Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

[Annny27]

Hi ladies- setting up another thread so we can keep in touch :)

@sunnysideup2020 I think that's really sensible. This is the first month I haven't been ridiculously stressed and we actually enjoyed sex this month instead of "shall we just do it quick before dinner" haha

Obviously I don't know if I am pregnant this month but it was a success for me in terms of my mental health :D

@SunnySideUp2020 I know this happens for some people, but I've recently had 7 day lps, then the last one was 5! I guess I'll just keep trying and hope I have more luck.

Thanks @MilsCookie I like your style, will be doing a few of those I think. Although my hand tends to be hovering over the chocolate at all times anyway.

No sign of AF yet. I’m 12dpo and bbt still above cover line. Was going to test this morning but then read this on FF yesterday:

‘You can take an HPT when you are past your usual luteal phase length (the time between ovulation and when you get your period) but if your usual luteal phase length is shorter than 13 days, then you should probably consider waiting a day or two longer.’

So now I’m waiting until tomorrow in case my cycles have miraculously returned to pre-MC length.

@leok83 I use FF too. I find it very good, some of the kind of faux cheery tracking apps are a bit patronising. Ff seems to be cold hard stats.
How are you today? Have you done any more tests?

@Ejb86 the clear blue opks says peak means OV 24-48 later, just checked back through my FF charts and they suggest OV on the day I got a peak. Probably depends on which opks you’re using.

Hi @MrsLBear 👋

@SunnySideUp2020 how are you doing?

@sparkl things sound good your way!
🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽 For tomorrow

Today feeling bit better than yesterdAy and already more relaxed knowing i will let go of the ttc obsession next month!

Absolutely 100% sure not pregnant (obviously) as BFN and just normal pre AF stuff.

Sorry missed a bunch of posts since starting to write that!

@Annny27 thanks for sharing that. That’s how i also hope to feel...
A little break for my MH.

I also find the stress around ttc makes me eat much more and i have gained 5kg since November- which is not good.
Having a baby is more important to me than looking slim but i know it’s not healthy.
And it’s also playing a bit with how i feel overall.

@MilsCookie I really like your ‘reward’ idea so I’ll be trying that when AF finally decided to show up! Stocked up on goodies & nice wine on our big shop yesterday which will be lovely.

@Leok83 Sorry to see that it is probs a CP, hope you’re ok.

@Annny27 and @SunnySideUp2020 Sounds good to ‘switch off’ from it. It’s kind of what I’ve done since the MC, waiting for AF, and it’s been good to feel less pressure. But now that it’s been over a month with nothing, I am starting to twitch as this would usually be the end of my cycle and have to keep reminding myself that this is not a ‘normal cycle’.

I like the idea of the rewards too
I’m going to set up a “date night” for OH for Friday night, send him an invitation and everything (he’s still working) it will give me something to focus on too these days are vvvvvvvv long. Can’t believe we are only CD10 & I’ve still no idea when I ovulate 😖

Does it matter what time of day you DTD do you think?

Hi all 🙂

Welcome back @MrsLBear I hear you with getting sick of your own voice. I'm trying to post less because I get sick of myself sometimes 😂

@MilsCookie I think it's important to have some treats to soften the blow otherwise this whole situation becomes an even bigger miserable pity party than it needs to be. When AF arrives I usually treat myself to a glass of wine or two for two weekends before ttc starts again.

I'm 8 or 9 dpo depending which app I want to believe. No massive symptoms. My temp dropped for one day and I thought that was it AF is on her way but it has risen back up higher yesterday and higher again today so 🤞 she either stays away and my lp has got longer or it's a BFP in a few days. I'm not testing until Saturday if AF hasn't arrived by then.

I did have a really vivid dream last night too @Annny27 but I think that's because the dog woke me and I wasn't in a particularly deep sleep after more than anything else!

Ok, I'm stressing less now. I've gone back through Ovia from when we were TTC(trying to conceive)our son and when we conceived the girls without even trying.

When we conceived the twins, we had sex once and it was on cd19. We weren't tracking ovulation. This suggests that ovulation for me has been later probably since I had George, not since having the twins. With George I had a positive OPK on cd15.

I'm much happier now and a lot less stressed about it all

So glad you’re feeling less stressed now @Ejb86 ❤️ I want to see you get that BFP SO MUCH!!

@SunnySideUp2020 @Sparkl @Hoppyhops I’m ok thanks. My heads come to terms with it but my body hasn’t got the memo and not letting go. No sign of AF at all..really hoping it’ll start soon as the waiting is worse than anything. Just like the MMC it feels like my body wants to be pregnant and won’t let go even if the beans aren’t lasting 😞

@Sparkl that’s really promising about ur temps..you are so strong willed not to have tested yet!! Really hope it’s good news tomorrow!!

@Ejb86 so happy to see you're less stressed, really want you to see that BFP after such a journey.

I'm currently 12 DPO and due AF tomorrow but so far none of the usual signs. I'm very rarely late, most of the time if I don't have AF on my predicted day it's because it comes early. So twitchy knowing that TWW is up tomorrow 🤞 If it doesn't arrive I'm not testing until Sunday to give it a good chance, my first BFP was the day after AF was meant to have ended so I'm following that pattern (if I can resist).

@Annny27 and @SunnySideUp2020 I get what you mean by stepping back/trying to switch off from it. Sometimes TTC can be so stressful when it doesn't happen. Looking after MH is important, totally agree that going with the flow every now and then helps reduce the stress.

