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Anyone putting off TTC coronavirus

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Daffie19 · 17/03/2020 16:07

Just that reslly.
DS is 18 months, and I'm longing for another baby, and had just talked DH round to trying from this month.

We really wanted to plan it so that I could get mat leave in this job, because we want to Move away for DS going to school in a few years, so in those few years... Ideally need to take advantage and have a baby here, while we've got family help, and decent mat pay.

Now I'm not so sure it's a good idea.

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Yesterdayforgotten · 21/03/2020 10:27

@Beau20 the cycle me and dh stopped actively trying was the month I fell pregnant. There is alot to be said for relaxing and letting nature take its course.

HumbleCrumble · 21/03/2020 13:14

@paintfairy that's my other worry. This would be my first pregnancy so I have no reason to think it might be high risk/difficult, but the possibility scares me.

SunFleck · 21/03/2020 16:27

My DH and I are holding off to see what happens over the next few months. Extremely disappointing.

Yesterdayforgotten · 21/03/2020 16:30

Sorry for you ladies but it must be really stressful being pregnant in the current climate.

hopsalong · 21/03/2020 16:37

I'm not TTC but my best friend (late 30s) is and I feel worried about it. Surely the biggest risk (and one which we can't know yet, because no babies have been born to women who got covid-19 in the first trimester) is fetal abnormality? Hopefully cv-19 doesn't transfer to the baby, but (thinking of Zika, CMV etc) an unknown virus is scary.

paintfairy · 21/03/2020 17:10

I don't think babies catching it is the issue necessarily. But we are early days. What if in 9 months time there's no food? No jobs. No nothing? What if you need medical care. Baby is premature. Has some other illness? You won't be able to have visitors or even visit your own baby in hospital? Assuming you don't catch coronavirus in the process. They've stopped partners going for scans so do you think they'll be able to be there for the birth? In 3 months time things might look better. But it might actually be 10000 times worse. I can't understand anyone blindly carrying on. Why on earth would you want to bring a child into this insanity?

Beau20 · 21/03/2020 17:22

@paintfairy my local maternity unit is still letting partners in for scans but they are checking the temperature for both partners attending, just to be sure.

I'm not trying to dumb it down at all but I do think there is a huge amount of scaremongering, catastrophsing and over reaction to this new virus. To me, the only people who need to be concerned are the vulnerable/elderly and those who are classed as high risk in regards to flu. In my opinion, the only thing different to this virus is the fact that there is no vaccine (yet). The death rates aren't even close to typical flu. Of course I am likely to get flamed for this and I am self isolating (I'm not even high risk) and taking all the precautions necessary, but I think this whole thing is a major major over reaction with too much press coverage.

I think we will all be fine...

DorotheaHomeAlone · 21/03/2020 17:37

I have a newborn and although it’s difficult caring for her and my other kids without school or support I’m very relieved not to be pregnant. No way would I ttc deliberately while there is still no information about the affect of the virus on first trimester development. It’s stressful enough for my sister who is third trimester and now quarantined for 12 weeks with her 2yo.

I also agree with pp that if you can reduce pressure on the nhs by not getting deliberately pregnant then that would be the responsible choice. Most midwives are trained nurses and could well be called in to triage Covid 19 cases. My hv mentioned this week that she was being redeployed for this reason (they are also originally qualified nurses). Plus the lab technicians to check your bloods, the admin staff who arrange your appointments, consultants if you have any issues. All these people could be better used over the coming months.

paintfairy · 21/03/2020 17:54

You can't even buy nappies or formula? What if you can't breast feed. It must be terrifying if you are already pregnant. Those people have no choice now. But why make the problem worse?

BecauseReasons · 22/03/2020 00:01

You can't even buy nappies or formula? What if you can't breast feed.

To be fair, the vast majority of women can with appropriate support. About 95%. It seems like it's far more common to not be able to than it actually is, because health care professionals in this country tend to respond to any bumps in the breastfeeding road by encouraging a switch to formula. A mother who plans to breastfeed shouldn't worry unduly unless there is a reason to think there are likely to be problems.

jam85 · 22/03/2020 12:46

My fears are that the virus mutate and that the pandemic becomes consequently even worse ... Something like the 1918 Spanish flu. It started as a mild flu and ended up with more than 80 millions of dead people.

Azahar8 · 22/03/2020 14:54

I am torn because I don't want to put additional pressure on the NHS.

In terms of the virus itself, don't you think that now that everyone is supposedly washing their hands more and practising social distancing, pregnant women might actually be less likely to get infected with anything (not just coronavirus) than they would be in normal circumstances?

We'll definitely see changes to antenatal appointments but it doesn't seem like women with complicated pregnancies would be getting any less care. For example, some hospitalsno longer offer ultrasound scans at 28 weeks but continue to offer additional scans where clinically necessary.

