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Needing friends as crazy as me! (CD2) TTC#1

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A08x · 26/01/2020 20:06

Hello all!

Onto cycle 5 of TTC as of yesterday. When I was still on the pill I was so blissfully naive that I would fall pregnant as soon as I stopped. Then by the time came to actually stop taking my contraception, I had myself convinced I had something wrong with me since in our 10 years together we had never had an accident when so many of those around us seemed to have!

Now that I’m nearly at the 6 months mark, I have started to actually get angry at my past self for trying for so many years to not get pregnant.. how ridiculous does that sound??? We wanted to wait til we were married, financially stable & tick a few selfish things off the bucket list first before having a baby which is where we are at in life now.

But at this stage of the TTC journey I’m reflecting back on all those pregnancy tests taken in fear praying for a stark white and just feeling annoyed! Even putting this into words sounds so stupid. None of our friends or family know we are TTC so I just needed to vent, and hope that someone else shares my ridiculous feelings x

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paintfairy · 26/01/2020 20:13

I actually think all of what you said will sound familiar to most people! I've decided we must be infertile because there's never been an accident. Lol. Honestly.

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A08x · 26/01/2020 22:01

@paintfairy it actually sounds so stupid doesn’t it?😂 I thought I would be so calm about all of this but I can actually feel myself turning into a full blown crazy person

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paintfairy · 26/01/2020 22:37

I feel better knowing most people have the same irrational thoughts. Kind of. Lol. If we knew it would definitely happen (just not when) it would be ok. But the not knowing if it'll ever happen is stressful. I'm trying not to worry though. If it's meant to be, it will.

wannabebump · 26/01/2020 23:03

Op, I think I could've written your post myself! 100% on the same wavelength!

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A08x · 27/01/2020 00:04

@paintfairy @wannabebump it definitely feels so much better knowing we aren’t alone. I have just ordered pre-seed to try for the first time this month, read so many positive reviews it can’t hurt to give it a go!

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paintfairy · 27/01/2020 08:59

If I don't get a bfp this month, I'm going to order some as well!

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A08x · 27/01/2020 10:39

@paintfairy where abouts in cycle are you? It’ll be interesting to see if it makes a difference!

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paintfairy · 27/01/2020 12:38

I'm 10dpo today.

Thistle23 · 27/01/2020 12:59

I feel like I could have written your first post.

Was made to believe you just looked at a guy and boom knocked up . I had no idea about there only being a certain window for conceiving.

I'll be coming up to 6 months off the pill on February 1st. Not a hint of anything , no chemicals etc .

Been with my DH going on 7 years , not one accident at all but I'm not shocked. I was so scared of getting pregnant when I was younger I wouldn't let him finish in me even when i was on the pill Blush, and i was waiting until we were married to TTC.

CooperLooper · 27/01/2020 13:07

Another one here who could have written your post myself. The (irrational) fear of infertility and something being wrong is always there floating around in the background, and I think it's a pretty common feeling for most people who are trying for their first.

I'm TTC#1 and CD4 today of cycle 4, after coming off the implant in October. I'd had the implant in for almost 6yrs without periods and I feel like I'm really battling to get my normal cycles back. They're all over the place, 39-50 day cycles and my luteal phase has been 5/9/5 days respectively for the 3 AFs I've had since October.

Definitely here for a handhold for you and others because I'm sure my husband is sick of me showing him pee sticks and temp charts and talking to him about follicles n all that, bless him.

(Hello again @paintfairy 😊)

CooperLooper · 27/01/2020 13:10

29-50 day cycles*

paintfairy · 27/01/2020 13:16

Waves @CooperLooper

It must be awkward with longer/unpredictable cycles. My friend is having that issue also.
Even when you know when you ovulate and time it all perfectly, it seems it doesn't necessarily happen anyway! Mission impossible! Or seems that way.....

CooperLooper · 27/01/2020 14:02

I know that's exactly how I feel. I'm using OPKs and I'm temping so I know exactly when I'm ovulating, but because my issue is short luteal phase/late ovulation its all really for nothing at the moment. I'm on ever supplement and vitamin under the sun to see if I can regulate my hormone imbalance (I'm a self diagnosing doctor via Google 😂) so hopefully the next month or two should see me regulate and get pregnant

Michelle2517 · 27/01/2020 14:19

Feel as if you have just described every single feeling i have! Im on cycle 6 TTC and i honestly cant stop thinking that there must be something wrong with me, been told by the docs give it 1 year so i am trying to not be so hard on myself xx

paintfairy · 27/01/2020 17:53

@CooperLooper My luteal phase isn't technically too short, but I have problems spotting quite early. Sometimes it's quite a lot. So you do worry that it would prevent implantation. I started spotting yesterday. (9dpo). I'd likely therefore never know if it was implantation or my usual spotting though. Some months it comes a little later than this month, which must be preferable. I can't see it being ideal. I've been trying the b50 vits but they seem to upset my stomach. So I was going to try shatavari. If that doesn't work, then I'll try the vitex. I tried raspberry leaf for ages but that didn't help.

