Why am I not pregnant yet :( TTC

[RileyF12]

This is more of a cry for needing someone to talk to post 😭

My partner and I have been trying since last year to conceive well last October.

I have irregular periods so never actually know when I am ovulating.

We have sex at least 3 times a week.

I feel like everyone is getting pregnant but us 😭😭😭😭

We are trying to keep it a secret to so no one knows so difficult not having anyone to talk too.

My doc said they won't do any tests on me until 1 year from coming off the pill. 😢

@RileyF12 ohh so you are not tracking your ovulation at all?

I started bbt and opk charting since march and I find it really helps to spot ovulation coming, at the same time it did put a lot of pressure on our couple cause when you see it coming it's all you can think about, so something to take into account. But it helped me found out that I was actually ovulating a lot later than I thought!

Just DTD every other day, Riley. Then it won't matter when you ovulate.

Don't loose hope, I got my BFP last week after 16 cycles!

Defo recommend tracking your BBT, I used femometer it is fab 🙂

Congrats @whatsthecraic91 xx

So this is now the third day in a row and my stomach has been in knots! Normally I have an upset stomach once and that's it but this is the third day in a row. I've been feeling so agitated recently too and my skin on my face is a mess!!

Surely this had got to be some sort of symptom??

Earlier on today I also felt a sharp twinge down below near my ovaries

@RileyF12 without knowing if you've ovulated or not it's hard to say tbh :/ it could be ovulation/pre period/pregnancy symptoms... it's hard to tell just like that

I know your right @lilypad88

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Hey girls, is started the thermometer checking can someone tell me what this means? I'm all over the place!

Depends, where are you at in your cycle? When was your last period?

@lilypad88 I have irregular periods, I haven't had a proper period since last October.

Two months ago I bled for three weeks.

@RileyF12 oh I see... and your doc don't want to do tests??! Wth?!

Well It could be 2 things, clearly your temp is dropping, so could be that tour are about to ovulate or that you are about to have your period, if it was pregnancy your bbt would stay high or be on the raise.

But saying that, during anovulatory cycles, bbt tends to fluctuate quite a lot for some people so can't tel for sure...

I don't know how you take your temp, but it took me a couple of cycle to take it right, make sure to always take it same time every morning (between 6-7 am is the best apparently) and don't make any big movement before taking your temp this can cause weird fluctuations too..

But defo start looking at your bbt and take it everyday too! That will really help you understand what's going on with your cycles. Hope it helps!

You want to do it before you even get out of bed, at the same time every day. It should be the first thing you do and takes a couple of months at least to start being useful from an ovulation standpoint, from what I've read. I looked into it a while back but decided it sounded like too much work.

It sounds like too much hassle but really it only takes a few secs in the morning, I have the alarm on my thermometer and just go back to sleep once Ive done it. I think it's worth it, especially when period are not regular.

Girls am I going off my head or is that a faint line? Or is it possibly an error? I really want it to be a line but I've always had completely nothing whenever i do a test xxx

I can see something yes but very faint, could be an evap, can't really tell :s you should try again tomorrow morning with you first wee! See if you get the same line!

Fingers crossed!! 🤞🏻

I know I was thinking possible evap which I've never even had.

I tried putting this effect on the pic... I've read you should try that? I don't know why tbh

@RileyF12 any update? Did you do another test since?

Inositol/inofolic for irregular periods, should regulate them.
Use natural cycles (you won't see a pattern till cycle 2/3 but totally worth it)
Once you know when you are likely to ovulate dtd every other day from 5 days before till day after.
My final trick (first used the month I fell pregnant after 11 months of trying) was to use the 'mooncup trick' (inserting a menstrual cup after DTD to keep the semen in over night, gross but it seemed to work for me!)
Good luck x