Hi @LSL0708, sorry you had a BFN - though I guess they say never out until AF shows...so keeping my fingers crossed on the off-chance. And if it does arrive, hope it wasn't before today and you're back into a more normal LP length. Not long until that next appointment now, hopefully that is something to focus on and I would think you'll definitely be exploring IVF properly at that one. Hope they get the wheels in motion for you and that there isn't too much of a wait.
Good idea to have a break from OPKs too - I've never actually managed that, mostly because I like the rough idea it gives me on when to expect AF, but it is definitely good to try a 'relaxed' cycle every so often. Looking back, when I insisted on SMEP and was temping everyday, it made things quite stressful - so I am definitely a bit more relaxed (relatively!) nowadays. But agree, of course never actually manage to switch off from it!
I'm almost 30, and my DH is 31. We keep being told we are young in fertility terms and have plenty of time, shouldn't worry, it could still happen in the next few years etc. But I find that a bit irritating rather than comforting - like we would be taken more seriously if time wasn't on our side anymore. We've been together since school, and it's the right time for us in every way, so I don't think we should be encouraged to wait it out just because technically it could happen naturally sometime in the next few years. Our life is on hold really, it's all we want. I think it's easy for doctors to encourage patience when they've probably not been in the situation themselves! Understand you feeling the pressure more with your DH being slightly older, easy for me to say but try not to worry about people's perceptions - I know loads of people with dads who were in their 40s (including my DH's dad), I think it's pretty common and most people don't bat an eyelid. But equally it does add that extra reason not to want to just 'wait it out'.
Welcome @Emilu89, good to hear from you. So sorry to hear about the journey you've had, and your miscarriage - that must have been devastating particularly after trying so long. I would say it's definitely not too soon to see the GP, it certainly can't hurt and you're past the year mark. Even with the miscarriage I would hope they would consider the basic tests for you and your partner at this stage. It really helped me at the time to feel like we were taking some practical steps forward, even though after all of that it remains unexplained.
Totally with you on the feelings around others falling pregnant so easily - it can be very hard not to feel resentful. I have several friends that started trying so long after me and fell the first month, a couple that are now thinking about trying for their second, those that fall pregnant on a drunken holiday or night out while I'm beating myself up about a single glass of wine. I switched off a programme the other night where someone was joking about how they'd 'accidentally' ended up with four kids from a very on-off relationship. It's so tough! It must be really hard with your daughter asking all the time, but hang in there and know it's in no way your fault - when you do get there, she will be even more excited to welcome her sibling after the long wait.
Keep me posted both of you, fingers crossed for us all and look forward to the days we can share our good news xx