever I was telling him it was time etc! Luckily now we have our own house it’s easier overall! We weren’t really getting to have that much dtd for funsies with no bedroom door - bless him!

@Rainbowhope11 sorry I was meant to tag you up top in my message and not @HopeForRainbowbaby x

@Bellabubble it must be so lovely with your own place now! Can’t imagine the extra stresses of trying to keep it down with no door and parents nearby 😳😂

Hi ladies, sorry for disappearing again last time round. Spent a good week crying and breaking down over the miscarriage, havent been this bad in months.
Hey @VP91x