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Anyone putting off TTC coronavirus

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Daffie19 · 17/03/2020 16:07

Just that reslly.
DS is 18 months, and I'm longing for another baby, and had just talked DH round to trying from this month.

We really wanted to plan it so that I could get mat leave in this job, because we want to Move away for DS going to school in a few years, so in those few years... Ideally need to take advantage and have a baby here, while we've got family help, and decent mat pay.

Now I'm not so sure it's a good idea.

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Beau20 · 17/03/2020 18:41

I was also going to ask this question...

We've been TTC for 8 months and next month going to stop 'actively' trying so no tracking etc. However nothing to do with coronavirus. We've had a really tough ride so far so not up for totally giving up although did cross my mind if it was worth is considering zero research on pregnancy and corona

Lightsunbeam · 17/03/2020 18:44

I posted about this yesterday, too. Really conflicted! I’m in my late 30s so don’t have much time to delay. Honestly don’t know what to do.

EmbarrassingMama · 17/03/2020 22:29

Yup. Entering our 3rd month TTC with a 21 month old. Now thinking we should wait. Shame as the gap is already getting big and I, personally, would be sad to have a huge gap (and sadder if it didn’t happen at all).

BecauseReasons · 17/03/2020 22:33

I would wait if I were you. No one knows what it does to a first-trimester pregnancy.

BuffaloCauliflower · 17/03/2020 22:34

I’m 5 weeks pregnant tomorrow, I’ve known a week and a half and honestly I am nervous. More about the economy and what I’ll be bringing baby into than the virus itself. DH and my jobs are more secure than many but who knows what the fall out will be. I’d consider your financial security really broadly

BuffaloCauliflower · 17/03/2020 22:35

I also have symptoms as well, I work in London and have been all over public transport. Isolating our household now but think it’ll be a long time before things are normal.

RainMinusBow · 17/03/2020 22:36

I'm 29 weeks' pregnant and of course we had no idea when TTC this would happen. It's bloody awful. Am having to self-isolate for 12 weeks and terrified as due-date is end of May when virus expected to reach its peak.

I'd hoped so much for a home birth but not sure this is going to be possible now.

It's such a difficult one. I guess some of it depends on age of mum? I'm 39 so felt we didn't have loads of time left but to our surprise I fell pg the first month of trying.

Personally I think if I was a little younger and considering ttc I'd put it off until things are a bit more clear re guidance etc.

lavenderlove · 17/03/2020 22:39

I've been trying for almost 2 years and even though I don't think it will happen this or next month anyway (because of how long it's been already) I'm going to avoid trying. It's just so uncertain and I don't want to be stressed about it. I'm 26 though so appreciate i haven't got that pressure of time like other posters

karenkeys · 18/03/2020 09:42

I’m a little concerned about it but I have already been DTD this month before things got bad so if it’s happened, it’s happened!

I’m lucky to be working from home right now as my job is web related and I had a work laptop, so my chances of catching it are smaller thankfully. I haven’t read anything concerning and while it’s a new virus, it is similar to influenza and SARS and there haven’t been any pregnancy issues with those so fingers crossed any of us who are pregnant will be fine 🤞

CoalCraft · 18/03/2020 10:50

I'm carrying on for now. It's true that there's not a lot known about the effects on pregnancy yet but what there is seems to suggest it isn't especially harmful to unborn babies or pregnant women; seems lots of women have already given birth some having the virus or after having it in pregnancy and there's no obvious problems there, not like with Zika

I'm sort of hoping that if I got pregnant now, the peak of the virus would be well over with by the time of the birth and things would he getting back to normal ish...

But am keeping an eye on the situation

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Daffie19 · 18/03/2020 12:22

I'm really torn.
I've only jsut started a new job, been there 4 weeks, now self isolating for 2 weeks as I've had cough, fever, generally unwell (better now).
Don't think it would go down well if I rocked up next month and told them I was pregnant 😂 if we were lucky enough to fall on first month of trying like with DS.

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orangeloo · 18/03/2020 12:35

I'm carrying on its too unknown and there is no evidence to suggest it's more harmful to pregnant women or babies. I've been ttc 15 months and in my 30's I can't give up. If we are over the peak of this in months to come I will massively regret those months I didn't try.