CooperLooper · 27/01/2020 18:03

@paintfairy god that must be frustrating for you, have you mentioned it to a doctor at all? I started Vitex agnus castus last cycle, plus now B complex, B6 and Vit C x

paintfairy · 27/01/2020 18:24

@CooperLooper Yes. After it went on a year, I went to the gp. They did an external pelvic exam and scan. Checked my cervix. Couldn't find a reason. I had a follow up scan too, which showed nothing. She ran a day 2 blood test (normal) as well as generic bloods. I was then referred to gynaecology. Which was bloody useless. They weren't interested. Said it's hormonal so either live with it or go on the pill.

Obviously if TTC is not successful, I'll go back. But aside from doing the 21 day blood check I'm not sure what else they can do myself.

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A08x · 27/01/2020 22:39

@Thistle23 exact same as me! Even when I was on the pill for those 9 years he would still pull out every time as well - and I still got myself in a pickle thinking I was pregnant a few times a year 😂 it’s such an odd feeling praying for the exact opposite result every time.

@CooperLooper i am CD3 so we are pretty close. Hopefully your cycles will even themselves out, that must be so frustrating. How long have you been taking the vitamins for?

@paintfairy I spot really early too, only started last month and this month. First time it happened I got so excited thinking it was implantation bleeding - so annoying!

@Michelle2517 it’s so hard not to jump to crazy conclusions isn’t it, when really it’s just nature taking its course. NHS state it’s sooo common to take a year+ to conceive.

If anyone wants a laugh, my pre-seed delivery was due to arrive today. Got home from work and hubs goes “none of us were in so our lube was signed for by the neighbour”. 😂😂😂 obviously I know it’ll be in a box and my neighbour won’t know what it is but still made me lol. Hope you’re all doing well Xx

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Morgane777 · 27/01/2020 22:43

@paintfairy I've had the same spotting issues... in the middle of the cycle (some 2 or 3 days after ovulation) and then 3 or 4 days before AF. Every time I mention this to my doctor, he doesn't seem worried.. but I keep asking myself the question if it's normal. I've been TTC for 6 months now...
Your case assures me a bit, because you had everything checked and the spotting seems normal?

BntTowers · 27/01/2020 23:08

Same again here, could have written and I think I have in a different thread pretty much exactly the same post.

We are on cycle 7 and TTC our first, although for a lot of personal reasons I'm not sure it's going to happen this month. FW fell right on the anniversary of a bereavement for me so I've not really been on the right mind set. Although you never know, it just takes one and it might have happened. It does really start to make you wonder if there's anything wrong.

paintfairy · 28/01/2020 07:18

@Morgane777 I suppose it could be low progesterone in the luteal phase, they never checked. But no- nothing else untoward. I find it really inconvenient more than anything and sometimes it's quite a lot. Can appear once or twice a day or be constant. Some months are worse than others. By some miracle- the month I got married was a 'good' month. One of the best I've ever had! My DH is a bit funny about it and usually doesn't want to come near me if its happening. Lol.

Michelle2517 · 28/01/2020 08:22

@A08x When i went to the drs (about a different issue) i seen a nurse and she could clearly tell something was wrong just by looking at my face and she was just so lovely she held my hand and said they reccomend trying for a year and upto 18 months and that i shouldnt worry about it. I then started crying and said this is lifes way of punishing me for waiting till im 30 to have a baby, since that appt i have still been so very hard on myself but this month i am spending less time comparing my journey with those who conceive immediatly. I know it will happen its the not knowing when that is still stressing me out

CooperLooper · 28/01/2020 10:26

@A08x I only started with all the supplements last cycle, along with BBT tracking. I just hate the unknown and everything being up to chance and statistics, so anything I can do to track and try and take some control back over the process is helping (I think)

@Michelle2517 I'm also guilty of comparing myself to others who conceive immediately 😔

Michelle2517 · 28/01/2020 10:39

@CooperLooper i think its very hard not to compair and then when you think its happened and hasnt you start to wonder what you have done wrong. It can be a horrible lonely time and then we will all get our BFP and wonder why we worried so much xx

Morgane777 · 28/01/2020 15:56

@paintfairy I also have good and "bad" cycles! I started taking some vitamins to improve the luteal phase! I hope they will work! Yeah, I also read it could be low progesterone levels. I had it checked in the Follicular phase, but not yet during the Luteal one.... but you had 21 day blood check! So it means we can have progesterone levels ok and still have some spotting...