TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies

[Hewie30]

Hi Ladies 🙋,

I'm new to the forum so thought I'd look for some TTC buddies.
I'm 30 and TTC baby number 1, I came off the pill beginning of May and had a withdrawal bleed a few days later then got my first AF 4 weeks after that. Last month I sadly had a chemical it was gutting seeing the faint line go but I guess it wasn't my time!
AF arrived on time Sunday so looks like my cycle ranges from 34-35 days.
I'm currently taking pregnacare and using the Ovia app for ovulation, I'm thinking if I don't concieve by month 6 I'll try ovulation sticks. Onward to month 4 I go 🤣

@Raizelrea how are you today hun? Xx

@Gigi318 They really are!! How they can grow a baby too is incredible! Awh bless you really? In what sort of way though? 😀😜. I'm feeling quite sick today and have stomach pains quite strange but probably down to the massive meal I had yesterday 😂😂

@Hewie30 absolutely! I feel really, really sick. Badly. And a slight headache. Have no idea if its stress or my mind playing tricks on me? But I feel so so poorly! Urgh, if this is morning sickness and I do get a BFP, watch me have twins!!! On the plus side, back is better today! Oh no, we're both the same haha - what did you have last night??

@Gigi318 Oooo yeah it's the same!! In that case I don't think it's a bug for you, unless we both got the same 🤔. We went to TGIs last night, I had chicken stripers with some sauce and chips

@Hewie30 OMG I've not been to TGIs in years but ALWAYS have the chicken stripers. Yum yum!!! We had pasta! Yeah, I don't think it's a bug personally, but I also don't want it to all be something I've brought on myself - if that's a thing?? Are you going to test tomorrow or Monday? I think I might test next Saturday if I'm still feeling like this 🙈

@Gigi318 Haha their amazzzzzing aren't they!! 😍😍😍. Yeah I understand what you mean hun, but I definitely don't think it is. I've heard during this time in our cycle it's normal to feel sick so at the moment I'm just putting it down to that, it's SO easy to think into things 🤣. Ekkkk so the countdowns on to next Saturday? 😁. I'm going to keep an eye on my opks this weekend and probably test on Wednesday still just incase I'm still getting strong positives! It should technically be fading today if I was meant to ovulate yesterday

@Gigi318 @Hewie30 and how exciting our babas will all have similar birthdays 😍😍

@Flossy12 Fingers crossed hun! 😍😍. That would be a-maze-ing! Although my opk looks a little lighter so I think I may have ovulated yesterday 🤔😲

@Hewie30 they really are. Love a chicken goujon 🙈 it really is. I'm feeling better after having some rich tea biscuits and crisps lol not the best but there we are. Although headache isn't fun. I just hope I'm not going mad. I feel as if I am going to get a BFP but don't want to sound like a nutter if its not. The torture!!! That's good, I say stick with Wednesday too if you can! And yes, that's right with the opks! So good you have them to go on as well!

@flossy12 yes!!! So exciting. Hopefully we get those BFPs 🤞🏻🤞🏻 how are you feeling at the moment?? Still all good. I say that's still a good thing, just make sure you relax!

@Hewie30 ooohhh the waiting game has started 👏🏼🤞🏻

@Gigi318 I'm fine, meeting DSS mother today for the first time face to face properly and suddenly my morning sickness has started to kick in 🙃🙃 pray for me 😅 (obv she doesn't know we're 🤰🏼 yet)

@flossy12 wishing you so much good luck. Hopefully the sickness stays at bay. Eek, what a day! I hope she is nice - much better for you and DSS! Maybe try to nibble some biscuits? Let us know how it goes xx

@Gigi318 thank god it went fine 👏🏼👏🏼 it was REALLY awkward at the beginning but after 10 mins or so we were just ya big a good chat and a laugh so im hoping it went well, offered her a lift home and dropped DSS off at same time and all was well ☺️

Just messaged her to say thanks for finally getting to meet and she's said it was good to meet me

Everything seems settled for now, I'm so relieved 🤞🏻want everything as settled as it can be now our little peanut is here and growing, last thing I was is my anxiety through the roof with all that stuff!

Think it was nervous tummy as went for a nervy poo before 😳😂

@flossy12 amazing! That's so good, obviously you can't help how she was going to be but always good to be able to get on for everyone's sake! Was OH there or just you three? That's good, yes seems like it was nerves getting the better of you there. And now you can enjoy the evening and relax. Woohoo!

Hi ladies, wow it looks like there's been loads of movement on this thread in the past two days, not sure if I can catch up! 😊

We've spent the day doing diy, sanding and painting the staircase banister - it's been fun but our whole house smells like paint so I'm kind of glad I'm not pregnant yet as those smells may have been interesting to handle in the first trimester! 😁

Been doing the Clear Blue OPKs for three days now, somfar they're just blank so not much to report on.

@Gigi318 & @Hewie30 How are you ladies feeling, still nausea or just in waves? It's so hard to know if anything's a symptom or not as you can blow it out of proportion in your head, which with things like naseaua does in turn intensify them. Last cycle I nearly puked at a wedding after having a glass of whine but clearly it must have been down to something other than pregnancy symptoms. @Hewie30 has your back pain eased a bit?

@flossy12 That must be a relief that you met her and everything went ok, hopefully from now on you can feel more at ease when you need to see her! Really glad she's acting mature about things too!

@Raizelrea glad you've been having a good few days! Days like that are always fun but exhausting. And yes - urgh the smell of paint. Bet it looks fab! I feel much better now. Had migraine all day, so not sure if nausea was because of that? I'm driving myself mad. I think I'm going to try and not overthink this week if I can. My backache is much much better today. So that's something! When do you think your opks will show good to go?

