New thread for the crazy gang part 2!

[Ellsbells112]

Well since we are at the tail end!!

@Beau2020x @quiffy @Symptomspotter86 @BFP2020 @ange211

@Mumofboys17 no I think its from the pain, they aren't normally this bad and it's just making me nauseous 🤢 maybe it's from flying through different time zones ✈️🤷‍♀️

I know right it's so weird I'll even try to help it along but nothing works haha just can't finish! Xx

@Beau2020x I'm so sorry you're going through this alone though hug will you not tell him? Just so you can have some support? I'm here for you we all are xxx

@Beau2020x as @ellsbells112 says, could you tell him? That’s a lot of emotion to go through yourself. We are here for you too ❤️ Keep an eye on it, as you can get early bleeds

@Katie1109 sounds promising!

Thank you girls! No to be honest I think I'd just feel silly - "oh by the way I was half pregnant for 2 days." Plus I really don't want to upset him before his 30th etc. I should tell but it's not worth 2 people being upset. Plus I just keep thinking to myself that if I hadn't tested early I would have never known about it. I'm pretty sure it's just early AF, sore boobs have almost gone (never ever ever get sore boobs).

On to the next one - our time will come! ❤️

Hope you don’t mind a gate crasher to your thread. One I was chatting on before Xmas seems to have closed. Just needing a boost of positivity as It will nearly be approaching a year since a miscarriage in a couple of months and it’s feeling like it’s never going to happen for me this time. How long have others been trying? Unfortunately my partner is away this month but back for weekends so unlikely that it is happened for me which in a way is good as I’m not driving myself crazy during the TWW! Have 7 more days until period is due though just hoping to get it out the way fast. The first two weeks of the cycle is the fun part just hate the two weeks that follow! Seems like it drags on forever!! Just can’t keep facing the disappointment month after month and really beginning to feel down about it

@beau2020x you are so thoughtful not wanting to hurt your OH. However just remember that it is a joint effort the TTC malarky so dont bottle it all up. Maybe let him know after his 30th that it was a stressful time for you. He will want to support you as well. It sucks at the best of times being a woman!

@danni2019 hey welcome to our thread! We all chat most days so can definitely offer some support to you through your journey. I'm sorry to hear about the MC. Is it your 1st baby you are TTC?

@Beau2020x definitely try to speak to your other half. I put on a brave face but after a few weeks had a total meltdown at my partner at something really minor he did and he knew what I was going through. It will be hard for him to know what’s going on even when you think you are fine your emotions may come out in other ways. You could always wait until after his birthday. Hope you have someone who you can talk to if not your partner.

@symptomspotter86 (couldn’t tag you properly for some reason). Thanks for your support. It’s my second baby we are trying to conceive. I have a little boy who will be 3 in a couple of weeks. Don’t know where the time has gone. He was conceived on the second month trying and an easy pregnancy. Have not been so blessed this time round. Hopefully we get there. It’s hard as lot of mums I met when my son was born have had another baby now. We were trying for about 5 months before conceiving last time which ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. Now it has been nearly 10 months of trying again. My fingers are crossed for everyone no one should have to go through such a rollercoaster to conceive a baby. Xx

@danni2019 oh bless you. Yes it is really hard whether it is 1st, 2nd, 3rd or whatever! It is something we dont have too much control over so can be really tough when our bodies dont do what we want them to! Such a taboo to talk openly about as well! I was clueless until my Sister in law went through 5 rounds of ivf that things could even be hard. I had so many friends and women around me get pregnant straight away that I assumed it was like that for everyone. Hopefully you will be able to vent on here, which I've found really helps and I've only been TTC for 5 months. Make sure you focus on staying mentally healthy and look after yourself! Sending hugs.

@Symptomspotter86 What has helped me this evening is reading back on threads while everyone has been in the TTW and knowing that I’m not the only crazy one picking up on any kind of symptom. After many months of trying and each months spotting symptoms I have come to the conclusion that for me it is definitely all just in my mind. Some months I’ve been convinced that this is the one. I am now going to look out for the month there is no symptoms! At least we have definitely had fun trying this time x

@Danni2019 I think everyone has months where they have all the symptoms, it makes it even more crushing when AF rears her ugly head. One day we will all get our bfps though.

I think I'm into my ttw now, took one last OPK today and it was decidedly negative. I'm going to try really hard not to symptom spot this month, we have so much to do with our house at the moment hopefully that will keep me preoccupied enough (I say this knowing full well it won't work!)

@Beau2020x you aren't out until AF comes along properly. There's still hope, even if you can't see it at the moment we all still have our fingers crossed for you.

