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Which month to avoid Xmas baby?

63 replies

EmbarrassingMama · 13/01/2020 14:08

This is a ridiculous question, but I’m putting it out there as I’m sure I’m not the only one who has thought about it!

Does anyone know what the latest date for a shag would be to avoid a Christmas baby? I’ve tried working it out and assuming it’s Feb sometime, but I’m appalling with dates (should know better, given this isn’t my first rodeo).

And it goes without saying that I would be delighted in any case.

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wakemewhenitsallover · 13/01/2020 16:13

Yes, definitely need to avoid April! I have a Christmas baby conceived in April.

wakemewhenitsallover · 13/01/2020 16:14

Although FWIW, DS loves his Christmas birthday! (It's not actually Christmas day though)

longtompot · 13/01/2020 16:31

Just be aware they can arrive early. My yd was 2 months early.

CookieSue222 · 13/01/2020 16:35

Got married 20th March - DD (pfb) arrived 9months and one day later - definitely a honeymoon baby. She has never been unhappy about being born so close to Christmas, has always revelled in it - said that the house decs, fairylights and opening the Celebrations early were all on account of her birthday. I, on the other hand had to deal with baby blues, cracked nipples and Mr Blobby (well it was a few years ago).

Savvyblonde · 13/01/2020 16:38

I'd aim to miss January too, so leave May alone. My January baby was conceived may bank holiday weekend. It's expensive and means presents are famine and feast. It does put him mid year academic though.

Beau2020x · 13/01/2020 16:51

3 years ago my last AF was 23rd March, fell pregnant that month and was due Christmas day. Avoid March/April!

ShowOfHands · 13/01/2020 16:56

Normal gestation is 37 to 42 weeks so you can have a baby any time within those dates and it be considered full term. I was supposed to be a February baby but was early and I was a December baby so my Mum didn't avoid Christmas time at all... And I love love love having a Christmas birthday.

Only time I actively avoided was an August baby as far as possible. The disadvantages of being a late summer born baby continue to GCSEs and beyond.

Banoffeepie91 · 13/01/2020 18:23

Whatever you try the baby will always have it’s own ideas. My best friend was 10 weeks early so her birthday falls a few days before Christmas and my little sister was due around Christmas but was 3 weeks late!

bluemoon2468 · 13/01/2020 20:20

@MayDay27 we intentionally didn't start TTC until December as we wanted to avoid a July/August baby. We were hoping for September but unfortunately weren't that lucky 😆 Fingers crossed for an October baby!

NelliePig · 13/01/2020 20:27

The August baby thing is a complete myth, me and my best friend was August and we both got A*s at GCSE. Its genetics and how good your school is/how much time parents spend teaching for how well you do.

CountFosco · 13/01/2020 20:32

I wanted to avoid an August birthday. DS was due in Oct but was premature. December birthdays are fine, everyone works so hard to make up for the fact that it's really rotten having a Xmas birthday that even as an adult your mother still makes you a cake and no-one forgets your birthday ever. On the other hand the end Jan is horrendous, you always get crap presents that have been bought in the dregs of the sales. Not that I'm bitter and jealous or anything.

MrsTumbletap · 13/01/2020 20:38

I love being an August baby, have great parties in the summer everyone is usually free to come and can have parties outside in the sun too.

Magissa · 13/01/2020 20:42

My dd was born on Christmas Eve afternoon. It really is a special time to give birth (but birthdays forever after are hard work). I had to stay the night in hospital as there was no Doctor available to sign me out, so I went home Christmas morning. My new dd had a Christmas present for ds3 which he discovered when he unwrapped her blanket.

Lf89 · 13/01/2020 21:05

I love being an August baby and was top of my year in both primary and secondary school so hated when people assume August babies struggle.
My baby is also due August, wasn't planned for that, due dates didn't even cross our mind when we started TTC - we just want a baby.

StylishMummy · 13/01/2020 21:36

DD1 was due December and was born in September

DD2 was due in April and born in January

You can't plan these things

peachypetite · 13/01/2020 21:41

There are plenty of online calculators but as others have said you still can’t guarantee 100%!

Engard · 13/01/2020 21:42

I conceived late April, due late January so avoid February & March

Kendrick12 · 13/01/2020 22:14

This is a great question as I already have 2 children born on 11th December not twins. 4 years apart!!! Would be just my luck!! 🤣🤣

bluemoon2468 · 13/01/2020 22:26

There are a large number of studies that show that, on average, August-born boys in particular perform worse academically and socially, and are even over-represented in prisons. For girls the effect isn't as strong. That is of course not to say that there aren't millions of very successful August born boys (and girls), and there are loads of other factors that are important, but it's not a myth. Starting school a full year younger than some of your peers is bound to have an impact on some but not all children. I am also summer born btw, and did well academically, so nothing against summer born people!

FriedasCarLoad · 14/01/2020 12:16

The August baby thing is a complete myth, me and my best friend was August and we both got As at GCSE. Its genetics and how good your school is/how much time parents spend teaching for how well you do*

Not a myth. Research consistently shows that children who are (among) the youngest in their year group take until well into secondary school to catch up academically, and are far far less likely to reach elite levels in sports.

Obviously there are many who defy the stats (I'm an August baby who was always ahead academically, although terrible at sport). But anecdotes don't trump good research!

It isn't the biggest influence on their chances of success, and you can hold them back a year. But if you
I) are in no hurry to conceive
Ii) think the genetics might make your child more likely to struggle academically, or in with a chance or being very good at sport...

Then bear it in mind!

MayDay27 · 14/01/2020 12:40

Just out of interest, for someone who isn't planning on TTC for a while is it end of December time that people would ideally start TTC? This is all just silly questions I know if I'm lucky enough to become pregnant I won't be bothered at all!

NelliePig · 14/01/2020 12:56

We wanted a summer baby, June July or august. K always loved having my birthday parties in the garden :) So we started trying beginning of October. Now due 24th June, so will be a June/July baby :)

The bonus of that is my maternity and my other halfs shared parental leave will be during the summer which will just be lovely for taking the baby out!

NelliePig · 14/01/2020 12:56

@MayDay27 sorry it didnt tag you in the above x

kirinm · 14/01/2020 13:26

The August stuff is really upsetting for those of us who have August babies. My 16mo DD is very end of August so will be probably the youngest in her class when she reaches school age. Fortunately, she is an absolute maniac and I'm hoping she keeps the confidence levels she currently has when it comes to going into school.

JaffaCakeGal · 14/01/2020 13:32

As PP have said, babies can come early. I have 2 DS, one was due end of Jan, born start of Nov, the other due mid Apr, born end of Jan! Although saying that I know someone who wanted a June baby so TTC Sep and got her wish Smile

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