@Gigi318 Not sure really, Flo is predicting ovulation for Wednesday but I would expect it later on the week, maybe Friday or Saturday. But that's a complete guess on my part! It will be nice to see the flashing smileys (and obviously the peak static ones but don't want to get ahead of myself haha).

Glad your back is feeling better, mine's been a bit achey for the last month or so (definitely means I can discount that as a symptom), mainly in the morning so I think I might be sleeping funny!

Do you have much going on to distract you over the weekend? Your community event is next week is that right?

@flossy12 Awh so glad the meet went really well. I bet that's so much of a relief for you! Do you feel able to relax now? Oh nooo!! Here comes the morning sickness 😂🙈.

Unfortunately myself and my other half had a talk this evening, he feels that it's starting to become a task dtd and trying and how dtd should be when we're both in the mood and not just for a baby, which I agree with but because of this I've deleted all my apps and I'm going to just dtd whenever through the month. I feel a bit upset and it may take longer then id like it too but it'll happen when it hsppens so I got to remain positive. I'm still going to be on here to talk to you ladies though

@Hewie30 That must be gutting, sorry to hear that, I don't know how I'd feel ☹️ BUT there's definitely silver linings there - for starters I keep hearing of people that conceived exactly like that, when they stopped "trying" and tracking and just gave things course the natural way. (Including my parents actually! After the five years and meds and the stillbirth they were fed up and decided to take a break from TTC, which I am a product of ☺️). So it's very effective.

Secondly he is right that it shouldn't become a chore, ultimately right now it's just the two of you and no guarantees if ever having a baby, so you must primarily be happy with your relationship as it is, and not timing things will definitely help that. (Not saying you specifically aren't happy with your relationship of course, it's more like a general you! Your relationship sounds very healthy and like you communicate really well ☺️)

I've asked my OH if he felt pressured or like it was a chore but I think at the moment he's still in the "woo, sex!" stage 😆 That being said I'm trying to make sure we mainly DTD when it feels natural, so we've skipped some days when I was fertile but we were knackered because I wouldn't want to force things.

Also I think our bodies are actually quite smart - a lot of women do experience an increased sex drive before ovulation so you hopefully won't miss out if you let things progress naturally!

I know this is all a lot easier to say theoretically but I do think it might actually help - and don't forget it's not final, you might both agree to change your approach again in a couple months time!

Or... You might already be pregnant in which case this is all irrelevant, which might well be the case too from what you've been saying 🤞

@Raizelrea that's still good, not long to go now! Yay for when those smileys come up! Hmm that is a bit odd isn't it, I hate sleeping funny! Hopefully it gets better soon! Not too much but I think but yes next weekend, I might test on Saturday though just to see? Urgh, so much to think about!

@Hewie30 so sorry to hear that lovely. But it may not be a bad thing. Maybe he's saying it because he is disheartened too? Do you speak to him much about everything? If so, maybe he is overwhelmed and dropping the talk a little could help him relax and forget a little, then you can still dtd when time is right. Remember to listen to your body and when its wetter or EW then you're good to go. And, you may have even caught this month. If AFs not here yet, you're still in the game!

Everything that Raiselrea said is the absolute truth. Lots of words of wisdom there - definitely about the sex drive. I always notice it. And, low and behold, always seems to be accompanied by indicative CM and sometimes ovulation pains! You may find this is exactly what you need - if not already preg. It's why I'm so disinclined to track fertility. I truly believe we can do it alone 👌🏻😘

@Hewie30 I understand how you both feel, but like other posters have mentioned, it may happen for you know. I think the stress certainly doest help, having to dtd at set times does take the fun out of it! That's for sure!
Could you try and go for three ish times a week roughly, I'm sure that way you have a high chance of still catching your window. It's really tough.
How's everyone else getting on? Any more bfps? Or anyone due to test?
I've retested this morning and got a 1-2weeks on a cb digital, but I'm still worried the lines on the one step aren't as dark as they should be for 14dpo. Aaghh! 😂
With ds I found out I was pregnant and expected it all to go to plan, thankfully it did do. This time after my chemical I'm constantly expecting the worst. Its such a roller-coaster ride isn't it. I'm gonna stay on the thread if OK to see how you ladies get along, and also because it's very early days for me.
Lots of positive thoughts for us all!

@Nicecupofcoco You're very right there. Definitely can be stressful and make things less fun, I think three times a week gives a good chance at catching at the right time too! Good idea. Yes definitely stick around, I think Hewie is testing Wednesday. Me next Sat. I can imagine it's difficult to think the worst, but try to relax if you can. Give your little bean a calm environment 💫

@Makeafamily19 how are you feeling, lovely. Is AF showing signs of arriving? Hope not 🤞🏻

Thank you @Gigi318 hope you get your bfp very soon. Xx

@Nicecupofcoco thank you, me too x

Hi @Gigi318 I'm still spotting as normal so fully expecting AF to show her face tomorrow but we'll see! I'm never late but sometimes early, got no other symptoms though.
I'm trying to track my BBT this month but I end up waking up like 3 times a night as I'm paranoid about forgetting to take it 🤣

@Makeafamily19 fingers crossed for you, but either way, you're still in the game. And yay for thinking positively for next month! Oh no, like when you know you need to wake up early for something and don't want to miss the alarm 🤣🙈 do you keep it right by your bed so you could grab it as soon as your alarm goes off or whatever?