Has anyone TTC DTD before their first period after miscarriage?

[danielasummer]

Has anyone TTC DTD before their first period after miscarriage?

I miscarried 3 weeks ago and haven't had a period yet.. was told to wait to TTC after AF but I have loads of egg white cervical mucus today and just so tempted to DTD and see what happens! Any stories or advice anyone can share please??

@Lf89 hi, thank you, I'm so sorry to hear that it also happened to you. It's awful isn't it.

Well we have started trying before my period so we'll see how it goes - what's the worst that can happen. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Let me know how it goes x

@MrsSkr I've been told that too and whilst in the beginning it hurt my heart to hear that I was growing a potentially unwell baby, now, looking back, I've realised it's for the best. Still a massive pain in my chest but I know that one day I'll be holding my rainbow baby. So glad you had your happy ending - clinging onto that hope for myself. Will try to manage my anxiety as the anxiety didn't help in my last pregnancy so will try to do myself a favour and relax a little the next time around x

@danielasummer i think we were on the same pregnancy thread as each other, I never returned as at my 12 week scan on October the 22nd pregnancy wasn't developing. Had a d&c a few days later.

As long as you get a negative test, and most importantly have stopped bleeding it's absolutely fine to start trying again.

Your very fertile after a miscarriage so go for I say!

All the best to you

@danielasummer that's a really good way to think of moving forward, you were super anxious and things went wrong, I wasn't anxious at all...and things went wrong. We can't control anything, even an early scan wouldn't have helped for me. Our bodys were actually really incredible and we will end up holding healthy bundles by this time next year I'd imagine.

Oh and I had surgical management If that helps for information

I've never waited and have not been told I need to do so.
My ob told me to go ahead and try when I felt up to it. And I did, many times.

Sorry for your loss and all others on this thread.

We didnt wait, had a D&C at the end of April this year and got pregnant 3 weeks later, i'm now 28 weeks pregnant with a healthy and very lively bubbs. Best of luck OP, crossing everything for you xxx

@ChampooPapi hi, yes I think we were - I’m so sorry for your loss. I found out the day before you, it’s the worst feeling in the world isn’t it. I’m trying to thank my body for allowing me to get pregnant in the first place and hold my baby for as long as I did (6 weeks) before he/she passed and for recognising he/she would not have lived a healthy life. But some days are better than others and honestly, some days I hate myself for what my body has done. Good days and bad days!

I wholeheartedly believe we will hold our beautiful babies one day. Hopefully even in 2020 💫

Thank you for sharing with me on this thread and I’m thinking of you. I too didn’t return to the May 2020 board as it was just too painful. Xx

@CJsGoldfish thank you for sharing your experience. We have decided to just go for it (can’t ignore EWCM when we’ve been keeping track of it for nearly a year!) although worried because it had dried up a few hours before we BD. So many anxieties starting up already! X

@Novasky1 I’m so sorry for your loss x congratulations on little one and I’m wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy and birth. Thank you for keeping everything crossed for me and for sharing your experience xx

@danielasummer oh I'm so pleased, you can start your journey again and look forward again not over your shoulder. The past will stay with us but not rule out waking moments in the same way I believe from having to plan ahead again. It's also incredibly unlikely to happen again , unless you've been told you have other issues, which you would have been notified of.

We will be the lucky ones next time and I hope well end up on the same thread together to share the pregnancy day to day, even if we are at different stages.

I'm testing second week of December if a period doesn't show up, god knows when it's supposed to but currently not having one so that's a positive!

@danielasummer and yes, just have loads of sex and loosen up of testing, who knows when your going to be due a period either so just do that baby dance whenever the mood takes. I've got my two daughters from that method so I'm going with it this time

@danielasummer it might be good to dispose of all your early first response pregnancy tests. They are not going to help your anxiety and trust me, you'll know when your pregnant, you either start throwing up or when af just doesn't show you can go and buy a normal test.

Those tests are useful for so many women but they also are responsible for a lot of heartbreak with false positives and line guessing, chemical pregnancys ect.

This time we both need a positive that's got the best chance of sticking and lines that don't need inverting or tests taken apart!

Be kind to yourself 🤗

@danielasummer I started ttc 3 weeks. After my surgical management in May and I haven't conceived yet. Many people can be more fertile after mc, though just as many people are not.

@ChampooPapi that's a really positive way of looking at it. I always say that I'm flowing with the grief, so it's not crippling me, but also not allowing me to forget (which I wouldn't want to anyway).

I don't think I have any issues other than irregular cycles (sometimes 31 days, sometimes 45) so maybe a potential progesterone problem, but I'm not sure. The doctors aren't great where I am and it's so hard to get referred to the right person! So I'm going to try again and if I get pregnant, push for some testing to hopefully ensure I don't mc again. And you're right about holding onto things - have thrown everything away as I couldn't bear to keep bursting into tears every time I caught a glimpse of those pregnancy books or saw the positive pregnancy tests :(

Will be thinking of you in the second week of December! Please post on here to let me know. Fingers crossed for you. Will be amazing if we end up in the same pregnancy thread!

I'm not going to test until I'm maybe a week late. I'm being careful with what I eat anyway and cutting back on caffeine, so I'm not doing any harm in waiting I guess.

@Chanel05 hi, I'm so sorry you miscarried. I definitely think there isn't a hard and fast rule for any of us and that our bodies are all totally different. I have no idea what's going on with mine at the moment when usually I'm quite clued up!

@danielasummer oh for sure that is the way going forward. Its ok to obsess and wallow as well of course but it's healthy for the mind and soul to kind of keep that to a designated time of the day (mines always around now just before bed). If I open that box to early in the day it takes over my whole thought process.

Your being really brave and strong, it is very hard but it will get easier and you will be stronger going into your next pregnancy as well as your baby being stronger as well. It's going to happen for us 💖

@danielasummer and definitely push for testing, even while trying to conceived if you think you need to because after what you've been through you can do anything now. Your not anxious any more or scared you are strong, resolute, brave and powerful. You've got this 💪

I got pregnant within three weeks of a stillbirth. I wouldn’t highly recommend it as an experience but I do have a lovely 5yo now.

@ChampooPapi so sorry for the late reply, have only just seen these. After a morning of feeling stressed about my future and sorry for myself, reading your messages have really lifted me up! Thank you ❤️ How are you feeling? X

@ChristmasArmadillo thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry to hear of your stillbirth, there are no words. I’m glad you fell pregnant quickly afterwards x

@danielasummer Ive got the evil head cold going round , but it does make it impossible to symptom spot which is a positive!

Though even writing the word 'positive' just made my stomach turn over

@daniela I'm really sorry for your loss. I miscarried three weeks ago on the day of my 12 week scan. I also want to try again asap. I still occasionally have something on the tissue when I wipe but have ewcm, do you think it would be okay to try tonight? Sorry for jumping on your thread it's just I have no one to talk to.

Hi @becauseitiz I’m so sorry for your loss, offering a virtual hand hold at this terrible time x

We personally have tried every day that I’ve had EWCM. This is before I have had a period post miscarriage. I was told not to by the hospital, but I created a thread on here and so many people have said they got pregnant straight away without a period, so we have gone for it this cycle. Do what is right for you. And you do have someone to talk to now - me 🙂

@ChampooPapi aw no, feel better soon! I’m also coming down with something and felt a little dizzy just now, of course I’m checking whether it’s still too early for implantation dizziness, naturally 🥴