Which month to avoid Xmas baby?

[EmbarrassingMama]

This is a ridiculous question, but I’m putting it out there as I’m sure I’m not the only one who has thought about it!

Does anyone know what the latest date for a shag would be to avoid a Christmas baby? I’ve tried working it out and assuming it’s Feb sometime, but I’m appalling with dates (should know better, given this isn’t my first rodeo).

And it goes without saying that I would be delighted in any case.

The August stuff is really upsetting for those of us who have August babies.

FFS. Grow a backbone so you don't get 'really upset' about population trends. The effect is statistically significant but I'm certain that my summer born child will do better in life than some autumn born children because of everything else that affects life chances.

CountFosco FFS develop some empathy.

Yeh avoid mid March start of April - my DD was due Xmas day thankfully she was 9 days late. Both DH & me had our 30th within that time 🙈🎉

What a fucking twattish thing to say @count.

@CountFosco any normal parent wants what is best for their child. My baby is still very young and she is going to have been 4 for two days by the time she goes into school. I'm not sat here crying about it but if the stats are suggesting summer born kids struggle up until secondary, that IS something to be concerned about. You haven't got a clue whether there are other life factors that might make that stat irrelevant or more relevant to my daughter.

And given that this is a post on a parenting forum, it is perfectly acceptable to say that I find the "august babies suffer more" stuff upsetting. That you don't care about the stats, bravo to you.

@kirinm I'm genuinely sorry if the information upsets you. I can see that it would be a worry! But IMO it's better to know facts and put things in place to support a child rather than bury one's head in the sand and hope it's not a problem. If you feel your child isn't school-ready and they're born in August you can choose to delay their start. If you feel that they are ready, then I'm sure they'll be fine. I work in a number of primary schools and I make sure all teachers know which children in the class are July/August born, as they are considered to be at risk of potential difficulties with their learning - I think it's better to take these precautions rather than pretend there's no effect just in case people born in August (or who have August-born children) are offended.

@MayDay27 It really depends when you're aiming for. A mid-late December conception would give you a baby born in September, providing of course they don't arrive very early.

@bluemoon I'm not "head in my hands crying" upset. And not suggesting nobody talk about it. I do find the stats concerning though and hope that my daughter is one who doesn't struggle. My MIL said to me before she was born that I shouldn't have my C-section because she'd be an August baby (she was due early Sept) and she'd always struggle. Those sorts of comments don't sound that big a deal but actually, they aren't throwaway comments. Nobody wants their child to have massive hills to climb when they first start out.

@kirinm if she was due in September but born in very late August, you'd have a very good case for delaying her school start, and she would then be the oldest in her class. Obviously not a decision you need to make this early, and it may not be necessary at all, but it's good to know your options.

Avoid March! My DS's birthday is mid December and I found out I was pregnant on the 30th March ( I was a few days pre AF)

I tried to plan all of mine for September. I had 1 September and 2 October borns and then a surprise April born baby . So far, I can honestly say that the Sept/Oct borns are fairing better at school and it seems a good time me to have a birthday. April born birthday always seems to coincide with Easter. 😫

I deliberately waited until December to TTC to avoid having an August born. I appreciate it might still happen but I'd prefer to improve my chances as much as possible. I was born in the summer (June) and did well at school, but the stats give the full picture. I'd rather have a Christmas baby!

I am about to hijack my own thread with an update...!

So it turns out all my concern about having a Xmas baby may have been for nothing...

Went to get my coil removed this week so we can get cracking but it won’t budge! Needless to say I was in flipping agony after multiple attempts and two doctors yanking on the blessed thing. I’ve been referred to a specialist in London so who knows which month we might be able to start trying now?!