Trying for a girl

[Pinkslink17]

I know that there's no gaurentee and I'm totally fine with whatever the outcome but if I COULD sway the gender I would like my second to be a girl after my little boy. So..I've done some research, I'm not doing anything crazy that could harm the baby or myself, just simple going on the assumption that boy sperm is faster than girl sperm therefore I should DTD in the running up to ovulation and stop just before. I came off my period 2 days ago so I have done an ovulation test to see where abouts I am in my cycle and the attached picture is the outcome, would you say now would be a good time to start DTD? Any other tips that are not going to affect myself or the baby like crazy diets would be appreciated!

I don't believe we can determine the sex of the baby. It's just a case of what we get 🙂

I agree with @Hayley94. There isn't anything you can do to determine the sex of the baby.

It looked as if my kids would be the only grandchildren on both sides, so after having a daughter I did do every single old wives tale I could find.

I had a son.

There's loads of stuff online about diet and timing conception, I regarded it all as a bit of harmless fun. It did take me longer to conceive the second time, so my son was a summer rather than a spring baby.

There's a reason why the world population is nearly 50/50 men and women... Because its a literal 50/50 chance. If there was a way of swaying your chances (other than embryo selection) , it would be in medical journals.

Have a look at the Chinese gender charts - I did them for all my family (and when I was trying to conceive my first one) and it was correct - be aware some websites have different ones though. (I used whatwillihave )

Also diet plays a part apparently to make the uterus more or less alkaline

What a load of bullshit. Boy sperm vs girl sperm is ridiculous. You'll get one or the other and if you're that bothered about the SEX of the child I'd suggest not having one.

There are large parts of the world where daughters are less valuable than sons, if there was any way to influence sex at the point of conception then there would be considerable evidence of this in those communities.

You say you’re treating this as harmless fun but if you’re planning to stop having sex before you’ve actually ovulated then you are going to harm your chances of getting pregnant.

Meh, ignore the bitchy comments! Obviously we'real happy just to have a baby, regardless of what we think our preference would be.

I'd love another girl this time. Fingers crossed for you! Such a long wait to find out, but will you comment back and let us know? I'm going to try the timed dtd too, stopping before ovulation.

OP what you’re describing is the shettles method - it’s been completely disproved as male sperm do not “swim faster” than female sperm. It doesn’t work.

@codenameduchess thanks for the shitty reply, I made it very clear that I'm happy either way however if I could 'up' my chances of having a girl I'd like to do it only using the assumption that I won't be doing anything crazy and relying on timing..not that I'm so bothered that I 'shouldn't have one'. Ridiculous.

@PieAndPumpkins thank you, I'll be happy either way I'm just going to see what happens but I'll definitely let you know! Luisa Zissman did a blog online called Maybe Baby all regarding the ways to have a girl and she'd had 3. She has also had loads of success stories feeding back and input from doctors so it maybe worth a read? I'm not going to try anything other than timing but it's interesting to see what she had to say!

There are 2 approaches for trying for a particular sex that both completely contradict each other. That should tell you all you need to know about whether we can 'sway' things to conceive a particular sex.

If you finished your period two days ago, then you wouldn't be ovulating this soon surely??

Just have sex, no pressure. What will be will be.

General reply, as I've stated very clearly - I will not be doing anything crazy I'm simply timing when I DTD to see if I conceive a girl, I was looking to see if anyone has tried this and had feedback either way. I am happy if I conceive a girl OR BOY. Yes I am aware I will have less chance of getting pregnant this month, I'm not desperately trying to make it happen my first cycle in. I would like a second child, I'm not putting on any pressure. If it happens this month great, I'll hope for a healthy pregnancy regardless of the gender. If not, I'll try again next month and see what happens. I joined this group when trying to conceive with my first and was very hesitant to comment on anything because I could see how people were jumped on so quickly and it seemingly hasn't changed. I honestly don't see that there is anything wrong with what I have written for people to be telling me I shouldn't be having another child, I'm happy to get opinions off others but there's no need to be rude.

@Snowflake9 I know I thought the same! I'm breastfeeding so my periods are alittle all over the place so I thought I'd do a test to see where I am in the cycle but it seems crazy early?! Here's today's:

It’s always people who want a girl. No one ever wants a boy...

@PotteringAlong I have a boy, had I had a girl first I would have still liked to have the opposite gender, I only plan on having two. I don't think I'd be the only person saying if they could they'd like to experience both? If I have another boy atleast I'll be prepared to make sure everything's pointing down in the nappy this time to avoid a fountain at 3am..

Its sex not gender.

I think that timing does play a fairly good role. I did the timing with my last two and both were DDs

No u can't up the changes of getting a girl u get what your given u can't change it now or make it be a girl

It will be interesting to see how many this actually worked for although I’m not sure how much is research there is into male sperm being faster etc. I’m due to find out the gender of our baby in a couple of weeks time after our harmony test. Going by this theory I should be having a girl as I only had intercourse once two days before my ovulation. We weren’t actively trying as I had just had a miscarriage so was a total surprise it happened. So will see what baby is will let you know lol but I’m more than happy with either x

No idea, don’t believe you can influence it personally but assuming you have fairly regular cycles, you enter your fertile zone for at least a week after the end of your period! Ovulation happens on day 14 of 28 day cycle.

@codenameduchess I hope writing bitchy comments over Mumsnet behind a fake name gives you some sort of fulfilment, I feel sorry for you. Have a good day.

@pinkslink17 we have a group page in 'conception' section titled something like, 'fresh of the mini pill, hoping for BGP sep/Oct for summer 2020 baby'. Lots of friendly and supportive ladies, come and join us x

@PancakesAndMapleSyrup that's very interesting to know! When the time comes I'll post to see if the outcomes the same for me!

@Ginmonkey84 sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you have an easier pregnancy this time round. Do let me know what happens! I'm unsure when I'm actually ovulating, I've been really relaxed about starting the whole process this time around so I've not checked until yesterday and I'm breastfeeding so my periods are alittle crazy!

@PotteringAlong in the 'West' yes it seems so. Definitely not the case in other countries though.