Hatepickinganame · 22/03/2020 15:50

@jam85, you cant compare the two. The Spanish flu outbreak was in the middle of a war where sanitation and healthcare were already broken. Im not saying that this virus won't mutate or become worse than it is, and i work in an environment that puts me at risk everyday, but the two pandemics cant be compared due to the entirely different circumstances.

jam85 · 23/03/2020 13:18

On the other side the world is much more connected today than 100 years ago. And viruses have a tendency to adapt quickly. A common argument to not use the 99.99% antibacterials is that you end up doping the 0.01% that is immune against it!

kirinm · 23/03/2020 13:36

@Beau20 the death rate is 10 x as high as flu. What are you talking about? I don't want anyone to scaremonger but you're actually saying things that can be challenged factually.

It is not the flu. It is chronic pneumonia at its worse.

Beau20 · 23/03/2020 15:40

@kirinm you are scaremongering because that isn't the case at all. As I said I'm not dumbing it down but coronavirus deaths are currently at 15,400 and in the exact same period (Oct 2019 to March 2020) there were 23-59k estimated deaths from flu. Death rates (in %) mean nothing as there will be tens maybe even hundreds of thousands of unconfirmed cases of both flu and coronavirus. All we can really look at are the exact number of deaths.

In regards to the treat topic (none of us are scientists) so it's personal choice. There's no point any one on here arguing about whether or not they believe coronavirus to be this or that. None of us have a clue!

Beau20 · 23/03/2020 15:42

@kirinm also 10x higher than flu - what are YOU talking about! That makes the death rate of coronavirus 10%

Stop being silly!

kirinm · 23/03/2020 16:59

The death rate of flu isn't 1% it's 0.1%.

werewolvedd · 24/03/2020 02:10

Too late... we had already dtd by the time all the lockdowns were put in place, I'm in the back end of my TWW now. We've been living overseas and came back when it had just started but wasn't super bad yet. It was my first time finally feeling ready after a traumatic MC over a year ago. I saw multiple Drs after coming back who gave me the all clear to TTC.
Well a few days after O for me was when the situation really kicked up. A bit worried, but I have the option to be at home. DH is at work but in a low risk job. If it's meant to be it will be... Not at all to minimise the severity of the virus, but DH's mother gave birth to him in the jungle in a warzone. So if I have already conceived then I'll find a way. But otherwise I'm not sure what I'll do yet. It feels like it's changing every day.

Baby dust to all :･ﾟ✧:･ﾟ

bluemoony · 24/03/2020 08:23

I have given this month a miss (due to ovulate this.week) until things become a bit clearer. Everything is up in the air at the moment with regards to mine & partners pay & job security but my main concern is the risk of fever in the first trimester... it is the most common symptom of the coronavirus and is known to potentially result in birth defects. This terrifies me and I feel I would never forgive myself for just waiting a little longer even though time isn’t necessarily on my side.. will reassess next month.
I’m also very, very anxious at the moment (don’t normally suffer from anxiety at all) and know that wouldn’t be healthy for a growing baby.
I’m also greatly concerned about the pressure on the NHS at this time.
I am gutted though...this would be our 2nd month properly TTC and we have put if off over the last year for numerous reasons.

paintfairy · 24/03/2020 09:26

Flu - many people have some kind of immunity to that. It'll never spread completely through a community. Not everyone will get it. Otherwise you'd have it every year. Therefore not everyone that would be considered high risk would pick it up either.

This is not flu! Firstly with flu you do not need a ventilator. And we will run out. Secondly there is no immunity anywhere so it'll spread like wild fire. How difficult is that to grasp?

Elllicam · 24/03/2020 09:30

I’m 38 and we have stopped trying. I’ve had several complex pregnancies with gestational diabetes for 2 of them and I would definitely need a section. It’s not worth the risk, there’s no guarantee that the staff would be available for a section and I might leave my kids with no mum. Also it doesn’t feel fair bringing a baby into this deliberately. I know that I might be giving up my shot at a last baby but I can’t risk it.

RainMinusBow · 24/03/2020 09:58

I'm already 30 weeks' pregnant and of course had no idea this was going to happen. It's a very scary time. I'm 39 and in the low-risk pregnancy group as no underlying conditions.

I had my heart set on a home birth from the get-go but worried that my midwife will say advice is now to go to hospital. I'm absolutely going to be digging my heels in at this point!

I was having home visits from my mw as part of the home birth care package but sadly these have been stopped and I have been referred back to a community mw.

My mw advice was of course to stay at home as much as possible but that if I do get Covid-19 the very great likelihood is, as with the rest of the population that have no underlying conditions, I would be fine. And baby would be too.

Whilst I am of course very worried about the situation, the baby has given me something positive to focus on and I am trying my best to keep healthy and well for her.

Hope this info helps you all.

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