TTC First Baby Thread 22

[MrsH497]

Thought the old one was getting a bit full so I'd start a new one. I'll attempt tagging as many as I can
@Larrydavid @Anny27 @cupcakesandglitter @flossy12 @DuchessofPemberley @ELW85 @Lemonysherbet @LokiCat @Lottiepink @Lozzlepop @MIW01 @whatsthecraic91 @ValidUser

If I've missed anyone sorry!

@MIW01 that is a nice story thank you. I do love hearing stories like that! that's tough with a family like that in the way that they will not understand the struggle my mum and sister don't either. and if my mum tells me not to get stressed about anything one more time ...

@MIW01 wow that would definitely put the pressure on with all that baby making super power!! 😳
We hear this so often don't we, the moment people stop trying they seem to fall pregnant!

@PaintingOwls welcome back to the thread, I understand what you mean about the 1 year mark. I was so naive in thinking it would work for us ok the first cycle but like a few others here... now approaching cycle 14 and counting.
I also went through a really dark phase around cycle 6-8, feel much better now and hope I don't get to another dark place as time goes on

@XjustagirlX have you been stressed about anything? As @orangeloo suggested maybe see what this cycle holds before going to the gp?

@Kiza just need it in writing now ☺️ Fingers crossed!

@whatsthecraic91 welcome back it’s nice to see you back, how are you? I get really sensitive nipples around OV time but only some cycles 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Paintingowls nice to see you back too, sorry to hear you’ve been having a rough time but the gym is a really good distraction and you’ll be getting nice and buff 💪🏻

@MIW01 that’s great, massive congratulations to your friend!

@lozzlepop no I’ve not really been stressed. The only thing I really stress about is obsessively tracking bbt and ovulation and symptoms.

I wonder if I should track my bbt and make a note of it but not put it on the graph. I can’t then obsessively look at lots of graphs. We can just DTD every other day from about CD10 to CD23. Then I’ll plot the graph just to check I’ve ovulated.

@Lozzlepop I’m really good! Taking a step back definitely helped! How are you doing? They aren’t as bad today but they were seriously sore yesterday, a first for me!

Hello everyone. Hello again @PaintingOwls! I've had 3 chemical pregnancies now and have been diagnosed with a clotting disorder.

Cycle 17 or 18, cycle day 2 here. Back on injections. Second last shot on the hormones before ivf. Still 29, so not doing too badly on the time!

Feeling calm about our plan.

So sorry to hear that @ValidUser - I hope this is going to work for you and as you say, plenty of time!

I just want to point out @XjustagirlX @whatsthecraic91 @orangeloo @Kiza @PaintingOwls I'm not saying reducing stress is the answer for everyone! Of course if you have a fertility disorder then no matter how relaxed you are, all the meditation in the world probably won't solve it.

I also know a very chilled 'so laid back they're almost horizontal' couple who have discovered the he's 'firing blanks' and decided to go down the adoption route. So it does happen sometimes unfortunately it's the card nature dealt!

I just thought it was worth mentioning stress as in about 90% of cases of unexplained fertility, it's the major cause!

Hope everyone is well this Wednesday morning.

@XjustagirlX I dont think there's any harm at all in taking that approach and see what this cycle brings then you can take it from there in terms of booking in with the GP etc

@whatsthecraic91 currently waiting on our appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic which should be at the start of December when we should hopefully be getting some answers.

@ValidUser glad you are feeling calm. Is IVF the way forward due to the clotting disorder?

Evening ladies, hope you are all well? I am feeling pretty frustrated today. I had my latest thyroid tsh levels back and they are even higher than August, 4.02 and should be below 2.50 for conception. I'm sure doc will put my meds up but all these past months it hasn't happened may have well been down to that and feel like all my efforts have been wasted. Once my levels come down again I'm gonna see if I can push to get them checked every three months. as I'll be a year in and as my area won't refer me to a fertility specialist yet feel that's the least they should do for me.

Realise how spoilt and hard done by that sounded, sorry. I'll put my violin away now

Hi folks,

joining in with my first MN post!

I'm 28, and been off the pill (Lizinna) for a week today. I've got my withdrawal bleed at the moment, if it follows my normal pattern then I'll be done at the weekend but since that was the pattern when I was taking the pill, who knows what will actually happen now! Husband & I are excited to be starting this journey, but also telling ourselves we'll try not to stress or be disappointed if it doesn't happen straight away. I'm not sure how long we'll stick to that tbh, but let's see how things go!