Afternoon everyone - wow I just had a lot of reading to do since the morning haha! Glad you're all liking the AF "reward" idea - we really bloody deserve it after the witch's arrival!!

@Leok83 I'm so sorry but have you tested again? If AF is staying away maybe it's a positive sign? I don't want to get your hopes up just in case but do you think there could still be a possibility?

@SunnySideUp2020 I agree with Anny, we've done the same this month and switched off a lot and it's done me the world of good. I've still thought about it every day but I'm actively trying to distract myself and just trust in my body. I've even gone about my TWW as though I'm not pregnant (even if I am) having a glass of wine here and there and caffeinated tea! Because I'm just so sick of how stressed it makes me feel! Will be continuing with this next cycle because I've definitely felt better for it and I hope you do too . I also did this "Trust Your Body" meditation and I felt it helped me! If any of you want to try it here it is:

@Ejb86 I totally get that you don't want to take too many supplements - I'm already worried that I've bodged my body up by taking too many for the last 3 months! This month all I've taken is folic acid. I'm glad you're feeling a bit better about your ovulation/LP now. Fingers crossed you have a longer one this cycle.

@Sparkl eeeeek I'm so excited for you to test - keeping everything crossed you get your BFP!! Also for you @Sunny - you're not out yet!

@Minster2012 I've often wondered this and I don't know... we often mix it up with morning and night sex... especially at the moment whilst we're both at home we've been able to dtd in the morning more often haha!

Welcome back @MrsLBear hope all is well with you!

@Fizzl that's exciting that your temp has gone back up! Keeping everything crossed for you!! We're similar dpo, I think I'm around 8dpo today but I am absolutely not testing before AF is due this month. I just cannot handle seeing another BFN. @Annny27 AF is due around 29th-30th April and I assume she'll arrive as I have the usual sore boobs I get in my LP before AF and don't feel pregnant at all! Still got about another week to go so just trying to stay calm.

WOW sorry for the long post haha!

@MilsCookie thanks, it has definitely crossed my mind but then I look at my last test that was almost negative so it’s really unlikely. If no sign by Friday I’ll prob test again then but I’m pretty sure there’s 0 hope.
Glad to hear you sound like your having a far more relaxed TWW😊it’s definitely good not to obsess even though it’s soo hard! But definitely hear so many success stories from couples who just took a step back so 🤞for you!! My DH keeps telling me I’m trying too hard so I think I’ll have to take a lead out of your book!

@Fizzl that sounds positive with the temps 🤞 for you!

@Leok83 not strong willed, I just reaaalllly don’t want to see a bfn

I stopped doing opks and that definitely helped with feeling more relaxed, also been having g&ts and real tea. But I wouldn’t say I’m actually relaxed this time! Slightly less googling though 😏

I’m still feeling like AF is on the way. I’ll be happy to have a longer LP after the crazy short one last time. So hard not to get hopes up even though symptoms are all AF ones.

I'm not reading too much into my temps. I don't think I'm consistent enough for them to be 100% accurate anyway. I know really it's still early for symptoms yet anyway and to be fair I didn't get any when I was pregnant so I'm trying not to read into every little twinge because I know it doesn't really mean anything.

@Leok83 keeping my fingers crossed for you. I definitely get not wanting to get your hopes up but until af shows your not out yet 🤞

@sparkl oh google is the worst. Almost wish it didn't exist to be honest as I'm pretty sure I google the same things every cycle throughout my cycle. It's so hard not to and I find myself doing it without even realising.

Thank you @milscookie 🙂🙂

I like your date night idea @Minster2012 I've seen a few ppl doing that actually! I think it's so easy to just sit on phones etc especially in the evenings and adding lockdown into that too.

@ljm0101 we are here!

@MilsCookie thanks for the link! Will definitely do this.
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@Sparkl good luck with testing today! Hope it’s a BFP 😃😃😃

@Leok83 our body can be so cruel...
Just like the other ladies - don’t want to get your hopes up- but obviously hope AF not showing is a positive sign.

Well I’m really confused. I’m on CD11 today, and wiped blood this morning. So this is effectively 6 weeks from MMC, had a very light AF (one day flow, day spotting either side) exactly 28 days after miscarriage. Eh????

Well took a test this morning and it’s faint but it’s definitely a line! I think it’s actually fainter irl
Can’t believe it!
Need to stock up on tests to take more over the next few days

I know you were pregnant when you were said about your high bbt! @sparkl :D that's super exciting!!! And ita not that faint of a line. Congratulations

morning ladies was in the middle of writing when I saw @Sparkl update and just had to post her congratulations 💗💗💗

@Minster2012 that is confusing! Perhaps see the GP if It continues xx

@fizzl your high temps sounds promising 🤞🤞 when will you test? I am 8dpo today and literally 0 symptoms haha. Can't even make any up haha

@SunnySideUp2020 any sign of AF? Yep even my DH said I have been happier this month which is nice :D

@MilsCookie my AF is due in the 30th so I hope it stays away haha! I have 0 symptoms and 0 indication of implantation or anything else haha. Will just hold out till AF!

@Leok83 let us know when you retest. Will be thinking of you!

@GlitterFairy1412 is there any AF sign??

@Sparkl Aww that is a very clear line! Congratulations 🥳