@Danni2019 that’s a sensible way to look at things. Early pregnancy symptoms are so similar to pre-AF and it’s so easy to get caught up thinking this is the month that I find it just increases the disappointment. I’ve not been trying quite as long as you, but we’re still 8 months in now and it’s getting hard 😔

Morning all x how are we?
@Beau2020x how are you feeling this morning hun? x
I had horrendous night sleep, wide awake half the night, felt like an insomniac :( felt some pinching and pulling overnight, but nothing drastic. I'm 9DPO today, boobs still quite sore, but not as bad as during the weekend. Moderate amount of creamy cm and that's about all x I'd like to say I think we caught it this time, but I already convinced myself it is not happening this month either x

@Katie1109 morning lovely! I told OH last night. Safe to say it didn't go down too well 😂 he's actually a bit annoyed I did a test behind his back (I knew he would be) but ah well. I get it but at the same time like I said to him that I wanted to do it different this time and surprise him because of how shitty it was last time. Anyways, it's done and he will get over it!

@Katie1109 don't convince yourself you are out! It all sounds reaaaallly promising! Whatever you do, do not test early like me 😂😂😂 honesty I'm never doing it again xx

@Beau2020x I am not testing before Thursday for sure, I’ll be 11DPO then and might order FRER to arrive on Thursday x problem being is, every month my symptoms sound promising, and then af arrives and all the symptoms mean F all 😩x
Glad you told your OH, you shouldn’t be carrying all those emotions by yourself x and don’t worry, mine would be annoyed to, but I am going to surprise him if it happens anyway! 😂 I’ve already got a hidden box with a baby grow by his favourite football team lol 😂 it’s grey, so gender doesn’t matter 😂

@quiffy any way you and DH could go along to the family get together and stay somewhere nearby?
@Beau2020x sorry you're going through this TTC is a hellish rollercoaster. I had a chemical / early MC (not sure how you define such things) it's devastating whatever you call it. Be kind to yourself and have that cry XXX

Glad you told him @Beau2020x it's not really going behind his back, you did it ona whim lol I think some men think it's a movie haha women do them all the time and like you said hell get over it. He should just comfort you tbh!!

@katie1109 I know what you mean, there's no point in looking at symptoms so early as it really can just get your hopes up it's horrible. I sometimes get some form of a Symptom and even though I had it the month before I can't help but hope 😞
Fingers crossed this month is yours x

Well how is everyone else doing?? I think I either ovulated on Sunday or Monday and we dtd from Friday through to Monday. Finally done with it all and entered the 2ww madness

@Katie1109 awww that is so cute!! That was my plan too, I'm sure he wouldn't be annoyed if in the end it all worked out to be a BFP but never mind. That's my surprise plan out the window now anyway haha! Next time I will just wait until day or 2 after missed AF and we can do it together.

@Ellsbells112 he will have to get over it! I totally get it, I'd probably be annoyed at the thought but I had good intentions. Never mind!

AF well and truly on the way, cramps are in full flow. The orange/pink CM has stopped though from last night. Never had that before, it wasn't spotting just tinged CM. At least she's on the way and I can move on to the next one!

Hey @Danni2019! Sorry I've been ranting on about my problems! Sorry to hear what you are going through - I should count myself lucky we've only been trying for 5 months... no matter how long it doesn't get any easier. Hope you get some comfort from chatting to us lot, it's a lonely old place TTC and it's amazing to have the support here!

Morning guys
Hope your all ok ? so im 12 dpo last night i had the most horrendous cramp i think i ever had i went to bed that i was all most sure Af would turn up this morning but no af did a test with bfn i don’t know what the hell happening this month 🤷‍♀️

@Mrslane2019 what brand test did you use? May still be too early to tell?

AF arrived for me! I'm actually quite revealed to be honest! 2 days early but never mind.

it was Asda one as used or frer early in the week 🙈 i guess i’m just going to wait
aww i’m sorry to hear af turn up finger cross for your next cycle

@Beau2020x bloody men, if they want to be there for every preg test, they should be there for every opk, cm check, bbt and entering every bit of data into various apps. Plus, I think if i went to my DH every time I did a hcg test he'd get more and more upset at bfns. I blame that clear blue advert where the couple are sitting waiting. Hope youre okay this morning

@Mrslane2019 could still be too early! The cramps sound interesting (well hellish but interesting!)

@Quiffy oh 100000%!! Jesus he'd think I was a psycho if he knew all the tracking and data inputting I did! It's crazy. I am crazy! I'm just taking this month as karma for having a termination 3 years ago. Totally deserve it really.

Come on girls - I need some more BPFs in my life!!

@beau2020x not karma at all! You did what was best, nothing wrong with that. If this was a chemical or didnt stick etc, lots of people say you can be more fertile for next month so everything crossed for that

@Beau2020x don't say that!!!!!!! I feel your pain seriously I think about the one I had all the bloody time but you can't! It's not fair on yourself ❤️❤️ stop that kissy before I find out where you are and knock some sense into you lol x

@Quiffy actually that sounds promising! I always here stuffy nose is a sign!!