9 months of TTC

[Georgie31]

This is my first ever post. I've been off my contraception pill since December 2018 but myself and my fiancé didn't begin to actively try until June 2019. For the first 6 months it really didn't bother me I thought we'll get there when we get there! We've recently bought our first home a lovely spacious house all ready to go! Something that we could grow into. Recently we've looked at camper vans and saying 'won't that be lovely then we can take our children away at the weekends'.... then the my period rises its ugly head! Now I'm sat here extremely upset thinking what's the point! We've waited a long time to save the money to get ourselves financially stable to have a family but nothing is happening!

Hi! I'm in the same position as you. Been trying for #1 since September 2019 and have a lovely home that's waiting for a baby. I think maybe not letting TTC being your sole purpose is a good idea. Go out, book a holiday, live as you normally do. Use your new home for having friends/family over etc. Makes the waiting not as painful and you're not in limbo.

Have you and OH got tested?

I'm trying to keep a positive mental attitude towards it all. Yes your right do things for us! We haven't moved into our new home yet but we've had lots of 'new home new baby' comments but no body knows that we've already started trying. We haven't been tested yet I haven't got the heart to go to the doctors. Our move in date is around June so my partner has said let's just move in and settle first and have our first Christmas in the new house and go from there. I honestly thought I wouldn't be in this position my mum had four children very quickly and my sister fell pregnant easily too. Me and my fiancé are so ready and excited he even shows me baby grows with 'I love daddy' written on them. It's just hard isn't it? Have you been tested?

I am also on my 8th cycle - no joy! I've been pregnant before very quickly but now it's not happening and I had a chemical last month. I'm only 28.

The GP will turn you away for fertility treatment until you've been trying for a year (but you can lie to them IF you really wanted). I went last week and although I've only been trying for a shortish time, they have referred me for blood tests. She said if they are abnormal they will refer me early to the fertility clinic - it's worth a try! My GP said 6 months is average and any longer than this is 'abnormal' which is maybe why she's running tests on me before the 12 month mark.

Hi, can i join, been TTC since October, came off the pill in August 2019, had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in October and been trying every since. Fed up about it recently, I think I'm really impatient which isn't helping xx

@Beau20 I'm in the same boat as you. Had my blood tests today so I'll know by Thursday/Friday how I've got on xx

I feel scared about going to the gp... like I've failed. I don't know why, almost admitting it's not going to happen the way that I thought. Do you girls think maybe go sooner rather than later? I have a friend at work it took her over two years but eventually did conceive naturally so I'm still holding out hope.

Yeah, I got tested and OH too. Nothing abnormal came up (I've PCOS but doc dismissed it having an impact). She said it's normal for it to take a year to conceive. It took my mum 10 months to get pregnant and went on to have 5 children, but then my sister got pregnant really easily so I guess I have to remember we are all different.

I've been getting acupuncture for the last 4 weeks so maybe that'll make a difference?! I am trying not to mentally plan so much and just do as I normally do. But yes, it is really hard. So frustrating not knowing...most things in life you work towards them...baby making is just luck?!

@AliSxo good luck!

@Georgie31 OH you haven't failed! Please...don't take this out on yourself...go get checked and talk to a professional. Chin up x

typo...I meant to say 'oh' not other half!

@LRboop your so right it's just luck!

@Georgie31 what have you tried so far in terms of TTC?

@Georgie31 Distract yourself with ideas to decorate your new home! That'll be so exciting to get in.

We got a dog in October and having her has really helped me. Lovely company and makes you get out for walks everyday.

@inahaze nothing too drastic just TTC vitamins to be honest we eat pretty healthy I cook all our meals from scratch BUT I love caffeine and so does my fiancé. Not going to lie we love a drink on a Friday night or after a hard day at work. We're both generally in good health I've heard yoga can help? And drinking more water.

@LRboop we've got big plans for the house and thinking of getting a camper van, but a really crappy one 😂😂 So we can build it up. This morning I felt terrible but writing that post and hearing from other women in the same position as me has really helped.

@Georgie31 have you done any charting of your cycle, like BBT charting or tracking your ovulation with OPKs?

there's a great book called "taking charge of your fertility" which you can pick up cheap second hand, tells you everything you need to know

Yes I've been tracking my ovulation with an app and ovulation sticks. We generally have sex every other day or on the 3rd day throughout the month. I'm not a fan of the app to be honest. It will suggest for me to take a pregnancy test before my period is due, sometimes 4 or 5 days before my next period is estimated and I'm not sure why.

@Georgie31. i'm using the flo app, ovia and FF mobile and they ALL give me different ovulations / fertile windows despite using the same data

I'm using Ovia and it isn't great. If I put in any information into it it will shift my fertile window.

Hi Georgie!
Sorry to hear you're going through this, I completely understand how you feel! In your own circle of friends and people you know it feels like you're the only one so it's good to talk to people in the same situation!
Congratulations on your new home by the way. Apparently anything up to two years is considered normal.
Me and my fiancé have been trying almost 3 years and neither of us have anything wrong!
I have now stopped tracking and overly 'trying' just enjoy having regular sex and take your vitamins , in my experience I found it more stressful temping, peeing on sticks ect!
Good luck xx

Hi @Ellismartine

That's really refreshing to hear! That even when there's nothing wrong it can just take longer. I've automatically presumed that if it's getting closer to that 12 month mark that there's deffo something wrong with me or my fiancé. Xx

Bless you I know what you mean I was the same but I promise you either way IF you hit the year mark and see the doctor you will feel better, if there is something not quite right it can be fixed and if there isn't just enjoy trying, then IF it came to it there are other avenues to go down :) x

@Ellismartine

Thankyou so much! I suffer with anxiety and have a habit of worrying about stuff that hasn't happened yet.

You have literally just described me in your OP! and my name is Georgie came off my pill at the same time as you but didn’t start trying for a few months. Currently doing up our first house good luck!

Hey OP

When deciding whether to start investigations now I think it's worth asking how quickly you want things to happen.
If you need assistance and go down the NHS route there is a LOT of waiting, so I'd suggest the sooner you take the first step the sooner to that hopeful BFP!

I'm in the middle of investigations. Waiting to be put on IVF waiting list (DP needs to stop smoking for three months so we can't go on list until end of April). First went to doctor in October last year and got bloods done and partner got SA. Been to fertility clinic twice since then. Initial appointment, then back to have a HyCoSy test and out next appointment is 28th April. It feels like so long/so much waiting.

Then NHS IVF waiting lists are all looking around the 6 month mark too. So I'll be another 6 months once I actually get on the waiting list.

We are down as unexplained infertility. My partner does have only 1% morphology but they don't see that as an issue at all for some reason.

@Thefaceofboe it's hard isn't it putting all
This preparation in to provide the best start in life for your future little one.... for the little one not wanting to arrive!!! @willithappen I think we're at least going to wait till we move then discuss going to the gp. In all honesty I've watched families nearly fall apart over IVF treatment for us it would be a big step to go through it were more inclined to go down the fostering or adoption route. But like @Ellismartine said IF it came to it.