Beau20 · 18/03/2020 14:12

@Daffie19 based on your work situation alone I would postpone. That is unless you are happy to accept SMP...

I personally wouldn't start TTC when I had been in a job less than 1 year at a push. I've worked for the same company for almost 7 years but changed jobs just over 2 years ago, I only started TTC once I had been in the job 18 months, It didn't feel right doing it any sooner.

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Daffie19 · 18/03/2020 14:32

I work as a nurse... Its just a transfer job, not a new job Completely, so still entitled to NHS mat pay, which I upped my hours a. Few months ago to get better mat pay, as I knew I wanted another one soon ish.

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Beau20 · 18/03/2020 15:34

@Daffie19 ahh okay, well in that case not an issue. I thought maybe you had started for a new company.

Do what you feel comfortable with.I know I am going to stop actively TTC for other reasons but I wouldn't say it was the end of the world if I did get pregnant.

Nat4392 · 18/03/2020 19:33

AF is due next week, honestly this is the first month where I actually hope I’m not pregnant. The virus itself doesn’t faze me but the prospect of prolonged self-isolation with minimal pay, scares the shit out of me. DH works at an airport and he’s facing the prospect of losing his job so we need all the money we can get right now.
We’ll still DTD unprotected in the next few months but I won’t be actively tracking ovulation and DTD on specific days. It’s an utter nightmare!

Moreinfopls · 18/03/2020 21:48

The only reason (well not the only one but lets focus on this) is that if i get pregnant now, wouldn't i need access to care early on, for like scans and check ups...and it's uncertain what the 'lockdown' will mean for the UK, so potentially in April/May i might struggle the right care (let alone if the pregnancy becomes troublesome).
Any thoughts on this? Perhaps from mums who know what they needed in their first pregnancies in terms of care and hospital visits etc? Thanks

fafi · 18/03/2020 22:58

I'm in the same position, we've been TTC for 3 months now and feeling as though we should hold off. I'm not worried about being sick, but my partner might have his work reduced. I should be ok but we definitely rely on both our incomes :(

Beau20 · 20/03/2020 18:29

@Moreinfopls I could be wrong but I really really doubt essential maternity scans would be stopped, even if we went into lockdown. I would say pregnant women are high risk/high importance and most scans are carried out at your maternity unit where I they would still be open to allow for women to give birth. I really really wouldn't worry about lack of care during pregnancy. We are seen by midwives, not nurses. Midwives won't be seeing to anyone other than pregnant women.

One thing I don't worry about is the level of care during a pregnancy. I'm sure that part of it will run almost as normal.

Beau20 · 20/03/2020 18:31

Plus just to add to money worries, the government has said they will pay up to 80% of salaries if needed to stop people being laid off/losing earnings. It's then up to your employer to top up the rest. This is for all sectors and every single person employed or self employed. One less thing to worry about!

HumbleCrumble · 20/03/2020 21:13

We were planning to start TTC in April/May (waiting to get my period after coming off the pill). We've agreed we should wait for now. My main concern was not wanting to put additional pressure on the NHS by creating a need for appointments that I wouldn't need otherwise but I'm so sad about it.

Beau20 · 20/03/2020 21:26

@HumbleCrumble that's really nice of you to think like that 🥰 Im trying to think this way but at the same time, we need midwives not the usual doctors and nurses. And I doubt midwives will be able to deal with coronavirus. So no extra strain in that respect. The extra strain however will be on the people that have to carry out tests on everyone entering the maternity unit. This makes me think about reconsidering

bitheby · 21/03/2020 03:51

I can't. Past 40 and feel like I can't afford to wait. My TWW starts tomorrow in theory but I can't sleep so wondering whether I'll even ovulate this month.

blueberryyoghurt · 21/03/2020 04:50

I'm 21 weeks pregnant now. Honestly I'm a bit scared, mainly about how hospital capacity will be by July. I'm being very careful - self isolating at home, WFH, only going out on walks to nearby park, no visitors etc. I think it depends on your age and life situation - if 35+ I wouldn't wait (I'm 35), but if still in your 20s then yes I would wait.

paintfairy · 21/03/2020 10:20

I think if you have a normal pregnancy then it might be ok. The worry is - if you don't? Do you want to end up on a hospital ward in the middle of it, with the worry of catching it, whilst be allowed no visitors? And stuck there for months?

I'm not sure I do.....

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