End of November, jump on board pt 3!

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All ready for when we reach 1000 on the other thread!!

@PrettyGirl5545 when is AF due?

Rant Alert!

So @mellymoo86 I suggested Dry Jan to my OH this morning. Has turned into a full argument. I drink more than the average female - I totally get that. But since planning I've done sober Oct, only drank in the house on two occasions (one drink) and not had any wild nights out since around Summer. I'd lots of plans over xmas where I would likely over indulge in the beverages - so have cancelled two nights out.

My OH is not a big drinker at all. But has had two trips abroad with the boys since Summer where he will have. And although not much he would have maybe 2 drinks in the house every 2 or 3 nights.

He's now spent the chat criticising my weekend away just gone that I will have drank lots - and now suggesting Dry Jan as 'seriously trying' therefore I havent been serious until now.

To quote other threads abbreviations - AIBU????

@CiaraJ01 Oh dear! That didn't go as planned did it! 🙈 There was definitely no need for any outburst or criticising. Scientifically it's not proven that alcohol affects conceiving but it's something that should be stopped as precaution if both parties want to. I think to myself well if I can't stop now then how am I going to deal with 9 months.

Do you think it's stemming from somewhere else? I find with my OH sometimes arguments come from something else they have a issue with and not the actual reason we are fighting.

It's kind if settled down now, whether hes realised it was uncalled for or it was more towards the xmas period. We're spending Christmas seperate this year as my brother is home from canada so I'm flying home, but his mum has broken up with her partner so he doesnt want her on her own (despite having a brother and a sister 🙄) So its partly that, plus I would likely drink alot over the Xmas break. I've explained I'll be testing before then anyway so it'll rule out drinking completely or pregnancy anyway and that's settled him down a bit.
We're not morning people either 😂🙈

@CiaraJ01 I'm glad to hear it's sorted now. Yeah I think he just reacted badly as soon as you said it without looking at the whole picture. That's a shame you won't be together over Christmas. Will you be together for New Years? How long have you been together? Engaged? Married?

Yes we've spent a few separated so we're used to it now, we met in Oz 10 years ago and our first wasnt very xmassy- then he went home before me so we separated for the second, by then we were used to it. His family arent very festive and mine are almost OTT so I never really want to stay here for it. We decided since I moved here and he gets to see his family all the time, it's only fair I go home at Xmas. So he usually comes with me every second year and stays with his mum the following. I'm sure his mum has lots to say about it 😂😂

My OH has even said when we have kids we'll probably go to ireland with them so it's great he sees it that way.

Been together 10 years, no ring, no kids, no mortgage 😂😂 Weve been a bit lazy..bit focused on travelling and then our careers. So next year we're hoping to get 2 out of 3 with a new house in the summer and hopefully a baby soon after!

What about you ?

@CiaraJ01 Oh gosh! That's a journey isn't it. It's very good you've both got that understanding (even if the OH's mum has her own opinions) 😏.

My story is a little different. My OH and I met 3 years ago through POF 😂 (plenty of fish dating site) and I thought he seems alright but I'd never marry him due to his religion so let's just have some fun 😂 Long story short it ended up going really well, introduced each other to family last year, his mum and 3 sisters never wanted to meet me as I'm a different religion so disowned him. My parents were really happy and love him. We got married a few months ago he put his flat up for rent and moved into my house and we've never been more happy. We have had no contact with his family for about 9 months now. They don't want to ever hear from us. He is alright with it (at first he wasn't) but time has helped and I think the way me and my family love and care for him he never got that from his entire lifetime with his own family. So we will all be spending our first family Xmas together and also watching our wedding video 🙈 Eek!!

Ahh @mellymoo86 that's a lovely story!! And a very exciting first christmas for you!! Isn't it funny how families can be so different?! It's so nice you're family have taken him in so easily.

My OH family isn't that bad but they are strange. My OH stays at home on Xmas eve night on his own as his family don't like our big dog (even though we look after his mums every year - including her 2 week holidays!!) And when I ring him like a big kid on Xmas morning he usually says not one has text or rang him yet! Breaks my heart but he insists on it. Last year they apparently decided like 3 days before Xmas 'not to bother with presents' that year - after I'd gone and bought them all from us before I left! Like what is the point of Christmas without presents?! It's not like they struggle with money either. One year his mum refused to delay the dinner by an hour so his brother could make it after work...even though he asked weeks in advance. He had to reheat his!

Families are bonkers....

@CiaraJ01 Ok his mum sounds selfish. She decides on what she wants to do regardless of what other people think 😏 I wish he could celebrate with you instead 🙁 Families ARE bonkers! We already have a billion other things to deal with without them getting their knickers in a twist 😂 (haven't used that line in ages).

Lol I know - I've already got my mate on standby for my birthing partner, and she has one job - keep the MIL out of the hospital!!

I know, I think he just feels guilty leaving her since he lost his dad. Which I guess is a good trait!

Hows you're day?

Where is everyone??

