Never thought I’d be doing this but line eyes please

[AliasGrape]

So we’ve been trying over 3 years with not so much as a late period. Clomid didn’t work and we’re just having a break from it all before next steps. I’m 40.

On day 28 cycle I got some red spotting mostly when I wiped. Since then brown discharge only, now on day 33. No other symptoms so wasn’t getting hopes up but had some pregnancy tests in so today decided to poas.

First one tesco - line came up pretty soon but was faint/not very blue and I read that tesco tests are notorious for evap lines.
DP thought no.

Just done a Numark pharmacy one, round window is supposed to be a cross if positive,
Just a horizontal line of negative.
I can see a cross, can you?

Congratulations x

Congrats, you are 4 weeks(ish), pregnant ! X

Those lines are not faint at all, they are very nice and clear!
Congratulations..!! 🎉

@aliasgrape 100% congratulations!!!

That's the crossiest cross I ever did see! Congratulations

They are not faint at all, they are really strong. Congratulations!!!

OP, I can never ever see the second line on these.
I could see the cross on my phone without even opening the picture!
Congrats ❤️💐

Awww, I love threads like this. Massive congratulations OP!

Congratulations!! So pleased for you

Those lines are clear as day - congratulations!!!!
This gives me hope for my niece. She's been trying for two and a half years and has pretty much given up hope I think.
I have my fingers firmly crossed for you 🤞🏻

I see lines in all of them! Please update us when you do the digi!

Congratulations OP you're having a baby 🥰

Congratulations, OP! As someone who has experienced fertility challenges, I'm so very pleased for you and wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Absolutely positive! My first test was as faint as your first pic too, and the kid is now 5 😂
congratulations, health to you and yours!

Lines lines lines! Yippee! A lovely story and wonderful for you x x x x

I’m still shocked!

I’m not really sure what to do next. Do I call the gp? The fertility clinic (we’re not in active treatment at the moment but appointment in the new year). Or too early and just leave it?

To be honest I’m expecting bleeding every time I go to the loo and spent a sobering hour this morning reading how my chances of miscarriage are 50% as I’m over 40 (although I only turned 40 last month so I know it’s a bit arbitrary, not like my chances went from 20% to 50% overnight) so I’m still really reluctant to get excited or anything.

Any tips for now to get through my hen do in 2 weeks (that goes cocktail bar with prepared cocktail package > meal with wine included > Christmas markets log cabin thing for more cocktails, all staying over at my friends house) with some of my booziest friends many of whom are travelling and expecting a full on piss up. How can I hide the fact I’m not drinking? I’m thinking get to cocktail bar early and have a discreet word with waitress/pre order my mocktails so I don’t have to obviously order from the special ‘non alcoholic’ menu in front of everyone. Hopefully by the time we leave there everyone else will have enough of a buzz on that they won’t notice what I do after that.

It's really up to you how you handle it now. You can reach out to engage midwife, but nothing will happen for several weeks. Personally I tend to sit on it until 6 weeks when the risk of miscarriage has dropped a good deal but it's your choice. Fertility services will discharge you though, so I would probably not tell them for a bit until you feel a bit more secure about the pregnancy.

Oh and drinking-wise I tend to recommend accepting an alcoholic drink and just not drinking it/strategically spilling or "losing" it. People notice you turning down a top-up or asking for a Coke, but they never notice what you do with a drink once it's in your hand.

Love those weeks tests, when you get it in black and white like that! Congratulations again.

Re hen do... I think your friends will twig you're pregnant and you might just have to calmly tell them why you won't be drinking. I went on a hen do once where we had a rented apartment and hired a cocktail waiter to come to the apartment and make us drinks, and the bride just told us on arrival she was a few weeks pregnant, keep it low key and that's why she was on mock tails. It was fine.

Do your friends no you've been trying?
Are there one or too that could be in on the secret and help you out? It would be so much easier. And call in advance to let the barman/barlady know you are pregnant and they will make you non alcoholic cocktails.

Thanks again and thanks @CmdrCressidaDuck - sorry to @ you but just wanted to ask do you mean 6 weeks according to nhs calculator ie 6 weeks from first day of last period, or 6 weeks from conception? It’s all a bit confusing isn’t it? I’d read everything there was to read and have all the terminology down for the trying to conceive part but never let myself consider what happens if you actually get pregnant!

Most people know we’ve been trying yeah, it’s going to be super obvious!

My sister already knows I made her look at the cross photo. I might mention it to my two closest friends and see if between them and my sister they can do a bit of covert drink swapping. But at the end of the day it’ll still probably be totally obvious but there’s not much I can do.

I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it I suppose, 2 weeks to get through yet.

Your pregnancy is dated from the first day of your last period.

So officially you were pregnant about 2 weeks before you conceived Seems daft but that's the dating system the medical profession uses.

Oh isn't this just fantastic news. Congratulations! Where I am you don't register the pregnancy until 6 weeks from your last period as that's when the miscarriage risk reduces. It was a weird wait being pregnant but not doing anything about it for that time! I'm now 13 weeks and forever seem to be waiting for the next steps so you get used to it.