New to mumsnet. TTC for 9 months :(

[Sawiia]

Hi all,

I'm 27 and me and my fiancé have been TTC for 9 months. AF has appeared today and I have been a wreck so decided to join looking for some support.

I've never been an emotional person. I'm very optimistic, logical and positive but for some reason I'm really not coping with TTC. I've spent a good few hours crying today because AF has come and I spend every waking moment thinking about being pregnant and, more so, how I'm not yet!

Hoping this will help me see I'm not alone and that this is normal.

Thanks xx

[Positevibes]

Bit random but does anyone else get random bouts of nausea around ovulation? Might just be me 😂 I've only really noticed it's at the time of ovulation since I started tracking my cycles 🤢 feeling pretty green at the moment but I'm meant to ovulate tomorrow 🤞

[Slug123]

@Positevibes sorry for the late response. I do a few days before! In due to ov Monday and woke up feeling nauseous yesterday so expecting a positive opk the next couple of days.

[sunshineandshowers3]

Not sure how often anyone comes on this thread but I’ve hit the ttc for 9 months landmark and wondered if you ladies ahead of me have had any success stories yet? Really hope so! 😊xx

[Slug123]

Hi @sunshineandshowers3!

OP here. No success from me I'm afraid and now on cycle 19 of TTC 😔

I hope you have better luck!

[sunshineandshowers3]

Thanks for the reply @Slug123 - so sorry to hear you haven’t had positives news yet 😔. It completely and utterly sucks doesn’t it? If you don’t mind me asking, have you had tests yet and if so, found any potential problems?

I don’t think it’s spoken enough about how lonely ttc is. MN is a massive help and somewhere to offload if you don’t want to burden family and friends and are a private person (like me) xxx

[Slug123]

@sunshineandshowers3 I don't mind you asking at all :)

I had day 21 bloods done earlier this year and OH had SA done too. Both came back completely fine. I then had external and internal ultrasounds a month or so ago and, again, no problems at all. So, unfortunately, we have to just keep trying and hoping for the best.

Have you had any tests?

It definitely isn't talked about enough. I haven't really told anyone we're trying so its been a huge help for me xx

[sunshineandshowers3]

Glad you’ve gone for all the relevant tests. Did it initially make you feel better when they found nothing? I’m a bit of a control freak and hate not knowing what is going on inside my own body.

How old are you both? I’m 28 and my DP is 30. Haven’t been for tests yet, but will be enquiring and calling GP in the new year.

We haven’t really told anyone either. My Mum knows though as I am very close to her. I know she means well but she always says the old cliches like “it’ll happen when you relax/stop thinking about it/least expect it” etc. She conceived first month with my brother and second month with me. I know she’s trying to help but it’s still frustrating when she can’t fully understand.

Do many of your friends have children? xx

[Slug123]

@sunshineandshowers3 it did and it didn't because I think i was fooling myself hoping there'd be a quick, easy fix to make it happen for us :/

I'm the same as you, I hate not knowing and it scares me so much!

We're both 28.

My mom is one of the only people I've told too for the same reason and that is exactly her reaction too

Yeah, loads. And loads are currently pregnant. I'm getting to the point where theres a few friends who have got pregnant and given birth since we started trying :/