@MIW01 and @Lozzlepop officially, I could have gone for ivf about 3 months ago, but because I have actually been pregnant we said we'd keep going. I've spent about €1000 and it would have been closer to €15000 if I'd had early losses with ivf! Knowing about the clotting problem really helps.

@orangeloo rant away. It's necessary sometimes! Not spoilt at all. X

@WeeScottishWife Welcome!

@ValidUser thank you. X

Welcome @WeeScottishWife to someone just starting out I would say try and keep it as stress free and non scheduled and as natural as possible to begin with as it can be a real rollercoaster.

@orangeloo don't apologise for sharing... we are all on this rollercoaster ride together and give each other permission to express what we are feeling 💜

Welcome @WeeScottishWife this is a lovely supportive and knowledgable group.
@MIW01 totally understand and accept your advice, it makes a lot of sense and we hear it often.

On CD6 so about to enter SMEP again, I feel like we are now only DTD during fertile window and relived at the rest of the month of not needing to. DP bought me a 'position of the day' book for my birthday so there's a position for every day of the year. Made last month pretty fun!

@Kiza thank you lovely X

I feel the same relief when fertile window is over. I think it's natural when your 'trying' so hard. I've seen a lot of advice to keep DTD as natural and non scheduled and as fun as possible but that is absolutely easier said than done!! A piece of research said the more wild and fun the sex is the more and fresh sperm a man releases. Might try the position of the day approach next month.

@orangeloo hahahaha I like that! Some of the positions are crazy!!

Morning everyone,

Sorry if I missed any BFP's, congratulations if so 😊

I've not really been posting for a while, or checking the thread, I took a break away from the whole situation as I think we needed it.

Back into it all now, I was delaying going to the doctors and should have done it sooner to be honest, but we were doing well keeping calm and I knew going would start to add to the stress. But I've been and booked in for first bloods next week. DH is going to get his SA kit next week (he couldn't make my first app and kinda felt like I needed to get things straight in my head first anyways) So least we now have the ball rolling!

Hope you are all well!

Hi guys - don't mind me jumping on this boat as I am TTC too (just started this week)!

I got a question (hope I don't sound stupid) but do you think it is okay to drink while TTC as it is my friend's bday this weekend and we are going out for meal and few drinks. My DP thinks it should be okay but I am not sure if it is worth a risk...

Welcome back @Lottiepink glad you've got the ball tolling with tests.

@Bestronger even if you were pregnant and didn't know it, the foetus isn't attached to your blood supply until about week 5 I believe. so in moderation, personally I would say go for it.

@orangeloo Really? how fascinating is that - I am taking in a lot from MN and google and it is really interesting how this works

I won't go too mad with booze but I will go ahead with couple of drinks

@Bestronger I was trying to find this out too as I'm going for someone's leaving drinks tonight and I'm in the TWW. I found some info that suggested it can increase risk of miscarriage even early on but then lots of info that said it's fine until the placenta develops. So who knows?? I think I'm just only going to have 1 or 2 drinks. I'm not a big drinker anyway. Really don't want to risk it not implanting or something if there's a chance it could have caught!

@Makeafamily19 glad I am not only one! Yeah I won’t be drinking much either as it is not worth a risk. Enjoy your night!

Hi @Lottiepink welcome back. Taking a break is always good if it's what you need.
How do you feel now you've got the testing underway?

Welcome back @Lottiepink got everything crossed for you.

Lol position of the day @orangeloo @Kiza

Welcome @Bestronger enjoy the journey! Sometimes easier said than done.

As for the drinking thing. It's better not to drink alcohol, caffeine, co some lots of sugar and processed food, exercise 3 times a week etc. But if all that is unsustainable, causes stress and means you'll live a miserable existence, I don't think it will be helpful. I believe finding a balance is best.

We went to a friend's wedding last night so yes I did drink and eat processed crap and missed a work out but I had a great time! And we got to DTD in a hotel room and really make the most of the night away

Hey all. I'm half way through my tww. Started spotting yesterday as per so don't think realistically it's gonna be my month again. However before I started spotting I was soooo hopeful and convinced this was the time. Anyone else get like that every tww? I convince myself it's gonna be the month but when I'm not in tww I think it will be so easy to stay realistic and not get excited that this is it.