Would you trick hubby into having a 3rd?

[breathandrelax]

We’ve got two kids with 2 year age gaps. Was a hard time for us both with little ones. But now youngest is 2.5 I really want another but he says not yet. I’m tempted to stop taking my pill and leave it to fait but without telling him. Would you?

He wasn’t “ready” for the other two either. Are any men ever ready for kids lol

It wouldn't be 'leaving it to fate' at all. It would be devious and wrong.

I wouldn't do this. It could blow up in your face.

He said not yet, not never. You need to respect him. You shouldn't trick someone into having a child, it's appalling.

Just give it some time or really talk to him. Please don't trick him

No I wouldn’t

3 changes a lot of things, like car, rooms in the house, holidays, even looking at university costs!!

Can you afford to work and raise 3 kids

It’s not just a bay it’s huge financial commitment

No, I wouldn't do that.

Respect your husbands wishes, and wait until you're both ready. Don't trick him or things might not work out as you want them too, especially if he found out.

Well that would be a twatish thing to do

Sorry just to add, it took 2.5 years to conceive first time and 12 months second time. I have pcos and 100+ days cycles so it could take ages anyway. But yes I realise not an excuse. Just interested to hear if anyone has taken matters in to their own hands so to speak :)

No, and you need to respect his wishes. It's nothing to 'lol' about.

Definitely not.

No. Concentrate on the two children you already have.

It's worrying you're even thinking like this tbh.

Your surely not serious

No

No. That’s an unforgivable thing to do. Would you plan to tell him that you’d tricked him if your plan succeeded or lie about it?

No, what a shitty thing to do your partner...

I couldn’t! It’s your husband, could you really “try” secretly?! That’s really shit 👎

Only disrespectful twats oops their partners OP. You would be bang out of order.

Probably wrong to trick him but theres nothing wrong with coming off your pill and telling him to sort the contraception out if he doesn't want another

Absolutely not!

Thanks for your comments all. Yes it’s not a nice thing to do and really I wouldn’t actually do it but an 11:30pm thought and wondered if anyone else had ever thought the same. Night all.

In your mind, it might seem the logical thing to do. It's understandable why you would be keen to try again asap, but doing what you're suggesting is immoral and very unfair.

Please talk to him about how you're feeling. Taking matters into your own hands is not a good idea, if he finds out, that could be all the trust in your marriage gone.

That would be a disgusting thing to do

My friend did this. They are now divorced.

That would really strain a relationship I’m sorry

No way!