May bus

[Paddypaws91]

Hi everyone 👋

Can't see a May bus, so thought I'd start one up!

A little bit about me...

TTC: #1
Age: 28
Cycle: 5
CD: 5
AF/BFP due: 10th May

This cycle I'm making a real effort to take my pre-conception vitamins EVERY day and going to use Pre-seed this cycle too.

Come on in and share your stories, symptoms and if needed, vent to your heart's content...

@birdshavewings Eek! Good luck, sounds promising 🤞🏼

@paddypaws91 it was just spotting then got a bit more but was brown and I assumed that was it on but it hasn’t progressed

Thanks @Paddypaws91 you know when you don't want to test to get a bfn - sometimes it's easier to convince yourself af will come rather than be disappointed. Will let you know

@birdshavewings absolutely know how you feel. FX for you x

@Savvysaz interesting! When is AF actually due? If it's all suddenly stopped, could have just been spotting, which at 10dpo is definitely a positive sign! Keep us posted

Just need a little rant post. Im probably being paranoid. Not DTD last night or tonight because OH has not wanted to for different reasons. Pretty sure I'm going to Ov tomorrow. I know it's the first month but I'm pretty gutted, we've only done it twice.

I get really anxious and am now convinced he just doesn't want this like I do. Come sit in the bathroom for a little cry on my own. Such a loser. 😔

@paddypaws91 due Wednesday so I’ll keep you posted

@McHelenz

This can be perfectly normal. My friend (who has just found out she is pregnant) had a massive row with her hubby one night when he put of DTD 2 nights in row. She took it very to heart. She spoke with him the next day and it was all smoothed over. I think sometimes the OH dont realise how much we obsess with dates and times.

Can I ask about the OPK. I bought a load. I have got 2 lines today on 2 tests. It's not as dark as the control line but it's very noticable.

Any thoughts/advice. Because the packet says the 2 lines have to match.

Also does a positive OPK mean who have or you will ovulate?

Thanks.

Positive means you will x

@McHelenz you are NOT a loser! It's not your fault at all. He could be a little anxious, my DH really felt the pressure the first couple of months. After month 2, he was really stressing that something must be wrong with him as we weren't successful. I had to give him a bit of a talking to.

You are still in with a chance, especially if your OH is in the mood today. You could always ovulate later on in the day or may ovulate day(s) later than predicted, so don't give up hope.

Come and rant anytime xx

Thanks @paddypaws and @mylittlebunny. I cried to him last night but I didn't really know what to say. I got my static face this morning and just told him what it meant and to try and DTD tonight. He looked a bit annoyed that I've gone on about it again.

He's struggling with what to do work wise at the moment so I think he's pressured that way. And last night he had a bad back. I was just so anxious that he was just pushing me away.

Hello everyone! AF is now over so I’m ready to get going with this month. Last month, I used cheapie OPKs and this month I told myself I wouldn’t use them at all because they made me a bit obsessive. But, at the end of last cycle I got some clear blue ones so they’re hanging around. What do you think - use and obsess or not use and relax?

@mchelenz we’ve had a couple of months like that where the timing hasn’t been right. It’s frustrating but with my DH, he was exhausted from working long hours. It felt like a rejection because I’m not the one to instigate it really! But it will happen, eventually 😊

@Novella12 I don’t think I’m going to do OPKs this month for EXACTLY the same reasons but a. I don’t have any in the house b. Have textbook cycles so that is fairly easy for me to say c. DH is in tune with all the days and keen to get get cracking as much as possible. I’m also temping so have some handle on when things are happening.

The obsession is so real, it’s hard to know what to do.

@limesoda DH wants to go with the flow a bit more this month, but last cycle I was 6 days late for AF which was horrible! It’s definitely so hard to know what to do.

@Novella12 I’m only on cycle 3 and I realised just how easy it is to get so wrapped up in it so I am trying VERY hard not to this time.

Obvs by 5dpo I’ll be googling some kind of random boob twinge or something but I managed to hold off on testing this month until 10dpo, so am hoping I can do the same again this month.

In your shoes I would absolutely be using the clearblues because they are there, or else go put them in the bin now!

@McHelenz

I think it's easy to think like this and easy to forget the other side. Often OHs don't understand the complexities of the female cycle/how narrow the window is. But also, it's really easy to get wrapped up in this and forget how they might be feeling! I try to keep my husband loosely informed on my cycle (i'm lucky he's really keen to be knowledgeable in it which i know some aren't) but also to not make it seem like we have to dtd just for ttc - it just makes it a lot more pressurised and not as enjoyable for both of us! So, i try to instigate not just when i'm in my FW. Hope that makes sense/doesn't sound like i don't understand how you're feeling.

Also, DH went through a bad patch at work recently and I asked him if he wanted to not ttc for a month or two until he felt less stressed - he didn't take me up on it but i think it helped for him to feel like his feelings were taken into account too.

I'm not saying it won't be upsetting when he doesn't want to but it can be a long process (hopefully not) so best to try and make things as stress-free as possible! And you've still dtd twice in your FW - hopefully that's enough!

Talking of stress-free - am i the only person not using opks?! It didn't even cross my mind to use them until I thought there was potentially an issue :S

I'm in a pickle?.... foreign test - is this BFP?

That looks like a positive to me. But if you have doubt do another one to be sure.

Good luck.

Keep us posted

@birdshavewings this definitely looks like a positive. As it's clear blue I can imagine it's pretty genuine but maybe do another one to check! Eeek!

@mylittlebunny @MrsMck18 thanks ladies. I have another in the pack so I'll try again. Can't quite believe it

@birdshavewings how exciting! That’s looking great!

@mumofbun I started using OPKs because after 10 years on the pill, trying for my first child, I wanted to understand my body and my cycle a bit more. But they can get a bit addictive 😂

I have my fingers crossed for you!

@novella12

Thanks for replying! I guess i'm lucky that i just went right back to them coming regularly after 6 years on the pill. Though, i did wonder if the first few weren't quite right as i didn't get the same cramping as i used to and am getting now! I gave myself 6 months to get back to normal before starting ttc properly though so hopefully all good!

@mumofbun I totally think the OPK thing might just be a personality type. It gives us a sense of control of the situation and that at least one element is going the way it should be.

I started them too late on cycle 1 and got a peak fertility on my first day, so used them from earlier in cycle 2 to check that things were all happening as they should (thankfully, they were). Its time to lay off them for a while, but if I'm still hanging around here in a few months/years , I could well return to them.

@birdshavewings everything crossed for you!

@mumofbun @limesoda I think you might be right about the personality type - I definitely enjoy the sense of control. I think the whole TTC thing is so random and can be tricky that it’s nice to feel like you’re doing something! But, as I said, I think I’m going to lay off this month and be a bit more chill. Hopefully that’ll make the 2WW more relaxing this time (it was horrendous last month, particularly as it was actually a 3WW with my late AF)

If you all don't mind, can I hop on the May bus?

TTC: #1
Cycle: 1
Age: 26 (27 in July)
AF: 6/05/19

My first non pill cycle will be in May!
It's great reading all your experiences and lovely comments, seems like a really nice group to get to know and share with.