4 DPO today, still very wet TMI. Cervix high soft very wet 🤦🏽‍♀️

Sorry @nt1992 I'm a bit clueless with CM and feeling cervix....

@CiaraJ01 I'm not sure any of it really means anything but I like to know if anyone else is experiencing the same stuff and the same time as me 😂 I like to know if I'm normal or not

Lol I used to think I wasn't normal...now I've decided normal does not exist! 😂

I don't track either cause I'm too forgetful to monitor CM and I've no idea where to start with my cervix position. I'm not even sure I know where it is! 😂

@ciaraj01 @mellymoo86 just reading your comments about family lol I've been with my OH for nearly 5 years and never met his mum or dad. They are separated, he wasn't talking to his dad for like the first 3 years of our relationship and only talks to him now as diagnosed with cancer. The mum on the other hand, God knows. Literally have no idea why she doesn't want to meet me🙄 but whatever.
@mellymoo86 what religions? Muslim and Christian?

Hello everyone still no AF or positive...getting peed off now as if it's another late cycle variation that's just 💩
Thinking of putting the tree and decs up this weekend. X It's almost Friday!!!

@CiaraJ01 just get a restraining order out for MIL, make your life easier lol. That's definitely a nice trait, at least he cares unlike her 😏

I just got back from 5 hours of Christmas shopping. My legs and back hurt so had a bath. I sound like a granny. Was getting a lipstick from Dior and the lady said Miss right? And I said no Mrs. She was like wow you look to young to be married and I was like I'm 33! She asked if I had kids and I said no but ttc and she said I have two kids DONT DO IT 😂 why does everyone say that!

@Ellsbells112 im Srilankan Buddhist and he is Pakistani Muslim. His family want another Muslim, tough shit I'm not! And guess what, your religion doesn't make you the person you are. It's a part of who you are and two different people are able to compromise and live peacefully together. They're so silly. They even sent back a Brita filter jug he got them a year ago 😂 and a Walkman from years ago. Who even has that anymore!

I'm sorry to hear OH's family aren't being great, but honestly it's their loss not yours. You both live your life, be happy and raise a beautiful family. Make sure you keep each other happy, that's all that matters 🤗❤️

@mellymoo86 I agree wholesomely with you ❤️🤗 I practiced nichiren Buddhism for a time, I still love it but haven't practiced for a while. Religions shouldn't separate people just like race and sex shouldn't! Xx

@mellymoo86 just want to clarify the Walkman 😂 So they returned when you got together? Like years later? 😂
Did you get much shopping done? I went to a Debenhams beauty event and sat with a glass of prosecco and some cakes. Before anyone tells my OH... it was the smallest glass of prosecco you've seen 😂

@Ellsbells112 is there religionninvolved in your relationship that makes his mum avoid you? Like you say it's silly people think it defines you!!

Happy friday peeps!!!

Happy Friday everyone! 🥰

@ciaraj01 happy Friday!! Nope not at all lol she's just weird apparently she's always been like it and the dad situation is a bit different 🤷‍♀️ well when I have a baby I'm sure they'll want to meet me then won't they! 😂😂

@CiaraJ01 Morning! Yeah managed to get most of the shopping done but just need to get some final bits! Man it cost so much! Can't I just give people a hug and be done with it. 😂 The Walkman was something OH got for his mum years ago. Probably decades ago 😂 she kindly returned it back and we put it into the bin. So petty. Tut tut Prosecco eh! What would OH think lol. I went for dinner with a friend ydy and she was like you aren't drinking why? I had to make something up about doing some bloods because of my migraines 🙈 I kind of felt a bit of pressure to drink as well which annoyed me. Why is it such a massive issue. I get that I always drank a lot and peer pressured my own friends into drinking but WHY IS IT SUCH A ISSUE. Lol. On top of that I feel guilty for lying and she's a close friend. I was gagging for a porn star martini 😩

What are your plans for the weekends?

@Ellsbells112 Yup she will definitely come around after a baby comes into the picture. Which is silly because then what happens to both of your relationships? Let's just focus on the baby and ignore this awkward tension between us lol. My hubby said that if they come to us in the future he won't be accepting them so easily and they won't be allowed close to the child without a proper relationship with me first. I quietly did a little fist pump in the air lol

@Ellsbells112 i'm not sure I'd be so forgiving when a baby arrives! They don't want to know you - then they don't get to know their grandchild!!

@mellymoo86 I know I'm afraid to check my bank balance!! I started shopping in Oct so have pretended I'm super organised - when realistically I only bought two presents. Plus I have to get them all shipped home!!
The walkman is hilarious - fair enough returning an unwanted gift there and then, but historically is beyond petty! Lol don't talk to me about Oh! he brought me alcohol home last night!! I think it was his way of trying to make up for it, but he got it a lil wrong! Well done you for persevering though. Do you not drink at all during the 2WW? I'm meant to be heading out tomorrow for our biggest event of the year and unsure what to do!

@nt1992 Happy friday! how are you?